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Anne J.Queer Relations: Theories of Subjectivity and CommunityFinal Paper
A Girl Who Doesn’t Play by the Rules: Complicating Femme Identities
“She told me when we met that she was sick of women assuming she’s a big bad top just because she’s a gentleman. She told me she likes to get fucked…I want to give her what she craves”
-Tristan Taormino, “Stone Femme”
There are at least two joking answers to the question, “what do two femmes do in bed?”
One, according to various internet sites, is some version of “Each other’s makeup,” while the
other, according to one woman interviewed for the essay “Girl Talk: Femmes in Discussion” is
“Not a lot, while they’re waiting for the other to make the first move” (119). While blatantly
stereotypical and reductive, these answers in many ways epitomize the ways femme identities are
constantly flattened and essentialized, even by well meaning queer theorists. Such writers often
seem unable to even go so far as imagining the possibility of two femmes in bed together. At the
heart of this problem is the question, what makes a femme a femme? Is it the way she dresses,
the way she has sex, or who she is attracted to? In the chapter “Trauma and Touch: Butch-
Femme Sexualities,” Ann Cvetkovich argues that “butch untouchability establishes a tension
between private and public, and interiorized and expressed feeling,” implying that this is in
opposition to femmes (73). Such a statement suggests that there is a clear correlation between
femme private and public experiences, leaving untroubled the connection between femme gender
presentation, femme sexual acts, and femme emotional states strategies. Repeatedly, Cvetkovich
figures femmes as emotionally open and sexually receptive, suggesting these characteristics as
defining markers of what it means to be a femme. By suggesting that these spheres are inevitably
linked together in femme identity, Cvetkovich not only plays into the trap of essentializing
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femme-initity, she also more generally shuts off the possibility for the creation of gender and
sexual identities that are not merely a response to traumatic experiences and oppressive forces.
Although Cvetkovich offers many women’s definitions of what it means to be femme,
she tends to collapse them into each other, ultimately essentializing femme identity by assuming
that they all necessitate one another. This is perhaps most evident when she reads femme
narratives, arguing, “making oneself ‘open’ is a physical process of, for example, allowing
oneself to be penetrated, but the ‘inner recesses’ of not just her body but her mind are made
available to her lover. Constructed as ‘openness,’ vulnerability as an emotional state is connected
to the body” (58). Certainly, the coming together of body, emotion, and identity is something
Cvetkovich attempts to interrogate in this work, but her reliance on first person narratives that all
make this link is suspect, in part because there are many other narratives available, and in part
because her readings do not always directly align with the statements she records. She writes that
“Amber Hollibaugh describes the femme’s self-definition in terms of her ability to name and
take her pleasure,” associating the femme with an active position, then generalizes from a variety
of femme narratives to state, “for all these women, femme sexuality is about voracious desire for
which no apologies are necessary because it can be accepted and fulfilled by another’s
attentions” (57). In the first instance, femme identity seems to be about setting the terms of one’s
pleasure. But Hollibaugh’s actual words are, “I am real defined by how I want to be fucked”
(57). In Cvetkovich’s reading, it is taken for granted that femme pleasure will involve “being
fucked,” and femme identity carries the built in assumption of being the “object” of attention, the
one who desires pleasure and has it given to her.
At first glance, writer and self-identified “feminist pornographer” Tristan Taormino’s
narrative of sexual pleasure would seem to fit Cvetkovich’s pattern. Consider this slightly altered
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sentence from the final chapter of Taormino’s book true lust, “She sucks my fingers into her
cunt, eager, open. I love femmes who take my hand so willingly and without apology” (246).
The only difference in the book version is that instead of “femmes,” Taormino, a self-identified
femme dyke, writes “butches.” Taormino here offers a portrait almost exactly in line with
Cvetkovich’s expectations, one where the receptive partner plays an active role and has their
desires fulfilled, but here the femme penetrates the butch. Such a scenario is invisible when all
discussion of femmes centers around “femme accounts of receptivity” (63). Although somewhat
limiting itself, the basic problem with Cvetkovich’s lack of diversity in examining femme
narratives is summed up by Jewelle Gomez, who identifies a stereotype where “Femmes are
always bottoms and want to be fucked” and responds, “If we believed things are always this
simple, we could have stayed heterosexual” (107).
