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MONTHLY MEETINGS May 9, 2016 2 nd Monday of every month East Jefferson Hospital 4200 Houma Blvd. Metairie, LA 70006 Time: 7:00 PM – 9:00 PM On the 1 st floor, adjacent to the Hudson St. Garage, Esplanade II room UPCOMING MEETINGS: June 13 October 10 July 11 November 14 August 8 December 12 September 12 REGIONAL COORDINATOR Denise St. Pierre 504-454-5078 [email protected] NATIONAL OFFICE The Compassionate Friends PO Box 3696 Oak Brook, IL 60522-3696 [email protected] www.compassionatefriends.org 877-969-0010 VOLUME 9, ISSUE 5 MAY 2016 Thanks A Hug and Kiss from Me You carried me inside you, for so many days; now that I’m gone, I have some things to say. I’m with you as you wake, and all through the night, I wish I could talk to you, reach and hold you tight. Now that I’m in Heaven, I have no pain or fear, I visit friends and family, do you feel me near? We share in all you say and do, so please remember this, close your eyes and think of me, and I’ll give an Angels kiss. Please don’t be too sad, for I am really happy here, even though when I think of you, I too shed a tear. But always think about the day, that we will meet again; practice your hugs and smiles until I see you then. I’ll ask God to send a special blessing, of this I have no doubt; for we who come here before our moms, have a special clout. And on this year’s Mother’s Day, that is so soon to be, you’ll feel a warmth from Heaven, a hug and kiss from me. Dan Bry ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Mother's Day…Father's Day… Graduations…Proms Spring comes—and with it comes the uneasy awareness of difficult days ahead. For those who are still going through all the "firsts" without your child, we share with you some special ways other parents have coped and managed. Mother's Day…Father's Day…graduations…vacations…these are special family times which often catch us unaware and bring unexpected tears and painful memories of young lives cut short. It does get better! And you can make these special days better with some planning and with encouragement from those who have already been there. Whatever the "special day" that lies ahead for your family, try to focus on doing something meaningful and tangible in remembrance of your child. Share as a family thoughts and suggestions about planting a tree or starting a rose garden, donating a book to the library or school, putting flowers on the altar, lighting a special candle or taking that long talked-of vacation. Tears and moments of sadness are okay, for they are expressions of love. Remember: • Take one day at a time. • Keep things simple by playing down the holidays and special days, while they are so painful. • Change your routine from past years. • Make plans to be "busy" during at least part of the day (go out to lunch or to a movie, or visit friends). • Give your older children some "space." They not only feel your extreme sadness at these times; they also have their own feelings to deal with. The anticipation is often worse than the day itself! From Fox Valley TCF Chapter, Aurora, Illinois ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ BIRTHDAY TABLE: We remembered birthdays in APRIL for: Tynia Alexander; Dylan Burns; Alicia Collins; Lindsay Nichols; Andres Pelaez; Madison St. Pierre. We do encourage both you & your family to come when it is your child’s birthday month, to share your child with all of us. You will receive a special birthday gift in memory of your child. Bring that treasured picture of your child that always makes you smile so we may smile with you. The cake for April birthdays is in memory of Lindsay Nichols and Madison St. Pierre Chapter Leader: Denise St. Pierre 504-265-0581 Email address: [email protected] www.tcfneworleans.com

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Page 1: Thanks 2016 05.pdfMen grieve differently than women and it may be very helpful for fathers to speak to another father about their grief. Dads, feel free to contact Duffy at 985-665-6250

MONTHLY MEETINGS

May 9, 2016 2nd Monday of every month

East Jefferson Hospital

4200 Houma Blvd.

Metairie, LA 70006

Time: 7:00 PM – 9:00 PM

On the 1st floor, adjacent to the

Hudson St. Garage, Esplanade II

room

UPCOMING MEETINGS: June 13 October 10

July 11 November 14

August 8 December 12

September 12

REGIONAL COORDINATOR

Denise St. Pierre

504-454-5078

[email protected]

