2010-11-01 outlook: columbus

nov 2010 • vol 15 issue 6

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Julie SerovichGLBT Bullying & SuicideComedian Jason Stuart

trippin’ out Yellow Springs& Local Celeb Shaun

The save our youth Issue

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nov 2010outlookcolumbus.com 3If there’s a room in your home, Janet Garrison would like to rent it. Or at the very least, squat there. Gooeyz didn’t work out, gurrrl.

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nov 2010outlookcolumbus.com 5The masthead went verticle, bitches! Like a snowboarder!

Being a politically-minded monthly does haveone major disadvantage, we always have to waita month to talk about the elections. We’ll be onpress long before early voting is even closed, sowho knows what’s happening as you read this.Did Fisher pull it off? Did Nickie decide wellmaybe not? Have Stinzi’s eyebrows gotten big-ger? In this election cycle, it’s hard to say. WhatI can say is I’m over it. I’m so glad November ishere and I don’t have to hear one more postur-ing lie or misconstrued fact. My commercialswill be bright entertaining bits of consumerisminstead of the negativity and fearmongering. I’mglad just to move on, whatever the outcome.

And in that spirit, I’ll move on to the somethingmore cheerful, my new niece, Layna GraceYakovich. Layna came into the world duringproduction week last month (I would talk to herabout her timing, but she did wait ‘til we werehome from San Fran, soooo…) and she’s beenoccupying my time ever since. If you’ve knownme at all over this past year, I’ve had baby feverbad. Call it my clock ticking, or just the shift inthings I want out of life – babies became veryimportant to me. Fueling this fire has been mycircle of friends, who’ve been popping kids outall over the place. First Kim had her twins, thenAnna had Elena and Bridget and Chuck poppedout Jameson. I couldn’t get enough, and it mademe want my own even more. So of course I’vebeen super excited for my baby sister, who’salso one of my best friends, to have her first kidand the first granddaughter to our clan.Whereas my four nephews all live in Toledo, mysister lives here in town, so my role in Layna’slife will be much more day to day, and it’s beenin the back of my mind that if children don’thappen for me, she will be the closest child Iwill help raise. Not at all a bad gig, so everychance I get I go see her. Newborns are fantas-tic. They are basic, they are complex and theyare in tune with themselves and in a way we for-get. They make you forget everything elsearound you. I could hold Layna for hours (andhave). Holding her, feeding her, staring into hereyes I live in the present moment (a presencethat I’ve needed this month) and the rest of theworld fades away.

She has been my saving Grace. Both personallyand professionally there have been many chal-

lenges lately, challenges that don’t typically cul-minate at the same time for most of us. Andwhere usually I’m able to cope well with adver-sity, I found myself battling depression in a wayI never had before. The anxiety first manifestedin my heart where for over a month I could feelit pounding, misbeating and burning in mychest. I kept telling myself that if we could justget past one hurdle it would settle back down,but when those hurdles got taller my thoughtsmoved to a place that had me thinking taking abottle of pills was easier and more relievingthan dealing with all the crap on my plate. Iknew then it was time for some help. Luckily forme I had the faculties to tell my mom, my sisterand my business partner I was in a bad place.Getting it out of me was the first step, seeing mydoctor and my therapist was the next, and thengetting proactive on my problems was the last.Some beta blockers, anti-anxieties and regulardiscussions later, I’m stable-ish. Things aremoving forward. I am doing my best to live inthe present, living just for today. And that is al-ways my biggest challenge. Whether getting toofar ahead of myself, or dwelling on what weshould have done in the past, I often find in hardto stay in the now and that is when I spin. As Isaid, I’m lucky. I was able to find help and pullmyself out. Unfortunately, many of our youthcan’t. They don’t know how. They have no one toturn to… or at least it feels that way.

The irony doesn’t escape me that all this culmi-nated during a rash of suicides in our commu-nity. Or that we gathered to rally against losingour youth. So as this issue came together, whichwas much more focused on a variety of GLBThealth issues, it seemed more appropriate toaddress just one: mental health. It’s our saveour youth (and everyone else) issue. Suicidehappens when there is no hope. It is importantthat we find ways to reach out to each other, re-mind each other we are not alone, rememberthings will get better, instill hope in those thatneed it and believe better days are not far tocome. Let’s not lose anyone else in our commu-nity.

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nov 2010outlookcolumbus.com 9He’s got neon buggers... gross!

To the Editor:

“Gay baiting” is the nefarious tool used to in-sinuate that a political opponent is gay, withoutsaying the actual word gay or homosexual inthe broadcast of the message. Ken Mehlman,the campaign chairman for President George W.Bush and former chair of the Republican Na-tional Committee, orchestrated this strategy tointimidate unsuspecting voters that gay Ameri-cans were somehow a danger to our society,culminating in the re-election of Bush in 2004.After the guile Mehlman has perpetrated uponour community, he now admits he is gay andasks that we accept him with open arms.

Before we extend the olive branch of forgive-ness to Mehlman, a man who suppressed thegay community and pushed our cause and theentire country epically backward, we imploreyou to consider a few facts. Mehlman was thearchitect of a gay bashing party started in2004 – one which exploited the gay communityand made us a red herring designed to distractthe American people from the concerns of theday: the war in Iraq, global warming, the imple-mentation of sound tax policy and equality forALL of our citizens. He disparaged our commu-nity wherever he could to attain votes. What hedid was not only unethical - it was overtly im-moral and wicked as well. After all of the dam-age he has done, he would now like a pardon asthough nothing has happened.

We believe we speak for most in the LGBT com-munity when we say, “not so fast, Nancy.”Compassion is important, and the gay commu-nity is known for being empathetic - especiallyin cases where someone is struggling to comeout. However, Mehlman’s case is no ordinaryone of struggle. By exploring what he did, in ourown backyard of Ohio, we can appreciate whythis man is unworthy of forgiveness withoutfirst demonstrating measurable contrition.

