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AUGUST 2019AUGUST 2019 NORTHERN DELAWARE INTERGROUPNORTHERN DELAWARE INTERGROUP

NEWS from

Tradition EightTradition Eight

Alcoholics Anonymous

should remain forever non-

professional, but our service

centers may employ special

workers.

Step EightStep Eight Made a list of all persons

we had harmed, and be-

came willing to make

amends to them all.

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TABLE OF CONTENTS

Cover Story 1

Meeting Notices, etc 2

Anniversaries 3

Anniversary Club 3

Misc. Flyers/AA information 4

Total Contributions/2019 5

Institutional Commitments 6

Step Eight/Tradition Eight 7

INTERGROUP OFFICERS

Chairman: Shelly C.

Vice Chairman: Pieter J.

Secretary: Connie C.

Treasurer: Ray P.

(Continued Next Page)

In mental preparation of my Eighth Step list, I discov-

ered that some names came to mind natu­rally. In most

instances, we want to' change for the better where our

chil­dren and family are concerned.

However, I found there were other people I did not

want to make amends to, people I held some resentment

toward - so I impul­sively concluded they didn't de­serve

any amends. I have to keep in mind that had I behaved in

a more reasonable manner, they might not have re-

sponded as they did. If the circumstances had been re-

versed, I might have taken the same action they chose. I

have to allow others to make some mistakes and be hu-

man. Harboring resentments because of something others

did is, in effect, imposing my values upon them. By im-

posing my standards upon them, I am trying to assume

God's role. I must realize I am not responsible for the ac-

tions of others, whether I approve of them or not. If I

take on that task, I am passing judgment on them for re-

acting in a way that was unacceptable to me. I am tak­ing

their inventory.

In this Step,' it states that we "became willing to

make amends." This implies that there is going to be

some conscious effort on my part to make all the needed

amends. Those that come easy, to my old way of reason-

ing, would be an excellent stopping point.

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AA NEWS AUGUST 2019

The next Intergroup meeting will be Wednesday, September 4, 2019

Northern Delaware Intergroup meetings are held the first Wednesday

of every month at 7:00 pm at St. Marks Lutheran Church, 501

Duncan Road (off Philadelphia Pike, Bellefonte), Wilmington,

DE 19809. All members of Alcoholics Anonymous are welcome.

Meeting Times and NoticesMeeting Times and Notices If you have any information on changes

to meetings, either old or new, please

let the Intergroup office know.

Ph. 302Ph. 302--655655--51135113

Yet the Step says we became willing to make amends to all those we had harmed. In go-

ing to these other people, I don't need to crawl or go on and on about how sorry I am,

because this would make me appear worthless. I don't believe I need apologize for being

human; rather, I simply need to acknowledge that I was at fault and humbly ask them to

pardon me. I do not need to make amends on my hands and knees; I need to walk tall,

without false pride. When I go in humility and sincerely ask people to forgive me, this

will remove the burden from my shoulders. They, too, may have been at fault, but I am

neither their God nor their conscience. I am responsible only for myself.

For me, this Step offers two features: I am being responsible, by owning up to my

wrongs and making amends for them; at the same time, I accept others as they are, re-

gardless of what they did, or of what they may do when I go to them to make amends.

It's, a Step with a double feature. When doing it, we make a double play. After finishing

it, we receive double indemnity. Our reward is two for the price of one. Reprinted from September 1979 Grapevine, B.D. Reynoldsburg, Ohio

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More details on

The NDIAA blog

ANNIVERSARY CLUB (Updated 2/21/2018)

Celebrate your anniversary with an act of gratitude that will help Northern Delaware Intergroup continue to carry to the

still suffering alcoholic a message. The idea is to make a

commitment to send N.D.I. a dollar (or whatever you can

afford) for every year sober on your anniversary.

To register, just fill out the form on the right and together

with a check, mail to: Northern Delaware Intergroup Suite 21 B Trolley Square Wilmington, Delaware 19806

Anniversary Club Contribution Card

Sobriety Date

Home Group

Name

Contribution

AA NEWS AUGUST 2019

Please Note: All members that where without a date have been removed as of 03/01/2018. To reinstate your membership,

send your anniversary date and contribution card (shown below) with your check to NDIAA. Members that have 25+

years of sobriety can contribute what ever you can afford, just call and let us know your date.

