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8 Weeks to Confidence, Courage, and Charisma
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The
"Self Esteem"
8 Week
Confidence Conditioning
Program
By
Bobby Rio
©2011, Bobby Rio
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Welcome
Welcome to The "Self Esteem" 8 Week Confidence Conditioning Program.
This has been designed to assist you in reprogramming yourself for total
confidence and success with women. It is based on the premise that every
action you take, every thought you have, creates the blueprint for the life
you live.
People are creatures of habit. Research shows that those who participate in
a daily routine are 3 times as likely to stay on track than those who
participate 6 says a week- and fare 5 times better than those who
participate 3, 4, or 5 days a week. Therefore, for best results, use your
program daily for the entire 8 weeks (56 days). If you miss a day, simply
start again the next day possible.
Be kind to yourself. But strict. A major focus of this program is developing
a strong sense of integrity. You know when you're making excuses.
However, if you're too hard on yourself you might find yourself giving up
out of frustration.
The program is quick and simple and will take you less than 10 minutes a
day. Give yourself a chance.
Each week's daily assignments will coordinate with a weekly video that
should be watching as part of the Self Esteem Blueprint video series.
Preparation
1. I recommend that you make sure you watch each week's video before
following the lessons for each day. The lessons will not make as much
sense or have as much impact if you haven't watched the video for the week.
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2. Mark your starting point. Make sure you fill out the "Starting Point"
worksheet. This will allow you to track your progress over the next 2
months.
The more detailed you are when writing your "Starting Point" description,
the more you will be able to judge how fast you are making improvements
in the desired areas.
You will be updating this "Starting Point" every 21 days.
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Instructions
Begin each day by opening your workbook and filling in the date. Then
complete the confidence conditioning process for the day. Do this before
anything else in the morning. That way, you can be sure it gets done.
IMPORTANT:
Some of the "action steps" you need take involve your dealings with other
people. If circumstance you prevents you from taking these actions on the
day noted, make sure you complete it by the end of the week.
Some of the daily actions will be the same throughout the entire 8 week
program. Some will be specific to the video you've watched that week.
Since "self esteem" is the result of a compound effect. Each week you will
see repetitions of the previous week's exercises.
Responsibility Exercises
Throughout the entire 8 weeks you will encounter many responsibility
exercises. These are designed to hold you accountable for doing the drills
assigned the day before. A good idea is to create a punishment and reward
system for yourself.
Daily Success Acknowledgement
Like attracts like. Success breeds success. The more you feel successful the
more success will come to you. Each day you will be asked to write down 5
successes that occurred in the previous 24 hours. The success can be major
or minor. It doesn't matter. What matters is that you acknowledge yourself
for whatever you do.
i.e.) "I completed my Confidence Condition exercise"
i.e.) "I approached a random girls and started a conversation"
i.e.) "I mowed the lawn."
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1. I take 100% Responsibility for My Life.
2. I am Personally Responsible for Bringing
Women into My Life.
3. I Create My Sex Life. I must Create the
Opportunity and Attraction to Get Women into
my Bed.
4. I Take the Necessary Risks to Continually
Improve My Life
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5. I accept myself completely… I deserve
beautiful women, and give myself permission to
have them…
6. I Refuse to Accept Mediocrity And Will Not
Stop Striving Until I Get Exactly What I want.
7. I have Immense Courage. I Overcome any
Fears.
8. I Make No Excuses for My Desires as a Man.
9. Rejection is a Good Thing. The More I Get
Rejected, the More I will Get Laid.
10. I Admire and Model Men Who Are
Successful With Women
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Starting Point
Date:
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Video 1: I Create My Life
Day 1
Date: ___________
1. Attitude of Confidence Declarations
2. Acknowledge the Payoff You're Getting From Playing "Victim"
Chances are, that in some area of your life you are playing the role of victim. It is important to realize
what your motivation is for doing this. Describe the "payoff" you get for playing the role of being the
victim.
3. The "No Complaint" Challenge
For the remainder of the week, refrain from complaining about anything. And refrain from engaging in
other people's complaints.
4. Acknowledge Your Success.
List at least 5 successes that you enjoyed over the past 24 hours.
1.
2.
3.
4.
5.
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DAY 2
Date: ___________
1. Attitude of Confidence Declaration
2. Notice areas where you are rationalizing
We all find ways to rationalize why we don't have certain things, or avoid doing things we know we
should. Write down the areas you've rationalized. For instance, maybe you've been staying in on Friday
nights and have rationalized its "to save money" when deep down you know you're avoiding the
discomfort of meeting new people.