NATIONAL OFFICE

The Compassionate Friends

PO Box 3696

Oak Brook, IL 60522-3696

[email protected]

www.compassionatefriends.org

877-969-0010

VOLUME 9, ISSUE 5 MAY 2016

Thanks

A Hug and Kiss from Me

You carried me inside you, for so many days; now that I’m gone, I have

some things to say. I’m with you as you wake, and all through the night, I

wish I could talk to you, reach and hold you tight. Now that I’m in Heaven,

I have no pain or fear, I visit friends and family, do you feel me near? We

share in all you say and do, so please remember this, close your eyes and

think of me, and I’ll give an Angels kiss. Please don’t be too sad, for I am

really happy here, even though when I think of you, I too shed a tear. But

always think about the day, that we will meet again; practice your hugs

and smiles until I see you then. I’ll ask God to send a special blessing, of

this I have no doubt; for we who come here before our moms, have a

special clout. And on this year’s Mother’s Day, that is so soon to be, you’ll

feel a warmth from Heaven, a hug and kiss from me. Dan Bry

~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

Mother's Day…Father's Day… Graduations…Proms

Spring comes—and with it comes the uneasy awareness of difficult days

ahead. For those who are still going through all the "firsts" without your

child, we share with you some special ways other parents have coped and

managed. Mother's Day…Father's Day…graduations…vacations…these are

special family times which often catch us unaware and bring unexpected

tears and painful memories of young lives cut short. It does get better!

And you can make these special days better with some planning and with

encouragement from those who have already been there. Whatever the

"special day" that lies ahead for your family, try to focus on doing

something meaningful and tangible in remembrance of your child. Share

as a family thoughts and suggestions about planting a tree or starting a

rose garden, donating a book to the library or school, putting flowers on

the altar, lighting a special candle or taking that long talked-of vacation.

Tears and moments of sadness are okay, for they are expressions of love.

Remember: • Take one day at a time. • Keep things simple by playing

down the holidays and special days, while they are so painful. • Change

your routine from past years. • Make plans to be "busy" during at least part of the day (go out to lunch or to a

movie, or visit friends). • Give your older children some "space." They not only feel your extreme sadness at

these times; they also have their own feelings to deal with. The anticipation is often worse than the day itself!

From Fox Valley TCF Chapter, Aurora, Illinois

~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

BIRTHDAY TABLE: We remembered birthdays in APRIL for: Tynia Alexander; Dylan Burns; Alicia Collins;

Lindsay Nichols; Andres Pelaez; Madison St. Pierre. We do encourage both you & your family to come when

it is your child’s birthday month, to share your child with all of us. You will receive a special birthday gift in

memory of your child. Bring that treasured picture of your child that always makes you smile so we may smile

with you.

The cake for April birthdays is in memory of Lindsay Nichols and Madison St. Pierre

Chapter Leader: Denise St. Pierre 504-265-0581 Email address: [email protected] www.tcfneworleans.com

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ATTENTION: Duffy St. Pierre is the contact person for bereaved fathers who may feel the need to speak with another

dad. Men grieve differently than women and it may be very helpful for fathers to speak to another father about their grief.

Dads, feel free to contact Duffy at 985-665-6250 or you can email him at [email protected] He will be glad to speak

with you.

Newsletter Submissions: TCF Greater New Orleans welcomes all submissions to our newsletter. Send articles, poetry,

love messages and scanned photos to: TCF GNO, 4541 Loveland St., Metairie, LA 70006. Or e-mail text and photos to:

[email protected] As our chapter is only funded by your donations, we ask for a donation of $15 or more for a dedication

for our newsletter. This is tax-deductible. We reserve the right to edit for space and/or content. Deadline for submissions is

on the Child Remembered page of the newsletter each month. TCF Chapters may copy articles from this publication

provided credit is given to the author and the original source. Errors and Omissions: Please notify me if any of your

information is incorrect. Thank you! ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

BIRTHDAY CAKE: Our child’s birthday is still such an important day to us bereaved parents. In TCF this is

where we can celebrate our child’s birthday and remember the love we still have for them no matter how long

it has been since they died. Our chapter is now offering you the chance to sponsor the birthday cake for the

month of your child’s birthday. You may do so by calling Denise St. Pierre (504) 265-0581 to order the cake

through East Jefferson Hospital. The cost for the cake is $40. This way we can all celebrate your child’s birthday.