Becky R. F. 1/19/95

Betsy B. 10/01/00

Beverly F. 09/02/89

Bill C. 05/02/78

Bill F. 8/20/88

Bill W. 07/04/88

Bob A. 7/9/90

Bob M. 1/17/83

Brendan D. 5/3/09

Brenda A. 2/23/85

Carel B. 4/26/04

Carolyn W. 7/15/82

Christopher K. 1/03

David C. 2/1/94

David G. 7/6/99

David F. 11/23/07

David K. 12/03/72 45 yrs.

Debbie H. 03/16/91

Doris S. 04/80

Doug W. 2/28/91

Ed H. 01/28/96

Franny C. 05/07/96

Fred M. 5/5/90

Gail R. 06/04/92

Jaime B. 08/08/04

Jaffrey H. 11/24/96

Janice S.12/25/2010

Jason B. 4/20/09

Jim S. 04/10/88

Kara G. 11/8/12

Kathy O. 6/11/97

Ken H. 11/4/97

Ken P. 09/20/83

Kerry O. 04/20/08

Laura R. 6/21/95

Leslie D. 2/20/1990

Liza F. 1/20/05

Marilyn M. 6/26/99

Marie R. 9/6/83

Mary Ellen S. 1/24/10

Melissa S. 06/23/08

Mike M. 4/20/91

Nancy V. 2/21/05(Deceased)

Patricia K. 12/17/87

Patsy M. 1/6/88

Phyllis M. 03/09/88

Sally C. 10/15/95

Shirley U. 3/19/76 41 yrs.

Stanley B. 03/05/79

Suzanne M.04/04

Tenney W. 5/15/82

Tom H. 07/02/04

Tom McD. 01/16/96

Tracy D. 2/28/2013

Valerie S. 2/3/89

Walt A. 01/94

Wes J. 4/21/75 42 yrs.

Wes M. 2/1/94

Some names that were removed

have been deceased, may no

longer be members or left the area.

Summer time fun at the beach No drinking on the beach

2 Year Anniversary Outdoor Speaker Meeting Event

Wednesday, September 11, 2019

Mount Salem United Methodist Church

Inside of the Rockford Park Entrance

2629 W. 19th Street

Wilmington, DE 19806

Food starts at 7pm

Meeting starts at 7:3Opm-9pm

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AA NEWS AUGUST 2019

From noon til 4:00pm, It’s FreeIt’s Free Please bring your favorite side dish or desert to

Sunday, September 29, 2019

Banning Park

102 Middleboro Road

Wilmington, DE

off Maryland Avenue

“Banning Pavilion”

Northern Delaware Intergroup

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CONTRIBUTIONS in 2019 to Northern Delaware Intergroup

AA NEWS AUGUST 2019

Thursday August 1, 2019

There are 146 named groups in North-

ern Delaware Intergroup. Not every

group contributes to NDIAA, and

from now on only groups that make

contributions will be listed on this

page. Your group will be added when a

contribution is made.

(84 groups have contributed to date)