It is important to understand that Mehlmanwas the protégé to the most deplorable politicalstrategists of our day - Karl Rove. He was also amember of the Republican team that broughtus George W. Bush in 2000. As financial advi-sors, it is our job - regardless of our politicalviews – to consider historical facts when ren-dering our opinion on the economic climate toour clientele. These memorialized economicfacts concluding the Bush years follow: • Over his eight years in office, George W. Bushbrought us two major stock market crashes* –a result unprecedented in any eight-year presi-dential cycle in our nations’ history. • The last of these crashes was a 58 percentdecline in the equity markets (which took placein the 17 months from October 2007 throughearly• Bush created a negative average annual re-turn in the S&P 500 during his tenure, an eventnot seen in 75 years! The cost during thoseeight years to the average IRA, 401(k) and

403(b) owner was considerable. • As a consequence of these events, Americanslost 14 trillion in household wealth in real es-tate and in the stock market, which evaporatedinto thin air in Bush’s second term.

How did Rove and Mehlman manage to accom-plish re-electing a man who was unworthy ofthe job, and quite frankly, in over his head?Well, it took tremendous cunning. They dustedoff the old GOP playbook and used fear to attaintheir objective. As a smart, closeted gay man,Melman likely knew that his own party wouldreject him if he were to come out. So did he usehis own self-loathing to create his strategy? Wemay never know, but we do know the messagehe conveyed was about nothing more thanhate. Mehlman ensured the Gay MarriageAmendment was placed on the ballot in Ohio in2004 in tandem with other similar ordinancesaround our state. He used Ohio’s gay commu-nity as red herring to bait church-going folk tothe polls – and it worked. During his tenure asRNC chair, Mehlman had bills banning same-sex marriage placed on state ballots across thecountry. Here are the states where he and theRepublicans were successful: Arkansas, Geor-gia, Idaho, Kansas, Kentucky, Louisiana, Michi-gan, Mississippi, Missouri, Montana, NorthDakota, Ohio, Oklahoma, Oregon, South Car-olina, South Dakota, Tennessee, Texas, Utah,Virginia and Wisconsin. Mehlman and Roveknew Ohio held the golden key to the WhiteHouse in 2004 and the election would be won orlost in the Buckeye State – it was. Without Ohio,John Kerry would have been elected President in2004.

Mehlman realized gay-baiting white “church-going folk” was not enough. So, he crafted asecond strategy targeting socially conservativeAfrican-American and Latino communities.Leading up to Election Day, Mehlman sentthousands of Republican operatives into work-ing class neighborhoods throughout our statelike Madisonville, Willoughby and Greater Hill-top - passing out flyers insinuating that castinga vote for John Kerry put their heterosexuality atrisk. His team designed and mailed ads tothese communities reading: “One Man OneWoman - One Vote Could Make a Difference inMaking Sure It Stays That Way” – among manyother despicable examples of right-wing propa-ganda.

Under Mehlman’s instruction, the RepublicanParty successfully intimidated tens of thou-sands of Ohioans to vote contrary to their owneconomic self-interest. Gay-baiting prevailed -Bush won an undeserved second term that hashad horrific and deadly consequences for thiscountry and the world. Mehlman’s attacks onus were a direct assault on our rights as citi-zens to be free, get married, and to have thesame tax benefits as our straight siblings, fam-ily and friends. As a result, Bush won almost13% of the African-American and Latino vote in

Ohio in ‘04, a four-fold increase over the priorpresidential election. We estimate gay-baitingproduced about 600,000 state-wide votes,enough for Bush to win Ohio and the ElectoralCollege. Bush won Ohio and the White House byfewer than 119,000 votes!

After this misery wrought upon all of us, his de-sire to become an accepted member of ourcommunity begs the question: Why should weforgive this man?

Not long ago, Ken Mehlman remarked: “It’staken me 43 years to get comfortable with thispart of my life.” Well, that statement is disin-genuous. According to reliable sources,Mehlman patronized gay bars in the D.C. areawhen he worked on Pennsylvania Avenue. So,like his tea party cronies, the facts contradicthis version of the truth. Some have argued weshould feel empathy for the stunted growth ofthis man’s self-awareness. Others in our com-munity have argued that we should pardon hispast offenses because Mehlman can putcheeks in the seats at fundraisers he supports.However, before letting this man “off the hook”as he would like, here are the pertinent ques-tions we need to ask ourselves: • How do we have any sense of integrity, dignityor PRIDE as people if we accept this man’s re-quest for acceptance and let him “walk” with-out showing any remorse for what he has done? • Without measurable contrition on his partfirst, given the atrocities perpetrated on ourcommunity, how do we know he is not a ruse orTrojan horse? • Plenty of gay folks have not taken 44 years toget ‘comfortable with’ themselves, and whileKen Mehlman was growing up he created anatmosphere of contempt and loathing towardthe gay community which will take years toovercome.

Now that the damage is done, he wants our col-lective forgiveness. Well, we intend to lookclosely at what he does, not at what he says.We need to see genuine contrition on his partfirst and foremost. These are our requests be-fore we will consider listening to a single wordfrom him:• Mr Mellman, it is estimated in 2009 that12,000 young adults committed suicide*. Morethan 35% of these adolescents were gay. Forevery completed suicide, another 100 to 200 at-tempts take place. Suicide is the third leadingcause of death in this age group, and the sec-ond leading cause of death on our college cam-puses. The anti-gay fervor you surreptitiouslyenergized only stoked the flames to this fire ofself-hatred. We suggest that you meet as manyof these families as possible who have lost agay son or daughter in order to understand theiranguish for which you bear great responsibility.We also recommend you make generous dona-tions to The Trevor Project, GLSEN and to loveis-louder.com. All are amazing resources for gay,bisexual and transgendered youth who are on

the brink. • Congratulations! You profited eminently fromyour gay-bashing work in Ohio and around thecountry and last year you were able to purchasea $3.77 million condo in the gay neighborhoodof Chelsea in New York. Surely you can afford atleast a $1 million donation to the HumanRights Campaign.• Third, Polaris Financial Partners LLC, invitesyou to attend the Columbus PRIDE Brunch in2011, as our guest. Our firm will pay for yourlodging, meals and airfare. Here, we requestyou make a formal apology and convey you aretruly sorry for your role in developing the mosthomophobic presidential campaign in our na-tion’s history. We insist that you explain why youdeveloped the strategy resulting in your bossthreatening to veto every major bill containinghate crimes legislation originating from Con-gress. • We request that any time you are interviewedby anyone – especially Sean Hannity, GlennBeck and Bill O’Reilly of FOX Noise – you openlyacknowledge what you did was wrong, and thatyour party needs to get right on the issues ofsocial justice for Gay, Lesbian, Bi-sexual andTransgendered Americans.

