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Table Of Contents – Part 4

Chapter 26: The Mental Interlock Method__________________________ 3

Chapter 27: Rejection Flip Flop Technique_______________________ 25

Chapter 28: The Emotional Firecrackers Tactic_____________________ 46

Chapter 29: The Ease Infuser Guideline___________________________62

The Conclusion: A Finalizing Step_______________________________ 82


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Chapter 26: The Mental Interlock Method“Men have only two things to choose from, in a relationship: their commitments, or

their fears.”

There are two ways in which a man has to become exclusive to you. One is physically,the other is emotionally. A lot of men commit to women physically, but did you know that MANY men do not commit EMOTIONALLY?

The reality is, that a lot of men, offer up only a FRACTION of the level of commitment that they should, even if they are in a serious and long term relationship with a woman.

Now this might not sound accurate, but this isn’t exactly something that men tell women, or reveal to women, and even more importantly, it’s not even something that many men are consciously aware of, either.

You see a man most often, ONLY commits to a woman physically, if he ever does, by doing things like becoming exclusive with her, intimately, or telling her that he wants to spend his life with her.

Or he may get married, as a way to further cement the PHYSICAL act of being committed to her.

But there is a whole other level, which many women do not activate, and which many men cannot control, when it comes to commitment. That is the emotional level.

The emotional level of commitment, is the difference between a man just simply wanting to be with you, and a man wanting to be with ONLY you, and feeling satisfied


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ONLY through you.

A man who has physically committed to you, will be with you, but he doesn’t feel 100% satisfied by you. Such a man will sometimes feel trapped in his relationship, andwill sometimes feel disappointed in the fact that he offered any commitment to you at all.

But a man who has emotionally committed to you, is the kind of man who would never ever question that commitment, and who secondly, would NEVER feel disappointed in his choice to have you, and be with you.

When a man physically commits to you, it’s more like a feeling of YOU securing HIM, in his mind, wherein he feels like he is only complying because this is what you want, but not because it’s actually what he is after.

Physical commitment from a man, means that you were chasing him, and he gave in.

But emotional commitment means that a man feels like he is securing YOU, and that YOU gave in to him. In his mind, it means that he was chasing after you.

Thus, the men who physically commit, but who don’t emotionally commit to a woman,almost always want to find some way to keep their “options open”, so that they can either:

A) Bail on the relationship, when they feel it’s just getting too intense, because it wasn’t satisfying anyway.

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B) Leave, because they actually still want something better, which in this case, means that they will be OPEN to the idea of another better woman who can come along.

These very same men, also never tell you that they are keeping their “options open” either, but they are. Again, this is not something that many men are consciously aware


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of, but it affects every fiber of their being, regardless of that fact.

That’s because you have not been cemented in their mind, as the woman through whom everything they need can be fulfilled. They will always have this looming thought in their head that they have to keep the door open, for that person who can finally offer them what they are looking for.

This means that this commitment door always stays open, just a crack, regardless of how intensely a man is “physically committed to you”, if he is not emotionally committed to you, in the first place.

This “crack” in his commitment door, can close completely, however, if he were to be given proof, and thus, in being given that proof, to also be given a push to commit completely to you, whole heartedly.

This is what the Mental Interlock method is about. It’s about making a man see you ashis ONLY and best option, not just today, or tomorrow, but permanently, regardless of what is going to happen in your future together.

The basis of the Mental Interlock method is simple. You make him feel extremely goodaround you, to such a level, that he actually begins to feel privileged, glad, appreciative, and ultimately fulfilled on every deep level, in your presence.

There are 3 things that you must do, therefore, to make a man emotionally commit to you. These things involve reaching him on an emotional level, in a dramatic way, to entice him to recognize your value. The first step, is as follows:

Step #1: Increase The Respect Frequency –

The core needs of your man, as you learned with Logical Attraction, are to be acknowledged, appreciated, and accepted for the various purposes that a man is driven by.

Those purposes include, a man’s ability and drive to lead, protect, provide, problem solve, and guide etc…


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Again in a relationship, a man needs a certain level of respect to be maintained, so that he can gauge his worthiness, but more importantly so that he can understand on a deeper level that you do in fact appreciate, understand, and acknowledge him as a man.

A man, ultimately needs to feel like he is your hero. This is why you must use logical attraction, early on in a relationship, so that you can help him to properly understand and know that he really is a hero to you in justifiable ways.

But the same thing needs to happen once your man has agreed to start committing toyou further, or once he simply has committed more deeply to you, only it needs to happen on a grander scale if you actually want to get your man to whole heartedly commit.

This is where the Respect Frequency comes into play. Respect frequency is the leveland amount in which you deliver respect to your man, on a day to day basis. A lot of women, once they have secured their man, unfortunately reduce the respect frequency, because they either:

A) Start to become a little more realistic, and thus criticize more often,ORB) End up feeling like they don’t have to work as hard to impress him anymore, and thus relax and take a step back in the relationship, now that they have him.

Again, this is not about impressing your man, as much as it is about making him feel validated and useful in the relationship and around you in the first place.

Increasing the level of respect frequency means that you begin to let your man know on a deeper scale that he can find PURPOSE, and can be fulfilled extensively through you, well into the future.

Doing this means that you start to indicate to your man, that he should be comfortable spending his life with you, and devoting his life to you, after this point, because you allow him to feel fulfilled through you, not just once or twice, but extensively for the long term.


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So how do you increase the respect frequency? You begin to tell him exactly what it is about him, or his actions, that you acknowledge, appreciate, or see value in, in a genuine way.

Basically, you tell your man of something that you have recognized within him, that you respect, admire, or appreciate, and in doing so you create this ultimate condition that your man wants to continue to consciously live up to from that point forward.

It ultimately rewards your man, into committing to you completely, especially on the emotional level. It leaves no room for doubts or insecurities anymore, because you aresoothing them into no longer being temporarily present, by giving your man something else to concentrate on, and feel secure in.

So what kinds of things can you say to your man, to accomplish this? Well you can sayanything, as long as it’s genuine, and again, is justified. The theme here, however, is that your man is your HERO, so you must compliment or acknowledge something that clearly shows that he has become your own personal relationship hero, and lover extraordinaire.

Here are some examples of statements which you can say, that show your man a deeper level of respect and admiration:

· “I am so proud to have you in my life. You’ve really made me a better woman. Thank you for that.”

· “I’ve been feeling extremely excited lately, because I realized that I get to watch youbecome this really amazing man, first hand. I am such a lucky woman to have that opportunity.”

· “I feel so loved, because of the way that you ____” (here you insert the action or behavior that he is exhibiting toward you.)


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· “I have never had a man make me feel so understood. I am so happy that I can call you my man, because you really know how to complete me.”

· “I noticed that recently you’ve really been working hard on _____(here youinsert theaction or behavior). I want you to know how much I really admire that about you, andappreciate that. It’s really motivating to see you working on that, and I love that aboutyou.”

· “I really love it when you _____(here you insert an action). It makes me feel _____(here you insert your positive reaction). In fact recently I have been feeling thatI have a lot to learn from you, because of this fact. You really make it so easy to love you, and you make me truly want to be the best woman that I can be for you.”

· “Sometimes when you _____(here you insert an action), it really makes me feel _____(here you insert a positive reaction). I really respect that about you.”

· Etc…

Again the key here, is that you are proud to have him in your life, in a genuine way, which means that you aren’t making these statements out of desperation, and that nothing that you acknowledge about him, is being said out of desperation either.

You aren’t becoming emotionally clingy by telling him how badly you need him and how afraid you are of losing him etc… as you might have done in the past.

Instead you are telling him how appreciative you are, of what you have in the “now”, and how secured you are, in that.

It means you are not projecting any deeper fears or concerns as to whether or not he will be with you permanently, and it also means that you are helping him to fulfill his own desire to want to be able to commit to you more extensively.


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It means that you aren’t questioning his ability to fulfill that promise either, but insteadare helping him to fulfill his commitment to you on a deeper, more emotional level, by reaching him in a more profound way.

By communicating to him, a stronger respect frequency, you are helping him to activate the part of him, which will want to secure you on an emotional level, because you have given him the push he needed, to want that in the first place.

Not only have you given him the push however, but you’ve also given him a good reason. You are quite literally telling him, that you see all of the value that he brings to the table, which in turn opens up his ability to want to see that in you as well.

It’s like telling your man that you believe he is good, but that you know he could be great… and then you step back, to watch him take up that challenge.

It’s a way of flattering his emotional ego into taking action to secure you, on a more powerful scale.

As you may have noticed with this step, one of the things you are doing, when you increase the respect frequency, is you are allowing your man to become motivated, and to feel justified in all of the purposes he naturally carries as a man.

These very same purposes, work in your favor when you encourage your man to exhibit them around you, but more importantly when you allow your man to act on those purposes when it comes to you. Once you acknowledge them, you can begin to actually encourage him to work on those purposes around you and the relationship. The next step explains how to do that.

Step #2: Become A Little Vulnerable To Him-

A high quality woman, knows exactly how to make sure that her man NEVER ever crosses her, or does her wrong. This is especially true when it comes to his level of commitment to her.


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She knows how to make a man feel an extreme sense of undying and devoted love toward her, which again, is an extremely unbreakable and solidified form of commitment that her man feels and holds toward her.

These women get a man to become this way, by securing both a physical and emotional level of commitment from their men, by utilizing one very intriguing tool that only a woman could ever pull off.

What tool is that?

It’s the art of vulnerability.

A woman who knows how to become effectively vulnerable around her man, is a woman who equally ignites a passionate wave of protection and leadership from her man, in the relationship, and toward her.

She knows how to ultimately, lock her man into a place where he finds passion, purpose, and pleasure in being who he is, in front of her, by doing what he needs to do.

In other words, it means that you can make your man feel like he is the ultimate man,by allowing him to be that man, through you, in the comfort of your presence.

Once you do this, a man would never do ANYTHING to compromise that reality, and would do anything to respect, uphold, and maintain that reality for his woman.

A man would never want to break your heart, leave you, or ever think of another woman… if he thought that he was responsible for your happiness, for example, would he?

That would be horrifying to him, to think about ever doing any of that to you, or to ever think about leaving his options open in any way. In fact, he would find it disrespectful to ever imagine such a world, or to ever cause you such pain.

A man who is committed whole heartedly, just simply wouldn’t go there, and would


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fight to protect your right to have him exclusively even, emotionally, and physically.

So how do you become vulnerable to your man, so that he can fulfill his purpose through you?

There are 3 stages, which are as follows:

Stage 1: Recognize Where You Are Flawed/Weak/Or Fail, And Admit that Openly- Now this doesn’t mean that you are coming in and using this reality as an excuse as to why you can’t be a better woman, or improve. It just means that if there is a fundamental flaw which you cannot overcome or change as a woman, you recognize it, don’t hide it, and openly embrace and admit that.

When you do this, your man will feel the need to embrace that about you, but furthermore, because you are teaching him where you are the most weak, he will come in and want to protect you in those areas.

It’s basically like finding a fish that is missing one fin. The fish functions, but you will want to take care of that fish. A level of vulnerability has been created, therefore, BECAUSE of what you now know about that fish.

The same thing applies here. To create the level of vulnerability, your man has to clearly be able to see and know where it is that you actually are genuinely vulnerable.

This means you can admit your weaknesses, and that you can let him know where you are deeply insecure, even.

Just be careful not to reveal a lot of flaws or insecurities that might seem desperate orneedy. So no telling your man how lonely you get, or how you don’t feel like you are loveable, etc.

Again, as you learned earlier in this program, some of those emotions and feelings, and even flaws are things that you have to take care of and address within yourself. Ifthe flaws are heavily negative in emotion, those are for you to privately work on, and should not be given to your man to take care of.


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But if they are positive or have the potential to be positive, it’s completely ok to project that on to your man.

Stage 2: Use Humor- Part of recognizing a flaw, means embracing it. Embracing it means that you aren’t extremely “hurt”, or sensitive about it to such an extent that if somebody were to poke fun at it, you’d shut down. Embracing means that you ACCEPT that reality, and thus are comfortable around it, and within it.

Humor can prove to your man that you are comfortable with the reality, and thus further cements a level of vulnerability to your man, that he will come in and feel like he needs to protect, and help you in.

So if you, for example, have a few extra pounds. Instead of freaking out over that, and getting insecure, you can let your man know that it’s something vulnerable, but ina positive way by using humor.

You could point out this flaw, and reality by saying something like: “Looks like I seem to have gained a bit of chunk, and my stomach wiggles when I walk”.

Your man will hear this, and internally he will recognize that you are a little bit insecure about it, but now with your attitude being calm, he will recognize that this is something he needs to come in and protect.

Almost every guy at this point will come back, and COMPLIMENT you after the fact, byletting you know that he doesn’t see this as a bad thing. Why doesn’t he see it as a bad thing?

You framed it in a light way, and made it easy for him now to come in and take care ofthe rest for you. You’ve let him know that you are flawed, but you made it so easy for him to come in and do his job protecting you and taking care of you after this, by not making it a negative thing.

Again, if you embrace it, he will too.

Stage 3: Open Yourself Up To Receive, Because Of Your Vulnerability- A lot


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of women try to have their flaws and insecurities resolved, by dumping a lot of internal doubt onto their man.

It’s the whole “am I pretty”, “am I fat”, “am I loveable” reality, that a lot of women exist within, and project into their relationship. I get it, you aren’t so sure of everything, and you need your man to be able to help remove that doubt. But, this is the wrong way to bring up a flaw or insecurity around your man, and to expect him tochange that for you.

If you want a man to swoop in and take care of a flaw or insecurity, and to protect and provide for you therein (as is his job), you have to be able to be the RIGHT kind of needy.

Expecting or needing your man to change your entire opinion that you have of yourself, as to whether or not you are attractive, is not the right kind of needy. Wanting your man to completely take away your feelings of low self-esteem, once again is not the right kind of needy.