Cvetkovich discusses inherent contradictions in the butch-femme model, but she
ultimately places all of them on the butch. She notes that there is “an apparent paradox of butch
sexuality” where the attentive butch “could, in her eagerness to tend to another’s desires, as
easily be considered feminine as masculine” (68). Yet while butch identity is shown to contain a
paradox, prompting Cvetkovich to state that “the links between gender and untouchability are not
necessarily predictable” (68), femme identity as a category is never subjected to the same
questioning, instead, aspects of femme identity are shown to be equally “active” and “difficult,”
but are never shown to potentially be unpredictable or somehow divergent from what’s expected.
Despite Cvetkovich’s efforts to mark the femme as active here, she ends up making her a kind of
given, on which the complications of butch identity are played out. Lynda Hart notes that such a
method is inherited from traditional treatment of the figure of “woman,” writing, “she is the
marker, the placeholder, of this necessary lack that constitutes desire…The femme operates, like
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the woman, as an incitement to non-being, which ironically gives shape, substance, and
coherence to the butch” (219). Here, though, it is precisely the femme’s pre-definition, instead of
her lack of one, that allows her to be ignored in favor of mapping the ways that butch identities
are resistant to simple categorization.
For example, instead of pointing to femme “voracious desire” as potentially shaking up
any naturalized linkage between presumed gender affiliation and sexual practice, Cvetkovich
shows how the presumed quality of femme receptivity is actually “labor” (58). This may lead to
a “redefinition of femme power,” but it does not challenge the basic assumptions that a “femme”
identity dictates what one does in bed, or that being open sexually equals an open emotional
state. It’s not that the cracks in a overarching femme identity don’t show in Cvetkovich’s essay,
they do, but for all her attention to redefinition and contradiction, she glosses over them. Two
pages after mentioning that femmes have “voracious desire,” this aspect of femme sexuality
disappears in her reading that “the femme emphasizes the way in which her pleasure emerges in
response to her partner’s desire” (59). If femmes can both experience desire and be the object of
it, if their desire can bring out pleasure in another and their pleasure can come from another’s
desire, it seems highly possible that other facets of femme sexuality might be fluid, unstable –
but in the essay the femme is a stagnant figure, unchanging from individual to individual, almost
interchangeable. Hart argues that while there is a linguistic utterance, albeit a shaming one, for
butches whose sexual acts do not match the presumptions brought on by their gender
presentation: “butch in the streets, femme in the sheets,” there is no femme compliment to the
phrase (222). This leads to a problem, she worries, whereby “while there is much talk of
butch/femme couplings as an erotics of ambiguity, there remains…the problem of the ‘femme’
occupying the position that clarifies the ambiguity” (222). Despite the very powerful ways in
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which Cvetkovich’s article attempts to challenge the potential meanings of sexual practices such
as penetration, then, the femme still comes to hold an essential and stable identity.
Cvetkovich can go to great lengths to describe “the butch as womanly because they do
not demand a rejection of female vulnerability” (72), but the femme remains stable in her
articulation as a woman, who looks and acts “feminine” and embraces vulnerability. She writes
that such vulnerability can be an “often difficult achievement” (58), but this argument does not
have the correlating power of suggesting that femmes could have desirable elements of
masculinity within them. Taormino sarcastically represents the position Cvetkovich comes to
embody as a plainly false simplification, “Femmes wear skirts because they want to get fucked”
(247). When articulated thus, the ridiculousness of the claim comes to light, as do its associations
with the sexist claim that women who dress in certain ways are asking to be assaulted. Yet by
making femme always equal the one who “both gives and takes in the process of being
penetrated” (64), Cvetkovich may complicate the meanings of penetration, but she essentializes
femme identity as much as Taormino’s mocking generalization does. Similarly, in Judith Roof’s
article on butch-femme identities in the 90s, only butch identity is marked as being “monstrous”
“anti-assimilationist,” and “intrinsically campily ironic” (34-35), while femme identities become
invisible except as the corollary to the “threatening” butch. Cvetkovich thus fits a common
pattern of making butch identity the marker of queer difference. Hart notes that this is a problem
in much theoretical discussion on butch-femme identities, writing, “it is often assumed that the
femme is ‘invisible’ without the presence of the butch. It is, in other words, the butch’s visibility
that brings the femme into focus as a femme, otherwise she simply disappears into the optical
field occupied by the heterosexual woman” (218). Here, femme becomes defined by butch, and
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the whole question of two femmes in bed together drop out of the picture entirely, making
femme identity nothing more than a corollary of butchness.