To all those newly bereaved, who are receiving this newsletter

for the first time and to all our Compassionate Friends, we wish

you were not eligible to belong to this group, but we want you to

know that you and your family have many friends. We, who

received love and compassion from others in our time of deep

sorrow, now wish to offer the same support and understanding

to you. Please know we understand, we care, and we want to

help. You are not alone in your grief.

Meetings are held the 2nd Monday of each month at East Jefferson Hospital, 4200 Houma Blvd., 1st floor adjacent to the Hudson St. garage at 7:00 P.M. We are a self-sustaining

organization with no funds except what we receive through

donations from members and newsletter recipients. Please join

with us at a meeting.

Grief support after the death of a child

The Compassionate Friends is a national non-profit, self-help

support organization that offers friendship, understanding, and

hope to bereaved parents, grandparents and siblings. There is no

religious affiliation and there are no membership dues or fees.

The secret of TCF's success is simple: As seasoned grievers

reach out to the newly bereaved, energy that has been directed

inward begins to flow outward and both are helped to heal.

The vision of The Compassionate Friends is that everyone who

needs us will find us and everyone who finds us will be helped.

Contact:

Phone: (504) 265-0581

Email: [email protected]

www.tcfneworleans.com

4541 Loveland St.

Metairie, LA 70006

Chapter Leader……….....Denise St. Pierre

Newsletter Editor……....Denise St. Pierre

Treasurer…………......…….Debi Giordano

Facilitator……………………Debi Giordano

Steering Committee:

Patsy Ashton, Alice Buuck, Jan & Ted Dutilh,

Debi Giordano, Denise & Duffy St. Pierre

Denise St. Pierre, Regional Coordinator

(504) 265-0581

TCF National (877) 969-0010

www.compassionatefriends.org

The Meeting Agenda

7:00 p.m. - The meeting will begin with a short

introduction followed by lighting of candle and then

reading of the Credo. Remembering our children’s

birthdays of the month. Then followed by smaller

groups of sharing.

9:00 p.m. - Meeting will close by recognizing our

children’s names. Feel free to visit with each other

and check out a book from our library.

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“NEW” NEWS

TCF ANGELS: Loving angels are everywhere – In the smiles that you give; In the words that you say; In gentle

hearts of those who care.” We need “special angels” who care and can help with the work of our chapter. In helping

others – you are healed. Become a “volunteer.”

VOLUNTEER LIST TCF NEEDS YOU!! Call Denise St. Pierre 504-265-0581 to help!

Birthday Table – THANK YOU to Nalani Lynn for calling our members each month for the birthday table.

Greeter – THANK YOU to Nalani Lynn for greeting our new members as they walk through those doors for the

1st time.

Kleenex/Picture Boards – THANK YOU to Charlene and Michael Hoffmeister.

Outreach – THANK YOU to Tiffany Bordelon for giving our Chapter Brochures to funeral homes etc to let the

community know we are here.

Remembrance Poems – THANK YOU to Patti Goens, Tina Rome and Jerrie Vacari for remembering our child’s

Birthday and Anniversary dates.

Thank you to all who help our chapter in memory of their child. Our chapter could not continue without our

volunteers.

BRICKS: The next time to order bricks will be for the December Worldwide Candle Lighting on December 11,

2016. Please send in your brick order form no later than October 15, 2016.

~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

TCF National Conference

The Compassionate Friends is pleased to announce that Scottsdale, Arizona, will be the site of the 39th TCF

National Conference on July 8-10, 2016. "Hope Rises on the Wings of Love" is the theme of next year's

event, which promises more of this year's great national Conference experience. The 2016 Conference will be

held at the The Fairmont Scottsdale Princess. We'll keep you updated with details here, on the national website

as well as on our TCF/USA Facebook Page and elsewhere as they become available. Plan to come and be a part

of this heartwarming experience.

Hotel Reservations

Fairmont Scottsdale Princess

7575 East Princess Drive

Scottsdale, Arizona 85255

Toll Free (Room Reservations only):

(800) 344-4758

[email protected]

(480) 585-4848

If you have any questions about the conference please feel free to ask about it. Many of us have attended.