3. Proactive Success
Write down one "Proactive Success" you want to achieve today. It can be anything from approaching a
woman, getting a phone number, going to the gym. Tomorrow you will be held accountable for achieving
this success.
4. Acknowledge Your Success.
List at least 5 successes that you enjoyed over the past 24 hours.
1.
2.
3.
4.
5.
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DAY 3
Date: ___________
1. Attitude of Confidence Declaration
2. Responsibility Exercise
Yesterday you wrote down one "proactive" success you were going to achieve. Take responsibility for the
success or failure of that action.
3. Event (E) + Response (R) = Outcome (O)
The basic idea of this formula is that every outcome you experience in life is the result of how you have
responded to an earlier event or events in your life.
Here is an example of how this formula comes into play on a daily basis:
Event: Every Saturday and Sunday you have off from work
Response: You lay on the couch play video games, eat pizza, and drink beer.
Outcome: You are out of shape and have very little social life
Today I just want you to recognize the formula for 3 areas of your life you are struggling with:
4. Acknowledge Your Success.
List at least 5 successes that you enjoyed over the past 24 hours.
1.
2.
3.
4.
5.
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DAY 4
Date: ___________
1. Attitude of Confidence Declaration
2. Event (E) + Response (R) = Outcome (O)
Yesterday you wrote down your current formula for 3 areas of your life you're struggling with. Today I
want you to write down the NEW Formula signifying a change.
3. Proactive Success
Write down one "Proactive Success" you want to achieve today. It can be anything from approaching a
woman, getting a phone number, going to the gym. Tomorrow you will be held accountable for achieving
this success.
4. Acknowledge Your Success.
List at least 5 successes that you enjoyed over the past 24 hours.
1.
2.
3.
4.
5.
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DAY 5
Date: ___________
1. Attitude of Confidence Declaration
2. Responsibility Exercise
Yesterday you wrote down one "proactive" success you were going to achieve. Take responsibility for the
success or failure of that action.
3. The "No Complaint" Challenge
Have you been keeping up with your "no complaint" challenge? Write down any differences you noticed.
If you failed to do this; Take responsibility for your failure.
4. Acknowledge Your Success.
List at least 5 successes that you enjoyed over the past 24 hours.
1.
2.
3.
4.
5.
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DAY 6
Date: ___________
1. Attitude of Confidence Declaration
2. Turn "Victim" Mentality into "Driver" Mentality
Write down 5 ways you are going to take responsibility for your life. Ask yourself this question "What Can
I Fix?" And any area that is currently challenging you, affirm your ability to change your circumstance.
For instance: "Women are too hard to read" is changed to "I am going to work on recognizing the signals
women are giving me."
3. Who am I giving power to?
Every time you catch yourself blaming, justifying, or complaining, stop and analyze your statement. And
ask yourself this question: “Who am I giving the power to?
4. Acknowledge Your Success.
List at least 5 successes that you enjoyed over the past 24 hours.
1.
2.
3.
4.
5.
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DAY 7
Date: ___________
1. Attitude of Confidence Declaration
2. Write down your purpose for wanting to improve your self esteem
Reminding yourself why you're doing this will help you stay focused over the next 8 weeks.
3. Proactive Habit
Write down one "Proactive Habit" you want to achieve today. It can be anything from waking up earlier,
emailing 5 girls a day, or starting a workout routine. Continue this new habit over the remainder of the
program (preferably past that)
4. Acknowledge Your Success.
List at least 5 successes that you enjoyed over the past 24 hours.
1.
2.
3.
4.
5.
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Video 2: I Play to Win
DAY 8
Date: ___________
1. Attitude of Confidence Declaration
2. Write down all the areas you are Playing Not To Lose… rather than Playing to Win
These are all the areas that you not going full force because you're more scared of messing up then you are
of achieving what you want.
3. Write down the 'pay off' you're getting by playing not lose.
Remember everything we do is because we get some reward out of it. If you're avoiding taking the
necessary risks to get what you want. You must be getting some reward out of it. Recognize what it is.
4. Acknowledge Your Success.
List at least 5 successes that you enjoyed over the past 24 hours.
1.
2.
3.
4.
5.
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DAY 9
Date: ___________
1. Attitude of Confidence Declaration
2. Reframing Rejection (review video 1 from this week)
What are you going to replace outcome dependency with?
