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A boy once asked his father, "Dad, how do wars begin?

"Well, take the First World War,"said his father. "That got started when

Germany invaded Belgium."

Turning her back upon him in a huff, the

wife stormed out the room and slammed the

door as hard as she could!

When the dishes stopped rattling in thecupboard an uneasy silence followed,

broken at length by the boy:

" Daddy, you don' t have to tel l me how

wars begin; I KNOW now!"

HOW DO WARS BEGIN?

Immediately his wife interrupted him, "Tell the boy the truth! It began

because somebody was assassinated!

The husband drew himself up with an air of superiority and snapped back,"Are you answering the question or am I?"


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Arguing!

We all do it sometimes!We all know what it is to

walk away from an

argument with the mouth

dry, tummy in a knot,

head hot and spinning,and heart sick--wishing

that it had never

happened, deeply

regretting the unkind

words that were said!Believe it or not, more

homes are destroyed by

arguments than by fires

or funerals!


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We all know that arguing for the sake of

arguing is a pointless waste of time!

We have absolutely NOTHING to gain -

only our time, energy and someone's

friendship is LOST!

It is said that the only people who really

LISTEN to an argument are the neighbours!

For others, arguing hasbecome a HABIT, an

automatic reaction of

saying something

contradictory to

whatever is being said!

Some people love toargue, and will do

anything to prove

their point! They'd

rather lose a friend

than an argument!


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A LESSON FROM

BENJAMIN FRANKLINOne compulsive arguer was the early American statesman,philosopher and author, Benjamin Franklin. As a youth he

loved nothing more than a good argument until a close

friend took him aside and said,

"Ben, you are impossible! Your opinions have a slap in them

for everyone who differs with you! Your friends enjoy

themselves better when you are not around! You think you

KNOW so much that no one can TELL you anything.

Indeed, no one is going to try, for the effort would only lead

to discomfort and hard work!

So you are not likely ever to know any more than you do

now--which is actually very LITTLE!"


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"If you argue and rankle and

contradict, you may achieve a

victory sometimes.

But it will be an empty victory,

because you will never get your

opponent's good will!"

Ben Franklin was BIG enough and WISE enough to

accept these stinging truths, and to realize that he was

headed for failure and social disaster! So he immediatelybegan to change his bigoted, argumentative ways!

He became one of the best loved, wisest and most

diplomatic men in American history, and was actually

remembered for saying:


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NO ONE ever really wins an argument!

You can shout and scream and argue until you're blue

in the face, but people are not going to believe that youare right unless they WANT to believe it!

And remember,

no amount of

logic orargument will

make anyone

change his mind

if he doesn't

want to!

And even if they would LIKE to agree with you, your tone

may have put them so much on the defensive that it would

be like an utter humiliation, a defeat on the battlefield, forthem to confess you're right or even partly right!

Nine times out

of ten, an

argument endswith each side

more firmly

convinced than

ever that he is

absolutely right!


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Well, suppose you triumph over the other

person and shoot his argument full of holes

and prove that he's an absolute idiot.

You can't win an argument,because if you lose it, you lose it!--

And if you WIN it, you still LOSE it!

Why?

" A man convinced against his

will , is of the same opinion sti l l ! "

Then what?You'll feel fine, smug and satisfied. But what about

him? You'll have made him feel inferior. You've hurt

his pride. He may resent your triumph,and


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"WHAT CAUSES FIGHTS AND QUARRELS

AMONG YOU?"

.Don't they come from your lusts and desires that battle within

you? You want something, but don't get it...so you quarrel and fight.--James 4:1-2.

So greediness and selfishness can be one of the root causes of

arguing, trying to get the things you selfishly want.

Other arguments are caused by PRIDE. Proverbs 13:10 says,

Only by PRIDE come quarrels, but wisdom is found in

those who take advice.Also, as we've clearly seen, many arguments are

caused by SELF-RIGHTEOUSNESS.--Pushing your

point, thinking that you're so right, putting yourself up

and the other person down by contradicting them!


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And what it all boils down

to is a lack of LOVE!Arguing isn't the real problem, that's just a SYMPTOM!

--A LACK OF LOVE is the REAL problem!

That's one of the major lessons that God wants us to learn--how to LOVE people, how to work with them, how to treat them,

how to give the other person the advantage and the benefit of

the doubt, how to build them up unselfishly, instead of selfishly

tearing them down through contention and argument!

All this is a part of LEARNING TO LOVE,

to put ourselves in other people's shoes,

to

"do unto others as you would have them do unto you!


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You may want to share this with your friends..feel free..

GOD can give you the solutions,

change your heart and spirit, fill

you with His Spirit of Love, joy,

peace, patience, kindness,goodness, faithfulness,

gentleness and self-control.--

GOD also can give you the

strength and grace to LOVE andNOT argue!

So stay close to GOD !!!

Love, Humility and Prayer solves all problems!

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