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Speaker for May 9, 2016 Meeting

Please join us!!

As we all know too well, there is no greater loss in life than to lose a child. For

those of us who know this pain, life becomes different from those around us who

do not understand our loss. We often find ourselves alienating from friends and

family because they often do not understand the intensity of our grief. When my

daughter died 3 years ago, I stood in my front yard struggling to breathe as

emergency staff worked to revive her inside my house. As I prayed to God not to

take her; to send her back; I was consumed with that sinking feeling in my chest

that we have all experienced knowing that “my child is gone.”

One of the things that I have been fortunate enough to experience is incredible

signs and messages from my daughter since that horrible day. Not just believing

but knowing that she continues to live, although not in our physical world, is the

only thing that keeps me going. I have been blessed to have received some

remarkable and unmistakable signs from her. I would like to share my experiences

with others who have suffered this loss and bring hope to them so that they too

might find comfort in knowing that they will see their child again. The one lesson

I learned is that intense grief keeps us from experiencing these beautiful

messages from our children making it difficult for them to reach us. The hardest

part of this journey is to not be consumed with our grief so we may hear/see/feel/

even smell their subtle messages. Once we can put aside our raw grief, even if

just for a moment, we can receive the messages from our children who want us to

know, “I’m still with you. Love never dies.”

Please join me for a discussion on the Healing Messages From Our

Children at the May Compassionate Friends meeting.

Love and light to you all, Kalila Smith, author, Afterlife Mysteries Revealed

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Mother and Son I would give my life to have you back,

Said his Mum

I know you would, said her son.

I cry each night for you, said his Mum

And I catch all of your tears said her son

I pray for the day that I can see you again,

Said his Mum

Close your eyes and you can see me,

Said her son………

You are the first person who loved me,

And you are the first person I loved.

You were always there when I needed you,

And you always knew when I needed a hug.

I am here for you now, Mum

In your heart and in your soul.

I did not take your heart with me

Instead I left mine with you to hold

One day I will take your hand

And lead you to paradise,

But until then my beautiful mother,

When you want to see me

You only need to close your eyes……

E.warby

In loving memory of

Jason Esponge

January 7, 1969 ~ April 4, 2015

Love, Mom, Dad and family

************************************* Though memories can at first be painful, in time they

will soften and become the treasures of your heart.

Like beautiful flowers long ago pressed in a book, they

will bring the best moments of life from the past into

the present for a little while, momentarily reconnecting

your life with others.

Fay Harden Heartlines

***********************************************

A Love Song

The mention of my child’s name

May bring tears to my eyes.

But it never fails to bring

Music to my ears.

If you really are my friend,

Please, don’t keep mePlease, don’t keep mePlease, don’t keep mePlease, don’t keep me

From hearing the beautiful music.

It soothes my broken heart

And fills my soul with love. Nancy Williams, TCF Central Jersey Chapter

THE SIGNIFICANCE OF MOTHER’S DAY

I don’t think I really appreciated the significance of

Mother’s Day until I myself became one. My life would

never be the same and the death of my only child did not

alter the fact that I am still a mother. I still have that

intense feeling of love for my child, a love greater than

any I had known before. So as Mother’s Day

approaches, a day on which we recognize the love and

pride of motherhood, I, too, want to be remembered as a

mother. Ginny Smith, TCF Charlottesville, VA

The Mother’s Day Card

You handed it to me With never a word

Your eyes shone with feelings

That no one else heard.

When I opened the envelope

I wasn’t prepared

Instead of the humor

We so often shared,

There were flowers and rainbows

And butterflies at play

In a beautiful meadow

On a sunshiny day.

Inside was a verse

Like a sentimental song,

As though you knew

That you’d soon be gone.

This card must last me

A very long time.

Is that why you chose

Such a special rhyme?

At the bottom inside

The heart you had done

You wrote, “I love you, Mom,

From Scott, your only son.” Kathi Pittman, TCF Tuscaloosa, AL For Scott Lee Pittman. 1987

************************************ Memories are a legacy

of hope and courage,

left to help us go on

when the giver is gone.