3. Learning from rejection
What did you learn? What skill did you build? What do you still need to work on?
4. Acknowledge Your Success.
List at least 5 successes that you enjoyed over the past 24 hours.
1.
2.
3.
4.
5.
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DAY 10
Date: ___________
1. Attitude of Confidence Declaration
2. What have you avoided "asking for"?
The fear of asking hold us back from so much in life. Right down all the things you have avoided asking
for.
3. Proactive Asking
Pick one thing you've avoided asking for, and ask for it in the next hours.
4. Acknowledge Your Success.
List at least 5 successes that you enjoyed over the past 24 hours.
1.
2.
3.
4.
5.
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DAY 11
Date: ___________
1. Attitude of Confidence Declaration
2. Responsibility Exercise
Yesterday you wrote down one "proactive" thing you were going to ask for. Take responsibility for the
success or failure of that action. Did you ask for it?
3. Formulate your intent
Your ability to plow on to the end comes from your intent. When it comes to meeting women, what is
your intent? Write down what you want out of your next interaction with a woman.
4. Acknowledge Your Success.
List at least 5 successes that you enjoyed over the past 24 hours.
1.
2.
3.
4.
5.
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DAY 12
Date: ___________
1. Attitude of Confidence Declaration
2. What areas in life are you content?
Acknowledge the areas in life you feel content to know you could do something that rather than do it.
3. Bust through your barrier of content
Pick one of the areas where you are content in the knowledge you can do something. And do it. Prove to
yourself that you can really do it. Whether its approaching a woman, writing the first chapter of your
book, or cold calling a customer and making a sale.
4. Acknowledge Your Success.
List at least 5 successes that you enjoyed over the past 24 hours.
1.
2.
3.
4.
5.
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DAY 13
Date: ___________
1. Attitude of Confidence Declaration
2. Responsibility Exercise
Yesterday you wrote down one are you were content to get out of your "content phase" and take action.
Take responsibility for the success or failure of that action.
3. Where are you holding onto mediocrity?
List all the areas you are holding onto mediocrity
4. Acknowledge Your Success.
List at least 5 successes that you enjoyed over the past 24 hours.
1.
2.
3.
4.
5.
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DAY 14
Date: ___________
1. Attitude of Confidence Declaration
2. List what you intend to have
Include your ideal girlfriend, lifestyle, career, and social life.
3. Write down your purpose for wanting to improve your self esteem
Reminding yourself why you're doing this will help you stay focused over the next 8 weeks.
4. Acknowledge Your Success.
List at least 5 successes that you enjoyed over the past 24 hours.
1.
2.
3.
4.
5.
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Video 3: The Us Framework
DAY 15
Date: ___________
1. Attitude of Confidence Declaration
2. What is your current framework in regards to women?
What do you think you have to do to get them? How do you think they view you? How do you perceive
the kind of guys who get them?
3. Proactive Asking
Pick one thing you've avoided asking for, and ask for it in the next hours.
4. Acknowledge Your Success.
List at least 5 successes that you enjoyed over the past 24 hours.
1.
2.
3.
4.
5.
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DAY 16
Date: ___________
1. Attitude of Confidence Declaration
2. Responsibility Exercise
Yesterday you wrote down one "proactive" thing you were going to ask for. Take responsibility for the
success or failure of that action. Did you ask for it?
3. Recognize where you've been programmed
Write down statements you’ve heard, repeated, or thought about. Write down the affect they’ve had on
your life so far. Recognize this isn’t the truth.
4. Acknowledge Your Success.
List at least 5 successes that you enjoyed over the past 24 hours.
1.
2.
3.
4.
5.
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DAY 17
Date: ___________
1. Attitude of Confidence Declaration
2. Get Rejected
As we talked about last week, getting over your fear of rejection is crucial for your success. Today I want
you to go out and "get rejected" 2 times. You can simply ask a strange woman for her phone number. The
objective is solely to get rejected. Tomorrow you are going to have to face responsibility for whether or
not you followed through.
3. Your Current Models
Make a List of who do you currently model? What is their “frameworks” about women? How has that
“framework” affected you?
4. Acknowledge Your Success.
List at least 5 successes that you enjoyed over the past 24 hours.
1.
2.
3.
4.
5.
