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Building Rapport
Ron FinklesteinBusiness Growth Experience
Sales Rainmaker Program 330-990-788
[email protected] © 2012 RPF GROUP INC and The Business Growth Experience
Building Rapport
Language Pacing
Matching Mirroring
Indications of RapportFavored Representational Systems
Using What You Learned
Language
• Verbal 7%• Tonality (how you sound) 38%• Physiology (How you look) 55%
Verbal (7%)
• Predicates – to proclaim; declare; affirm; assert.– to affirm or assert (something) – to connote; imply
• Key Words – a word that serves as a key, as to the meaning of
another word, a sentence, passage, or the like• Common Experiences (stories)• Content Chunks (communication style)
Tonality (38%)
• Tone (pitch) – a particular quality, way of sounding, modulation, or
intonation of the voice as expressive of some meaning, feeling, spirit, etc.
• Tempo (Speed) • Timbre (quality) – the characteristic quality of a sound, independent of
pitch and loudness, from which its source or manner of production can be inferred.
• Volume (loudness)
Physiology
• Posture• Gestures• Facial Expressions• Blinking • Breathing
Pacing
• How fast the move• How fast they talk
Matching
• Their Actions (sit, hold pencil, hold cup, etc)• The way they dress (tie, causal, business
casual)
Mirroring
• Same a matching – Except …
Indications of Rapport
• Kinesthetic - Internal Feeling (feeling of warmth, usually along the midline of the torso (aka butterflies)
• Visual - Color Shift (Might be a change in color in both people usually from the neck up.)
• Auditory – Word they use: “Do I know you?”, “Have we met before?”, “I feel like we have know each other for years!”
• Leading – Rapport is state of responsiveness (both people responding to each other)
Exercise
Favored Representational Systems
• Visual (see images) • Auditory (hear discussions) • Kinesthetic (feeling things in the body) • Auditory Digital (combines all three Styles)
Favored Representational Systems
• Visual (see images) – Sit & Stand with Head & Body Erect– Breath from top of the lungs– Move their eye up– Well organized – Well groomed – Memorize by seeing picture – Noise does not both them – Have trouble remembering verbal instruction – Interested in how your product or service look to them– Appearance is very important to them
Favored Representational Systems
• Auditory (hear discussions) – Move eye side to side – Breath from the middle of the chest – Talk to themselves (some will even move their lips)– Easily distracted by noise – Learn by listening – Like music and talking on the phone – Repeat conversation back to you easily – Memorize by steps– Like to be told how they are doing – Respond to tone of voice or set of words – Interested in what you “have to say.”
Favored Representational Systems
• Kinesthetic (feeling things in the body)– Breath from bottom of their lungs– Move & talk very slow – Like physical rewards and touching – Stand closer to people than visual people– Memorize by doing (walking though) – It needs to feel right
Favored Representational Systems
• Auditory Digital (combines all three Styles)– Spend a fair amount of time talking to themselves – Does product or service make sense
Predicate Word – Visual
• See • Look • View • Appear• Show• Dawn• Envision • Clear • Foggy • Focused
Predicate Word – Auditory
• Hear • Listen • Sounds • Make music• I am all ears • Be heard• Deaf
Predicate Word – Kinesthetic
• Feel • Touch • Grasp• Get hold of• Sit through • Catch on • Tap into • Hard • Concrete • Get a handle
Predicate Word – Auditory Digital
• Sense• Experience • Understand • Think • Learn • Motivate • Consider • Change • Perceive • Know • Insensitive
How Do You Build Rapport
• Use the words they use• Match and mirror (Tonality, Speed, Pitch)• Test for rapport (Leading)