7. Courtesy

Worksheets1. What is Courtesy?2. Why be Courteous?3. Two Ways to be Courteous4. How to Introduce Myself5. How to Introduce Others6. Introducing Others7. Make a Play8. Courteous Behaviour

Visual Aids1. Courtesy2. Six Steps to Introduce Myself3. Courteous Words

Teaching Notes1. Definition2. Classroom Application3. Suggested Activities4. Resources5. Jill Rigby

Part 7

Courtesy

to be polite and have good manners

What is Courtesy?

Courtesy is to be polite and to have good manners.

It is to be considerate of others.

It is a way of acting with people that makes them feel valued, cared for and respected.

Please, Thank you and Excuse me, are courteous expressions which let people know you appreciate them and care about their feelings.

Being polite to parents, elders and teachers is especially important. It shows that you respect them.

Sometimes good manners simply means putting up with other people’s bad manners.

The words in the list below have been hidden in the word search. Try to find them.

COURTESY

THANK YOU

MANNERS

RESPECT

SORRY

POLITE

EXCUSE ME

KIND

Why Be Courteous?

Write down why you should be courteous towards others

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Find out three more reasons by solving the code below.

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Two Ways to be Courteous

(1) Learn polite ways to speak and use them each day

Write the missing words in the spaces to complete each sentence

*Make requests by saying ................................

*Say ............................... and smile when someone has done something for you.

*Say ............................... if you bump into someone by mistake.

*Say ............................... or ............................... when offered something.

*Say ............................... if you need someone’s attention.

*Say ............................... when you meet people

(2) Think how your behaviour affects others and do what makes them comfortable

Complete the sentences below to show courteous behaviouir

* Show good table manners by .............................................................................................................

* On a crowded bus ...............................................................................................................................

* When you see someone carrying a heavy load .................................................................................

* When someone speaks to you ............................................................................................................

* When you want to answer a question in school..................................................................................

* When a guest visits your home .........................................................................................................

* When you are standing in a queue ....................................................................................................

HOW TO INTRODUCE MYSELF

How do you feel when you are the new one in a group and you don’t know anyone? People who have good manners should introduce new people to their friends, but often the people in the group you want to enter do not know how to. If you are already part of a group and see someone who is alone you should go over to the new person, tell them your name, ask what their name is and ask the person to join your group. Learn the six steps written below when you want to introduce yourself.

Six Steps to Introduce Myself

1. Stand

2. Smile

3. See their eyes

4. Shake their hand

5. Say your name

6. Say their name back to them

HOW TO INTRODUCE OTHERS

(Introducing adults and friends to one another)

* Use five of the six steps: Stand, Smile, See eyes, Shake hands, Say your name

* Use the most honoured person’s name first.- introduce the younger person to the older person. (honoured)- introduce a male to a female (honoured)- introduce the less distinguished person to the more distinguished person. (honoured)

Example: Introduce your classmate and your father. (honoured person)“Dad, this is James Ramsey. He plays on my soccer team. Jimmy, this is my dad, Sam Jones.”

ACTIVITYDraw a crown over the word that describes the most honoured person in each example, then write a proper introduction.

1) Introduce your friend to your mother. ...........................................................................................

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2) Introduce your mother to your friend’s mother. .............................................................................

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3) Introduce a classmate and your older brother ..........................................................................

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4) Introduce your father and your football coach. ..............................................................................

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INTRODUCING OTHERS

(Introducing adults and friends to one another)

ACTIVITYDraw a crown over the word that describes the most honoured person in each example, then write a proper introduction.

1) Introduce your friend to your mother. ...........................................................................................

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2) Introduce your mother to your friend’s mother. .............................................................................

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3) Introduce a classmate and to your older brother ..........................................................................

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4) Introduce your father and your football coach. ..............................................................................

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Make a Play

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AT HOME VISITORS RESTAURANT

Make a list of courteous words and behaviour that can be used in one of these places. Use the ideas to create a play.

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Courteous BehaviourMake a list of courteous behaviour that should be used in each of these places.

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Answers (1)What is Courtesy?

* Courtesy is to be polite and to have good manners.

* It is to be considerate of others and to have gracious ways.

* It is a way of acting with people that makes them feel valued, cared for and respected.

* Please, Thank you and Excuse me, are courteous expressions which let people know you

appreciate them and care about their feelings.

* Being polite to parents, elders and teachers is especially important. It shows that you respect

them.

The words in the list below have been hidden in the word search. Try to find them.

courtesy thank you manners respect please polite excuse me? / sorry?

(2)Why Be Courteous?

Write down one reason why you should be courteous? Find three more reasons by solving the code below.

* It makes people feel important.* It makes you attractive to others.* It increases the pleasantness of everyday life

3)How to be Courteous

1) Learn polite ways to speak and use them throughout each day.

*Making requests by saying please.*Say thank you and smile when someone has done something for you.*Say sorry if you bump into someone by mistake.*Say yes please or no thank you when offered something.*Say excuse me if you need someone attention.*Say hello when you meet people

2) Think how your behaviour affects others and do what makes them comfortable.