Those needs, once more, are things that you have to take care of mostly internally, but some of them can be indirectly resolved and helped, if you approach your man, with the right kind of neediness.

How do you do that?

You ask your man to do something, by letting him know that you have a genuine needwhich you cannot help on your own, and then you step back and allow him to do it.

Imagine, for example, that you know you cannot lift 200 pounds. You simply cannot. This is a flaw. Maybe that means you are weak, or maybe it just means that you knowyour limits.

But what if your man was capable of doing it? What if you even KNEW that he could do it, and with ease as well?

Who would you ask to fulfill that need then? Obviously, you’d ask him, and wouldn’t even bother with trying to do it yourself.


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But if you came in saying something like: “Oh, I am just so useless. I can’t even do this. I am so weak. I just can’t accept that I can’t even lift this. Can you just lift this thing for me already?” your man is going to feel really strange, coming in trying to do something for you, because you are making it hard for him, with the added on insecurities and projections.

It appears too needy. But if you come in, instead and just get real honest about your own capabilities, and then equally become honest about his, things will go a lot differently.

So now you’d come in and say something like: “This thing is too heavy for me to lift, but I know that you are a really strong man. Would you mind lifting this for me?”, nowyour man has an ignited sense of purpose, in coming in and taking care of that flaw for you, and he’ll be more than happy to do it too.

Why?

You didn’t over-complicate your neediness, by tacking on a ton of insecure statementsto it. You simply accepted that, admitted it, then asked him to do his job. The purposeof doing this, is simple. You INSTANTANEOUSLY, cause your man to commit to you, quite actively, the minute you do this.

There is no waiting even, for him to come in and commit. He will instantly recognize that he must take care of you on a deeper level and will immediately jump to fulfill that purpose. Again, emotionally this is beyond enticing to a man, because you give him a way to feel like a true man, and like a true hero in your presence.

It’s important to note that a lot of women, become vulnerable in the wrong way, by often crying a lot in front of him, by breaking down, and just by ultimately revealing an intense plethora of insecurities.

This freaks your man out, because you aren’t clearly indicating just ONE thing which he could come in and help you with. You overload your man, when you do this, by pulling out too many problems, that together become too difficult to attempt to help you in, or solve, from your man’s perspective.


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It confuses his purpose, to be able to take care of you and provide for you, because you are making it beyond difficult for him.

The art of vulnerability in this sense, means that you give him a way to deal with one need at a time, as it arises, without over complicating it, and without making your man feel afraid of addressing it. You make it manageable for him, by embracing and accepting it, and by revealing it in a positive light for him.

This makes it extremely easy for your man to commit to you on a deeper level, because you make his ability to commit and give you more, extremely easy now for him, but you also make it rewarding for him, by acknowledging where he can take over, in taking care of you, very clearly for him.

A final and optional stage, to becoming vulnerable to your man, is one that you can utilize if you are a little bit shy. This stage, is called the Shyness Card Factor.

Throughout this program, I have been giving you tips, tactics, and guidelines that often times centralize around a more outgoing reality. A lot of the methods so far, ask you to step outside of your comfort zone, and to make the first move.

But what if you are a shy woman? What if you struggle to take an outwardly level of leadership and control in your relationship, or towards your man?

Furthermore, what if this struggle has been causing you a lot of problems, because you find it difficult to communicate to your man, what your needs are, because you can’t take things in as fast of a pace as your man may like, or because you need moretime to open up in that way?

Well, this step is for you, if you find yourself either being too shy, or too overly nice in your relationships, to such an extent that it actually causes you problems, or makes it difficult to get what you want from your man.

You see, a lot of men actually enjoy that vulnerable nature that some women have, which is often expressed as a compassionate, caring, and reserved nature.


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To some men, this is beyond attractive, and in fact, it’s a huge difference that contrasts the generally rough, direct, and sometimes brutal nature that men may have, due to their core makeup that has them working hard to become leaders, protectors, and providers.

Men enjoy the contrast, because a woman who is extremely nice or shy, is often easy to become comfortable with. It’s easy for a man to find comfort in the presence of a woman who is compassionate, empathetic, caring, kind, and reserved, because almostall of those qualities are designed to comfort.

Even the nature of being reserved, makes a man feel that you are a high quality woman, because he knows that you will not just go for anything, or do anything, just because. It means that a man knows that you hold yourself to a higher standard, and this is something that many men can respect and appreciate, and many men even value this ideal within a woman, because it tells him, that he can trust her to be loyal.

Thus, it’s not the fact that you might be too nice, or extremely shy that actually causes the problem. That’s probably what attracts men to you, in the first place, is actually this feminine nature that you represent.

The problem therefore, comes in HOW you project that niceness, or shyness.

Some women, for example, will talk negatively about how shy they are, and they will peg this shyness as being an extremely bad thing. So now instead of allowing the manto concentrate on the beauty of that shyness, you instead are making the one thing that drew a man to you, into a problem, and are thus signaling to him, that he shouldn’t appreciate that about you.

It causes men to grow impatient as well. They start to avoid listening to what you have to say, and ignore your boundaries, because you aren’t taking them seriously yourself either, where it counts.

Talking negatively about your reality, only creates a negative kind of vulnerability, where a man ends up taking advantage of it, because he knows that you don’t appreciate your own shyness or your own overly genuine personality.


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So what you want to do, therefore, is you want to come in and appear vulnerable in the right way, so that his instinct to protect you awakens and thus he naturally feels the need to take care of you and love you.

You see, when you show off your vulnerable side in a good way, a man will feel the need to save you from ever being hurt because of that reality. He will come in and want to keep you safe, and protect you, because he will recognize this not as a weakness, but rather as something that he needs to keep safe.

Negative vulnerability appears as a weakness. Negative vulnerability, means that you come in and tell your man that you are shy, in such a way that it’s no longer a good thing, but rather is something that people hate, because now it sounds like an excuse as to why you can’t do things, rather than a proper validation.

Positive vulnerability, however, is always justified in a man’s mind, and thus immediately earns the right to be respected, and protected.

This means that once you add an element of positive vulnerability to the mix, that your man will actually RESPECT that about you, and furthermore will obey any boundaries following that reality, because he wouldn’t want to do anything to compromise that, or hurt you.

So how do you become positively vulnerable? It’s simple. First you admit to the fact that you are overly shy, but then you explain where this is affecting your man.

For example, you could say: “I am a little shy, so I sometimes can’t express myself to you properly like I want to.”

To finalize the statement, what you do, is after you have clarified this fact, and the problem area, is you then make a fair request surrounding this. The fair request should be something that HELPS the vulnerability, in a justifiable way, rather than excusing the vulnerability.


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What this means, is that normally you might make an excuse surrounding what you are trying to do. So if you are trying to open up to your man, you’d come in and say you CAN’T, because of the fact that you are shy. Thus in doing so, you would have turned that vulnerability, into a negative form.

But, if you remove the excuse, and instead tell your man what you are actually lookingto do, but also add the element of honest vulnerability, he will work to respect what you are looking to do, and secondly he will take care of that level of vulnerability after.

In this case, after the example I just gave of telling a man that you are shy, and then explaining how this affects an action you are trying to take with him, you could say this after: “Would you be willing to be patient with me, as I try to work through this?”

Now your vulnerability, is not getting in your way, but instead is actually aiding you, toget what you want from your man. At this stage, your man will want to listen to your needs, especially since now you have been extremely honest with your vulnerability, but you have not used it as an excuse not to give him something.

At this stage you are, also clearly communicating that you want to give him somethingmore, and you have told him what is standing in the way. He will want to help you work through this, on your terms now, because of the fact that he knows now that if he does, that he will receive more from you as well.

So to sum this up, once again you never want to use your vulnerability as an excuse as to why you can’t do something, but rather want to use it as a pivot point into having your man help you to accomplish something.

In doing so, you activate his provider and protective nature, which in turn swoops in to take care of you, in a loving and endearing way. Ultimately , the result of this, is your man feeling like he needs to have you, take care of you, and be with you, because you help him to fulfill his deeper core purposes as a man.

Step 3: Use The Predictability Tactic To “Understand” Your Way Into A Deeper Level Of Commitment-


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To maintain a man’s level of commitment toward you, you have to be able to tailor your ability to keep him intrigued, interested, and emotionally fulfilled by you, as oftenas possible.

Part of being able to do this, comes in being able to learn your man’s habits, and thus,learn his cycles, so that no matter what is going on, you always have a way to read your man, and to deliver doses of your love to him strategically, so that he never strays and always feels justified in committing to you.

It means that you understand your man on a deeper level, so that you know how to react, and what to do if he is having a bad mood, or if he is feeling excited etc…

A lot of women don’t actually know how to react to their man, or what to do with theirman, when his mood changes. Ultimately, it makes a man withdraw, because he can clearly see that you don’t know how to handle him, when things are not always the same.

This means that a level of him will always feel like he deserves more, could get more, and could have more. It means that he’s still got his door of commitment opened a crack, and hasn’t closed it completely, so that just you and him are alone together in that reality.

So it’s extremely important, that you utilize the Predictability Tactic, therefore, to be able to get the power to always know what to do on your side of the relationship, no matter what is going on, on his end.

Doing this makes your man feel comfortable, yet again in your presence, and makes itextremely easy for him to want to be with you permanently, because you are reachinghim, to comfort him beyond the level of simply just physically being there for him.

It means emotionally, you have his back, and he doesn’t have to worry about anythingafter this point. It also means that he will do the same for you. Again a man follows your lead, so if you lead by offering him an intense level of emotional comfort, he will come back 10-fold and return that to you, as well.


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So what is the Predictability Tactic?

It’s simply a way in which you can predict his next move, without needing him to explain himself, or utter any words to you. It means that you will be able to figure himout, understand him, or know what is going on, without always having to come in andmake him explain himself each and every time.

How do you do that?

You pay attention to his behaviors and patterns, and begin watching how he reacts to certain things.

Every single guy has a set of comfort zones, and boundaries he will rarely, if ever leave or go outside of. Learn those, and you will find him to be very predictable after this, because his reactions will always be clear.

Thus, you learn how he reacts to things, by paying attention to his habits. This means that you must learn to recognize his habits in the first place.

A man is driven by unconscious pattern habits. We are all driven by that in fact. What we say, in our everyday life, is our conscious mind speaking, however, we only make decisions or act based on what our unconscious mind tells us.

Therefore, if you went out on a date, and everything went really well, and the guy even promised to call you, but never did, then the reality is, that unconsciously, he didnot feel that the date was good enough.

As a result, he didn’t call you. Most women read too much into this, and derive a different meaning or try to second guess his motives or why he did what he did, whenin reality, his actions speak the truth.

So the bottom line is, the best way to predict a guy’s next move, or to even read his mind without uttering a single word, is to actually focus on his habits. If you know a guy a little too well, then only focus on his predominant habit patterns.


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In other words, this means the things he does on a regular basis around you. Figuringout a pattern, means looking to see if a guy does a certain thing more than 3 times.

So for example, he tells you when he’s going to call you, but then he doesn’t. If this happens not just once, or twice, but three times, then his pattern is one that clearly indicates that he won’t be calling you much.

This means that his comfort zone rests within only calling you less than you desire, but now you know that if you come back and try to force him to call you more, that NOW he will retaliate. It means that you can gauge how he will react, feel, or respondto you, before he even does now, because you’ve clearly worked out his pattern and comfort zone.

It helps you learn and know how to react to your man as well, so that you are not constantly always misunderstanding or pushing him well outside of an area that he is comfortable in, because you didn’t recognize or realize the pattern.

Remember that a man’s patterns and comfort zones are in place for a reason. They are there, so that he can handle things, without always feeling stressed or as if everything is difficult. Your job then is to respect those boundaries, and not to always come in trying to cross them.

When you respect the boundaries, without always having to be told where they are, orwhy they are there, you make a man feel comfortable to be himself around you, whichin turn tells him that you are the most understanding and truly loving partner for him.

This ultimately validates a final need, once more for your man to commit to you further, especially on an emotional level, because he will start to notice that you react in ways that he NEEDS after, without even having to ask you to do that for him.

It means that once you recognize a pattern, that you respect it, acknowledge it, and work around that.

It doesn’t mean coming in and saying “ha ha, I found out that you do this thing. Look at how weird that is”, either. You actually don’t want to tell your man when you find a pattern, EVEN if this pattern annoys you.


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Again, this is reaching into a very fragile and deep area of your man, so you want to tread lightly, and respect those boundaries. You don’t want to attack them, but rather want to acknowledge and help them, because they are there to protect your man’s most vulnerable areas.

If you help him do that, he will gain a sense that you respect him on the deepest level, and as a result will only be able to feel more love toward you.

It’s important to note that the reason why you must also respect and acknowledge hishabits as being an extension of his boundaries and deeper flaws, is because a man willalways go with his belief systems, before he chooses any other reality, if he feels threatened or if there is a conflict.

Again, those habits that he has formed, no matter what they are, were designed to make things easier for him to handle, and manage. It means that they are protecting some deeper beliefs, and core values.

What this ultimately means is that whenever there is a conflict between what you want him to do and his belief systems, that he will always go with and choose his belief systems.

This I why you have to work around the habits, and this is why you must LEARN what those habits are, so that you can tailor your response to anything he might do, say, or feel, BEFORE he even does it, because once again you will start to recognize when a certain emotion or need is coming up, without him even saying it.

You start to recognize it, because you will notice that there is a certain behaviour he isstarting to exhibit again. That very same behaviour, which you will have learned, can only mean a certain reaction or reality from his end after that point. Thus he becomes predictable to you.

Remember that you must watch his actions, and not his words. His words are an extension of his actions, but they don’t make up the whole of the entire picture. Men also have a habit of expressing love through actions and not words, which is why a lotof men have trouble saying “I love you”.