Sascha Wintersun

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BUTTERFLY RELEASE: Our butterfly release on Sunday, April 10th was a beautiful remembrance of

our children, grandchildren, brothers and sisters – loved ones gone too soon. Over 200 people attended.

The Painted Lady butterflies put on a great show – flying up in the air or landing on people’s hair, clothes,

arms, hands!! Seeing them reminded us that butterflies are “signs of new life’ and “symbols of hope” that

our children are living in another dimension with greater beauty and freedom.

Thanks to our TCF angels: Duffy St. Pierre, in memory of Madison & Chris, - who took care of the

butterflies, the music and handmade paper butterflies. Thanks to David Ashton, in memory of David

Allen, for the beautiful pictures he took at the event, featured in The Times-Picayune and this newsletter.

Also thank you, David for helping set up for the event. Thank you to Cookie & Bill Haensal, in memory of

Shelley, for the donation of tattoos. The children were very excited to get these tattoos. A huge thank you to

Alice Buuck, in memory of her son, Jacob for getting Lowe’s to donate plants for our garden. Helping

Alice were Marsha Bohrer in memory of her daughter, Michelle, Lisa Rabito in memory of her son,

Taylor, Julie Cloutier and Bobby Exterstein. And to Duffy St. Pierre in memory of his 2 sons Madison

& Chris, for pressure washing the garden. With everyone’s help our garden was truly beautiful for the

release. Thank you all!

Thanks to our readers: Poems “Beautiful Butterfly” read by Tiffany Bordelon in memory of her daughter,

Raegan, “Remembrance” read by Janice Brady in memory of her son, Christopher; Debi Giordano, in

memory of her son, Nick - “We Are the Love That Remembers” and “His Journey’s Just Begun” read by

Cari Serpas, in memory of her son, Beau Benjamin. Cari and Steven Serpas started The Beau Benjamin

Foundation to help anyone emotionally and spiritually with infant and miscarriage loss. While their main

purpose is to assist others who have experienced the loss of their baby being stillborn. They stated, “We are

helping others by keeping our son, Beau's name alive!” 10/08/2015. Words cannot express our gratitude for

the generous donation they made to our chapter in memory of Beau! A big THANK YOU!

Special thanks goes to Andrew Banks, in memory of his son, Andrew, for the installation of our bricks in

the Garden. Thanks to all who helped to in distributing the butterflies.

And last but not least special thanks to all our TCF members who brought the delicious desserts!

Tiffany Bordelon Laura Kelley

Janice Brady

Debi Giordano

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Speaking from the Heart

Twas the night before vacation and all through the house, not a suitcase was packed yet not even a blouse …

With an early alarm for an 8 A.M flight, neither me nor my wife will get much sleep tonight. I could finish this

corny poem, but you get the idea, I am a last minute packer. And for the record, I don’t wear blouses but blouse

is the only word that easily rhymes with house. What does this have to do with grief? Absolutely nothing, and

that is a good feeling. Now, if I haven’t completely lost you yet, please hang on for another paragraph or so and

let me try to make a point. You see, tomorrow I will be on a beach somewhere in Maui doing something I

haven’t done enough of, celebrating life. Yes, I said it, celebrating living, celebrating beauty, celebrating the

fact that I am not only surviving after loss but I am thriving. As I sat down tonight on deadline for this article I

was stumped as to what to write about. Like all of you, grief was my closest companion for many years and was

at the forefront of my mind as it traveled everywhere I went. But tonight, I didn’t want to write about grief and

sorrow, and tomorrow I don’t intend to let grief cast a shadow or shackle my joy. There was a time when these

words I am writing would have sounded like blasphemy. I would have felt like I was dishonoring Ashley by

merely entertaining the idea that I could once again celebrate life. But today, thanks to the support of my fellow

compassionate friends and the understanding of the grief process I have received from some of the best

professionals in the world, I can claim my freedom to celebrate Ashley’s life by living my life with joy and

passion. So, as I get ready to shut this computer down and start hunting for 7 pairs of shorts, 6 tee shirts, and

one outrageously loud Hawaiian shirt for the luau, let me leave you with a thought. Each of us in our own time

and in our own way gets to decide if and when we are ready to let go of some of the pain. The great hope for all

of us is that we can let go of pain without letting go of love. I am going to celebrate life indeed this week, the

life I am blessed to have and the life I was blessed to have with Ashley. I am leaving the bulk of my pain behind

so that I can pack as much love as possible. Aloha and thanks for allowing me the honor of serving as your

