BULLYING PRESENTATION

What is bullying?

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What is bullying?

Bullying is when a person does something to hurt you on purpose either physically or emotionally again and again.

Who is involved?

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It hurts everyone involved….• Victims feel sad, afraid, anxious, and

bad about themselves.• Witness/Bystanders (people who see

or hear others being bullied) may feel afraid and anxious.

• Bullies often get into serious trouble as adults; statistics show that one in four bullies will have a criminal record before the age of 30, and many have problems with relationships throughout their lives.

Bullying VS Teasing

What should you do?..............

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Fight back? Whine and cry? Ignore them, it will go away eventually? Tell an adult?

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Facts

About 1 in 7 schoolchildren are either a bully or a victim

Bullying affects about 5 million elementary and junior high students in the United States

There are three types of bullying: Physical, Verbal and Emotional

Most bullying happens where there is little supervision

True or False

Bullying is just teasing. False. Bullying is much more than teasing.

While many bullies tease, others use violence, intimidation, and other tactics. Sometimes teasing can be fun; bullying always hurts.

Some People deserve to be bullied. False. No one ever deserves to be bullied.

No one “asks for it.” Most bullies tease people who are “different” in some way. Being different is not a reason to be bullied.

True or False

Only boys are bullies. False. It seems that most bullies are boys,

but girls can be bullies too. People who complain about bullies are

babies. False. People who complain about bullies

are standing up for their right not to be bullied. They’re more grown-up than the bullies are.

True or False

Bullying is a normal part of growing up. False. Getting teased, picked on, pushed

around, threatened, harassed, insulted, hurt, and abused in not normal. Plus if you think it’s normal, you’re less likely to say or do anything about it, which gives bullies the green light to keep bullying.

Bullies will go away if you ignore them. True and False. Some bullies might go away.

But others will get angry and keep bullying until they get a reaction. That’s what they want.

True or False

All bullies have low self-esteem. That’s why they pick on other people. False. Some bullies have high self-esteem. They

feel good about themselves, and picking on other people makes them feel even better. Most of the time, bullying isn’t about high or low self-esteem. It’s about having power over other people.

It’s tattling to tell an adult when you’re being bullied. False. It’s smart to tell an adult who can help

you do something about the bullying. It’s also smart to tell an adult if you see someone else being bullied.

True or False

The best way to deal with a bully is by fighting or trying to get even. False. If you fight with a bully, you might get hurt

(and hurt someone else). Plus you might get into trouble for fighting. If you try to get even, you’re acting the same as the bully. And the bully might come after you again to get even with you. Either way only makes things worse.

People who are bullied might hurt for a while, but they’ll get over it. False. Bullying hurts for a long time. Some kids have

dropped out of school because of bullying. Some became so sad, desperate, afraid, and hopeless that they committed suicide. Many adults remember times when they were bullied as children. People don’t “get over” being bullied.

Day 2

How to respond to a bully

Hot Response

Cold Response

Cool Response

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COLD Response

Looking COLD Victim-like demeanor:1. Head down, no eye contact with bully.2. Body bent over.3. Sad or blank facial expression.4. Timid body movements.

COLD Response

Thinking COLD “Self-blaming Perceiving Style”:1. “It’s my fault.:2. “I deserve to be treated this way”.3. “There’s nothing I can do about it.”4. “If I don’t do what they say, I’ll get hurt.”

COLD Response

Acting COLD Behavior that gives up, runs away,

withdraws, becomes depressed:1. Do what the bully says.2. Mutter or speak with low voice volume. 3. Cry.

HOT Response

Looking HOT Threatening Demeanor: 1. Head up.2. Glaring stare, too much eye contact.3. Tense posture, clenched fists, tight

muscles.4. Angry, challenging facial expressions.

HOT Response

Thinking HOT “Other-blaming Perceiving Style”:1. “It’s all their fault.”2. “If I’m calm, they won’t listen to me.”3. “If I don’t get made and fight back, they’ll

get what they want.”4. “Others will think I’m a sissy if I don’t

fight back.”

HOT Response

Acting HOT Behavior that attacks, belittles, subjects,

controls or defeats:1. Speaking with elevated voice volume,

yelling.2. Speaking with hostile voice tone.3. Making derogatory or threatening

statements.4. Hitting or fighting.

COOL Response

Acting COOL Nonthreatening Demeanor: 1. Gain composure. Pause, turn, look away.2. Take deep breaths, do “settling behaviors.”3. Non-aggressive, confident expression.

Stand or sit up straight. 4. No eye contact unless necessary to talk.5. Calm voice, good eye contact when

speaking. 6. Walk or move confidently, purposefully.

COOL Response

Thinking COOL “Non-blaming Perceiving Style”:1. “How can I solve the problem?”2. “I’m going to stay calm and ignore them.”3. “This bully is just trying to feel big.”4. Is this bully dangerous? If not, I’ll stand

my ground or ask him/her to stop. 5. “If he/she’s dangerous, I’ll leave and get

help”

COOL Response

Acting COOL Behavior that asserts right with respect and fairness.

• If Bully is not Dangerous: Calm down. Look Cool, Think Cool. Act Cool by: Ignore the bully or Talk the Talk/Walk the Walk by

using the 4-Step Assertion Plan or Use Peer Pressure Refusal Skills

• If bully is Dangerous: Leave and Get help, if necessary.

Role Plays

Role Plays

(HOT Response)You are taking a drink at the water fountain and behind

you someone shoves you, you shove them back. The principal walks by and tells you to come to their office.

(COLD Response)You are outside for recess when a someone calls you a

bad name for the THIRD time today! You are sick of it and run away and cry in the corner.

(COOL Response)In the hallway someone tells you what an ugly shirt you

have on that day. You ignore them like it is no big deal and go to class.

Role Plays

(HOT Response)You are walking home from school when someone

demands to give them your back pack. Instead you decide to yell at them and take theirs.

(COLD Response)You are walking down the hallway after school and

as you are about to leave someone steals your pencil. You start to cry and run home.

(COOL Response)At lunch time you hear people saying bad things

about you. You ignore them and continue talking with your friends.