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DAY 18
Date: ___________
1. Attitude of Confidence Declaration
2. Responsibility Exercise
Yesterday you were given an exercise to go out and get rejected twice. Did you do this? If not, notice if
you're rationalizing, making excuses, or justifying your decision. Instead, take responsibility. If you did
it, take responsibility for getting outside your comfort zone.
3. Model More Empowering Frameworks
Yesterday you listed the frameworks you currently model. Today I want you to seek out guys with better
frameworks and begin modeling them. List some guys you know who have a more empowering
framework?
4. Acknowledge Your Success.
List at least 5 successes that you enjoyed over the past 24 hours.
1.
2.
3.
4.
5.
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DAY 19
Date: ___________
1. Attitude of Confidence Declaration
2. Develop your More Empowering Framework
Find Evidence to Believe it. Actively Think it. How Would You Act if You Had believed this your whole
life?
3. Practice Empathy
Go Back and Re-live Specific situation through other point of view.
4. Acknowledge Your Success.
List at least 5 successes that you enjoyed over the past 24 hours.
1.
2.
3.
4.
5.
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DAY 20
Date: ___________
1. Attitude of Confidence Declaration
2. What Specific Incidents Have Shaped Your Framework
List any specific incidents that stand out in your mind? What emotions have you anchored to being
around women?
3. List what you intend to have
Include your ideal girlfriend, lifestyle, career, and social life. Be sure to include why you are capable of
achieving these.
4. Acknowledge Your Success.
List at least 5 successes that you enjoyed over the past 24 hours.
1.
2.
3.
4.
5.
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DAY 21
Date: ___________
1. Attitude of Confidence Declaration
2. What to Do Right Now
Set a Condition that will ensure you find new models. Set a Condition that will ensure you eliminate
negative frameworks from vocabulary.
3. Write down your purpose for wanting to improve your self esteem
Reminding yourself why you're doing this will help you stay focused over the next 8 weeks.
4. Acknowledge Your Success.
List at least 5 successes that you enjoyed over the past 24 hours.
1.
2.
3.
4.
5.
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Starting Point (Where are You Now)
Date:
Description:
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Video 4: The "I Can" Mentality
DAY 22
Date: ___________
1. Attitude of Confidence Declaration
2. Take the Insecurity Test
Close your eyes and imagine: Walking up to a Beautiful Women unprovoked in a Night Club. Picking up
the phone to call a woman for the first time. Walking into your bedroom with a beautiful woman .
Make Note of: Any Anxiety You Felt. What Thoughts Went Through Your Mind? What Situation Was the
Anxiety Most Prominent?
3. Responsibility Exercise
A couple days ago I told you to set conditions to ensure that you develop new frame works and find new
role models. Have you followed through?
4. Acknowledge Your Success.
List at least 5 successes that you enjoyed over the past 24 hours.
1.
2.
3.
4.
5.
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DAY 23
Date: ___________
1. Attitude of Confidence Declaration
2. Begin a judgment free week
For the remainder of this week refrain from making any judgments about yourself or other people.
3. Win a Battle
It is important to win small battles to show yourself you can. Today, write down one small battle you're
going to win, and then in the next 24 hours… do whatever it takes to win the battle.
4. Acknowledge Your Success.
List at least 5 successes that you enjoyed over the past 24 hours.
1.
2.
3.
4.
5.
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DAY 24
Date: ___________
1. Attitude of Confidence Declaration
2. Responsibility Exercise
Yesterday I told you to go and win a battle. Now it is time to take responsibility for either having taken
the action or not.
3. Meditate
Part of developing self trust is the ability to quiet your mind. For the next 10 minutes practice meditation.
This is simply the act of keeping your mind free of thought. Each time a new thought comes into your
mind, just release it.
4. Acknowledge Your Success.
List at least 5 successes that you enjoyed over the past 24 hours.
1.
2.
3.
4.
5.
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DAY 25
Date: ___________
1. Attitude of Confidence Declaration
2. What is your comfort zone?
Write down all of the different areas where you refuse to leave your comfort zone. Acknowledge what
your comfort zone is.
3. Practice Therapeutic recklessness
At some point over the next 24 hours practice purposely being reckless and acting without thought.
4. Acknowledge Your Success.
List at least 5 successes that you enjoyed over the past 24 hours.
1.
2.
3.
4.
5.
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DAY 26
Date: ___________
1. Attitude of Confidence Declaration
2. Responsibility Exercise
Yesterday I told you to go and be reckless. Now it is time to take responsibility for either having taken the
action or not.
