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ATP Social 8: Attraction and Close Relationships Tom Farsides
Attraction and Close Relationships
ATP Social 8: Attraction and Close Relationships Tom Farsides
Lecture contents
Evolutionary psychology
‘Utility’ theories of close relationships Social exchange theory
Taxonomies of close relationships The triangular theory of love
Relationship development Passionate and compassionate love Patterns of self-disclosure Troubled relationships
ATP Social 8: Attraction and Close Relationships Tom Farsides
The selfish gene
Gender-specific differences in optimal strategies for gene survival (on
average, among humans, in ‘the state of nature’). For women: ‘serial’ long-lasting relationships with the best economic
providers possible. For men: multiple ‘parallel’ short-term relationships with the most fertile
women possible.
Genes from people adopting these strategies are likely to become relatively numerous in subsequent generations (up to a point).
Therefore, to the extent that such behaviours are genetically determined, such behaviours are likely to become increasingly common (up to a
point) in subsequent generations.
ATP Social 8: Attraction and Close Relationships Tom Farsides
The selfish gene as explanation of sexual behaviour
To the extent that
(i) sexual behaviour is genetically determined, and
(ii) environmental conditions are supportive of ‘natural’ evolution,
we would expect to find a majority of women to be ‘clingy’ (but pretending not to be) and a majority of men to be ‘loose’ (but pretending not to be).
ATP Social 8: Attraction and Close Relationships Tom Farsides
Evolutionary psychology
• Does assume a genetic basis for sexual (and other) behaviour.
• Does consider that environmental conditions are typically supportive of ‘natural’ evolution.
• It therefore predicts that most women will be ‘clingy’ (but pretending not to be) and most men will be ‘loose’ (but pretending not to be).
• ‘Deviant’ behaviour is nevertheless to be expected: Other successful strategies in ESS. Non-denied occasional influence of environmental conditions. Natural process of evolution.
ATP Social 8: Attraction and Close Relationships Tom Farsides
The debate
Many criticisms of evolutionary psychology are weak, often misunderstanding the theory.
Any finding (and its opposite) can be ‘explained’ by both evolutionary psychology and ‘sociocultural perspectives’.
E.g., if a sample of faithful men are found: Measurement bias
Evolutionary pressures to become increasingly convincing.
Sampling bias Faithfulness in men does not usually prevent genetic transmission.
Local conditions Women may have the opportunity to be highly selective.
ATP Social 8: Attraction and Close Relationships Tom Farsides
Social Exchange Theory Framework
ATP Social 8: Attraction and Close Relationships Tom Farsides
The Triangular Theory of LoveSternberg (1986)
ATP Social 8: Attraction and Close Relationships Tom Farsides
Passion and compassion
Hatfield (1988)
Passionate love Emotionally intense, often highly erotic
Compassionate love Secure, trusting, comfortable
ATP Social 8: Attraction and Close Relationships Tom Farsides
Passion
Passionate love as arousal + attribution
Dutton & Aron (1984)
White et al. (1981)
But Foster et al. (1998)
ATP Social 8: Attraction and Close Relationships Tom Farsides
Social penetration theory (Altman & Taylor, 1973)
ATP Social 8: Attraction and Close Relationships Tom Farsides
Relationships in crisis
Self-disclosure changes:
For some, “a long, thin dagger of discontent”. Cf. Negative affect reciprocity.
For others, less breadth and depth. Cf. Demand/withdraw interaction pattern.
Making things better: Increasing rewards in ‘non-contentious’ areas. Trying to understand the other person’s point of view.
Including avoiding fundamental attribution errors for negative acts.
ATP Social 8: Attraction and Close Relationships Tom Farsides
Aron et al.’s (1992) Other in the self (IOS) Scale