Unless you are willing to show genuine contri-tion, Mr. Mehlman, you are not forgiven. Youamassed a mountain of wealth bashing yourfellow Gay Americans by spearheading hatecampaigns for one party, and now you want tomake more money “being gay”? At the intersec-tion of Broad and High in Columbus - this ap-pears as nothing more than superficialchicanery. Many of us have experienced the an-guish of hiding our sexual preference for fear ofpersecution or losing careers. Everyone has aright to privacy, Mr. Mehlman, but not the rightto hypocrisy. You sir, have been a hypocrite.When you were in a position of power where youcould have spoken out on the salient issues ofequality and freedom for all of us, you becamea traitor who designed a campaign to send usback into the closet – one that you exited afterprocuring millions for yourself.

Gay Americans get the fact that life is not fair.However, what you did was not only unfair – itwas unconscionable. You exploited millions ofGay Americans in the pursuit of greed, powerand money – nothing more. The recent comingout party you orchestrated for yourself is justanother red herring. Your only task, Mr.Mehlman, is practicing repentance. We hope tosee a genuine effort from you atoning for yourshameful actions. But unlike the gay men andwomen whom you denigrated for years, whopersevere to create, work and live fearlesslyeach and every day, we doubt that you have it inyou.

Robert T. Deitrick and Justin M. DrakePolaris Financial Partners, Columbus

Ken Mehlman and the Red Herring Party

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nov 2010outlookcolumbus.com 11Oh Chad, that tea party drag queen stole your dress!

I Trust Rob Portman

To the editor,

Last evening while watching the candidates whoare running for U. S. Senate I made up my mindwho I am supporting. I was looking for precise,clear answers, I was looking for sincerity andboldness. I saw this and more in candidate RobPortman. Rob Portman has my support, I trusthim. Mr. Fisher and I say Mr. Fisher becauseof his lack of performance and his failure tostand strong for Ohioans, the trust he has bro-ken, I do not feel that he desires to be call Lt.Governor. He constantly repeated himself it isclear that he does not have what it takes to leadand represent Ohioans. Mr. Fisher refuses totake reasonability for the thousand and thou-sand of lost jobs, failing and to stand up forOhioans under the Strickland administration. Mr.Fisher wants to pass the buck and takes noblame himself. He insults me and my fellowOhioans if he thinks that we are buying his ex-cuses and explanations for this mess that hehelped create.

I will vote for Rob Portman and I will encourageothers to do so as well. I believe Rob Portmanwill stand strong and refuse to fold and give upunder pressure. I believe Rob Portman will fighttirelessly for Ohioans and remain honest andtrue. I believe Rob Portman will get Ohioansback to work. I believe Rob Portman will returnus back to a strong Ohio and make us proudthat we have placed him in the Senate. RobPortman is one of us, he has not forgotten wherehe comes from, he will stand up for Ohioans andfight big government. Rob Portman will notcome back to us with excuse and failures. Ohio’sfuture, my future and my children’s future willbe in his hands and I trust Rob Portman.

Brenda L. MackCanfield, Ohio

A Former Gay Democrat; Now AGay Tea Party Republican

To the Editor:

I am Gay, and I have spent nearly half a century as athoughtless “liberal” gay-clone, believing everythingthe gay ghetto and my labor union has told me. I haveblamed the decimation of gay men dying of AIDS onReagan, Bush, Cheney, Rove and Gingrich. I have du-tifully voted Democratic in almost every election sinceJohn F. Kennedy. I have called for a “French Revolu-tion” in America and preached the socialist gospel ofEuropean superiority to anybody who would listen. ButI have changed!

What brought about this change? In one word:Obama !!!

His taxpayer bailouts of the incompetent rich contra-dicted his beautiful rhetoric of condemning the richwhen he campaigned for President. His health-carereform is a farce and does not control costs for anyage group. His star has faded. His luster is dimin-ished, just as millions of people have lost their homesand their employment. He blames Bush, but unem-ployment used to be almost half of what it is intoday’s Obama-world.

He has left us so deeply in debt that China, our pri-mary creditor, is almost certain to become the world’smost powerful economy. Even crumbling socialist Eu-rope is telling Obama he is going in the wrong direc-tion.

He implores us to vote for Democrats; and if we don’t,there will be no funding for AIDS. Yet Bush spent of

millions on AIDS, as did Reagan and Gingrich. I nolonger believe Gay propaganda, Gay editorial writersor the Gay blogosphere.

I am tired of being expected blindly to follow a Demo-cratic Party that usurps my Gayness to raise millions,only to raise my taxes and to promote bogus fear ofRepublicans to extort even more money from myfriends and me.

The Human Right Committee, one of the nation’slargest gay political action groups, always wantsmore money from Gay activists to repeal, “Don’t Ask;Don’t Tell”, the military policy that does not allowopen homosexuality. And, of course, they urge all Gaysto vote Democratic.

Frankly, “Don’t Ask; Don’t Tell” actually works. Themilitary leaves your private bedroom behavior aloneand discreet, patriotic Gays can focus on serving theircountry. If some Gays want to get thrown out of themilitary by forcing their Gayness in their com-mander’s face, then obviously they don’t have thebearing to be in the military.

