Appearance/HygieneHow is this related to Social Skills?

Video

• Why is good grooming important for healthy friendships and romantic relationships?

Appearance is important for…

• Getting a Job

• http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eyj1dvSJUPY (0-0.54)

• Getting a Date

Why do our friends or potential friends care how we look/smell?

• Why did Chris tell Mike that he smelled?- He was trying to help his friend

• How can you tell what Chris was thinking?- His gestures, facial expression, etc.

• How should Mike have handled Chris telling him that he smelled?- should have listened to his friend and taken his advice

What are things you do to take care of our body and look nice?

• What can you do to be attractive to girls/boys?

Going on a Date

• Complete Survey

• What does it mean to “go on a date”?

• Why might people want to go on a date?

Dating

• What social skills might be most important when on a date? Eye contact Body Language Facial Expressions

Starting a conversation Keeping the conversation going Ending the conversation Bubbling unexpected

comments/thoughts

Appearance Being fun

Places you may go on a date (at your age)

• Going to the movies

• Getting food together

• Hanging out at your house

• Many other places too….

Things not to do on a date

• Would make others have “weird thoughts”/ feel uncomfortable/ not want to be around you?

• Let’s watch part 1 of our video and see what things Mike does that are unexpected

Mike on a date- Attempt #1

• Things Mike did that were “unexpected”

What Mike DID How she FELT CONSEQUENCES How he FEELS at end

Hug and kiss her Annoyed Irritated

Pushed him/ hit him

HeartbrokenConfused

Mike on a date- Attempt #2

• What did Mike do this time that worked better?

• What social skills did he use well?

What Mike DID

How she FELT CONSEQUENCES How he FELT at end

Acted expected, calm

HappyCalmInterested

They might hang out more Really happy

What is Body Language? • Sending messages with your body, gestures,

facial expressions

• What is body language important?- Gives you clues about how the other person is

feeling

Body Language in Video How is SASHA feeling? How is MIKE feeling?

Bad Day- Creeped out and afraid Bad Day- interested but aggressive

Good Day- interested in Mike Good Day- interested but calm

How does Mike express his feelings differently?•Bad Day- rude, blunt, insensitive•Good day- being thoughtful, polite and spending time learning about her

What is the difference between Mike’s body language in BAD DAY and GOOD DAY?•Bad Day- tries to hug Sasha, which is unexpected•Good Day- acts in familiar or expected way and is considerate of Sasha

Different Perspectives on Dating

• When to date?

• How often to date?

• Who should date?

Watch Coffee House again..

• See how Mike starts the conversation in BAD day and GOOD day videos

• Bad Day- Says Hi babe and tries to hug Sasha• Good Day- Talks about the assignment and asks about her

Look for Common Information/ Interests

• Common Info: information that everyone in the same environment knows; makes it easier to start a conversation

- examples: days off from school, a test taken, what they think of a teacher

• What information is common to Mike and Sasha?

- Their assignment and class

Common Interests

• Things that both people are interested in• When you start a conversation with someone,

you usually don’t know their interests are- takes time to find out

• What common interests did Mike and Sasha share?

Practice conversations

• Use common information or a common interest to start the conversation