We are self-supporting through

our own contributions From the A.A. Preamble

GROUP YTD Jul 19

A Way To Recovery 0.40 0.00

Agnostic Delaware 102.00 0.00

Augustine Beginners Group 133.00 0.00

Basic Big Book 120.00 50.00

Beginners Freedom Group 75.00 0.00

Bellefonte Group 75.00 0.00

Big Book Study Monday 125.00 0.00

Brandywine Springs Group 100.00 0.00

Canby Park Group 100.00 0.00

Cedars Tuesday Night Group 105.00 0.00

Christ Church Group 162.00 43.20

Claymont Group 100.00 100.00

Conscious Contact 600.00 0.00

Courage to Change Group 483.64 0.00

Dawn Patrol Patrol Group 2,361.32 0.00

Delaware City Group 349.80 226.80

Design For Living 156.00 0.00

Displaced Park Place 392.74 0.00

Doorkeepers Group 142.80 0.00

Early Risers Group 3,345.40 1,283.70

Eye Opener Group 1,550.48 25.72

Fairfax Speaker Meeting 500.00 0.00

First Stop Friday Group 97.50 0.00

First Stop Wednesday Group 65.00 0.00

Five Alive Group 1,236.00 516.00

Fresh Air Group 200.00 0.00

God Step 50.00 0.00

GOYA Group 800.00 200.00

Greenhill Beginners Group 250.00 0.00

Greenwood Group 101.40 0.00

Growing & Learning Group 300.00 0.00

Happy Hour Group 350.00 0.00

Hockessin Women's Group 143.00 143.00

How It Works Group 100.00 0.00

Hudson Center Group 280.00 0.00

In Bills Step Group 142.00 0.00

Intergroup Monthly Meeting Basket 29.00 0.00

Just for Today Group 645.00 0.00

Keep It Simple Group, Wilmington 20.00 0.00

Kingswood Mens Group 307.55 0.00

Ladies Of Literature 63.81 30.00

Lamplighters Group 100.00 0.00

Landenberg Group 90.00 40.00

Late for Dinner Group 430.00 0.00

Living in the Solution Group 120.75 47.50

Men of New Garden Group 892.00 0.00

Middletown Step and Tradition 75.00 0.00

More Will Be Revealed 10.00 0.00

Naamans Step Group 60.00 0.00

New Castle Group 292.00 143.00

New Day Group 1,480.00 600.00

New Life Group 150.00 0.00

Newark Group 300.00 0.00

Newport Breakdown 629.01 0.00

No Excuses Group 300.00 0.00

North St. George's Group 250.00 0.00

Pacific Group 50.00 0.00

Pencader Group 290.00 0.00

Pike Creek Group 270.00 0.00

Promises Women 100.00 0.00

Red Lion-Sat Morning Group 494.20 0.00

Red Lion Search for Serenity Group 200.00 0.00

S.O.S Group 877.48 356.48

Saturday Solutions 50.00 50.00

Second Chance Group 227.00 0.00

Serenity at Sunrise 148.62 0.00

SerenityFor The Week Group 500.00 0.00

Silver Fox Group 100.00 0.00

Tuesday Big Book Group 135.00 0.00

Twelve and Twelve Step 570.00 180.00

Ventilator's Group 1,185.94 0.00

Vet's Group 100.00 0.00

Walking In Her Footsteps 44.00 0.00

Welcome Group 570.00 235.00

Wilmington Group 100.00 0.00

Women's Friday Morning Group 382.11 107.00

Yorklyn Diner Group 1,260.00 0.00

TOTAL 30,253.07 4,974.40

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INSTITUTIONAL COMMITMENTS FOR THE MONTH OF AUGUST

AA NEWS AUGUST 2019

Please call Intergroup Office with any questions or problems 302-655-5113

Note: * These Institutions have requested a confirmation call of a meeting on the day of the commitment. Please call your Intergroup Rep. Note: Two women only

INSTITUTION DAY TIME HOME GROUP CONTACT

Connections Brandywine Women TUESDAY 7:00 PM ESH Wilmington Brigid

Connections Brandywine Women WEDNESDAY 7:30 PM SOS Carolyn

Delaware Psych Hospital WEDNESDAY 6:00 PM Early Risers Mark S.

GAUDENZIA 2nd Floor MONDAY 7:00 PM Kingswood Men Jim

GAUDENZIA 3rd Floor MONDAY 7:00 PM Sisters in Serenity Danielle

GAUDENZIA 2nd Floor FRIDAY 7:00 PM Just For Today Shavetta

GAUDENZIA 3rd Floor FRIDAY 7:00 PM Early Risers Mark S.

GAUDENZIA 2nd Floor SATURDAY 7:00 PM Second Chance Terry C.

GAUDENZIA 3rd Floor SATURDAY 7:00 PM Fairfax Speaker Tim B.

Leona May House Women MONDAY 7:00 PM Courage to Change Dave C.