Executive Director, Alan (Alan Pederson is the Executive Director of The Compassionate Friends.) Love Never

Goes Away “Why does it hurt so much? Why is this grief so incapacitating? If only the hurt weren’t so

crushing.” Sounds familiar? All of us have known hurts before, but none of our previous “ouchies” can compare

with the hurt we feel. Nothing can touch the pain of burying a child. Yet most of us have discovered that the sun

still comes up. We still have to function. We did not die when our child did, even though we wished we could

have, so—we are stuck with this pain, this grief, and what do we do with it? Surely we can’t live like THIS

forever! There are no magic formulas for surviving grief. There are a few recognized patterns for grief, but even

those are only guidelines. What we do know is that the emptiness will never go away. It will become tolerable

and livable—some day. TIME—the longest word in our grief. We used to measure TIME by the steps of our

child: the first word, first tooth, first date, first car—now we don’t have that measure any more. All we have is

TIME, and it only seems to make the hurt worse. So what do we do? Give ourselves TIME—to hurt, to grieve,

to cry. TIME to choke, to scream. TIME to be “crazy” and TIME to remember. Be nice to yourself! Don’t

measure your progress through grief against anyone else’s. Be your own timekeeper. Don’t push. Eventually

you will find the hours and days of grief have turned to minutes and then moments—but don’t expect them to

go away. We will always hurt. You don’t get over grief—it only becomes tolerable and livable. Change your

focus a bit. Instead of dwelling on how much you lost, try thinking of how much you had. Try letting good

memories come over you as easily as the awful ones do. We didn’t lose our child—HE [SHE] DIED. We don’t

lose the love that flowed between —it still flows, but differently now. Does it help to know that if we didn’t

love so very much, it would not hurt so badly? Grief is the price we pay for love. And as much as it hurts, I’m

very glad I loved. Don’t let death cast ugly shadows, but rather warm memories of the loving times you shared.

Even though death comes, LOVE NEVER GOES AWAY! Darcie D. Sims

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LOVE DEDICATION IN LOVING MEMORY OF

Randall Mark Grisoli

December 23, 1959 ~ May 15, 1985

Comes The Dawn

After awhile you learn the subtle difference

Between holding a hand and chaining a soul.

And you learn that love doesn’t mean leaning

And company doesn’t mean security.

And you begin to learn that kisses aren’t contracts

And presents aren’t promises.

And you begin to accept your defeats

With your head up and your eyes open.

With the grace of a woman, not the grief of a child.

And learn to build all your roads

On today because tomorrows ground

Is too uncertain for plans, and futures have

A way of falling down in mid-flight.

After awhile you learn that even sunshine

Burns if you get too much.

So you plant your own garden and decorate-

Your own soul, instead of waiting

For someone to bring you flowers.

And you learn that you really can endure…

That you really are strong

And you really do have worth.

And you learn and learn…

With every goodbye you learn.

“Beloved son, brother and Joy of our Lives

Goodnight Sweet Prince”

Mom, Rob, Robin, Rick and Ron

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LOVE GIFT DEDICATION IN LOVING MEMORY OF

Scott Madere

March 1, 1963 ~ April 18, 2002

I thought of you today,

but that is nothing new.

I thought about you yesterday

and days before that too.

I think of you in silence,

I often speak your name.

All I have are memories,

And your picture in a frame.

Your memory is a keepsake,

from which I’ll never part.

God has you in His arms,

I have you

in my Heart.

Scott, you are always in my heart and thoughts. Love, Mom

~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

LOVE GIFT IN MEMORY OF

Beau Charles Tedesco

May 21, 1971 ~ August 28, 2003

Beau’s mother, Madelyn Tedesco in memory of her son, has donated 2 books in the hope these

books help other parents.