During this campaign season, I have attended nu-merous GOP and “Gay” GOP events. None of the Re-publican candidates or GOP activists treated me likean alien. All of them welcomed my patriotism and mygayness. Now I realize how much “so-called progres-sive gay activists” lie and exaggerate about right-wing homophobia.

I am fed-up with being told that because I am Gay, Imust vote Democratic! Otherwise, I will hate myself. Iam tired of Gay left-wing demagoguery in the Gayblogs and publications.

In 2008, over one out of three Gay voters voted forJohn McCain in an otherwise dismal year for the GOP.They must have been on to something. I can onlyhope, for my country and for my unemployed friendsand family that even more Gays will vote Republicanin November.

A faithful reader,

Peter RyskeweczRetired Public School TeacherFort Lauderdale, Florida

Most Gays Will Vote Democrat, ButMore Gays Will Vote Republican

To the Editor:

Not all Gays believe that they cannot support and in-tegrate today’s GOP. There are Gay GOP Clubs every-where in metropolitan America, and they are oftenattended by many high-profile, even religious, conser-vative Republican candidates and Party officials.

The GOP is definitely changing regarding Gays.In California, the victorious lead lawyer, Ted Olsen(Google him), in charge of overturning Proposition 8,which denies same-sex marriage, is a conservativeRepublican. He represented George Bush in Bush v.Gore before the Supreme Court in a 2000 decisionthat decided that election. A few months ago this“right-winger” won a monumental victory for Gaysand for “marriage equality”! Not surprising then, thatmany Gays will quietly vote Republican this Novem-ber.

Frankly, Gay Republicans have it right: The gay pressand political class are not very honest with the GLBTcommunity and want us to remain forever paranoid ofexaggerated GOP homophobia. Yet roughly half ormore of Republicans now support “civil unions”, andsupport GLBT non-discrimination in the work place.Today’s GOP routinely welcomes Gays into their BigTent in every urban center in this country.

And, yes, many Gays want repeal of much of Oba-macare, resent being in a position where half of theirfederal taxes go simply to marginally pay the intereston the $1,300,000,000 national debt, and don’t be-lieve the new Democratic Party line that Obamasaved us from a Depression. Most gays only wantmore employers and reasonably secure jobs to returnto American life, not more people on food stamps andfacing home foreclosures in record numbers.

Obama has hopelessly mismanaged the bad situa-tion of “Big Government a la George W. Bush,” only toworsen it with even more “Goliath Size Government”.He borrowed $800 billion from the Chinese, $700 bil-lion from the Japanese, and $400 billion from theSaudis; and yet unemployment has doubled since theDemocrats have run the Congress. Now Obama admits, to the New York Times, that heblew it and is guilty of “perverse pride” in his eco-nomic and health care policy decisions (his words).The only thing Obama has done right is to keep theBush timetable to pull back in Iraq and to bring atleast half of the combat troops home.

Bottom line: While most Gays will continue, reflexively,to vote Democratic in this election, we will learn thatan increasing, elucidated block of Gays will vote Re-publican; even if some, in the Gay press and in theGay political establishment, will disparage it and willnot acknowledge it.

Matthew Tsien, Washington, D.C.former Log Cabin Republicans MD State Chair

Slavery on American Soil

The fastest growing criminal industry in the worldtoday is slavery. Human beings are being bought andsold in an industry that generates $36 billion everyyear. Both sex and labor trafficking are a national andglobal concern, but it is ultimately at the local levelthat the problem can be identified and remedied.Within the United States modern slavery occurs inevery state, including Ohio, but Ohio has no legisla-tion making human trafficking a stand-alone felony.

In Ohio, the Trafficking in Persons Commission esti-mates that there are almost 3,500 foreign born andalmost 3,000 American born youths at risk. Accordingto a 2007 Rand study that examined several sex traf-ficking cases, juvenile victims of sex trafficking werealmost exclusively female, ranging in age from 10 to17, and were equally likely to be black as white. In atypical example, a trafficker will befriend a youngrunaway girl by first providing food and shelter, tolater exploit her through forced prostitution or labor. Inanother example, victims of human trafficking can beforced into prostitution after being kidnapped and re-peatedly raped and beaten.

Hopefully, change is on the way. A number of legisla-tive actions have been initiated to strengthen Ohio’slaws against human trafficking. State Senator TeresaFedor (D-11) has introduced Senate Bill 235, whichaims to make human trafficking in Ohio a felony. Thebill was co-sponsored by Tim Grendell (R-18) ofChesterland. If passed, this legislation will make Ohiolaw consistent with the federal definition of humantrafficking, which has proven an effective tool for fed-eral law enforcement, netting convictions of over 500traffickers and rescuing over 900 child victims ofhuman trafficking. Companion legislation has alsobeen introduced in the House, as HB 493.

These bills are awaiting legislative action and eachfaces some opposition, but public awareness of thiscrucial issue may turn the tide. All Ohioans shouldcontact their legislators and help put an end to slav-ery on American soil.

Jon PowellAdministrative Aide, Office of State Senator Fedor

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By Mackenzie Worrall

Picture a hunky college professor, done up in professor garb (elbowpatches and all). The envy of every girl on campus back in hisOSU days (and he didn’t even play football!) – a real intellectualman’s man. So much so, that he had men swooning at his feet.

Oh, the gay Twenties. They were everything but.

The gay world can thank Ohio for Sam Steward, that hunky pro-fessor and tattoo artist, who kept meticulous notes on the thou-sand-plus men he rendezvoused with over the course of half acentury. His “stud file” included pictures, body dimensions, penismeasurements, what they did together, dates and times of meet-ings – Sam Steward was the Samuel Pepys of gay sex. But hedidn’t collect these studs for nothing. Steward proved a pricelessresource for Alfred Kinsey, becoming his unofficial collaborator onhis study of the sexual behaviors of men. He was particularlyhandy in filming BDSM activities for Kinsey’s studies.