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That’s because a man tends to express that, through action, and he does this by once again igniting his ability to protect you, take care of you, and basically fulfill his deeperpurposes as a man, on your behalf and for you. Thus, he expresses love by being protective of you, instead of just “saying” that.

Learning a level of predictability in your man’s habits and actions therefore gives you awindow to understand what he is saying, and how he means it, or why he is doing something, so that your man ultimately feels like you truly get him in a way that even he doesn’t get himself.

You’ll find that when you do this, you create a deeper intrigue within your man, to want to commit to you further, because there will always be something about you, that makes him feel so understood, in a way he can’t quite pin down, but in a way that he cannot find fulfilment therein through any other medium.

Making These Steps Work:

At the beginning of this chapter, there is a quote that states that men have only two options in a relationship that they can choose from. One of those options is their commitments, and the other is their fears.

What this means, in the context of the Mental Interlock Method, is that you are either making your man feel afraid of you, and of the relationship, or you are making him feel afraid of NOT committing to the relationship and you.

So you either make your man fear a world where you are not there, or you make him fear a world where you are there.

What this means, is that a man can ultimately fear being with you, instead of fearing losing you.

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you. Your job is to make him feel like he would be miserable around anybody else but you, especially when it comes to the idea of other women.

But this doesn’t mean that you actually make your man feel miserable. No. It just means that you make your man feel as if he WOULD feel miserable, should he leave you. Thus what you are actually doing, is you are making him feel satisfied, happy, and comfortable in the right way, in your presence, to such a level that he can truly become the man that he was meant to be with you.

A man can only commit fully, if he is not listening to his fears, and as you now know, aman usually feels as if he can only choose between his fears, or his commitments.

Helping him to choose his commitments, which includes igniting a deeper commitmentto you, means that you have to set up the right circumstances and conditions. Again, following the steps of the Mental Interlock Method will help you to accomplish this.


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Chapter 27: Rejection Flip Flop Technique“Being too nice in a relationship gets you used, and being too mean pushes people

away. You should be nice, but you should also put your foot down if you have to, in arelationship.”

Just as you have flaws, so does your man. As you’ve been learning so far, there is a way to use those flaws to turn the relationship into a powerfully strong one, whether they are your flaws, or your man’s. What I am going to teach you in this section, however, is how to effectively deal with the flaws that are damaging, that you find in your man, and how to equally turn those around, so that they are no longer determining the quality of your relationship, with your man.

Two examples of such flaws that many women encounter are,

A) Men who want to turn their women into a “fling”, instead of getting serious and taking the relationship seriously, and

B) Men who just simply lie, hide things, or keep secrets, instead of trusting and being open in the relationship.

Both of these flaws when existing on their own are intense and difficult to deal with, because they completely make you undermine your own level of confidence in yourself, and almost always bring out the worst insecurities, as you try to understand, manage, and fix them.

When combined, both of these realities are deadly to a relationship, especially over a period of time. But there is a way to fix and resolve these realities, so that the flaw nolonger dictates the quality or intensity of your relationship and love.


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The first two steps of the Unnecessary Flaw Reversal Technique will actually address both of these issues, but before I get into that, I’d like to point out the fundamental motivation for those flaws.

For a flaw to exist, it must be motivated by either a deeper need, or an insecurity within oneself.

So if a man is flaking out on the commitment scale of things, or if he isn’t taking the relationship as seriously as he should be, it means that there is a STRONGER motivation for him to do that, than there is for him to simply just commit and be open.

That motivation, is almost always fueled by an insecurity, or a deeper need. This is why a large portion of this program has focused so far, on teaching you how to fulfill your man, so as to completely remove any ability for him to find any motivation from alack of his needs being fulfilled, or to feel motivated from any insecurities he might have.

Removing those insecurities and changing the way in which your man gets motivated, are two ways to help fix a man’s flaws, but sometimes even that is not enough. Sometimes, a man wants to be stubborn, and wants to stay in his comfort zone, whichin this case, is hurting you.

Sometimes, a man will even disregard the fact that it is hurting you, even if you’ve clearly stated that.

Sometimes a man, just wants to be in control, and wants to be able to have the powerto decide himself, without being told what to do.

In this case, however, a man’s decisions are completely destroying your relationship with him, and are causing you an intense level of pain. In this case there is only one thing you can do. What is that thing?

Put your foot down, and come down hard too. A man will take you for granted, if you let him, and that’s basically all that this kind of behavior suggests. It suggests that he feels you will allow it, and that ultimately he is taking you for granted.


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This attitude, further fuels the motivation to continue feeding his flaw endlessly through you. Thus if you want to crush the flaw, and remove it, you have to crush the attitude that is actually motivating it in the first place.

Part of getting your man to treat you like a queen, means acting like a queen. Sometimes this means not compromising, and standing your ground. If you think about it, queens don’t tip toe around others, and cater to their needs.

Queens get their needs met, and sometimes this means that they have to put their foot down, quite extensively. That’s what this section is about. It’s about reminding your man, that you are the queen, and not the pawn, on this chessboard game of love.

It’s ultimately a temporary sacrifice, of simply not being the “nice girl” anymore, to give your man the proper push and reminder that he has been ignoring and not recognizing, that you are not to be taken for granted, and that you are serious.

So how do you do that? How do you put your foot down?

You use the Unnecessary Flaw Reversal Technique.

The Unnecessary Flaw Reversal Technique is designed to basically remove the unnecessary ‘flaws’ that you find in your relationship, or in your man. These flaws, arethe kinds of things that have the potential to be changed, fixed, or resolved, and are not to be confused with the fundamental flaws that your man may have as an individual, outside of the relationship.

The flaws that I am referring to here, instead, refer to the moments I just described, when your man is really PUSHING your buttons on purpose, or when he is testing you time and time again. Those are what I like to call ‘unnecessary flaws’, and are often designed to invalidate something.

Maybe it’s an unnecessary flaw that is invalidating your need for commitment, for example, as you find your man either acting in a disloyal way, or pulling away from hispromises to be with you. Maybe it’s an unnecessary flaw that is invalidating your


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importance in the relationship, as you find your man taking you for granted, as another example.

But the basis remains the same, as an unnecessary flaw, is something that doesn’t have to exist, isn’t necessary, and on top of that, it invalidates something that should actually be validated.

So if you are finding that your man is invalidating you, in a genuine way, and you needto put your foot down, there are four steps you can use in this situation, to give your man a clear ultimatum against any flaw that he tries to unfairly justify.

These 4 steps will completely remove his ability to further justify all the wrong things, after this point, so use them with care.

Step #1: Implement TheFling Proof Tactic-

This tactic removes his ability to treat you like a fling, or to treat you as a ‘temporary’ reality, by making the guy feel like HE is YOUR fling. The essence of this tactic, is that you simply reverse the roles, and overtake his ability therefore, to find power in the role he is currently taking on.

It means that if your man is not taking things seriously, or if he is downgrading your importance in his life, and in the relationship, you simply do the same, only you completely overtake that reality, to such a level that HE then becomes the thing that YOU are not serious about.

Ultimately you temporarily remove his ability to think or feel that you absolutely, and desperately need him. You cut that in half, by saying "look buddy, you're actually the one who needs me, and it's very clear to see."

You do this, by backing up your words with solid proof. What kind of proof is that? Proof of action, and intent to act.

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showing him that he has to, by turning everything around back on him. How do you do that?

You act exceptionally casual, just like a guy acts, after he does ANYTHING with you. Basically, if he has slept with you, for example, you act extremely casual, because guys don’t expect this.

Giving him a casual attitude, will surprise him, because most guys expect women to chase after them, especially with something like intimacy.

If you are committed to your man, on such a devoted level, you pull the rug out from his feet in that area too, and remind him that YOUR options are still open, by saying something like this:

“I think it’s a good idea that both of us keep our options open, I mean things aren’t that serious between us yet.”

The essence of this tactic, is that you let your man know that things are NOT that serious, and you once again take it back to a level of treating him almost indifferently, and acting like a man would about the situation.

You introduce a level of emotional non-commitment, wherein your man will be forced now to have doubts about his security and future, with you. Those very same doubts, help to motivate him in the right way, to start taking you seriously again.

Some other examples of things which you could say to motivate your man to finally take you seriously, are:

· “I’d like to keep things casual for now.”- This is like saying, ‘hey, I am not sure aboutyou’. Again it ignites your man’s need to seek approval through you and to prove his worth to you again, which stops the previous behavior and starts a new pattern of getting him to take you seriously.


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· “I want to slow things down, and take it easy for now.”- Again, putting a stopper in your man’s ability to treat you as the fling, or to treat you with a poor level of commitment. This makes your man want to heat things up more, because now you are taking away something from him, that he found comfort in. He will work hard to get it back.

· “I want to take it one step at a time, let’s keep it slow.”- This statement is letting himknow that you are backing away from him emotionally, which sends off alarm bells in his subconscious, that will want to ask what it is that he is doing wrong, to cause this. This almost always makes a man instantaneously feel as if he must be doing something wrong, because you are clearly stepping back without explanation.

Again, the “casual” attitude here is everything. Don’t make it seem like you need him anymore. Just let him know that the option is there if he can prove himself, but that you are not going to be chasing him.

Doing this changes the balance of power so that you are the one in control, and in charge of the relationship, and its direction after, and it means that your man now follows your lead, and your orders, because you have dealt it to him straight.

Failure to do this, means that you are confusing the message to your man once again.Most women don’t take on the “casual attitude” route, when they are trying to changetheir man, or fix an unnecessary flaw of his.

Instead, they take on the “I am so needy” reality, wherein they turn this one unnecessary flaw into the absolute pinnacle of an end all or be all reality. It means that you would probably end up chasing after your man even harder, and becoming extremely dependent on him, which further cements the idea in his mind that he SHOULD be treating you like a fling, because you are chasing after him like crazy.

Again, you have to motivate your man to want to come after you. Constantly giving in to him emotionally or projecting your neediness on to him, tells him that he doesn’t have to bother chasing you, committing, or anything further, because you will be there, giving him everything, regardless.


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This same problem also affects a man’s ability to be open with you, which leads me to the next step.

Step #2: Use The Lies Vomit Technique-

This tactic makes a guy basically indirectly vomit out all the lies, and secrets that he almost exclusively would NEVER tell you, would NEVER admit to you, and would NEVER even think of ever letting you know about.

It's important to note, that you should only ever use this technique, if you can handle extreme truth, because it gives you the power to exclusively know if and when your man is lying, but even more disturbing, is the fact that this technique allows you to get your man to tell you things, even if he doesn't want to.

There will come a time in your relationship, where you will NEED to know something from your man, but he just doesn't want to give in. He avoids it, he lies about it, and he denies it as well. Every guy is guilty of this.

Now the less serious your man takes you, the more this happens. The more serious your man takes you, the less this happens.

But when it does happen, I know that absolutely NO woman is ok with that reality, butmany women don't actually know what to do with it.

This is one of the moments when a man will become the most stubborn, and when hewill resist the most. You see, if a man doesn't want to do something, and if he especially feels that he shouldn't do that thing around you, he will resist doing it with every fiber of his being.

This ties back, therefore, into everything you've been learning so far, about getting your man to open up, and about appealing to his deeper desires, so that you help reduce this reality.


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What you need to know now, however, is that even if you are comforting your man in all ways possible, there will always be something that he will want to hide. I know thatsounds horrible, but let me explain why this happens.

Sometimes men think, feel, or experience things which they'd like to keep private. Usually these things have nothing to do with you, but sometimes they relate back to you.

Why do men feel like they need to keep some things private?

It’s because they need to be able to work that out, and solve it on their own FIRST, before they ever reveal it to you. This "problem solving stage" could take hours, days, weeks, months, and sometimes even YEARS.

A lot of women, in this instance, when they see their man clearly withholding something back, want to push him in to telling them what it is. What happens then, is most women try to cajole their men into revealing whatever it is, which in turn only tells the man that she is not ready to handle the information.

What happens then, is the woman usually insists that she is ready, and begs, pleads, argues, and even attempts to punish her man into revealing the information.

What happens next, is something that ALL women hate. The guy starts lying, or he starts saying what she wants to hear, just to get her off his back.

Now most men don't actually want to lie. Most men want to be able to be honest, but a lot of women don't get that men need their "problem solving" space, and that UNTILthey feel like they have mostly solved some problems, they cannot discuss it, be open about it, or explain it.

Why is that?

Again they don't want you coming in with your input or ideas of how to fix it. That would make them feel inadequate, and less like a man. It would mean that you are not respecting their ability, and that you are not trusting them to be able to take care of it or handle it.


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Now most men know that women like to come in with their nurturing methods, trying to baby a man, when he has a problem, but that's exactly the problem. Sometimes a man needs the respect, but not the love.

This really means, that when a man is trying to solve a problem, that a man quite literally feels in such a way, where if you were to get inside of his head, in that very moment, this is what you’d hear: "I need your respect, and I want you to NOT love me right now, because I need you to back away and let me deal with this. Respect that for me, and I will reward you once I have done this."

Respect, therefore in this case, means that you allow your man the space to actually be allowed to withhold things from you, on purpose, so that he has the space to resolve it. Once he has resolved it, he will almost exclusively, like a loyal puppy dog, come back to you, excitedly, and display all kinds of loving emotions and honesty toward you after that point.

So again, Rule #1: a man only begins lying if he feels like you won't give him the space to problem solve and deal with something privately.

Rule #2: A man needs to keep secrets, until or unless he actually resolves those secrets. He needs this to happen so that he can feel like a man, and so that he can trust in himself and his abilities.

Thus if you support that reality, you gain an intense level of power to actually open upyour man's ability to tell you more, reveal to you more, and to be honest with you more often than not.

The more you prove to your man that you understand him, the more quickly he will beable to resolve and fix things, because you aren't creating unnecessary arguments, or problems in the middle of something your man is already struggling with.