NDI Meeting WEDENSDAY 6:15 PM Eye Openers Mary Beth

KIRKWOOD DETOX SUNDAY 8:00 PM Serenity for the Week Tommy

KIRKWOOD DETOX MONDAY 8:00 PM Newport Breakdown Mike

KIRKWOOD DETOX WEDNESDAY 8:00 PM Greenhill Beginners Dave

KIRKWOOD DETOX FRIDAY 8:00 PM Newark John T.

KIRKWOOD DETOX SATURDAY 8:00 PM Office

Mary Mother of Hope THURSDAY 8:00 PM Hockessin Bridge Club Kim

*MEADOW WOOD UNIT A MONDAY 8:00 PM GOYA Erik D.

*MEADOW WOOD UNIT B MONDAY 8:00 PM Delaware City Pat C.

*MEADOW WOOD UNIT A TUESDAY 8:00 PM Pencader Chris M.

*MEADOW WOOD UNIT B TUESDAY 8:00 PM More Will Be Revealed Dave S.

*MEADOW WOOD UNIT A WEDNESDAY 8:00 PM Saturday Solutions Jimmy

*MEADOW WOOD UNIT A SATURDAY 8:00 PM Trolley Square Andy

*MEADOW WOOD UNIT B SATURDAY 8:00 PM Spirit of Truth Jason B.

*MEADOW WOOD UNIT A SUNDAY 8:00 PM South College Jon

REFUGE RECOVERY HOUSE THURSDAY 7:00 PM Dawn Patrol Dan

Rockford TUESDAY 7:00 PM Vent-a-laters Allen

Rockford Adolescent MONDAY 7:00 PM No Excuses Noah

*WILMINGTON HOSPITAL TUESDAY 7:00 PM Greenhill Open Step Lou

*WILMINGTON HOSPITAL SATURDAY 7:00 PM ESH Wilmington Brigid

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Let us know what’s going on. •Anniversaries

•Special Events

•Meeting Changes

• Experience, Strength, and

Hope Messages You write it, we will print it.You write it, we will print it.

AA NEWS AUGUST 2019

For an additional articles on the Steps ,

visit the Grapevine website at

www.aagrapevine.orgwww.aagrapevine.orgwww.aagrapevine.org

If you think you are an If you think you are an

alcoholic, chances are, alcoholic, chances are,

you are. you are.

Tradition EightTradition Eight

Alcoholics Anonymous should

remain forever nonprofes-

sional, but our service centers

may employ special workers.

Step EightStep Eight Made a list of all persons

we had harmed, and be-

came willing to make

amends to them all.

I am Responsible When Anyone, Anywhere Reaches

Out For Help, I Want The Hand Of

A.A. Always To Be There. And For

That, I Am Responsible !

God grant me the serenity to accept

the things I cannot change, courage to

change the things I can, and wisdom to

know the difference.

A recent Facebook post by blogger Celeste Yvonne has gone viral

for highlighting the struggle of choosing to be sober in a society

that promotes moms drinking wine.

Yvonne, 40, is a mom of two kids, who are 3 and 5. She lives in

Reno, Nevada and runs the blog The Ultimate Mom Challenge,

where she writes about her efforts to be the best mom she can pos-

sibly be. One of the most crucial things that she has done to achieve

this goal was to stop drinking alcohol in 2018.

“I decided to quit drinking because I realized I never wanted to stop

at one,” she told Best Life, when reached. “My dad was an alcoholic

and I saw how that destroyed his health with a stroke at age 52. I

also saw firsthand how my dad’s alcoholism affected our family,

and I did not want that for mine.”

But while staying sober is a challenge in and of itself, Yvonne soon

found that—odd as it may sound—telling other moms that she did-

n’t drink was also an act of courage.

“I read a meme yesterday that said ‘I determine my kids play dates

by which mom I want to drink wine with,'” she wrote in the viral

Facebook post, which currently has more than 52,000 likes. “Being

alcohol free can truly feel ostracizing. And it’s strange to think that

alcohol is the only drug that we have to explain NOT using.”

In her post, which has been shared more than 35,000 times, Yvonne

described the experience of going to a play date at someone’s house

and being uncomfortable when a mom suggested mimosas.

Reprinted from the Internet, posted on July 7, 2019

Mom Shares the Struggles of Being Alcohol-

Free in the “Mommy Wine” Culture

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