Title of books: “Healing After Loss – Daily Meditations for Working Through Grief”

Thank you Madelyn!

*These books will be in our library and you can check them out at the meeting.

~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

DONATIONS IN MEMORY OF

Jarrod Christopher Santos May 11, 1985 ~ May 12, 1985

By his parents Myra & Chris Santos

Judy Leto ~ in memory of someone special

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Our Children Remembered

Andre Melle May 1 Son of Shirley Huggins Timothy Moreau May 3 Son of Penny and Mike Moreau Christopher Guy May 3 Son of Toni Stack Bailey Caroline Durham May 5 Daughter of Jason Durham Brandon Sensebe May 6 Son of Patricia Sensebe Geri Lynn W. Cheatham May 8 Daughter of Linda Wilson Steven Becnel May 8 Son of Pam Briley Jarrod Christopher May 11 Son of Myra Santos Elizabeth Alice Howell May 14 Daughter of Michael & Elaine Howell Timothy David Souther May 16 Son of Lisa Winstell; Brother of Jennifer and David Michael Rose May 16 Son of Stephanie Kimmey Gina Romano Swafford May 17 Daughter of Jim Romano David Joseph Rome May 19 Son of Tina Rome; Brother of Melissa and Paul Lanette May 20 Daughter of Doris and Weston Moreau Elizabeth Ann Hudson May 20 Daughter of Leigh and Kelly Smith Beau Charles Tedesco May 21 Son of Madelyn and Ted Tedesco Ann Myer Walton May 22 Daughter of Cindy Willard Christopher Drefahl May 22 Son of Joe Drefahl Bowie Richard May 22 Son of Tammy Duhon Ross Lee Ammann May 24 Son of Tina Simoneaux; Brother of Marie, Jack and Scott Myles S. Henderson May 25 Son of Cindy and Barry Henderson Gabriela “Gabby” Hebert May 28 Daughter of Rachel and Todd Hebert Dennis George May 30 Son of Lori Wedge; Grandson of Jeri McMullen; Nephew of Patti Goens Lauren Ann May 30 Daughter of Eileen Brocato Eric Matthew Walber May 31 Nephew of Gwen Gaillot May Anniversaries

Mary Lee Bonura May 1 Daughter of Judy and Dominick Bonura James Cabell May 8 Son of Laurie Cunningham David Allen Ashton, Jr. May 10 Son of Patsy and David Allen Ashton, Sr.; Sister of Julie Ana Maria May 11 Daughter of Carmen Sanchez David Andre Folks May 11 Son of Vickie Tullier; Brother of Jared; Grandson of Ellwyn and Joseph Abadie, Nephew of Cindy and Duane Abadie; Lynn and Ronnie Ebersole; Anne and Keith Mayeaux; Julie and Jerry Puyau; Janel and Peter Quitzau Jarrod Christopher May 12 Son of Myra Santos Tynia C. Alexander May 14 Daughter of Charlene Alexander; Sister of Rickie, Jr. and Tiphane Alexander Randy Grisoli May 15 Son of May Glo Monteleone Ron Guillory May 17 Son of Jane Guillory Paige Rogers Mann May 17 Daughter of Stella Rogers; Sister of Deborah and Ken, Jr. Mrs. Kerry A. Degeyter May 17 Daughter of Dee Arnold Amanda Marie May 18 Daughter of Sheila M. Victory Paul Roudolfich May 18 Son of Valence Roudolfich, Sr. Melanie Maddox May 21 Daughter of Pati True-Maddox James Michael Wood May 22 Son of Michael and Jennifer Wood Tyrone Louis Davenport May 22 Son of Tyrone Davenport Scott Warner May 22 Son of Sandy & Melissa Warner Jamie Reinhardt May 23 Daughter of Elizabeth Pena Dennis George May 25 Son of Lori Wedge; Grandson of Jeri McMullen; Nephew of Patti Goens Chester Joseph Reeder III May 26 Son of Deborah Reeder; Brother of Andrew and Kayla Steven Becnel May 26 Son of Pam Briley Joshua LeJeune May 28 Son of Naomie Carter Swanson Kevin Michael Flock May 31 Son of Janice and Jim Flock

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