Again, never assume that your man is withholding something from you, because that'sEASY for him. It's actually extremely hard.


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Once he's at the stage where he is keeping a secret, or denying something, it means he's already having a hard time internally with it and the denial is only coming into play, because he's emotionally trying to distance himself from that difficulty, so that hecan logically solve the problem.

So the Lies Vomit Technique actually has two stages. The first is as described, whereinyou acknowledge that your man is trying to solve a problem. You don't press him for information. You simply let him know that you are there, when he needs you to be, and that you understand that he is trying to work something deeper out, and that yourespect this.

You give him the space and room after, to do that. Now, as I mentioned earlier, there is a VERY unclear timeframe as to when a man will actually solve his problem.

It could take years for all you know, so there is something else you can do in the meanwhile to get an idea of what it is that he is actually dealing with, or to learn moreabout what is going on, so that you can INDIRECTLY help him to reveal it to you.

This is stage 2, which is where you basically make up a false, or presumptuous conclusion, and use his response to gauge what is actually happening. Remember thatyour man doesn't want to tell you what is going on.

The key here, is that the stronger the response, and the greater the denial, the more accurate you are, in your assumption.

Since he truly doesn't want you to know whatever this thing is, with every fiber of his being, he's going to fight you pretty strongly. The more right you become, the harder he fights. If you are wrong, he doesn't really fight you, and mostly tries to allow you to believe that you are right. (It means that he tries to use your assumption, as the new lie, so that you leave him alone, and finally just drop it.)

So how do you become presumptuous, and get him to start telling you everything, without actually telling you anything?

You tell him that you know what he is doing, and how.


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It doesn’t matter if you are wrong, because he will actually tell you if you are right, bydenying it heavily and trying to get you to change the subject.

Keep in mind that if you truly are wrong, will tell you if you have it wrong too, by proving WHY you are wrong. If he wants to let you know that you are wrong, he will clearly give you very sound, undisputable, and true statements, which cannot be contradicted. This is how you can tell if he actually wants you to know that you are wrong.

But if you are right, you will notice that he will still come in and say you are wrong. Only this time, he actually cannot say WHY you are wrong, and he will just repeat over and over that you are, but without proper reasons, or evidence to back it up.

If he does give a reason, it will be extremely contradictory to everything you know, and basically will not really be believable. A gut instinct will pop up, and tell you that something is just not right about what he is saying. Trust your gut, because when you get that feeling, it's because you are on to something, and again he is about to reveal it, but he just doesn't know it.

When you are actually GENUINELY wrong, you will notice that a person will start saying things like “why are you saying that”, or will be extremely confused as to why you feel that way. You will notice that their demeanor, the way they talk, how they react etc… is completely different if you actually are wrong….versus when you are right.

When you are wrong, your man will feel hurt that you assumed something, and it will be painful for him. But when you are FALSELY wrong (that is, he wants you to believe you are wrong, because you actually got everything right), you won't find any confusion on his end.

In fact, if anything your man will be the one telling YOU that YOU are confused, and will create a huge scene where he doesn't even ask your reasons, but instead just continuously tells you how wrong you are, as he tries to drill it into your mind that youjust are not right, in hopes that you will believe it and drop the subject.


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Either way, you can now actually know what is going on, because he gives you an answer, regardless of whether or not he is still not telling you anything. Again, the answers are in his actions.

Forget what he is saying, and pay attention to what he is doing, and how he is doing it. This way, the final result, is that your man ends up telling you what’s going on, or letting you in on his secrets, or revealing his lies… and either way you get an answer.

It should be noted that, if you were in fact truthfully wrong, and your man has proven why this is so, you have to start this step over again, but you must allow some time inbetween the re-use of this tactic.

Over use of this tactic back to back, will send off alarm bells in your guy’s head, and he will back away thinking that you are trying to pressure him into something, once again.

The whole pivot point of this actual method is to NOT have him ever realize you are actually indirectly trying to find something out. In his mind, he thinks that if he denies,or he says no, or he tells you otherwise that you will drop it and not know.

He has no idea that you know MORE about this, or that you could actually get an answer through this, so it’s important that you allow him to react, since you never want him to shut down and give NO reaction whatsoever, because you cannot read through a giant wall of blockers. So use this method with appropriate spacing.

Again, you want him to feel respected in needing his space, but you still need to knowwhat it is that he is trying to work out. Thus the key is to never make him realize whatit is that you are doing, so that he doesn't feel like you are compromising his need for temporary secrecy.

So to summarize this section, as a whole, both of the first two steps when combined, allow you to reach through any stubbornness that your man may be harboring when itcomes to giving you more, and to completely remove his ability to NOT be open or giving after this point.


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Again, you want to be really clear with your man, as to where you stand each and every time. If he is not committing properly, make it clear that you are not going to bewaiting around forever either. If he is keeping secrets, make it clear once again that you are THERE for when he does want to open up to you.

The key is, once again, to let him know that you are here, but that you are not extremely needy, and that you WANT him to do something, but don't need him to.

You want him to tell you the truth and open up, and you want him to take the relationship seriously. But prove to him that you don't need it, so that you don't come across as desperate or too overbearing.

Step #3: The Ultimate Nag Technique-

This might sound strange, but there is a way to actually create a very positive impact on a man’s mind, by talking about a lot of negative things. Now I know that so far in this program, I have been encouraging you to avoid the negative, but as you also learned earlier in this course, negative emotions serve a very powerful purpose, as well.

But they can only serve that purpose, when they are taken care of, in a very light hearted way. What this means, is that instead of giving power to the negative emotions, you instead give power to the PURPOSE behind the negative emotions.

When you do this, the negative emotions no longer get in the way of your relationship, and no longer drag you or your man down. In fact, when you address them in a light hearted manner, it makes them easier to digest, but furthermore, makes them easier to be resolved.

This is what the Ultimate Nag Technique is about. It’s about going against conventional wisdom, to allow you to quite literally nag your little butt off, to your heart’s content, and have it actually do your relationship JUSTICE.

The Ultimate Nag Technique, basically takes a negative emotion, and twists it into a teasing and humorous nature. It means that if you are annoyed at your man for something, or if he is doing something that you absolutely hate and want to bash him


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over the head for… that you can come back and completely revolutionize that feeling, and how you express it, in such a way that your man doesn’t feel bad that you feel this way!

To do this, you have to be able to infuse a level of obvious humour, sarcasm, and teasing tone into your nag, so that what you say to him, comes out in a light hearted way. It’s important to remember as well, that you must not attack your man, but rather must only speak of the actions themselves.

Drawing attention, therefore to the silly nature of the actions, helps your man to understand that you are not mad at him, but rather are just upset at what he is doing.It helps him to see, as well that what he is doing is a little ridiculous, nutty, or unreasonable, and makes it easy for him to recover and change his behaviours instantly.

Humour, ultimately, allows you to basically say anything bad, without having it BE bad.This is how you gain the power, to nag your butt off, basically, without it ever hurting your relationship, or causing problems between you and your man.

So how do you do it?

You make the behaviour ridiculous, and use a very CLEAR humorous tone. You must not make your statement, in a serious tone, regardless of how upset you are, so that it’s very clear to your man, that:

A) This is not a huge deal to you, which helps him de-escalate his behaviour, because once again, you are not rewarding him for it, but rather are wanting him to just look at the reality of it,

B) You have noticed the behaviour, and think it’s rather strange, but you aren’t blaming him for it, and

C) You are not attacking him, because your tone clearly has a light hearted inflection in it, which indicates that you mean well.


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So if your man, is for example, not answering your calls, you take an emotional step back, and then leap into a lighthearted reality, where you aren’t taking it personally, but instead are taking it very well.

Thus, you could say something like this: “Hey, if I am really too good for you, that youhave to take space from all the pleasure, you could have just let me know. I can handle a guy who needs some space. Besides, I wanted a break too. You’ve been smothering me so much lately, that my eyebrows are starting to turn into a uni-brow. I’ve had no time to shave, or pluck anything. So thanks for giving me space to take care of that, so that I can look great for you, the next time you see me.”

It’s very clear from this reality, that you are making light of a situation that otherwise would probably be making you feel really down. Clearly you are indicating to him, thatyou noticed he is ignoring you, but you aren’t going to give him the power to just get the satisfaction of the idea that you must be badly missing him.

Instead, you are saying something like this: “hey buddy... it’s YOU who should be missing me”.

This is a form of indirect criticism, which ultimately tells your man what you expect, which in the example I just gave, is an expectation for him to come see you, or talk toyou again, clearly, and you even told him you were preparing for that expectation to be fulfilled at the end of the statement, humorously.

But, you would have also told him, in the same breath that there is a problem you’d like him to look at, indirectly.

In this case, he will think now about whether or not he has been ignoring you. Maybe he wasn’t consciously aware of it, and was just busy and wrapped up in things, or maybe he was consciously ignoring you.

Either way, now he will be curious to want to talk to you again, because now you’re telling him that it’s ok, but at the same time it’s not. The mix of emotions that your man will feel now, because of how you handled it, will make him feel comfortable in speaking to you again.

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Because you just said it’s not a huge deal, so now an idea of comfort and ease sets into your man’s mind. If he was ignoring you on purpose, he now has NO reason to ignore you, because you aren’t over-complicating things, and you aren’t making thingsdifficult now for him.

He has no excuse anymore to ignore you now, after this.

Again, the lighthearted approach basically allows you to nag about anything, extensively, as long as you are not picking on your man directly, but instead are pointing out the bizarre nature of his actions.

So let’s say, as another example, that your man has been kind of rude toward you lately. Maybe he’s been insulting you, labelling you, or calling you names.

In this situation it would be very easy to take it personally, and to feel extremely hurt. Naturally you should, because your man is directly attacking you.

But if you tell him directly to just stop, or nag at him about it, he will probably only then be given another reason to add to his list of things that he doesn’t like about youin that moment. He’ll now get the satisfaction of being able to further say you are a nag, and so forth.

You can STOP this pattern and behavior, again by removing his ability to have POWER in that reality. A man only gains power if you give him recognition therein. If you reactviolently to what he is doing, it means that you are fueling him to do more of it, by validating him, and giving him attention therein.

If you, instead, turn things into a light hearted nature, even to the point of poking fun at yourself, it takes away your man’s ability to turn it into a serious argument, and furthermore completely strips his ability to have any power in treating you that way.

Ultimately, it stops him cold turkey, and forces him to lighten up as well.

For the sake of argument therefore, let’s say that your man has recently been pointingout the fact that you talk too much, and has been either complaining, whining, or directly insulting you for this.


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What do you do then, to tell him that it’s not ok to criticize you in such a rude and hurtful way?

You make light of the situation by saying something like “At least I keep you entertained”, in a light hearted tone. Sometimes you will have to turn the humour on yourself, depending on what is going on.

If your man is complaining about you, or is getting rude about something that you do,turn that on yourself in a humorous way, therefore removing his ability to have power in any of his statements. This quickly shuts down his bad behaviour.

Thus, you indirectly nag your man again, into realizing that his behaviour is unjustified, unreasonable, or is a little bit over the top, by equally matching that realitywith a very positive, upbeat, and humorous nag.

Again you want to be very clear to use humour, either toward yourself, or toward his actions, so that you can quickly diffuse the situation, and secondly so that you can draw attention to the problem, without having to worry about the problem overtaking your entire relationship, just for bringing it up.

It makes it manageable for both you and your man, to deal with, because now you are downgrading the importance of the emotion surrounding the problem, and are instead dealing with the problem directly, itself.

Step #4: Use The Indirect Criticism Technique-

There are going to be times when in your relationship, you experience personality clashes, alongside differences in beliefs and approaches, that will make you feel like your man is destined to annoy the living hell out of you.

In these moments, it is extremely important to attempt to diffuse the situation as quickly as possible, otherwise you may risk emotionally exploding on your man, and inthose moments you almost always say and do things you didn’t truly mean to do.


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So to prevent an all-out war in your relationship, in these moments when your man is extremely frustrating, or is fundamentally flawed in an extremely annoying way that you are struggling to come to terms with, you need the Indirect Criticism Technique.

As noted, in these moments you need a way to quickly diffuse the intense feelings that are building up, which means you need a way to release them, before they actually reach an explosive level.

The Indirect Criticism Technique, is designed for exactly that purpose, to give you the power to channel the intense feelings into a positive outcome, by telling your man EXACTLY what it is that annoys you, or frustrates you, in such a way, that your man will act on your suggestion, after that point like a devoted little puppy dog.

So how do you do that?

You do it indirectly, and very subtly.

Going head on, will feel too much like an attack at this stage, especially with the emotions that you have built up, due to the annoying and frustrating nature of whatever is going on. So it’s an extremely bad idea, in those moments to go in directly.

In these moments where you feel like you are about to blow your top, and when your patience is running awfully thin, this is when you must come in, indirectly, so that you don’t freak your guy out.

What exactly does “indirectly” mean?

It means simply this: incidentally.

Incidentally means that you almost conveniently happen to come in and stumble upona magical little idea, that ultimately will propel your man to want to either:

A) Look into the annoying behavior or problem that you can’t seem to reason with him


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B) Improve upon that behavior, so that it’s not a problem anymore.

So to incidentally bring something up, all you have to do is casually make mention in avery acknowledging, and appreciative way, of the outcome that you are actually after.

For example, if your man is prioritizing everything and everyone but you, lately, and this is annoying you to bits, you could come in with an incidental statement like this:

“You know, my girlfriend told me recently that her man has been going out of his way to spend time with her lately, and she really feels comforted, especially since she has been feeling so much stress lately. I told her that I am so glad that you do this for me too, and how I really do love it when you take some time out of your day, to spend with me. It really makes me feel taken care of, and helps me to unwind. Thank you, honey!”

