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What does the saying “No place for hate mean?”
What can we do
to make our
classroom hate
free?
How can we
make every
person feel safe
and valued?
What can you do
to make your own
speech and
actions hate free?
Physical or mental abuse that occurs over timePhysical or mental intimidation that occurs over
timeBullying can be overt (out in the open) like
teasing, hitting, or stealing. Boys most often engage in open bullying.
Bullying can be covert (in secret) like spreading rumors or leaving someone out on purpose. Girls most often engage in secret or hidden bullying.
Bullying is violence. Violence is any mean word, look, sign, or act that hurts a person’s body, feelings, or things.
Bullies often come from homes that use physical punishment (like spanking or slapping) to discipline
Caregivers of bullies often are uninvolved in the bully’s life and lack warmth
Children who bully often do not respect authority figures and like to break rules
Children are usually bullied by one child or a small group of children
Common locations that bullying takes place at: playground, classroom, lunchroom, halls, and bathroom
Bullying is way more common at school than on the way to or from school
Most studies find boys bully more than girls, but girls bully more severely than boys
Boys report being bullied by boys, girls report being bullied by girls and boys
Boys are more likely to be physically bullied by their peers, while girls are more likely to be mentally bullied by their peers
Girls are most likely to be bullied through rumor spreading, sexual comments or harassment, and social exclusion
Lowered self esteemHigher rates of
depressionHigh rate of being
absent to schoolMore likely to have
lower grades because school is seen as an unsafe place
More suicidal thoughts
Likely to experience criminal or legal problems as an adult
Bring bullying behaviors into adulthood, making relationships hard to maintain
Experience low self esteem and depression as an adult
Long term effects on the bully
In 2001 a sample of 15,600 students was taken from the grades 6th-10th, this is what they had to say about bullying:
19% bullied others sometimes or more often
9% bullied others weekly17% were bullied sometimes or more
often8% were bullied weeklyOnly 6% reported not being bullied at all
Around 10% of children must take time off from school because of bullying
Up to 40% of students think teachers have no clue that bullying is happening within the school
About 17% of all calls to child help lines are made by children being bullied
Almost 1/3 of school children report being the object of sexual jokes, gestures, comments
By the average age of 23, children who had been bullied were still reporting problems with self esteem and depression
Nearly 60% of boys who were classified as bullies when they were younger had been convicted of at least one crime by the time they were 23.
The average bullying behavior lasts only 37 seconds, but can be remembered by the victim for a lifetime
Teachers notice and intervene in bullying incidents only 1 time out of every 25 times
Most victims experience bullying at least 2 to 3 times a month
But, 6 out of 10 teens witness bullying at least once a day
66% of children are teased at least once a monthAn estimated 160,000 students miss school at least
once a week due to fear of attack or intimidation
4 out of 5 middle school students admit they act like bullies at least once a month
7% of 8th graders stay at home at least once a month because of bullies
14% of 8th-12th graders and 22% of 4th-8th graders reported bullying negatively affected their ability to learn in school
10% of students who drop out of school completely do so because of being bullied
Percent of kids who experience:
Headaches: 16%Sleep Problems: 42%Stomach Pain: 17%Feeling Tense: 20%Anxiety: 28%Feeling Unhappy: 23%
Percent of kids who experience:
Headaches: 6%Sleep Problems: 23%Stomach Pain: 9%Feeling Tense: 9%Anxiety: 10%Feeling Unhappy: 5%
Not Bullied
Studies have shown that kids who bully are more likely to: Get into frequent fights Be injured in a fight Steal or vandalize property Drink Alcohol Smoke Be truant or drop out of school Have poor academic performances Think of school as a negative place Carry a weapon 60% of boys who were bullied in middle school had at least once
conviction by the time they were 24 40% had 3 or more convictions Bullies were 4 times as likely as non-bullies to have convictions
Many do not report being bulliedOlder children and boys are less likely to
report bullyingWhy don’t children report bullying?2/3 of victims felt the school staff would
respond poorlyMost victims are afraid telling will only make
the bullying worse
38% do nothing because they believe it is none of their business
27% did nothing, though they felt they should have done something to help
Only 35% would stand up for the victim or turn the bully in
The bully is often someone others look up to or want to hang out with
They want to “side” with the bully because that makes them feel strong
They’re entertained by the bullyingThey don’t think speaking up will helpThey’re afraid that if they say something, the
bully will turn on them
A lot of people are afraid to tell the truth or say no. That’s where toughness comes into play. Toughness is not being a bully, it’s having backbone to do the right thing.
A quote by Robert Kiyosaki
Bullying behaviors should be addressed before it interferes with the health (mental or physical), academics, or learning process of a student.
Why?
Bullying is not a conflict, it is abuse
There is not a question of “some right” and “some wrong” on both sides. The bully is wrong period.
Adults need to claim responsibility.
Don’t bring expensive things or money to school
Label your belongings with permanent marker in case they get stolen
Avoid unsupervised areasSit near the bus driver or walk with a teacher
to classAct confident. Hold your head up, stand up
straight, and make eye contactAvoid places where bullying happens
Ask yourself these questions…Does it make your feel better to hurt other
people or take their things?Are you bigger and/or stronger than other
people your age? Do you sometimes use your size and strength to get your way?
Have you been bullied by someone in the past and feel like you have to make it up by doing the same to others?
Do you avoid thinking about how others might feel if you say or do hurtful things to them?
Apologize to people that you have bullied, and follow it up by being friendly
They might not trust you right away, but eventually they will see that you have changed
If you are having a hard time feeling good about yourself, explore ways to boost your self esteem
If you feel like you’re having trouble controlling your feelings, especially anger, talk to a school counselor about it