This whip-toting gay-ographer was born in 1909 in Woodsfield, OH(I’ll save you unearthing the map – it’s in Monroe county). Later,when the economy crashed, he made the same choice as manystudents now and just stayed in school, finally graduating fromOSU in the 1930’s with a B.A., M.A., and Ph.D. in English. Per-haps his drive and work ethic came from his unsuccessful at-tempts to ‘fit’ in Woodsfield. Maybe it was that which drove himto Columbus to pursue a degree, and alcoholism. After his motherdied when he was little, and his father became only a recurringcharacter in his life, Sam led a solitary and lonely life.

While he had encounters with countless men, none of them stuck.He never took up with anyone nor did he lead particularly intimate

relationships. With each man he touched, Sam lost a bit of him-self in their sensuality. Unlike his previous troubles with alco-holism, this sexual obsession fed the fires of his documentationand art. Each night drove him to write more, and work harder. Be-fore now, Sam was best known for his erotic gay stories, writtenunder the name of Phil Andros. The pen name existed to keep histeaching career out of jeopardy, but it only delayed disciplinaryaction. He was dismissed from the State College of Washingtonfor a sympathetic portrayal of prostitutes in Angels on the Bough(a novel of sexual desire set in what is probably Columbus). Hiscareer jumped around for a while before he gave up of professor-ship and pursued tattooing. Like his love life, Sam’s work neversettled on one thing. He was a tattoo artist, professor, pornogra-pher, erotica author and collaborator. “I think that like many writ-ers and poets, he was essentially a solitary person who sharedthe best of himself through his writing,” Justin Spring, author ofthe new biography Secret Historian, comments.

The recent attention given to Sam, is thanks to Spring and his bi-ography. After spending a year searching for Sam’s journals andpapers, he discovered them stored safely away in an attic. Thistrove of data led to seven years of writing on Spring’s part. Natu-rally, the manuscript had to be pared down significantly. Springindulges his fascination for 1950’s America with biographies,memoirs and oral histories. Sam’s name continued to appear inthese histories, which got Spring thinking. “I already knew thename Phil Andros, his pen name, through my reading of gay pulpfiction and gay pornography of the 1960’s and 70’s.” And thus, thecreative spark connected. “So when I suddenly realized that Stew-ard and Andros were one and the same I got very excited.” JustinSpring will speak at the Wexner Center on November 2 at 4p.

The talk is the brainchild of Debra Moddelmog, Professor of Eng-lish at OSU and co-coordinator of the Sexuality Studies Program.She had been looking through various funds the English depart-ment had acquired and came across the Steward-Walborn fund.Eric Walborn had been a grad student in 1986 and died of AIDSrelated complications shortly thereafter, but no one knew who theSteward half of the fund was named after. It had been gifted muchearlier for the purpose of funding LGBT resources, but no one hadtouched it in years. The result? Debra discovered a cache of fiftythousand dollars for LGBT activities - and all thanks to an un-known donor.

“But then, serendipitously, my colleague forwarded me an email,”she said. The message was about a new biography of an OSUEnglish grad. When she saw Sam Steward’s name, Debra realizedthat the man documented in this new book gifted the fund. Sub-sequently, Spring’s talk is the first use of the Steward-Walbornfund. Debra plans to use a large portion of the mountainous fundon an academic queer conference sometime next year. While Samis seeing a renewed queer interest, so are two other places closeto home in his world: OSU and Columbus.

Even though living in the academic spotlight is refreshing, bothDebra and Spring agree that Sam’s greatest legacy is his hordeof notes and journals. What he has given us is a window into thelife of men with homosexual tendencies (as he would put it), in atime of otherwise undocumented encounters that challenged thesocial norm. He tried to be honest about his life in his time, andonly now has Sam achieved the openness he wanted.

Debra Moddelmog is Professor of English and co-coordinator of the Sexuality Stud-ies Program at The Ohio State University. Justin Spring’s book, Secret Historian,is out now in hardcover and available for $32.50. Learn more at his website,www.secrethistorian.com.

THE SAMUEL PEPYS OF HOMOSEXUAL BEHAVIOR

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by Sue Doerfer, Executive Director, Equality Ohio

The Equal Housing and Employment Act (EHEA)will protect all Ohioans against discriminationin housing, employment and public accommo-dations based on sexual orientation and genderidentity/expression. Previous versions of similarbills have been introduced five times to the Ohiolegislature with no success. In 2009, EHEA wasintroduced in the Ohio House of Representatives,was assigned to committee, testimony washeard and the Ohio House of Representativespassed the bill with a bipartisan vote.

EHEA still has a chance to get through the Sen-ate and be signed into law in 2010. SenatePresident Bill Harris, has the bill but has not as-signed it to committee for review. The inaction ofSenator Harris has stalled the progress of thebill. After multiple efforts to convince SenatorHarris to assign the bill to committee, includingphone calls, emails, letter writing and in-personmeetings, Senator Harris has indicated that hewill assign EHEA to committee after the electionon Nov. 2nd.

The Senate will return to session on November3rd and will be in session until the Winter breakin mid to late December. Although this shorttime frame makes the passage of this bill achallenge – it is not impossible. The staff andboard of Equality Ohio are fully committed toworking to get EHEA assigned to committee,passed by the Ohio Senate and signed into lawby Governor Strickland.

Although Senator Harris has not yet indicatedwhich committee he will assign EHEA to, it ismost likely that the bill will be given to either theRules or Civil Justice committees. The assignedcommittee will have a chance to review the billand then vote to either pass it to the full Senatefor a vote or to let it die in committee. It is alongstanding tradition of the Ohio General As-sembly that bills that pass one chamber withbipartisan support always get committee hear-ings in the other chamber. We expect this tradi-tion to be honored for HB176.

Senator Harris may chose to keep EHEA to theRules Committee of which he is the Chair. Thiswould give him a chance to maintain anamount of control over the bill and its progress.