3. Write down all the lies you tell yourself
We all tell ourselves lies to avoid stepping outside of our comfort zone. Write down the lies you tell
yourself.
4. Acknowledge Your Success.
List at least 5 successes that you enjoyed over the past 24 hours.
1.
2.
3.
4.
5.
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DAY 27
Date: ___________
1. Attitude of Confidence Declaration
2. Get Outside Your Comfort Zone
The other day you wrote down all the areas you stay within your comfort zone. Over the next 24 hours
pick one of those areas and venture outside your comfort zone.
3. Meditate
Part of developing self trust is the ability to quiet your mind. For the next 10 minutes practice meditation.
This is simply the act of keeping your mind free of thought. Each time a new thought comes into your
mind, just release it.
4. Acknowledge Your Success.
List at least 5 successes that you enjoyed over the past 24 hours.
1.
2.
3.
4.
5.
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DAY 28
Date: ___________
1. Attitude of Confidence Declaration
2. List what you intend to have
Include your ideal girlfriend, lifestyle, career, and social life. Be sure to include why you are capable of
achieving these.
3. Write down your purpose for wanting to improve your self esteem
Reminding yourself why you're doing this will help you stay focused over the next 8 weeks.
4. Acknowledge Your Success.
List at least 5 successes that you enjoyed over the past 24 hours.
1.
2.
3.
4.
5.
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Video 5: No Wiggle Room
DAY 29
Date: ___________
1. Attitude of Confidence Declaration
2. Its Decision Making Time
What must you have in your life? What kind of life won't you accept?
3. Create a dream board
Using my dream board in the video as an example, create a board with pictures of the way you want your
life to look. Do this by the end of the week. You will be held responsible.
4. Acknowledge Your Success.
List at least 5 successes that you enjoyed over the past 24 hours.
1.
2.
3.
4.
5
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DAY 30
Date: ___________
1. Attitude of Confidence Declaration
2. Create Your Heroes' Code
Define integrity for yourself. What is your moral code for yourself? How clear are the lines?
3. Acknowledge Your Success.
List at least 5 successes that you enjoyed over the past 24 hours.
1.
2.
3.
4.
5
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DAY 31
Date: ___________
1. Attitude of Confidence Declaration
2. Set Conditions to Create a "Conditioned" Response
Eliminate your wiggle room. Set specific guidelines for what you have to do. Set conditions to make sure
that you do it. Use this idea of "setting conditions" to hold yourself responsible for the remainder of the
workbook.
3. Get Rejected
As we talked about in previous weeks, getting over your fear of rejection is crucial for your success. Today
I want you to go out and "get rejected" 2 times. You can simply ask a strange woman for her phone
number. The objective is solely to get rejected. Tomorrow you are going to have to face responsibility for
whether or not you followed through.
4. Acknowledge Your Success.
List at least 5 successes that you enjoyed over the past 24 hours.
1.
2.
3.
4.
5
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DAY 32
Date: ___________
1. Attitude of Confidence Declaration
2. Responsibility Exercise
Yesterday you were given an exercise to go out and get rejected twice. Did you do this? If not, notice if
you're rationalizing, making excuses, or justifying your decision. Instead, take responsibility. If you did
it, take responsibility for getting outside your comfort zone.
3. Event (E) + Response (R) = Outcome (O)
Remeber the above formula from week 1 Today I want you to write down the NEW Formula signifying a
change in an area that you've been to easy on youself.
4. Acknowledge Your Success.
List at least 5 successes that you enjoyed over the past 24 hours.
1.
2.
3.
4.
5
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DAY 33
Date: ___________
1. Attitude of Confidence Declaration
2. Eliminate Crutches/ Burn Ships/ No retreat
Where are you giving yourself an "out." Eliminate means of retreat.
3. Write down all the words and phrases you are going to eliminate from your vocabulary
Write down words like "might" "should" or any other phrases you commonly use to give yourself a means
of retreat.
4. Acknowledge Your Success.
List at least 5 successes that you enjoyed over the past 24 hours.
1.
2.
3.
4.
5
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DAY 34
Date: ___________
1. Attitude of Confidence Declaration
2. Responsibility Exercise
6 days ago you were given an exercise to create a Dream Board. Did you do this? If not, notice if you're
rationalizing, making excuses, or justifying your decision. Instead, take responsibility. If you did it, take
responsibility for taking a step that will get you closer to achieving your goals.