Incidentally, in this case, you are thanking him for something he isn’t doing. You magically brought up a very ‘convenient’ story of how a friend’s partner is doing the exact behavior that you are seeking, but without directly punching your man for not doing it.

Instead you praise him for a behavior that he is ABOUT to do, and you don’t even waver on the expectation either, that he’s going to do it. You simply state it, and deliver it indirectly.

That’s the Indirect Criticism Technique. So to sum this up again, you want to come in and coincidentally mention something in a positive way that relates back to your man’sbehavior, but without directly pointing out the behavior.

To do that, you can mention an instance or circumstance where somebody else was successfully doing it, and then tie your own feelings back into it, by then telling your man that you are thankful he is doing it already.

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just said is justified. Again for a man to ever take action on something, he has to justify it to himself.

For a man to justify it to himself, he has to first ask himself this: “is that true?”.

Obviously when he asks himself if what you are saying is true, a very intense answer will spike up inside of him, that screams “NO!”.

That every same “NO” reality that your man discovers, will create a guilt trip so strong, that your man will feel the need to change that “no” into an instant yes, and thus you will have effectively indirectly nagged him, without exploding, and without blaming him directly for anything either.


At the beginning of this chapter, there is a quote that suggests that being too nice in arelationship can cause you to get used by your man, meanwhile being too mean pushes him away. Thus, the solution, it recommends, is this: you should be nice, just enough, so that you aren’t getting walked all over, yet you are still coming across as genuine, and sweet.

Ultimately, as you can see from the steps of the Unnecessary Flaw Reversal Technique, it means that you have to ALLOW yourself to actually put your foot down, when you need to, in your relationship.

Remember that if you want to be treated like a queen you have to act like a queen. This is NOT the same thing as ‘behaving’ perfectly all of the time, and grinning and bearing it. Queens are strong leaders, who do not let others walk all over them. They command themselves in a way that does not result in somebody using them, or takingadvantage of them unfairly.

Queens, therefore, know how to put their foot down when they need to.


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It’s important to remember that putting your foot down does not mean that you are a bad person, nor does it make you bad in your relationship, ESPECIALLY if doing such was warranted in the first place.

Even perfect men, can become imperfect, under certain circumstances, so there will always be little moments where you actually have to stand your ground, or where you have to step in and take action on a more powerful scale with your man, so that he is reminded of the end goal that you are looking for, in your relationship.

Sometimes, men do have to be reminded of where your boundaries are, because it’s very easy for a man to forget what those are, as you become closer and closer to yourman. Thus, you should not be afraid to actually come in and adjust your man’s expectations, actions, or more if he is crossing a line, or a boundary that you are actually NOT okay with.

Learning to do this, is the difference between a woman who is always used and pushed away, and a woman who is treated like an ultimate queen, who is cherished, loved, and appreciated.


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Chapter 28: The Emotional Firecracker Tactic“Nobody ever died of laughter”

So far, in this program, you’ve been taking it pretty easy on your man, with the tactics, because so far you’ve been learning about trying to understand him, and fulfill him on a deeper level. In this chapter, however, you are going to tune up his emotional knob, and you are going to challenge him to really bring out his “A” game, when it comes to loving you, and the relationship.

The steps in this section, are designed to be like emotional firecrackers for your man. First you light them, and then you watch them explode inside of him, creating a brilliant show of emotions all designed to get him to react and respond positively to everything you are saying and doing.

It’s important to note that these tactics are designed to elicit a very strong response from your man, in such a way that he will feel challenged to prove his worth, seek extensive approval, and finally, he will actively work toward impressing you on a grander scale.

It’s important to note, that although each of these steps creates an emotional firecracker response within your man, that you must be careful to approach them witha certain lightheartedness, so that your man knows you are not trying to punish him.

This means that for some of these steps, you will have to come in with an open mind, and the ability to exhibit a certain level of humor when you execute them. Doing this ensures that your man gets the message, but doesn’t feel like you are picking on him. You’ll see what I mean, when you start to get deeper into this section.

For now just remember that your main objective is to get him to feel emotionally excited, and motivated, when it comes to his love for you.


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What the Emotional Firecracker Tactic therefore does, is it gives you the power to come in with strategic lighthearted approaches when dealing with your man, under certain circumstances, so that he doesn’t always feel like you are too serious, or as if you are about to strangle him with a heavy emotional burden and intense relationship.

This tactic therefore allows you to come in and infuse a unique sweetness that helps to revive your man’s emotions, and excite them, which means that no matter what stage you are at in your relationship, you can get a rise out of your man emotionally, in a positive way.

It’s important to remember that when you keep things lighthearted, that your man starts to feel as though it’s fun to be around you, and the idea of being around you, becomes infectious in his mind, because of this.

Therefore, even if you have known your man for a long time, he will ultimately fail to grow bored of you, and he will always feel through this reality, that you still challenge and fulfill him, and that you bring out the best in him.

Being constantly serious, all of the time, is never going to make your man feel like he needs to be the best man that he can always be. Thus it’s necessary from time to timeto bring in a lighthearted, and sweet nature, into your relationship, which is what the steps of this chapter will teach you how to do.

Remember that if you want your man’s emotions to explode with excitement, anticipation, curiosity, and purpose when it comes to his feelings toward you, then youhave to make it easy for that to become true. The easiest way, therefore, is to come in, again with a sweet, and lighthearted approach. The 5 steps of the Emotional Firecracker Tactic, will teach you how to learn to do that:

Step #1: Implement The Brotherization Technique-

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lighthearted approach, or just simply a lighter emotional perspective.

The BrotherizationTechnique, is therefore a tactic which is designed to make any man see you as the ultimate girlfriend, or partner, by treating him in a lighthearted way.

It basically means that you treat your man almost like a little kid brother, wherein you don’t take him TOO seriously, and thus don’t end up scaring him away, or freaking himout every step of the way, in the relationship, with your otherwise intense emotional overloading.

This is a step that should be taken early on in a relationship, so if you have actually been in a relationship for a long time, you may skip ahead, but I would recommend that you still review this step to get an idea of the lightheartedness I was speaking of just a few moments ago.

The Brotherization Trick is about treating your man like a kid brother, which is basicallythe equivalent of unnecessarily babying your man.

It’s a cheeky way to tease a man, by downgrading his value to an almost “lovable pet” stance.

What is the “loveable pet” stance? Well it’s this behavior that many pet owners exhibit,toward their pets, of unnecessarily babying that pet in almost atrociously annoying ways.

Have you ever, for example, seen the pet owners, who when talking to their pets, speak in an almost annoying tone, with all kinds of random gag-worthy statements making their way into the picture?

I am talking about the people who talk like this to their pets: “ohhh…who’s a good boy? Who’s a good boy! Who’s my snuggly, wugsly, baby bee?!”.

It’s important to note that these same people often offer a higher inflection in their voice, as they suddenly, and temporarily lose the ability to talk normally to their pets.


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This same behavior is ALSO typical when people get around babies. You start to see this unnecessary change in behavior, words, and actions that borderlines a teasing reality.

People LOVE doing this, because of the emotional reaction they perceive to be occurring as a result. The only reason people talk to their pets that way, or to babies that way, is because of the reaction that they get.

If you talk to your pets in a high pitched, babying voice, they get excited. If you talk to a baby in a funny way too, the baby might laugh or do something that you feel validates the whole act of “unnecessarily babying” in the first place.

It’s important to note that this same behavior is ALSO typical, in a relationship between a kid brother and their sibling, only this time, it’s done to purposefully tease, to such an extent that a STRONG response is always guaranteed.

It’s an almost evil rivalry that some siblings have going on, only it’s mostly harmless.

This tactic, involves the same basic dynamics, wherein one of the people affectionatelyteases the other, or tries to get the other emotionally “riled up”, by speaking and acting in a way that is quite over the top, or in a way that is affectionately teasing.

Now the person who is doing this, is having the time of their lives, obviously. But if pets, babies, and kid brothers could speak our language, they would probably cringe.

The good thing, however, is that for some odd reason, pets, babies, and even kid brothers seem to enjoy this behavior. Why? Well it gives them attention. Secondly, it challenges them.

Why does it challenge them?

Well, if you were to start calling your kid brother pet names, he’d feel an intense needto make you stop, almost instantaneously.

Why is that?


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Because you’d be babying him. He doesn’t like that. It’s embarrassing, beyond belief. He wants to be able to be treated on a higher level, as an individual.

This is something that all of us have within us actually. If we find somebody going overly out of their way to baby us, in an annoying way, we instantly want to pull away.It feels embarrassing. It pushes us to want to prove that we don’t need to be babied.

Men, likewise, have an intense need to make such behavior stop, if a woman begins tostart treating him less like a man, in a teasing way, and more like a little brother.

It challenges their manhood, and the response to this, is for a man to instantaneously work extremely hard to prove that he is a man, and that he is worthy of treatment above and beyond the “brotherization” reality.

So the key here, therefore, is to teasingly treat your man, especially in the early stages of a relationship, like a little brother.

How do you do that?

You basically classify his relationship with you, as being something that is worthy of the extreme “babying” reality. What better way to do that, than to simply compare your man, to your brother, and to tell him that you love him just like a brother!

To do this, you simply make a verbal statement, directly to your man, teasing him for being a lot like a brother to you. Here’s what you say:

“You seem like my brother. I'm getting family-like feelings around you."

Ultimately this creates a disconnect, because again, no man wants to be pegged into this "babying" reality.

If you follow through with this statement by also beginning to physically treat him like a brother as well, such as in lightly punching him across the arm as you say it, as to further cement the tease, it will drive your man wild.


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Again, it’s a slight rejection, of your man’s ability to be a man. The whole purpose of babying, is because we see the thing we are trying to baby, as being almost this helpless thing, that we must mother to death.

Men hate it when a woman treats them this way, but they hate it in a good way, as long as you tease them.

The result is that your man will go crazy and will try his best to win you over, after this, because you’ve clearly told him that you feel like he is less than what he should be, emotionally for you. You would have effectively downgraded his relationship statuswith you, to something of almost comical proportions.

At this stage, you can further tease your man, using the Brotherization Technique, by saying things like:

· “Oh you're so cute, just like my brother”

· “Stop being so caring, my brother does that!”

· “Stop trying to protect me so much, like a brother.”

· “What, are you my brother? You smother me so much, but you have to realize that I can handle myself”.

Again, the main point is that you say these statements with a heavy influx of humor and have a clear teasing tone. Doing this ensures that your man gets the fact that youare in fact teasing him, in a babying way.

The result is that your man works to get out of that teasing reality, which in turn means that he will work very hard to impress you, so that you don’t compare him to a little brother after this point.

Remember that every man has an intense need to feel like he can lead, provide, and guide, especially in their relationships. Downgrading him, therefore, in a teasing tone with this step, means that you cut between his ability to prove that he can take care


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of you, by suggesting that you have doubts that he can do that in the first place.

The only response therefore, of your man after this stage, especially early on in a relationship, is for him to step up to the plate, to further prove that he is in fact a true man, and that he does in fact deserve to be upgraded to a status beyond that of somebody whom you think of like a ‘kid brother’.

Step #2: Use The Peak Pleasure Principle-

This is a step which comes into play when you are not certain if your man will leave you for somebody else, or when you feel threatened by the idea of your man desiring other women.

This is especially true if you often find your man talking about, or looking at other women, openly in front of you, in such a way that you can tell that he clearly is in the very least “thinking” about what it would be like to be with those women.

The purpose of this tactic, and step, is to create a level of peak pleasure within your man that has him feeling so good in your presence, that no other women will be able to match it.

It’s basically a short cut to cementing your image in his mind so deeply, that other women will appear absolutely boring to him.

Now any time a man appears to show ANY interest in another woman, when he is already in a relationship, a lot of women in that situation will try to figure out what exactly it is that their man sees in this other woman.

Some of the answers that come up, will probably be superficial ones, such as when women end up thinking that he only likes the way that this other woman looks, or assume that maybe the other woman is flirting a lot etc…

But what if I told you that almost always when a man starts to feel interested in another woman, on ANY level, once he is in a relationship, it’s because he sees


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something in that woman, that he’d like you to have?

In other words, it means that he is longing for a kind of fulfillment that you have not given him yet.

In this case, it’s almost always only ONE thing, actually that is not going on in this case, that a man needs to have fulfilled. What is that thing?

It’s a certain emotional calmness.

Women who are capable of controlling and maintaining their emotions, are seen as the most attractive women, by all men. Why is that?

They are easy to be with, easy to love, easy to handle.

Now this doesn’t mean that they are “easy” women, because they are actually a rare breed of high quality women.

It just means that they create a level of ‘ease’ for their man, because they have their emotions in check. This level of ‘ease’ is one of the most attractive things a woman can ever do for her man, and thus any time a man sees this quality in another woman,he has no choice but to stop and notice.

It’s not that he wants to be with that other woman either, but it’s just that the level upon which this woman conducts herself, is unlike most women, and it’s not exactly something a guy can ignore.

This is the same level of emotional control that you must learn to have and create for yourself, so that your man can feel an ultimate sense of ease in your presence.

Now it might sound overly simplistic, but not a lot of women realize that they don’t act, but instead, they react.

They try to do damage control by reacting a lot. The problem with reacting, is the factthat it means you are emotionally projecting. But, as you learned earlier in this


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program, emotional projecting almost always means that you are projecting a negativeemotion.

Thus the key here is to remain as calm as you possibly can, over a period of time, andif you must act on something, ensure that you are not reacting, but are only responding with a reasonable level of action to that thing.

This means that you become emotionally proactive. Everything you do from this point forward serves a purpose of resolving conflict, and of also avoiding it altogether.

Emotionally mature women don’t need to create conflict on top of conflict, which means they don’t cause a scene or create a problem, just because they are struggling with a current problem. If there is a problem, it means that they become proactive and act as if it doesn’t affect them much.

This kind of a reaction will start to effect a guy a lot, because he is not accustomed to that kind of a reaction.