Leadership of the Rules Committee also in-cludes Tom Niehaus (R) as the Vice Chair, CapriCafaro (D) as the Ranking Minority Member.Members of the committee are; Steve Buehrer(R), John Carey (R), Kevin Coughlin (R), KeithFabor (R), John Husted (R), Ray Miller (D), ShirleyA. Smith (D) and Jason Wilson (D). Six membersof the Rules Committee would need to vote“yes” to ensure its passage to the full senate.The Democratic Caucus of the Senate havecommitted a uniform “yes” vote on EHEA andsent a letter to President Harris, earlier this year,urging him to assign the bill to committee.

It is also possible that Senator Harris will assignthe bill to the Civil Justice Committee. This com-mittee is led by Bill Seitz (R) – chair, DavidGoodman (R) – vice chair, and Eric Kearney (D)– ranking minority member. Membership in-cludes; Steve Buehrer (R), Keith Faber (R), TimGrendell (R), Dale Miller (D), Joe Schiavoni (D)and Kirk Schuring (R). Five positive votes areneeded from the Civil Justice committee forEHEA to make it to the Senate for a full vote.

When EHEA is passed through the Rules or CivilJustice committee, the bill will be sent to the

Senate floor for a full vote. A majority (of 17votes) will be required to pass the bill and for itto be sent to the Governor’s office. Althoughsome Senators will need education and somepersuasion regarding EHEA, we do have thevotes to get the bill through the Senate – aslong as the bill gets out of committee and to theSenate floor. Governor Strickland has indicatedthat he will sign the bill into law when it reacheshis desk.

The progress of EHEA has been slow butprogress is being made. Equality Ohio will doeverything possible to ensure the passage ofthis bill and we need your support. Lesbian, gay,bisexual and transgender Ohioans have livedwithout these protections for too long. As long asEHEA has a chance of passage in 2010, our ef-forts will be focused on that passage. We, atEquality Ohio, are committed to creating an Ohiowhere everyone feels at home. You can help bystaying in touch through our Facebook page orby signing up for our contact list on our website,http://equalityohio.org.

Sue Doerfer is Executive Director for Equality Ohio. For moreinfo: www.equalityohio.org.

EHEA Will Pass The Ohio Senate - If It Gets Out Of Committee

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Beyond Limits Training Finds a New Homeby Jon Dunn

In their first year of business, Beyond LimitsTraining encountered a challenge that rarelyfaces a new business; they had to move. Theywere comfortably ensconced in the SenecaBuilding and had begun assembling a roster ofclients to train. The location seemed perfect; thecenter of town, residents who were eager to be-come clients and 10 flights of stairs to run upand down in the modest Columbus high rise.However, jump cut to September and the train-ing facility now suddenly finds itself out on EastLong Street in a new space. Wait a minute, howdid that happen?

“We were basically asked to leave our last loca-tion because some residents in the buildingwere complaining about the sound of barbellsbeing dropped on the floor,” co-owner JamesMcGuire explains, shaking his head in disbelief.“But, both parties came to an agreement andwe went our separate ways. Then we had 60days to find a space and then finish the gym be-fore we had to be out of the previous location.”Now the challenge of growing a new businesswas complicated exponentially. Clients were stilltraining at the original facility while James andhis partners rushed to locate, secure and buildout a new location. Once they had located the ELong Street facility, they began building theirdream - all over again.

The facility doesn’t resemble one of the large,big-box gym “fitness factories” that havesprouted up in Columbus. You walk into a dojo-like sanctum that immediately relaxes and fo-cuses you for the task ahead. The former artsupply store has high ceilings and exposed brickwalls that James feels adds a “warmth andnatural light to the rooms.” As part of the re-modeling process, they discovered high arch-ways connecting the two rooms. Jamescapitalized on the happy accident, using thesubtle design feature as an entrance into therooms.

Passing through the reception area in frontleads to an aerobics workout room, completewith ballroom floor and mirrored walls, flankedby two shower rooms and a tanning room.(James is a certified tanning operator.) The nextroom features the stationary machines and con-tinues the brick and mirrors theme. The largeroom in back is what they call “The Playground.”The playground features the free weights andsome unconventional training devices, such aschains, a large tractor tire and 40 feet of thickrope. Each of these items is a tool to provide adifferent kind of workout, and serve as way togauge a client’s level of fitness. “You get windedpretty quickly doing these exercises,” co-ownerRich Lauro notes with a smile. “They also breakup the routine of the workouts, too.”

The idea of starting a gym together happenedover three years ago, and they shared the phi-losophy that the gym should set itself apartfrom the usual training facilities. Beyond Limitsis a natural gym: no steroids for clients, trainersor anyone. “We sponsor the Natural BuckeyeClassic, a competition that features athleteswho are drug free,” says Rich. “We like to prac-tice what we preach and set an example for ourclients.” The hard line against steroids couldput off some potential clients, but these are notthe clients that Beyond Limits wants to train.

So has that hard line hurt their business? “No, ithasn’t,” explains Rich, “Some clients have beento gyms like that, and we’re a breath of fresh air.It’s a friendlier environment, less competitive. Infact, it’s been an opportunity for us.” All of thetrainers were “hand picked for their abilities,commitment and for training steroid free. Theyare just as committed to their clients as they areto their own goals. Of the seven trainers, fivehave gone on to compete in natural bodybuild-ing events. The walls at Beyond Limits are linedwith trophies and pictures of clients holdingposes or sporting their own awards. Jamespoints to a picture with seven clients, six whotook first place in competitions at the Cardinal

Classic held in Akron earlier this year. These area subtle testament to the Beyond Limits philoso-phy of setting goals and training to reach them.

“We like to think of ourselves as a ‘results-dri-ven’ shop,” James says, “Everyone coming inhere has a goal and we want them to see re-sults.” In fact, a blackboard on the playground’swall displays a list of client’s goals and accom-plishments. Rich explains that “A lot of gymshave generic training programs, but we don’t doit that way. If you come in here and say to us ‘Mygoal is to learn to surf,’ I’m gonna write on theblackboard Jon wants to surf, and we will makesure that you achieve that goal.”