3. Review Your Heroes Code
Look over the hero's code you created a few days ago. Acknowledge if you've been living up to the
guidelines you set for yourself.
4. Acknowledge Your Success.
List at least 5 successes that you enjoyed over the past 24 hours.
1.
2.
3.
4.
5
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DAY 35
Date: ___________
1. Attitude of Confidence Declaration
2. List what you intend to have
Include your ideal girlfriend, lifestyle, career, and social life. Be sure to include why you are capable of
achieving these.
3. Write down your purpose for wanting to improve your self esteem
Reminding yourself why you're doing this will help you stay focused over the next 8 weeks.
4. Acknowledge Your Success.
List at least 5 successes that you enjoyed over the past 24 hours.
1.
2.
3.
4.
5
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Video 6: Sell Yourself
DAY 36
Date: ___________
1. Attitude of Confidence Declaration
2. List all the ways you currently avoid "selling" yourself
Do you dress conservative? Not ask girls out? Avoid standing out in a crowd?
3. What are some negative Beliefs that have held you back?
Everyone suffers from holding onto negative beliefs like "Girls only like guys with money" or such like
that. What are some negative beliefs that have held you back?
4. Acknowledge Your Success.
List at least 5 successes that you enjoyed over the past 24 hours.
1.
2.
3.
4.
5
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DAY 36
Date: ___________
1. Attitude of Confidence Declaration
2. Define Your Value
What value do you hold? Why do people benefit from knowing you? Why do you deserve to date beautiful
women?
3. Turn negative beliefs into empowering beliefs
Yesterday I had you list some of your negative beliefs. Take those beliefs and re-write them in an
empowering way. So if your former belief was "Women only like guys with money" you could re-write
that belief to be "Women like the guy who is most fun to be around."
4. Acknowledge Your Success.
List at least 5 successes that you enjoyed over the past 24 hours.
1.
2.
3.
4.
5
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DAY 37
Date: ___________
1. Attitude of Confidence Declaration
2. Exercise for Enthusiasm 1
Watch and listen to some speakers talk about a boring, dry topic. Watch on either TV, taped lectures,
technical presentations, etc. Really pay attention to how they speak, their tone, their pace, and how much
(or little) energy is conveyed.
3. Exercise for Enthusiasm 2
Watch and listen to some speakers who use a lot of energy and enthusiasm when they are talking! Really
pay attention to how they speak, their tone, their pace, and how much (or little) energy is conveyed. Note
how even if the material is something you do NOT care about, that a good speaker can really grab your
attention with their energy and enthusiasm.
4. Acknowledge Your Success.
List at least 5 successes that you enjoyed over the past 24 hours.
1.
2.
3.
4.
5
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DAY 38
Date: ___________
1. Attitude of Confidence Declaration
2. Get Outside Your Comfort Zone
The other day you wrote down all the areas you stay within your comfort zone. Over the next 24 hours
pick one of those areas and venture outside your comfort zone.
3. Meditate
Part of developing self trust is the ability to quiet your mind. For the next 10 minutes practice meditation.
This is simply the act of keeping your mind free of thought. Each time a new thought comes into your
mind, just release it.
4. Acknowledge Your Success.
List at least 5 successes that you enjoyed over the past 24 hours.
1.
2.
3.
4.
5
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DAY 39
Date: ___________
1. Attitude of Confidence Declaration
2. Make One Big Improvement Today
Take one step today to improving your appearance. Whether its getting a haircut, buying a fashionable
outfit, or shaving a scruffy beard.
3. Responsibility Exercise
Yesterday I told you to get outside your comfort zone. Now it is time to take responsibility for either
having taken the action or not.
4. Acknowledge Your Success.
List at least 5 successes that you enjoyed over the past 24 hours.
1.
2.
3.
4.
5
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DAY 40
Date: ___________
1. Attitude of Confidence Declaration
2. Promote Yourself on Facebook
Leave a Facebook Status update that promotes your personality. If you don’t have an account set one up
today.
3. Be a good audience
For the Rest of the Week Concentrate on Becoming the Best Audience You can Be
4. Acknowledge Your Success.
List at least 5 successes that you enjoyed over the past 24 hours.
1.
2.
3.
4.
5
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DAY 41
Date: ___________
1. Attitude of Confidence Declaration
2. Make One More Improvement Today
Take one step today to improving your appearance. Whether its getting a haircut, buying a fashionable
outfit, or shaving a scruffy beard. The reason you are making two big improvements this week is because
it will create momentum.