Ultimately what this method translates to, is one where you specifically remain emotionally calm whenever you are dealing with your man. This means that if you want him madly, and deeply, that you start to play emotional poker. You don’t reveal this crazy intense feeling, and instead you internalize it, and keep your man therefore guessing.

He will logically convince himself of this reality: “Wow, this woman isn’t chasing after me… I better up my game here, because this woman is really something”.

Again, if you step back from chasing your man, he will end up chasing you. One of theways to step back is to emotionally become calm. Doing this, leaves your man in a constant “chase” zone, wherein he always works to impress you, always works to get more from you, and continuously works to prove his worth to you.

Why would a man do that, just because you are emotionally calm?

Again, it’s because you aren’t handing him all of your attention, or reactions every step of the way. You make him work for an emotional reaction, which he will duly have, because again you give him a sense of ease in that reality.


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Step #3: Implement The Roller Coaster Seduction Method-

Now that you’ve gotten your man riled up, about the idea of you, you need a place forhim to put all of those emotions. What you do next is you turn him on now, in such a way, that he will feel a storm of passion break through inside of his body, whenever you try this on him.

What’s even more intriguing about this step, is that the more you do this, the more respect he will give you. So what you have to do is this:

Make him feel appreciated as a man, in a sensual way.

So to do this, you appeal to his senses with words, and feed his mind with tiny bits of appreciative sensuality.

This means that you get rather emotionally descriptive, in the things that you say to him, and that you describe how each of your senses is affected, so that you can convert that feeling over to him.

An amazing thing happens when you describe your senses to another person. They end up visualizing everything you are saying, on a powerful level.

The reason why this step is called the Roller Coaster Seduction method, is becauseof that exact reason. It’s like sending your man through an intense emotional roller-coaster, where the entire time he feels a heightened and elated sense of passion and excitement surrounding you.

So for example, you can approach your man, and gently hold his arm, or place your hand on his shoulder, as you tell him this: “I feel good in the warmth of your presence".

Once more, the purpose of this, is to give your man the ability to imagine what that means to you, and thus allow him to be able to visualize what you are saying, to feel


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it on a deeper level. So you can take this one step further, and really get into the details, by saying things like:

·"You have such a tantalizing scent. Whenever you walk by me, my heart accelerates."

·"You know exactly how to make Goosebumps explode inside of me."

·"You really know how to keep a woman engaged. I really feel taken care of in your presence."

·"Sometimes, when we are sitting close together, you will say something into my ear, and the sensation of your breath sends shivers down my spine."

Again the main point is that you make him feel appreciated as a man, so that he feels GOOD, around you, and through you. This goodness, when described in details that include the senses, translates as the ultimate seduction method, to seduce your man, emotionally.

Step #4: Use The Art Of Pleasure Arrest-

This is a technique which allows you to talk to your man, in a way that makes his stomach tingle with a series of short, yet exciting bursts of pleasure.

It ultimately locks your man into an exclusive sense of desire for you, because it’s basically the equivalent of causing your man to feel a renewed sense of infatuation toward you, as if he is falling in love over and over again for the first time.

To do this, you must say sweet things to him which trigger an intimate level of manhood to appear from within him. Doing this, again, helps your man to justify his purpose as a man, but also his purpose in relation to you.


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It reminds him and motivates him, in his purpose to protect and provide for you, as a man in your relationship.

So you will, as a result, tell him sweet things like:

·“I feel so protected and safe in your arms.”

·“You make me feel amazing.”

·“I’m glad to have you as my boyfriend/husband.”

·“You really know how to make me feel loved.”

· Etc…

The result of doing this, is that you send bursts of emotional pleasure to your man. It’s important to note, that this step would be a series of sweet statements over a period of time. It’s not just one thing being said, but a series of things that you would be saying over time, and in frequent bursts, to remind him, of just how much you really enjoy him.

When you do this, you allow your man to feel a renewed sense of passion and infatuation for you, because you tell him exactly how he is impressing you, and you remind him of exactly what needs to be done, to impress you further.

Step #5: Utilize The Emotional Firecracker Principle-

This is a principle that allows you to inject fire into an almost dead relationship, or intoa dry emotional lull that you may experience from time to time, in your relationship.

The technique to this principle is simple. You give your man a good “Emotional Deal”, which ultimately, makes your man promise, and even ask for permission to do the right things, from thereon out, and makes him want to not let you go “emotionally”, after that point.

The key here is that men want to feel emotionally calm around you. As you’ve been learning in this program, men don’t feel emotions on the same scale as women. They


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already have an intense inferno going on within them, that basically equates to an extreme level of internal emotional drama and stress.

Because of this fact, men require the ability to find emotional calmness from outside of themselves, which means when they get into a relationship, they look for a way to be emotionally soothed by their women.

They cannot handle an over burdening of emotions, if those emotions are negative, orif they involve unnecessary drama.

What you have to do therefore, is give your man small chunks that he can chew and manage, instead of large emotional walls that you expect him to hurdle.

A good emotional deal, therefore, is when a woman only offers a man as much as he can actually chew and handle, in the first place.

Ultimately, this means that you don’t overwhelm him. The way to do this, is to acknowledge the fact that you might be a bit overbearing, emotional, or hard to handle etc…

Again it comes back to admitting your flaws first, so that your man can be comfortablewith them after the fact.

So if you know that you often talk a lot about your problems, you could say somethinglike this to your man, to help him get a good emotional deal out of it: “I know it’s hardfor you because I can be overbearing or talk too much, but this is what I need”- and you then proceed to tell him what you need.

When you do things this way, you do not overwhelm him, but emotionally he will feel ecstatic and relieved, because you just took a huge weight off of his shoulders by not emotionally over-complicating things for him.

Another way to do this is, to leave him alone, and to let him know that you will talk about the subject later, thus allowing him to be the one to come to you about it, when


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he is ready.

Men NEED you to keep things short for them, to make it easier for them, especially when it comes to emotional transactions. Any time you are trying to spike a mood in your man, or are trying to deal with an emotion of his, if you keep it short and to the point, you will almost always get a positive response quickly following that interaction.

So, the main principle here, is that if your relationship has gone emotionally dry and dead, that you don’t come in trying to inject intense drama, to force him to wake up, but rather you slowly tease him and build that relationship back up, by offering a level of slight emotional intrigue.

So if things have gone dry, for example, you could say something like : “I can sense that something is a little off between us, so here’s what I am going to do. I am going to give you some space, but know that I am here if you need something or want to talk.”

This creates, again, intrigue, because before you would have just tried to push something on him, or would have tried hard to get a response, but now you allow a response to build up quicker emotionally, by backing away.

The minute you do, your man feels the pull, and comes back to a more attentive emotional connection with you, wherein he works to pull you back in, because you arenow giving him a fair emotional deal.

You’re not over reacting, arguing, or trying to push him in a negative way anymore, which means he returns that gesture with a fair emotional reaction.

Let go of the idea of wanting him to be expressive, because sometimes your man wants you to be calm, and again sometimes there are things he just cannot share yet,and is working on privately.

Sometimes the relationship has gone dry because of this reason, and because of that fact, you probably have pushed him to try and get answers, when he actually just needed you to be calm to give him the space and time to work it out.


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Again, if you don’t make things easy for him, he will unconsciously make things hard for you, because he doesn’t feel at ease.

So you either have to infuse humour and an affectionate form of teasing, to ignite him, or you have to take a step back and get calm. It depends, however, of course, onthe situation you are dealing with, but either way you must infuse POSITIVE emotionaltransactions into the mix, so that every step you are taking, makes him feel at ease, inhis response after.


At the beginning of this chapter, you’ll notice that there is a very short, but precise quote which states the following:

Nobody ever died of laughter.

Now although not all of the steps in this chapter involve the idea of humour, the principle of this chapter, however has a lot to do with that quote. You see, it’s very easy to get caught up in the idea of everything that is not going your way, or everything that is going wrong, when in a relationship, especially as you try to blend your life with another person’s.

But the fastest way to kill all of the good emotions, and all of the good feelings your man has toward you is to always make everything so serious, all of the time, as you try to get what you want, or as you try to fix the situation.

It’s that ‘serious’ tone, that many women tend to adapt, when dealing with a man in their life, that ends up causing his emotions to almost exclusively become negative, orto become closed in, away from you.

Thus, if you want to ultimately elicit a very powerful, and positive emotional reaction from your man, you have to learn to tone down the seriousness, from time to time, and to infuse a lighthearted nature into the mix. Remember that nobody ever died of


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laughter.

This means that you do have room to be playful, sweet, nice, and so much more in your man’s presence, and you especially have room if you do this in the right way. Justas you want to feel alive in the relationship, so does your man.

Making him feel emotionally alive in your presence, therefore is a fast track way to getting your man to equally return that reality to you. Remember that lightening things up, helps your man feel at ease around you, and helps him to feel safe and comfortable opening up to you, in the future.


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Chapter 29: The Ease Infuser Guideline“Everything seems hard, until you discover how it works. That’s when it becomes

easy.”

Throughout this program, I have been speaking about some pretty intense things thatyou either have to help your man do, or accomplish, or I have discussed some pretty intense things that you must do for yourself or your man, to completely revolutionize your relationship.

I’d like to end things on a light note now, as this program comes to a close, with the final tactical chapter, as I give you one final, but very effective way to now make your relationship EASIER, in the future.

Furthermore, the steps in which I am about to reveal to you, actually show you how to make things a lot easier between you and your man, especially in the long run.

These steps can be applied to your relationship, during any stage, when you find that it is either:

A) Growing difficult again, orB) Is feeling like it’s too much work.

I know that nobody wants to do something that feels like it’s going to be a lot of work.Sometimes, we just want things to work out, and happen, for once, without always having to do a ton of work, or without always having to push a man to do the right thing etc…

So I am going to address that reality, in this final tactical chapter, with some of the most powerful tactics, that quickly work to make a situation easy, between you and a man. These steps work well, because they reach deep into the core of a man, to resolve any lingering doubts, fears, or confusion that he may have going on, at any


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given time, concerning you.

These steps in essence, allow you to therefore infuse a level of EASYNESS into your relationship, that ultimately makes it a lot easier to handle, especially when you need to mostly step back, and let your man do some of the work, or when you need to just let the relationship run its course for once.

These steps put you, therefore in a safe zone to allow you to let the relationship do just that, without having to worry about it spiraling out of control. Why is that?

Well these steps allow you to actually maintain a proper level of control, but without your man feeling like YOU are controlling him. Part of this control comes from your end, but this time in a very easy way.

Now the quote at the beginning of this section, points out a very poignant fact about the reality of this program. Everything at first, seems hard, until you actually discover how things work. That’s when things start to become easy.

Since you are now armed with the knowledge of this program, up until this point thesesteps should be very easy for you to understand and implement.

Keep in mind that the point of all of the steps, rules, and tactics so far in this program,are to help make your relationship easier, and when you actually start using them, youwill find that you don’t have to always come in so heavily with the steps after the fact,because your relationship will start to get better a lot faster.

Again, it’s about removing the bad things from your relationship, and the unnecessary drama, so that the necessary drama, and the necessary good can happen.

Once again the main point of this chapter, is to accomplish exactly that as well, so youwill find that in each of the steps which I am about to reveal to you, there is the abilityfor you to remove the unnecessary drama, which in turn once again makes your relationship easier.


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It’s important to note that the easier you make things for your man, in the RIGHT way, the more comfortable, and at ease emotionally he will feel around you. It also means that he will feel more and more fulfilled in your presence, and thus will feel as if you are the abundant resource for everything he could ever possibly need.

Ultimately what this means, is that your man will come to you, to have all of his needsmet, and thus he will not feel the need to stray, or leave you after this, and in fact will grow more and more fond of you as time passes.

So, making it easy for him to do this in the RIGHT way, is the final step you must take,in the Drama Method program. That’s where the Ease Infuser Guideline comes intoplay. It helps you to infuse a certain level of ease, into your relationship. Use these 4 steps, therefore as a guideline explaining how to do exactly that…

Step #1: Implement The Plague Avoider Rule-

There is one specific topic which you should avoid trying to project on to your man at all costs. This topic is so touchy in and of itself, that any time a woman brings it up, it completely destroys her chances with a man, when it comes to commitment.

Ultimately, this topic is like a plague, that infects the relationship from the inside out. What’s intriguing about this rule, is that although YOU must avoid it, it’s completely OK for your man to bring it up and talk about it.

Allow me to explain.

So what is this topic that you must avoid like the plague? It’s the “I need you to be with me” topic.

This is a statement, feeling, and projection that you must COMPLETELY avoid revealing to your man at all costs.

Why?


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It tells your man that he should run.

Again, why is that?

Well, men fear being caged. Think of it like a bird. The bird wants to be able to fly around, and be free, to go where it wants to.

This same bird, however, if you were to treat it kindly, and give it ‘treats’, would gladly come back to you, each and every time after that though.

But if you took this bird, and threw it into a cage, this bird would never see you as anything other than its punisher. It would never see you as somebody or something that loved it, as long as it is in the cage.

Instead it would see and view you as the source of its pain, and as the cause for its lack of freedom.

Men have this same idea going on inside of them, on an intense scale, wherein they need to be able to feel like they are free, even if they are in a relationship. Now this doesn’t equate to a man wanting to go from one woman to another, constantly, but it rather refers to a mental and emotional freedom that men want to feel.

Men hate the idea of being caged in a relationship. They hate it, because they have this ultimate fear that they are going to end up stuck with a woman who is excessivelyneedy, cranky, and just overbearing in all ways possible, which ultimately would make them feel like they made the wrong choice, and are then “stuck”.

Every single man fears getting stuck in a relationship with a woman who he ultimatelybegins to feel like, over time, is his worst nightmare. Thus, men value the feeling of freedom, on an intense scale.