Because of the smaller size, the gym fosters afeeling of a community, like it’s a team effort. “IfI’m training you and another client walks in, I’llbe sure to introduce you to them,” James says,adding “This way, if you wind up working outnext to each other, it won’t feel strange; you’llknow each other.” This attitude stretches acrossall the trainers and is the principal philosophythat James and Rich are trying to get across,that all are welcome and can train togetherwithout exclusion.

“Everyone should be comfortable here, not justjocks.” says Rich. “Anyone who wants to get agood workout and feel like they can belong iswelcome.” This welcome extends to all agegroups, ability levels and members of the LGBTcommunity. “In a city with such a large con-stituency of GLBT residents, it would be foolishnot to welcome members of the community.Both Rich, James and their business partner,Greg Woods, have family and friends who aregay, as well as a number of gay clients. And sur-prisingly, James says that the majority of BLTclients are female, and they have the picturesand awards lining the walls of the studio toprove it.

A testament to James’ dedication is displayedwhen he shows you where he stayed for the lastfew weeks. In a small corner off to the side of

the main workout room, James has a small “ef-ficiency” apartment set up with a bed, mi-crowave and access to the facilities. Of theSpartan existence, James added that it was“easier to stay here and work on the gym, just toget it ready. We’ve had clients, family, friends...everybody’s been helping us out.” He estimatesthat he spent nearly 20 hours per day workingon the gym during the renovation period. “I hadpractically no time for anything else...”

He did, however, find time to keep training in-tensely for his competition at the INBF Natural-mania Nationals in NYC back in September. Thehard work paid off: James was the WBNF ProCard Winner, taking first place. Make sure tovisit the Beyond Limits Training website andFacebook to see pictures of James during thecompetition, he looks positively huge! With onlya little prodding, James peels off his shirt topose that winning physique for some photos inthe gym.

When he describes his past as an HVAC andconstruction worker, it’s easy to believe that therobust, muscular man speaking to you wouldhold these kind of jobs, but James is just asquick to explain that five years ago, he was notthe man he is now.

“I weighed about 135 pounds, smoked too muchand drank too much, was going through a di-vorce and just did not feel good.” He made aturnaround when he saw Rich compete early in2005. “Rich started training me in the fall ofthat year and a year later I won the ONBF Natu-ral Ohio competition. It’s amazing what you cando when you set a goal and then find the way toreach it. If I can do it, anyone can.”

Beyond Limits Training is located at 294 E. Long Street andyou can reach them @ 614.824.BODY (2639) or visit thewebsite at beyondlimitstraining.net or on Facebook. ContactJames via email at [email protected]. The fa-cilities also feature supplements from The Nutrition X.comline of products. Beyond Limits Training is open 24 hours aday, 7 days week with membership keycard and they alsooffer free off-street parking.

Beyond Limits Training Finds a New Home

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outlookcolumbus.comnov 201018 Get tested - Know your partners status. Know yours!

by Michael Daniels

It’s not possible to talk about HIV and AIDS with-out talking about knowledge and disclosure - doyou know your HIV status, and do you communi-cate that to your partner(s)? Understanding thefactors that lead men who have sex with men(MSM) to disclose or not disclose their HIV sta-tus, and giving them strategies to mitigatethose factors is critical to fighting the spread ofHIV and AIDS.

Enter Julie Serovich, Professor and Chair ofHuman Development and Family Sciences atThe Ohio State University. Serovich has long hadan interest in couples and families, beginningher career as a couples and family therapist.“My interest has always been in families, how-ever you define ‘family,’” Serovich says. “It has,for me, always been about communication andrelating to one another.”

It would be easy to assume that Serovich, anopenly lesbian counselor, researcher, and pro-fessor, got her interest in HIV/AIDS disclosure re-search by being a member of the GLBTcommunity. But the roots of her interest in thistopic lie not within her GLBT family, but withinher blood family. “In 1989, my grandmother be-came infected with HIV,” Serovich says. “Thusmy entire family became affected by HIV, and wejust didn’t know how to talk about it. Should wemention it? To whom? How? What should we sayto grandma, to each other, to friends? And Iknew if we didn’t understand these dynamicseven within our own family, then we didn’t un-

derstand them within the greater community.”And thus her passion, and her research, waslaunched.

Research into the topic of HIV status disclosurebetween MSM has been fraught with debate. Ifeveryone were to have safe sex every time, dis-closure would be unnecessary is one line ofthinking. Some states, including Ohio, havecriminalized failure to disclose by HIV positivepeople, thus ‘forcing’ them to reveal their statusor face severe criminal charges. Shouldn’t thesemessages and penalties be enough?

Research data, including some of Serovich’sown findings, indicate not. A Centers for DiseaseControl report in 2007 found that despite wide-spread educational campaigns and interven-tions, only minimal progress has been made incurbing HIV transmission rates between MSM.“And why must it be the responsibility of the HIVpositive person to disclose status?” Serovichasks. “Why can’t HIV-negative people be ex-pected to disclose? The question really is do youreally want to communicate openly and honestlywith each other or not, and if you do, do youhave the tools and strategies you need? Frankly,it would be a large moral injustice to not under-take this work.”

I’d never thought of it that way before. I’d neverdoubted that, as Serovich writes in her AIDS Ed-ucation and Prevention article in 2009, “(that)nondisclosure of HIV-positive status may be akey contributor to HIV transmission because itmay leave partners with a false sense of secu-

rity when engaging in risk-related behaviors.”That made sense. But then I read her next sen-tence. “Willingness by a potential partner to en-gage in unprotected sex without disclosure of anegative status may be interpreted by some HIV-positive persons as a sign that the partner ispositive.”

It was one of those eurekamoments for me. Weall view the world from our own point of view.Most straight folks assume everyone is straightuntil they’re told different. Many of us assumeanyone in the gayborhood or in our bars is gay,bi, or lesbian, until they introduce us to their op-posite-sex date. Those of us who are HIV-nega-tive often assume everyone is negative until weare told otherwise. Why wouldn’t HIV-positivepeople assume that everyone is positive unlessthey disclose themselves as HIV-negative?