By holding to this pattern, Cvetkovich replicates a mistake made by a strand of lesbian
feminism that labeled butch-femme cultures patriarchal and homophobic. Judith Roof contends
that such an assertion was made possible only by the assumption that genders were “emanating
naturally from biological sex” (33). With Judith Butler’s groundbreaking work, however, she
explains that this position becomes much less tenable (33). Masculinity and femininity become
available grounds for queer identities again, because they are not identical to male and female
identities, which would, in certain readings, cause a replication of heterosexual relationships and
propagation of patriarchal norms. By ultimately making both butch and femme genders about
being a “woman,” which seems to translate into having emotions that make you vulnerable at
some level, Cvetkovich collapses gender and sex. Ironically, this ends up putting butch and
femme identities in the same position as lesbian feminism, in which, according to Roof “gender
differences among women were still not comprehended,” (33), only now it is gender differences
among femmes that become invisible.
For Cvetkovich, the trauma of penetration enables a self-shattering that allows femmes to
work through traumatic experiences in a homophobic society. She explains that femmes
“negotiate the trauma of the social world within sexual relations…Sexual practice serves as a
vehicle through which trauma can be articulated and reworked” (66). Here, femmes themselves
must be opened up to reach the inner self which has withdrawn due to trauma, but an alternative
possibility exists for femmes in opening up the societal norms that cause trauma in the first
place. Butch-femme identities would act in this model as pro-active offenses against a
homophobic and patriarchal system, instead of developing as healing mechanisms. Roof suggests
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that in the 1990s, the re-emergence of butch-femme identities is part of a larger turn towards
recognizing the distinction between sex and gender, and that “a new and different model of queer
politics” emerges, “whose object is no longer so much the correction of gender oppression, as the
enlargement of political freedoms in relation to personal choices” (35). She goes on to argue that
“This opens gender up to a more multiple reading” (35). Here, butch-femme identities are
created as part of increased possibilities and multiple sites of identification. Although they draw
on older models, these forms are enacted in the context of creation, and are free to move beyond
the confinement of merely reacting to oppressive forms.
When sexual, emotional, and appearance based definitions of femme identities come
apart, the only way to know what “femme” means is by looking to self-definition, a mode of
knowing that will inherently incite a multiplicitly of ways to identify as femme. This practice can
accomplish the task of expanding ways to “articulate experiences of feeling in terms other than
stigmatized notions of vulnerability” (Cvetkovich, 72) by refusing to let any experience of
feeling necessarily fit with any given identity. One interviewee in the essay “Girl Talk” claims
that for her and her partner, “We have to define what’s butch and what’s femme…between us”
(119, writer’s italics). This argument does not do away with the concept of butch and femme
identities, but returns the power of definition to those being defined, and also makes it a
relational process of partnership, very different from the definitions imposed by some abstract
theory. Roof argues that this notion of power is actually not only more compatible with, but
necessary for, the reemergence of butch-femme identities as political possibilities, writing,
If dominant culture is perceived as having all the power to define and oppress, then the purity of category as in lesbian feminism makes sense. But if power is perceived as a more dispersed and varied formation linked to disseminations of knowledge and technologies of control in a more Foucauldian analysis, then there is no central assailable locus of power located primarily in dominant culture, and
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categorical purity becomes less a political necessity and more an exercise of oppressive power itself (34).