The women, who therefore make men feel like the relationship is their freedom, are the women who get to live happily ever after. But the women who make men feel like the relationship is a cage, and like they are trying to trap the man and corner him intostaying, are the women who end up with a happily never after.


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Thus, men value freedom. But here is where things get tricky, because as a woman, you actually value companionship. You want a guy to come in and be with you forever,and to be around all the time, if you felt that this would make you happy.

Men however, don’t want that. They like their emotional space.

So how do you combine the two, to get a happy outcome?

Men will ONLY want companionship when they feel free, even when they are with you,they have to feel like they are free, and are in control.

The quickest and most extensive way a woman can permanently solidify the idea that she embodies that very same feeling of freedom and control that a man is after, is for her to NEVER directly project just how needy she is, toward her man.

Now be careful, not to assume that this means that you must never express your needs, wants or desires, because it’s quite the opposite, actually. What this means, simply put, is that he should never feel like he is burdened by the chains of involvement that you place on his role in the relationship.

What this ultimately means, is that you create a level of equal partnership, so that your man doesn’t feel like you are constantly coming in saying “hey look at me, I am so needy. Please love me. Please want me.” etc…

An equal partnership, means that you level the playing field emotionally by changing how you approach that neediness, so that your man can reflect back to you, an equal reaction.

I am sure that you must have noticed by now, that any time you appear to express your needs directly to a man, especially if you need him to be there for you, commit, or call more etc… that he pulls away, grows distant, argues, or disappoints you greatly.

It may not seem like it, but that’s actually an equal reaction to how you are acting. If you come at a man with extreme negative emotional projections, which is what


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neediness is, he will counter that with a negative emotional reaction from his end.

Almost always, however, a man will actually counter that behavior, by trying to stop you from being able to be needy, so that he doesn’t have to feel the pressure you are trying to put on him. That’s him trying to emotionally escape from you, so that he can be free.

This is why the topic of neediness is like the plague, to a man. It just doesn’t sit well in his mind, and makes him uneasy, and when given a choice to feel uneasy or to feel comfortable, a man will always take the comfortable route, which in this case means either leaving you, or avoiding you.

Earlier I mentioned that it’s completely OK for a guy to talk about this subject, but it’s detrimental if a woman does, in the relationship.

Now this may not seem fair, but you have to remember that your man is bringing a lower emotional value to the table here, because a lot of his reactions and actions in the relationship will be heavily logical, so even if he comes to you talking about his neediness, or yours… it’s being done on a level where it’s no longer a projection.

This may seem like a double standard, and may seem unfair, but you can actually get permission to do the same thing from your man, without repercussions, as long as youknow how to do it.

When you do that, your man will completely ENJOY whatever it is that you are saying,and he will actually be more than happy to fulfill your requests.

So how do you express your needs then, in a way that doesn’t make you sound needy?

You first admit the flaw in the need, which allows you to remove, in your man’s mind, the scary nature of this need, first. Admitting the flaw, means you acknowledge that you are in fact about to ask for something a little heavy, or you admit that you are a little needy.


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Next you explain why this is happening, so you justify it in his mind, that it becomes right. Again, you approach this logically, so that he can understand it, and so that he can see why it is that you are asking him in the first place.

Then, once you have justified it, you make your request, but you ensure that it’s reasonable, and you don’t come in asking him to do it all. You LOWER your expectation, and ask him for less than you normally would.

Doing this makes the concern manageable for your man, and makes it seem easy for him to do. This doesn’t come across as you being needy anymore, because you have completely removed the heavy complications of it, you grounded your emotions about the subject, and you didn’t project anything negative on to your man.

Ultimately, when you approach your neediness in this fashion, your man will not recognize it really as a need, but rather as something that he simply has to help you in, or must provide for you in, and he will feel that he should do it willingly, because you offered it up in such a pleasing way.

Step #2: Use The Simple Sentence Tactic-

Since men think and experience the world under a heavy shade of logical thinking, it means that over a period of time, men start to grow a little impatient, and even frustrated, when things are not plainly laid out for them.

Emotions are considered to be rather complex in a man’s world. The feeling of love forexample, is difficult to explain what it is, for example. If you asked 1000 people what love is, you’d end up with almost 1000 different “ideas” of what that is.

Why?

Again, emotions are not that simple. They are very intricate. Feelings, therefore, have the power to make something extremely beautiful and deep, but they can also come in and complicate things, and confuse things, especially for a man.

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them, so that they can come in and logically comprehend it, on their side.

Simplifying things for men, means that you give them the ultimate ability to finally understand it, in a way that they need to. It also means that your man ends up feelinglike it’s easy to talk to you, communicate with you, and express himself to you.

Now when it comes to communication, there is one stupidly simple sentence which you can say to your man almost any time, which will have him follow through with whatever you need after the fact.

This simple sentence will cause your man to prioritize what you are saying, as well, which makes this step extremely effective if you need to bring your man back to a main point, or a certain concern in your relationship.

What is this stupidly simple sentence?

It’s the “I know you would not” statement.

The “I know you would not” statement, is simply an indirect expectation that you implant into your man’s mind, that indicates to him, that he must fulfill something for you.

It is called an indirect expectation, because it’s one that your man will automatically place on himself, because, the statement itself puts your man in a position, wherein if he does not do what you say, he would be:

A) Breaking your trust, very clearly, as now you’ve communicated that you KNOW he would or would not want to disappoint you.

And,

B) Disappointing you heavily, which could cause consequences for him.

Remember that men, when given the option, would choose comfort over pain, which is why a man would be driven to listen to this indirect expectation, because he knows that if he doesn’t there would be consequences for him.


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Listening to it, makes his life easier.

So how do you use this simple statement?

You tell him that you know he would not, OR ‘is not’, going to basically let you down, on the thing you are trying to communicate to him.

So if you are trying to communicate that you need your man to get something done, you’d tell him what that thing is, why you need it, and then you come in with the simple sentence:

“I know that you wouldn’t disappoint me.”

It’s a done deal now, because now your man either has the option of causing himself a ton of grief by not following through, or he can listen to you, and get it done, and feel good about not causing problems.

Likewise, if you needed to communicate to your man that you expect a certain level ofloyalty, and that you don’t want him to cheat on you, you can come in, with a simple sentence statement like this:

“I know you’re not like other men, so I don’t worry about you cheating on me”.

Now he will prioritize your need here, because again, you made it absolutely simple for him to understand, by taking down your statement to the absolute bare essentials of communication.

There will be no doubt in your man’s mind at this stage, about what you meant, or what you want.

So the key to this step, again is to actually break down in the simplest of terms, what you are trying to communicate, so that you are now only telling him that you know hewould do something or that you know he is not going to let you down, and secondly,


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how you know that, to further cement the fact in his mind, that you are absolutely right.

So as one last example, if you wanted to communicate to your man, that you’d like him to be more open and honest with you, you could come in, with the “I know you would not” statement, and then further cement the reasoning, by saying “ I feel so secure in your presence, and I know that I can trust you to be honest and open with me, because I know you’re the kind of a guy who knows how to treat his woman right.”

Would any man, after this point, want to lie to a woman, who clearly just told him thathe knows how to treat her right? Would he compromise his own self integrity at that point, and want to be a bad guy now?

Most likely not.

That’s the power of the Simple Sentence tactic, which means that once you use it, youwill start to see that your man immediately prioritizes your needs, because you would have effectively communicated exactly what you are looking for, and would have givenhim the motivation to follow through with those needs.

Step #3: Use The Emotionally Logical Communication Rule-

There will come a time when you will have to ask your man some very intense, and emotionally charged questions. These might be questions about what he wants in his life, and if those wants and desires include or involve you. These might be questions that request him to make a deeper commitment, or they might be questions that ask him to reveal something that he hadn’t before.

In these circumstances, a man cannot always answer immediately, or the minute that you ask him. Part of the reason why a man cannot, is because many men actually communicate through their actions, and they secretly expect you to be able to get that about them, and to be able to read into their actions to understand them.


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But another reason, is because men need some processing time, any time you ask them a question that is potentially addressing a problem. That processing time, is necessary, to allow a man the room, and the time to internally problem solve, to find an answer that he is comfortable with, to your question.

Men, once again, need to be respected and appreciated for their need to problem solve. It’s a part of how they function, and it’s a piece of a bigger puzzle, in which they use problem solving to help guide them in their roles as leaders and providers.

A lot of women, unfortunately, don’t give their men an adequate level of space, therefore, when it comes to a man’s needs therein, especially if they have a pressing question that they need answered.

The result of this reality, is that a lot of men feel pressured and withdraw, and a woman finds herself never actually getting the answer, no matter how hard she presses a man for answers.

Therefore, if you want your man to be able to answer you, especially when it comes toan emotionally charged question, you cannot approach him with emotional logic. Emotional logic, in this case, means that normally you’d be trying to push him to answer, because emotionally you need the problem resolved, and thus in your head, the sooner he answers, the faster the problem is solved for both of you.

But in a man’s mind, a quick answer equates to the exact opposite of that. In his mind, a quick answer means ‘problems’, because he still wouldn’t have taken the time to even work through, emotionally and logically what it is that you are actually asking for, to know for sure how he wants to respond to it.

Thus, you must use rational logic, when approaching your man regarding something more emotionally taxing or intense. Rational logic, means that you reason with what itis that your man needs to be able to answer that question, in the first place.

The answer to that question, is simply space.


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You see, space to a man, is basically like the equivalent of his ability to eat, and thus survive and continue living. So space is like food to a man.

Not enough food, and a man becomes frail, and weak. When this happens, he finds himself drowned in an intense struggle to get out of that condition as fast as possible. In that very moment, if you are the one with the food supply, your man will be comingto you in desperation, looking for even just a morsel of nourishment.

In that moment, are you going to be the one who denies him that nourishment and lets him starve to death, or are you going to share some of your supply, and help him thrive?

Obviously when put this way, you are going to come in and want to help your man out. The same thing has to happen with space. Without enough space your man becomes frail and weak, and feels an intense pressure to get out of that condition.

At that stage you can either deny him the nourishment that space has to offer, or you can allow him the nourishment and have him come back and thank you ten-fold for that reality.

If you disturb this process, or try to push him harder, when he is in a desperate need for space, then you will turn yourself into his enemy. He might even start disliking you unconsciously.

Space, again, means that you are giving him the time to work out everything that he needs to, to come back with a sound ability to help you solve the question you were asking him to resolve in the first place.

It means that he is taking the time to think about what he can do about it, how he can do that, and so much more.

He can’t do that if you are constantly breathing down his neck, and are pressuring himwith new demands every step of the way. Likewise, he can only work on one demand at a time.


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If you start nagging him further, he has to stop trying to problem solve the original question, and now has to address your further questions, because now you are pressing him hard to answer those and deal with those too.

So the key here then, is to first ask your man the heavy question. You must then acknowledge to your man that you aren’t expecting an answer right away, or that you understand that the question is heavy, and therefore use this as a pivot point to givinghim space.

Then you must give your man space. But you must also verbally tell him that you are actually going to do that. Telling him that you are doing it, ensures that your man knows WHY you are suddenly taking distance, so that he doesn’t feel like you are playing mind games out of the blue.

Again, telling him also shows him that you understand his needs, but also that you arenot completely leaving him alone. It just indicates to him that you are there, but that you are emotionally backing away to let him handle it on his own.

Therefore, when you are verbally communicating to your man that you are going to step back to give him some time, and space to answer your question, you should say something like the following:

“Now I know this is a pretty loaded question, and I also know that you have been working hard to be the best man that you can be, for me. But I really need you to consider what I’ve asked, so I am going to leave you alone for now, to give you the space to think about that. I want you to know though, that I am here if you need to vent, or talk about anything.”

As you can see, from the example, it is better if you can tie in the fact that you are not punishing your man with space, by reminding him that you recognize his efforts sofar, and that you acknowledge his progress in the relationship up until this point.

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give him space, so that when he does sit down to problem solve with the question yougave him, he will remember that you mean well, and that you also appreciate what hehas done so far.

It helps your man to feel motivated to work for a solution, and to get back to you a lotfaster, as he will now prioritize this concern in his mind.

Again, the benefit to doing this is that you help your man to feel understood and supported, EVEN when things are not perfect and even when you need more from him. Ultimately, the sense of ease he will feel around how easy you make it for him to actually improve will make him feel like you really are the best woman for him.

Step #4: Implement The Slightly Unreasonable Trick-

This is a step that you should pull out when your man is taking you for granted again, or when you need him to recognize the value that you bring in to the relationship, andinto his life.

It’s called the Slightly Unreasonable trick, because of two reasons:

#1: It causes your man to appreciate you, by becoming slightly unreasonable.

#2: It allows you to still show your man that you appreciate him, even though he’s being unreasonable.

Now it might sound unreasonable, but in the moments when your man is placing himself high atop a “taking you for granted” pedestal, wherein he basically values himself higher than he values you, you must take swift, but course action.

The longer your man sits on that pedestal, the higher it gets, and thus the harder it becomes to reach him, as the pedestal only grows over time as you allow him to take you for granted more and more.


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The solution in this case, is to immediately DENY him the ability to actually do that in the first place. This means that you have to swiftly cut of the source that is fueling his ability to take you for granted.

What source is that?

It’s the source of your attention. Your attention, when a man takes you for granted, is almost always exclusively aimed at your man, as you try to get him to see the value inyou, only to find that each and every time he doesn’t.

That very same attention needs to be removed, because that attention is like a giant spotlight atop the pedestal that shines on your man. If you remove the spot light, he will be forced to sit there in the dark, which ultimately means it won’t be pleasant for him anymore, and he will get off of his pedestal then.

What you might not realize either, is that your man actually wants you to prove your worth and value to him, but the way in which you are doing it, doesn’t reach him. Menwant to feel like the women they are with are ultimate catches and prizes, but they struggle to feel that way, when they get in a zone of taking that very same woman forgranted.