3. Discover your passions
Part of your ability to sell yourself is to know what you're really passionate about. Make a list of the things
in life that you feel passion for.
4. Acknowledge Your Success.
List at least 5 successes that you enjoyed over the past 24 hours.
1.
2.
3.
4.
5
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DAY 42
Date: ___________
1. Attitude of Confidence Declaration
2. List what you intend to have
Include your ideal girlfriend, lifestyle, career, and social life. Be sure to include why you are capable of
achieving these.
3. Write down your purpose for wanting to improve your self esteem
Reminding yourself why you're doing this will help you stay focused over the next 8 weeks.
4. Acknowledge Your Success.
List at least 5 successes that you enjoyed over the past 24 hours.
1.
2.
3.
4.
5
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Video 7: Getting into Flow
DAY 43
Date: ___________
1. Attitude of Confidence Declaration
2. Describe a time you were in "flow"
What were Commonalities to Events? Were you Around Certain People? What Was Your Specific
Thought Process Like? What was the Goal You Were After? What was the Level of Challenge You were
Facing?
3. Event (E) + Response (R) = Outcome (O)
Remeber the above formula from week 1 Today I want you to write down the NEW Formula signifying a
change in an area that you've been to easy on youself.
4. Acknowledge Your Success.
List at least 5 successes that you enjoyed over the past 24 hours.
1.
2.
3.
4.
5
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DAY 44
Date: ___________
1. Attitude of Confidence Declaration
2. Set an inspiring goal for the week
Jot down a goal that you could realistically achieve this week that would inspire you. And then achieve
that goal. You will be held responsible.
3. Conversation Flow
In the next conversation you are in, attempt to figure out what the other person's goal is within the
conversation and help them achieve it. Re-watch the video if you need to be refreshed what this means.
4. Acknowledge Your Success.
List at least 5 successes that you enjoyed over the past 24 hours.
1.
2.
3.
4.
5
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DAY 45
Date: ___________
1. Attitude of Confidence Declaration
2. What are you grateful for?
List all of the things in your life that you are grateful for.
3. Meditate
Part of developing self trust is the ability to quiet your mind. For the next 10 minutes practice meditation.
This is simply the act of keeping your mind free of thought. Each time a new thought comes into your
mind, just release it.
4. Acknowledge Your Success.
List at least 5 successes that you enjoyed over the past 24 hours.
1.
2.
3.
4.
5
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DAY 46
Date: ___________
1. Attitude of Confidence Declaration
2. Exercise for Flow
Make a Conscious Effort to Practice One Simple Activity in Complete Immersion. Simply Enjoy the
Experience of the Activity. (ie. Washing Your Car, Jogging, Cleaning Your Room, ect)
3. Meditate
Part of developing self trust is the ability to quiet your mind. For the next 10 minutes practice meditation.
This is simply the act of keeping your mind free of thought. Each time a new thought comes into your
mind, just release it.
4. Acknowledge Your Success.
List at least 5 successes that you enjoyed over the past 24 hours.
1.
2.
3.
4.
5
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DAY 47
Date: ___________
1. Attitude of Confidence Declaration
2. Try Something New
Pick one thing you’ve never done, or don’t do enough, and put your complete energy this week in
attempting it. Close off distractions, excuses, or frustrations about it.
3. Practice Empathy
Go Back and Re-live Specific situation through other point of view. The ability to empathize with people
is a skill worth continued practice.
4. Acknowledge Your Success.
List at least 5 successes that you enjoyed over the past 24 hours.
1.
2.
3.
4.
5
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DAY 48
Date: ___________
1. Attitude of Confidence Declaration
2. Responsibility Exercise
In the beginning of the week I told you to get go after one goal. Now it is time to take responsibility for
either having taken the action or not.
3. Conversation Flow
In the next conversation you are in, attempt to figure out what the other person's goal is within the
conversation and help them achieve it. Re-watch the video if you need to be refreshed what this means.
4. Acknowledge Your Success.
List at least 5 successes that you enjoyed over the past 24 hours.
1.
2.
3.
4.
5
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DAY 49
Date: ___________
1. Attitude of Confidence Declaration
2. List what you intend to have
Include your ideal girlfriend, lifestyle, career, and social life. Be sure to include why you are capable of
achieving these.
3. Write down your purpose for wanting to improve your self esteem
Reminding yourself why you're doing this will help you stay focused over the next 8 weeks.
