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Unseen Bruises
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MASK (Mothers Awareness on School-age Kids) is a non-profit 501(c)(3) organization providing parenting solutions for today’s families while engaging, educating, and empowering youth.
What is ?
MASK’s mission is to engage and educate parents, children and the community about
the issues facing our youth today and to empower children to make safe, healthy
choices.
Our Tagline
Engage Why ?
The goal of the MASK E3 Institute is to develop Emotional Intelligence in children through Social and Emotional Learning.
Start talks at least 5 years before they are exposed to the topic.● Sex Education: As early as 4 years old (age-appropriately)● Bullying: 5 years old● Inhalants: 5 years old● Tobacco: 6 years old● Alcohol: 7 years old● Marijuana: 7 years old● Prescription Drugs: 7 years old● Illicit Drugs: 10 years old● Internet Dangers: Before they use/have access to it
Engage5-Year Rule
Engage
I Need You…
We all have universal human needs…
Significance… I matter, I have value, I have a purpose.
My identity and worth are secure.
Belonging… I am part of a group of other people that know me and like me just as I am.
*Responsive Classroom
Engage Why ?
Emotional Intelligence (EI) is the ability to recognize one's own and other people's emotions, to discriminate between different feelings and label them appropriately, and to use emotional information to guide thinking and behavior.
Research informs us that Emotional Intelligence is a greater predictor of success in adulthood than high academic achievement*.
*Dan Goleman
Engage Why ?
Social and Emotional Learning gives your child critical relational skills with life-long positive benefits.
*CASEL, Collaborative for Academic, Social, and Emotional Learning
Engage Why ?
● Self-awareness
● Self-management
● Social awareness
● Relationship skills
● Responsible decision-making
Social and Emotional Learning:
EngageBrain FACTS
EngageDid you know?
160,000 students miss school each day to
avoid being bullied.
Engage
By the Numbers
*Merriam-Webster
bul·ly·ing verb \ˈbu̇-lē, ˈbə-\Definition of BULLYING
1: to frighten, hurt, or threaten (a smaller or weaker person): to act like a bully toward (someone)
Engage What is bullying?
*National Organization for Youth Safety (NOYS)
• 77% of all students in grades K through 12 have been bullied at some point in their lives.
EducateDid you know?
Educate How to spot a Bully...
• Social isolation• Taunting, teasing, harassment, hazing• Repeated gossip, rumors, threats• Pushing, shoving, or other physical tormenting• Judgment of appearance• Ridiculing someone based on social status• Making someone feel bad about themselves
EducateWhat it looks like
• Teasing as “buddies” or friends• Being accidentally pushed or shoved• Tattling• Glaring, dirty looks• Anything that is not repeated over time (i.e. isolated aggressive behavior)• Changing of friends• Not liking someone
• Disagreements or unpleasant expression of thoughts or feelings
EducateWhat is NOT bullying
EducateConflict vs. Bullying
CONFLICT• Different opinions• Siblings arguing over not
sharing a bathroom• Arguing amongst friends• Expression of thoughts or
feelings
BULLYING• Repeated• Overly aggressive, direct behavior
• Unwanted and negative
• Looking for attention• Hoping to be more popular• Trying to make themselves feel more important• May come from a family of bullies• May have been bullied themselves• Like to have power over others• They might not feel good about themselves
EducateWhy do teens bully?
Bullying Behavior in Boys
● Abuse their victims physically by hitting, poking, kicking, or otherwise hurting their victim.
● Intimidate the victim by threatening to physically injure them.● Shame or humiliate the victim verbally, especially by questioning the
masculinity of the targeted boy.
Educate
EducateBullying Behavior in Girls
● Anonymous prank phone calls or harassing emails from dummy accounts● Playing jokes or tricks designed to embarrass and humiliate● Deliberate exclusion of other kids for no real reason● Whispering in front of other kids with the intent to make them feel left out● Name calling, rumor spreading and other malicious verbal interactions● Being friends one week and then turning against a peer the next week with no
incident or reason for the alienation● Encouraging other kids to ignore or pick on a specific child● Inciting others to act out violently, aggressively or deliberately exclude someone
Emotional Violence
What are the Signs Bullying is Occurring?
Educate
● Physical Symptoms
● Behavioral & Psychological Symptoms
● Social Symptoms
• Low self-esteem and self-worth• Social withdrawal• Alcohol abuse• Eating disorders• Digital imprint• Self-injury, cutting, suicide • Anxiety• Decrease in academic performance and school attendance
EducateUnseen bruises of Bullying
EmpowerShould we feel
compassion for the bully?
“Adolescents especially havea hard time talking to theirparents about (bullying)because they feel theyshould be able to handle itthemselves or they’re afraidthe parent might make thesituation worse.”
Empower
EmpowerThe power of a bystander
A bystander is a person who is standing near, but is not taking part in what is happening.
How to be a proactive bystander:• Just by staring at the bully, you may be able to help the situation.• Going up to the person being bullied and saying, “Hey, come with us.”• Saying to the bully, “Hey, that’s not cool.”
Empower● Teach them to be an upstander
● Teach your child to be assertive.
● Encourage them to make friends outside of their circle.
● Stop untrue or harmful messages from spreading online or in person.
● Help others who are being bullied, refuse to be a bystander.
● Welcome new students.
● Respect others.
EmpowerHello my name
is Jordan . . .
Empower
• Gather Information
• Create a Written Record
• Work with your Child’s School
• Protect You & Your Child Online
• Working with Law Enforcement or Legal Aid
• Working with Health and Mental Health Professionals
:
What You Can Do as a Parent...
Remember• Engage in ongoing conversations
with your child(ren)• Educate yourself and your
child(ren) on the trending topics that affect them
• Empower them with the tools and tactics to make safe, healthy choices