This is why it’s important to take your attention spotlight off your man, so that you can properly prove your worth to him, on a fair level.

So how do you take your “attention spotlight” off of your man?

You get angry at him.

But this isn’t just ‘any’ kind of ‘anger’ projection. This is a unique kind of anger, in which you actually get angry at him, by expressing your anger, through a set of conditions in which you begin to tell your man, how you feel.

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First you draw an ‘attention boundary’. An attention boundary is a condition you place upon any further contact, or attention that you allow your man, until or unless he begins to become more reasonable.

It basically means that you take a step back and purposefully withdraw, so that he becomes the one who has to come to you now, and not the other way around. Makinghim come to you first, means that he will be more open to listening, and secondly, it means that he will have thought a bit about what it is that you might need, on his own, during the space that you created.

The next thing you do, when he comes around (which he will) is you make it very clear to him, how it is that you feel about the situation, under very concise terms.You make this feeling clear by again addressing the act that is hurting you, and by discussing how this relates back to your needs.

So if he forgets things easily, such as important dates, you can say this: “Look, I knowthat you have a lot on your plate right now, but I feel as if you are disregarding the fact that I also have needs, and one of those needs is for you to try and remember some of the important dates that pertain to our relationship.”

In all of this, you actually will not have directly talked about your man, but instead have spoken about yourself, for once, and have made him listen properly. So it’s no longer all about him, and now he has given you a chance to see the kind of value youare seeking, and why.

Now normally, a lot of women might approach a man in this same situation, by saying something like “I can’t believe you’re so selfish and careless. You don’t even care about me. Look at how you just so easily forget important dates when it comes to me,but easily remember things when it comes to you.”

Again this is talking about your man, and is putting the attention spotlight on him, even if what you are saying is negative, it only further encourages his negative behavior because you are still giving in to him emotionally, when he does the wrong thing.


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That’s why it’s important to first take your attention spotlight off of him, and then to secondly, not discuss it with him directly, in an intense way when you get angry, so that you don’t give him attention for the wrong reasons. Again, wait until you actually have his undivided attention, to reveal to him how you are feeling, properly.

That is the time when you can shine the attention spotlight on yourself, and when youshould talk about yourself.

As another example, if your man does not respect time constraints, such as calling youback when he said he would, or he’s always late meeting you, or he’s often tardy when showing up to things, you could say this to him, under the same guise of the previous steps:

“I don’t feel good when I find that you are more often late, than not when you approach me. I respect and value your time, which is why I feel really strange, for talking about this. But you see, I don’t feel good talking about such things with you, because I don’t even think that this should even be something we should have to talk about, because we are better than this.”

Again, you are expressing anger in the statement, and are discussing how you feel, and are talking about yourself, to ultimately remind your man that you do exist in this relationship, and that you bring a level of importance to the relationship as well.

As you can see from the example I just gave as well, you can even remind your man that you expect better of him and of the relationship, to further encourage him to starttaking you more seriously, and to treat you better.

Again the attention spotlight must mostly be on you at this stage, which means that if you start to tell him that you expect better, make sure that you tie this back into yourself, such as in saying to him, that you personally appreciate men who respect your time and who value it, because those men make you feel appreciated in return.

That’s how you tie yourself back into an expectation, is you explain what that expectation would mean to you, if it were fulfilled.


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So to sum up this step, you first take a step back, and then when your man comes to you for answers and validation afterward, you let him know directly how you feel, and you talk about yourself in relation to the behavior that is concerning you.

You may, after that stage, tie in a future expectation, again which you don’t ask him todo, but instead remind him that he should be fulfilling on your behalf, by giving him a slight mindful nudge. This nudge of course reminds your man, that by doing so, he ultimately helps the relationship and himself, but ultimately helps you as well.


Again, it’s all about infusing a level of ‘ease’ into the relationship, after this point, as you tone things down, so that even when you are dealing with intense things after this, or even if you have to come in and realign the course of your relationship, you don’t feel too burdened, or don’t struggle to get the outcome you are looking for.

Making things fun, easy, and approachable for both you and your man, is the quickest way to getting the best results that you possibly can, especially once you have implemented the tactics from the previous chapters.

Keep in mind that you must continue to use the Drama Method itself, even after this chapter, because you must continue to infuse a level of necessary drama, if you want to keep your relationship fire ignited with a powerful level of understanding, passion, and growth.

Doing this helps your man to also return a level of necessary drama your way, as he works hard to please your emotions, fulfill your desires, and more. Again, things that seem difficult at first, become easy once you do them long enough, and the same is ESPECIALLY true for your man.

Your man loves a good challenge, and it’s not a huge deal to him, at the end of the day, to actually work to make things better for you. That kind of a thing becomes easyfor your man, rather quickly, especially when you HELP to make it easy for him. This is


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the most true, however, when you first make things easier for yourself, to begin with, to allow that kind of a reality.

Now that you’ve gotten this far in the program, I know that you have done a lot to allow a genuine reality to take over in your love life, one that has you finally feeling like you are with, or can be with the man that you deserve, and thus, you understand now that you can have your man feeling the same way about you.

So making the steps of this chapter work, and to do the same in all of the steps of theDrama Method program itself, you simply have to make it easy for yourself to begin with.

So how do you do that?

Well the first step is to learn the information, because once you begin to understand it, it doesn’t become, nor does it seem, as hard anymore to accomplish. The second step, is to learn to understand your man, and the differences that he presents, so thatyou are no longer confused about his side of the relationship either.

Now, alongside this program, I have given you 3 free reports, that can further help you to understand your man, and inside of this course I have also broken down how itis that men truly want, and need to be approached when it comes to a relationship standpoint.

Use that information from this point forward, to help make it easier for you to take action, and furthermore to make it easier for you to handle and manage your relationship from here on out.

Use this information to remove any mental blocks that you may have in place, that make it seem like it’s not possible to actually get your man to give to you so generously, or to love you so endlessly. It is possible but again, you have to budge first, for your man to follow suit.


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Think of it like a beautiful dance. Although the man leads the woman, she must be thefirst to actually take a step back. If she does not, the man will bump into her, and neither can go anywhere, even if the man wants to, until or unless the woman takes the first step.

Doing that, is ultimately the key to making things easier for yourself, and part of that has been revealed in this chapter, and the other part to doing that, I have just revealed now.

So remember to be the first to budge, even just an inch, in the right way, so that you can make it easy for your man to take the lead after that. Trust that if you allow your man to take the lead where he NEEDS to, that you will see phenomenal results.

Again, you are actually the one truly leading, because once more, you take the first step, and a man cannot lead you anywhere, until you move first. So ultimately you arethe true leader, but you must step back as well at the same time, to also allow your man to lead where he needs to.

Thus it’s not a power struggle anymore, but rather is a shared reality, where both know their roles, and thus fulfill each other through that reality.

Remember that you have half of everything that your man needs, and that through you, he can have those needs fulfilled. That’s what every man wants. He wants all of the things that he is missing, or cannot get by himself, to be fulfilled through his partner.

A woman who can do this for a man, will ignite such a powerful response from within him, that she would never find him after that point, failing to equally fulfill all of the things that she equally needs from him as well.


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The Conclusion: A Finalizing Step“Never worry about action, only worry about inaction.”

Throughout this program you have learned a great deal of tactics, guidelines, rules, and lessons when it comes to using drama to propel your relationship, to guiding your emotions, to fulfilling a man’s ultimate desires and needs, to creating an everlasting love, and to everything therein in-between those realities.

It’s important now, to discuss one final, but very important factor that will either makeor break ALL of this information, and ALL of these guidelines.

What factor is that?

I am talking about the action factor.

You see a lot of people feel good in just knowing, and understanding something. But ifyou want to see a real change in your love life and relationships, then you have to take this a step beyond simply knowing and understanding.

It’s important to know and understand your man, and your relationship, but as you learned with the Drama Formula earlier on in this program, 3 very important things have to happen, for you to achieve your ultimate happily ever after.

Those 3 things are, knowledge, necessary drama, and ACTION.

Action means that you take what you know, and how you know it, and you apply that in your love life, so that you can actually reap the reward of not only knowing what to do, and how to do it, but of actually being able to FEEL the sensation of finally gettingthe result you wanted.


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I want you to listen now to reason, and to ignore the intense fears that you have when it comes to trying some of the things you’ve just learned, on your man. I know that you might be skeptical, or even afraid as to whether or not this will work, because you don’t have a lot of wiggle room in your love life.

But I want you to understand right now, that your fear of messing things up further, isunjustified. If you are already at a stage where you are fearful of ANY outcome, no matter what you are doing, it means that it doesn’t matter what you do then, except that you at least try.

Now, before you purchased this program, I told you that I was a ‘Worst Case Scenario Expert’. I want to refer back now, to the story of Amy and Derek that you experienced at the very beginning of this course.

I want to tell you right now, that this story is actually a true story. Amy is somebody very close and dear to me, whom I have known for a very long time. Over the course of a few years, I watched, unfortunately, as she spiraled into one relationship problem after another, and I was of course there for her to hear her out, and to be her sounding board, during that time.

Amy’s story is definitely intense, and because of this fact, I actually approached her and asked her for permission to use her story, in this program. Now, she has asked to remain anonymous, but has agreed that her story could very well help other women, to understand something very important.

The reason I felt an overwhelming urge to use her story is simple. I know that there are women out there, who like Amy, are at their wits end, in their love life.

These women have gone through heartache and heartbreak so many times, that their entire love life has almost become one painful mess of disappointing realities.

That’s a poor place to be stuck in, and anybody can see that, from the woman who is experiencing it first hand, to her friends, and family. It’s not hard to see the kind of pain that each woman in this circumstance goes through, and experiences.

They wear this pain on their sleeves. Now keep in mind that these women didn’t mean


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for their relationship and love lives to fall apart like that either. Many of these women, just like Amy, have worked very hard to try and make it work, and are extremely devoted, and loving individuals.

But there’s one very tragic thing, that I’ve noticed in many of these cases, that I EVENfound to be true in the case of Amy as well.

What tragic thing am I referring to?

The tragic reality that many of these women allow their fears to designate the outcome, instead of allowing their dreams, to do that.

Over a period of time, fear starts to become the new dream, and the new reality. The fear of being abandoned, the fear of not being loved, the fear of never having somebody to hold ever again etc…

All of these fears creep up, and start to form a terrifying reality, wherein a woman’s entire love life, becomes a hub of intense insecurity, fears, and doubts, because of this.

The problem with this is not the fears even, or the doubts. It’s natural to wonder about your future and to sometimes be afraid as well, if things are uncertain.

But the problem comes when women actually start to give power to these fears, and they begin to ONLY listen to the fears.

This means that no matter what amount of logic, reasoning, or help comes their way, they will ignore it, deny it, avoid it, and even throw it away.

Why?

Well their fears are telling them, that they need to stick around and do the opposite. Their fears are giving so many “what ifs” to their reality, that they find it almost impossible to actually listen to or try out anything new.

The reason I am saying this, is because I realize that many women experience a


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crippling level of fear when it comes to trying to fix or resolve things in their love life. This is especially true if they have a certain man in mind, who they are trying to get tobe with them, but this very same man keeps on pulling away.

Amy was one such woman, who as you saw, was trying to secure a certain man in herlife, but he kept on pulling away.

It’s important to note that for the longest time, in Amy’s story, she spent a great deal of time listening to her fears and doubts, which meant that every move she made after was one of desperation.

It meant that whatever she did would seem extreme to Derek, regardless of her intentions. It meant that the message would not be translated to Derek, that she actually meant well, and had the best of intentions for him and their love.

Only when she suspended her fears, and took a leap of faith, and tried something new, did Amy actually start to see results. Why?

Because she took away the biggest walls and blocks that were standing in her OWN way, first.

Fears and doubts, are a good thing when acknowledged in a relationship or love life, but they are extremely toxic when they are listened to extensively. They must therefore, be taken with a grain of salt.

Now I know you are capable of pushing past the fears that you have, and the nightmares within you that make you wonder if you will get what you want from your love life, because you took one leap of faith so far, in getting this program.

But there is one final leap I’d like you to take, for yourself, and for your future, and that is the leap of action.

Now I am not asking you to go out and do everything in this book all at once. Moderation is key here. What I am asking, is that you simply start to try, and work with that.


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You’ll find that your man will become more responsive and more attentive, once he sees that you are concentrating and giving your attention to the things that are the most important, in your own life, and his.

You’ll notice that your man is more loving and committed after, as well, because you will be making it easier for him to take down his barriers also.

You’ll see that your man will appreciate you, and value you on a whole new level that many women never get to experience.

But ultimately, you’ll find that everything you have ever wanted, waited for, cried over, tried for, and dreamed of will finally start to become real.

That’s what this program is here for, and that’s what this program is all about. It’s about making your happily ever after, into a real reality, just like Amy had happen in her life, as well.

The sooner you can take action, the sooner you can end, and remove any misery, pain, sorrow, and disappointment from your love life, and relationship with your man.

You know what to do now, so all that I am asking is to trust yourself to now go out and do it. Now, I know that this program has given you a lot to take in, and some of the things might go against your current belief systems.

So what I’d like you to do now, while keeping everything I just said in mind, is to go back through the program, this time slowly, with the intention of taking in the content on a deeper level.

The reason I’d like you to do this, is because the MORE you do something, the easier it becomes for you to do. So the more you read and understand the lessons and guidelines in this program, the easier it will become for you to implement the advice and methods in this course, with confidence.

As a parting word, I’d like to wish you the best of happily ever after’s from here on out, because you deserve it. You’ve made it this far, which means that from hereon out, you are about to experience everything you deserve, from your man, and your


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love life.

Never forget that you deserve it, and are worth it, because deep within your man, is awhole new man waiting to come out, who wants to please you, love you, and treat you like the queen that you are.


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