4. Acknowledge Your Success.
List at least 5 successes that you enjoyed over the past 24 hours.
1.
2.
3.
4.
5
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Video 8: The Attitude
DAY 50
Date: ___________
1. Attitude of Confidence Declaration
2. List where you might be presenting "nice guy" behaviors
Be honest with yourself, are you doing things you don't want to do in hopes it will make a woman like
you?
3. Meditate
Part of developing self trust is the ability to quiet your mind. For the next 10 minutes practice meditation.
This is simply the act of keeping your mind free of thought. Each time a new thought comes into your
mind, just release it.
4. Acknowledge Your Success.
List at least 5 successes that you enjoyed over the past 24 hours.
1.
2.
3.
4.
5
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DAY 51
Date: ___________
1. Attitude of Confidence Declaration
2. List areas where you are presenting a scarcity mindset
Be honest with yourself, what areas are you living with a scarcity mindset.
3. Get Outside Your Comfort Zone
The other day you wrote down all the areas you stay within your comfort zone. Over the next 24 hours
pick one of those areas and venture outside your comfort zone. You will be held responsible
4. Acknowledge Your Success.
List at least 5 successes that you enjoyed over the past 24 hours.
1.
2.
3.
4.
5
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DAY 52
Date: ___________
1. Attitude of Confidence Declaration
2. List all the areas where you have handed over your power to a woman
Be honest with yourself. Where have you given away your power to a woman.
3. Responsibility Exercise
Yesterday I told you to pick one area and get outside of your comfort zone. Now it is time to take
responsibility for either having taken the action or not.
4. Acknowledge Your Success.
List at least 5 successes that you enjoyed over the past 24 hours.
1.
2.
3.
4.
5
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DAY 53
Date: ___________
1. Attitude of Confidence Declaration
2. Anti Nice Guy Exercise
Go Out Tonight and Act Solely With Your Best Interest in Mind. Talk About What YOU Want to Talk
About. And Practice Obliviousness to What She Might Be Thinking
3. Meditate
Part of developing self trust is the ability to quiet your mind. For the next 10 minutes practice meditation.
This is simply the act of keeping your mind free of thought. Each time a new thought comes into your
mind, just release it.
4. Acknowledge Your Success.
List at least 5 successes that you enjoyed over the past 24 hours.
1.
2.
3.
4.
5
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DAY 54
Date: ___________
1. Attitude of Confidence Declaration
2. What are you grateful for?
List all of the things in your life that you are grateful for.
3. Anti Scarcity Exercise
Cut Off All Ties With Women Who Treat You Badly. If You’re holding onto a “Crush” release her from
your mind. Approach a Woman with the firm belief that it is a Numbers Game.
4. Acknowledge Your Success.
List at least 5 successes that you enjoyed over the past 24 hours.
1.
2.
3.
4.
5
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DAY 55
Date: ___________
1. Attitude of Confidence Declaration
2. Responsibility Exercise
Over the past couple days I gave two exercises, one for Anti-Nice Guy and one for Scarcity. Now it is time
to take responsibility for either having taken the action or not.
3. Take the Power Back Exercise
Begin using the word “Lets” and start taking control in every interaction you are in with a female.
4. Acknowledge Your Success.
List at least 5 successes that you enjoyed over the past 24 hours.
1.
2.
3.
4.
5
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DAY 56
Date: ___________
1. Attitude of Confidence Declaration
2. List what you intend to have
Include your ideal girlfriend, lifestyle, career, and social life. Be sure to include why you are capable of
achieving these.
3. Write down everything you've learned over the past 56 days
Reminding yourself why you're doing this will help you stay focused over the next 8 weeks.
4. Acknowledge Your Success.
List at least 5 successes that you enjoyed over the past 24 hours.
1.
2.
3.
4.
5
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Completing Your 8 Week Program
Over the past 8 weeks or the duration of the program…
1. Describe your progress in terms of feeling and acting more confident in
various situations.
2. Describe your progress in terms of opportunities that came your way
because you stepped outside your comfort zone.
3. Describe your progress in terms of enjoying socializing more.
4. Describe your progress in terms of "how you feel about yourself."
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5. Describe your progress in terms of "how you feel about life"
6. Describe your progress in terms of how you relate to others.
7. What did you learn about yourself?
8. What will you do now to keep your momentum?
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Well done! Go reward yourself!
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