Lesbian feminism, Roof suggests, arises out of concern that in order to oppose the powerful, in
their view the heterosexual, one needed to eliminate any trace of similarity with them, and thus
could easily distinguish what was “resistant” and what was “oppressive” by cutting out any
acknowledgement of difference within sexual categories. An interpretation of power that figures
all parties as implicated, however, cannot allow sexual identities to arise out of a simply resistant
or oppositional model, which leads to many more possibilities to choose from. Cvetkovich
describes Cherrie Moraga’s “understanding of butch sexuality as a response to colonialism’s
structures of feeling” (72), but in debunking presumptions about what makes a butch and what
makes a femme, these identities are no longer at the mercy of oppressive systems, though they
are negotiating with them.
In this light, Moraga’s “image that represents the expression of feeling as a physical
movement from internal to external,” which Cvetkovich reads as “an inversion of penetration”
and thus a defining butch quality (72), could just as easily be seen as an expression of a femme
practice of making feeling visible. Taormino, for example, describes her appearance as the
externalization of her self-defined identity: “My gender presentation was unmistakable – blatant
female sexuality. I was a proud, in-your-face, take-no-prisoners, uppity, don’t-assume-I’m-
straight-because-I-wear-lipstick-and-dresses femme dyke…Even though I was sure I’d be
mistaken for straight, the boys took one look at me and steered clear” (244). While she claims
the presentation was “unmistakable” as “female sexuality,” she doesn’t define what that is – to
her, it seems, it could be part of this very presentation itself, not necessarily correlating with a
sexual position or act. This narrative depicts a femme story of externalizing the internal, offering
an alternative reading of the Moraga image that is based not in sexual acts but in gender
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presentation. Obviously, this would not be the only reading, or a necessarily desirable one. But
by refusing to presume an association between emotions, sexual acts, and appearance, both butch
and femme identities, but especially the too often essentialized femme, can be sites of
proliferating possibility, instead of emanating solely from oppressive discourses.
Despite the refusal of femme identities as predetermined and obviously knowable, this
essay does not intend to undermine many of Cvetkovich’s central arguments. In fact, the coming
apart of compulsory relations between emotion, sexual behavior, and appearance allows for a
symbolic “breach or penetration” of borders (49), a “trauma” to identity categories themselves.
Cvetkovich argues that “touch can be so affecting as to be traumatic” (49), and if histories can
touch one another, certainly traditional visions of identity categories can, as well. This model
perhaps achieves Cvetkovich’s objective without sacrificing femme complexity and difference.
Ultimately, these rigid categorizations themselves (not butch-femme identities, but the
presumption of the links between different parts of identity and behavior) are traumatic
experiences for many. Hart writes, “One of the ways butch/femme ‘works,’ both erotically and
socially, is as a disciplinary mechanism. It keeps us in ‘our places,’ ostensibly. Yet of course it
does not always, or maybe not even often, accomplish its goal. It may, in fact, be a barrier to
either a butch’s or a femme’s ability to recognize her own desires” (222). This act of keeping one
in place against their desires can be read as “equivalent to invasive physical contact” (50),
pressing against wants and impulses.
By theoretically moving between these disciplined arenas, one penetrates these
categorical bodies and works through the trauma experienced through their enforcement. This
barrier, as Hart, Taormino, and others demonstrate, is often breached for pleasure and desire.
Such a model may not be as sexy as Cvetkovich’s, but it removes the compulsion to match one’s
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bodily appearance to one’s sexual practice to one’s emotional availability. Of course, many
people will still embrace a femme identity that encapsulates the assumptions of Cvetkovich’s
depiction, but this will be one form of the identity, not the definition of it. Certainly, as
Cvetkovich suggests, pleasure for many people comes in the form of breaking through barriers,
although this can also mean going beyond what has been preconceived. As Tristan Taormino
realizes of herself, “being a dyke is not just about who I fuck and love, it’s about being a girl
who doesn’t play by the rules” (245). Maybe, then, the true answer to the question “what do two
femmes do in bed?” is something along the lines of, “whatever they damn well please.”
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