* Show good table manners by eating with your mouth closed and talking with mouth empty

* On a crowded bus offer your seat to an older person

* When you see someone carrying a heavy load help carry it or open the door for them

* When someone speaks to you look at them and listen to what they are saying

* When you want to answer a question in school always raise your hand and wait

* When a guest visits your home always greet them warmly

* When you are standing in a queue wait calmly and patiently

7. Courtesy

Visual Aids1. Courtesy2. Six Steps to Introduce Myself3. Courteous Words

Six Steps to Introduce Myself

1. Stand

2. Smile

3. See their eyes

4. Shake their hand

5. Say your name

6. Say their name back to them

Courtesy

1. Courtesy is to be polite and to have good manners.

2. It is to be considerate of others.

3. It is a way of acting with people that makes them feel valued, cared for and respected.

4. Please, Thank you and Excuse me, are courteous expressions which let people know you appreciate them and care about their feelings.

5. Being polite to parents, elders and teachers is especially important. It shows them that you respect them.

6. Sometimes good manners simply means putting up with other people’s bad manners.

Courteous Words

Excuse me

I’m sorry

yes, please.

no thank you.

Please can I have the ketchup?

Hello

Happy Birthday!

Would like my seat?

Let me hold the door for you.

Have my place

Would you like more?

It’s nice to meet you

7. Courtesy

Teaching Notes1. Definition2. Classroom Application3. Suggested Activities4. Resources5. Jill Rigby

1. Definition

Polite, well-mannered behavior toward others.

2. Classroom Application

* Review definition * Discuss how this trait was demonstrated recently by classmates, school personnel, or family. * Generate a list of how this trait can be demonstrated today at school or home.

3. Suggested Activities

These suggestions are provided to offer teachers guidance in the development of age appropriate activities.

• Students to keep journal to record: Why is it important to be polite to other people? How do you feel when you are polite and how do others feel? Can you think of one way you can be polite to others today?

• Practice DO'S and DON'TS: DO use good manners, be courteous polite and civil to everyone. DON'T use put-downs, insults, yelling or ridicule to embarrass or hurt another.

• Teach students how to listen attentively to other students and adults, and teach them to avoid interrupting people.

• Students write and produce their own books of good manners. These books emphasize values, and respect for others in addition to proper behavior in different social situations. These books might be called “Manners for Grade ____ Students,” “Manners is our Favorite Subject,” or “We Love Good Manners.”

• Students create posters and banners about manners.

• Students create a classroom newspaper on manners.

• Students write articles to the newspaper (Our Times) about their studies of good manners.

• Students take pictures or cut out pictures from magazines/newspapers of children using good manners. They add text and publish posters of good manners.

4. Resources

Videos“How to Civilize Your Child”, “Amazing Advantage for Kids”

Children’s Picture BooksPerfect Pigs by Brown, Pass the Fritters, Critters by Chapman, What Do You Say, Dear?, What Do You Do, Dear? by Joslin, Mind Your Manners by Parish, Big Black Bear by Yee, Manners by Aliki, Hello Gnu, How Do You Do? by Hazen.

5. Jill Rigby

Jill Rigby, three sisters and a brother grew up in a warm, loving home in the foothills of the Delta in Vicksburg, Mississippi, the unofficial center of southern hospitality. Their mother shared the manners of her heart by teaching her children respectfulness, compassion and kindness toward others.

Jill received a BFA in interior design and a minor in art history from Mississippi University for Women in 1977. She married in 1978 and worked full-time in the field of design until her identical twin sons were born.

In raising her children she determined that respectfulness and manners would be an integral part of training them. Her family moved to Baton Rouge in August of 1989 just as the boys entered first grade. When the teachers and parents voiced concerns about the unruliness in the school cafeteria, Jill, being an eager volunteer, offered to visit the cafeteria one-day a week to talk to the children about the importance of manners. Both the students, as well as the teachers, enjoyed the creativity Jill used to convey these important lessons. For example, remembering to put a "napkin in your lap" was easy when Jill gave the students bright red napkins, and when Jill brought puppets whose mouths were filled with spaghetti noodles, it was easy for the students to realize why they shouldn't talk with their mouths full. Ten years later, there are still stories about the day "Miss Mess" showed up at school to confront "Mrs. Manners"!! Jill's program quickly expanded beyond the cafeteria and into the classroom through the introduction of communication skills and everyday courtesies.

By 1996 other local schools were requesting information about the manners program Jill had created. In response she began writing a formal curriculum that has become known as Manners of the Heart. The title was taken from an understanding of manners instilled in Jill from her childhood ---"an attitude of the heart that is self-giving, not self-serving; manners come from the heart, not from memorizing a set of rules."

Manners of the Heart and Manners of the Heart at Home, the in-home companion, are now being used in schools and homes across the country. Jill is a popular speaker and workshop leader with her seminar, “Raising Respectful Children in a Disrespectful World" and a series for parents and children, "The Heart of the Family Weekend." She uses music, humor and practical suggestions to help parents and educators grasp the critical importance of these life lessons. Stressing that education must begin in the heart --- in the heart of the educator (parents, teachers, grandparents, etc.), as well as in the heart of the child --- Jill is determined to bring the old standard of respectfulness into a new era.