Serovich is currently undertaking the only fully-randomized clinical trial for intervention and un-derstanding HIV status disclosure among MSMin the nation, funded by a grant from the Na-tional Institutes of Health. “Disclosure is aprocess, not an event,” she says. “Some menmay give hints, seeking feedback from potentialpartners. Some are fearful of rejection based ontheir HIV status. Some may have different dis-closure strategies depending on where they pickup their partners, how seriously they feel aboutthat person as a potential long-term partner, orwhere they are in various aspects of their lives.”

“Our research isn’t about persuading people todisclose,” Serovich continues, “nor is it about

convincing them to do so. It’s about under-standing why some do and some don’t, findingout what the fears and obstacles to disclosureare, and then coming up with tools and strate-gies that we can give MSM so that they canmake more informed, rational decisions. In thatway, it’s about keeping a community healthywith everyone taking an active part.”

Truly, every one of us, gay and straight, HIV-posi-tive and negative, male and female, top andbottom, has an active role to play in keeping ourcommunity healthy. Thanks to the willingness ofthe HIV-positive and MSM communities in cen-tral Ohio, Serovich and her team are pioneeringwork that could result in a prevention and dis-closure program for HIV/AIDS organizationsacross the nation. Columbus is once again onthe cutting edge, and our community is lucky,proud, and honored to have Julie Serovich fight-ing alongside us, with us, and for us, in the bat-tle against HIV and AIDS.

Contact Professor Serovich at [email protected]. Learnmore about her research study and get involved at www.re-searchprojectoffice.com or 614.688.4168. HIV-positive MSMages 18 and older, can earn up to $235 for their participa-tion. Read her paper in AIDS Education and Prevention,21(3), pp 207-219, ©2009, The Guilford Press. Know yourown HIV status and get tested regularly – visit the Colum-bus AIDS Task Force at www.caft.net or just show up at theirstandard walk-in testing times, every Tues 3:30p-7p andevery Weds 11a-2p at 4400 N High St, or The Tobias Projectat www.tobiasproject.org and their walk-in testing timesevery Mon and Weds, 3-7p at 1000 Atcheson St, 2nd Floor.Take care of yourself - Take care of your community.

Know Your Serostatus, Then Get To Know Julie SerovichOSU Professor Engages in Pioneering Research on HIV Disclosure

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outlookcolumbus.comnov 201020 My what a big gun you have.

by Leslie Robinson

Boy, there’s been a lot of action around Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell(DADT) lately. Let’s all follow the bouncing ball.

On September 9, a federal judge in California declared DADT un-constitutional. Judge Virginia Phillips of Federal District Courtstruck down the military’s ban on openly gay soldiers after theplaintiffs challenged the law under the First and Fifth Amend-ments to the Constitution. It was the Log Cabin Republicans thatbrought the suit.

On September 10, every gay organization kicked itself for allowingthe gay GOP’ers to get there first.

On September 12, two gay and two lesbian soldiers, all DADT vic-tims, escorted Lady Gaga to the MTV Video Music Awards. The fivepeople involved wore dress uniforms - for Lady Gaga, an Alexan-der McQueen ensemble including tall gold feathers on her head isa dress uniform. The former military members looked dignifiedand handsome.

On September 13, I wondered if I could get a military escort forgoing to Safeway.

On September 20, Lady Gaga turned up in Portland, Maine, tospeak at a rally aimed at pressuring the state’s two senators tovote for DADT repeal. She suggested a new policy for straight sol-diers who are “uncomfortable” being around gay soldiers.

She said, “Our new law is called ‘If you don’t like it, go home!’”

On September 21, every American soldier in Afghanistan and Iraqclaimed to be uncomfortable around gay soldiers and asked to gohome.

Also on September 21, political D-Day arrived. The “D” wound upstanding for “Doofuses.” In the Senate, each Republican and twoDemocrats voted against repealing DADT. Everybody accusedeverybody of playing politics, and everybody was right.

This vote was a blow to the gay solar plexus. But it’s possible the

Senate might address the issue again after the elections. We canhope during a lame-duck session the senators will act more likeowls and less like ostriches.

Often in our struggles we’ve had to count on politicians, judgesand voters treating us fairly because it was the right thing to do.Now we actually have public opinion on our side - according to arecent ABC News/Washington Post poll, over 75 percent of Ameri-cans think gays should be allowed to serve openly in the military.Such approval feels weird, but I could force myself to get used toit.

Again on September 21, the GLBT site JoeMyGod.com reported onthe Senate vote, and someone left this comment: “All Faggotsmust die.” The message was traced to the office of Georgia Re-publican Sen. Saxby Chambliss.

On September 22, Chambliss’ office issued a statement sayingthat so far it was unknown which person there left the comment.Then I issued a statement saying apparently the senator hiresstaffers with the soul of a plum pit.

On September 23, U.S. government lawyers filed to stop JudgePhillips (see September 9) from issuing an injunction that wouldimmediately halt DADT. They argued she should confine any in-junction to the 19,000 members of the Log Cabin Republicans.

Now there’s a bizarre idea. Only Republican gays can be soldiers.

In further bizarreness, the White House tried to explain why gov-ernment lawyers were defending a policy President Obama wantsto eradicate. Press Secretary Robert Gibbs must go through Ex-cedrin like candy.

On September 24, a federal judge in Tacoma, Wash., ruled thatMaj. Margaret Witt, a lesbian and decorated flight nurse bootedfrom the Air Force, should get her job back. U.S. District JudgeRonald Leighton, an active Republican, became emotional as herecalled some of Witt’s testimony.

He decided her discharge advanced no legitimate military inter-est, and in fact weakened her squadron. So an open lesbian is

going back to the military.

Two weeks of a DADT roller coaster. Forget cautiously optimistic—I’m nauseously optimistic.On Oct.12, Phillips issues a permanent injunction barring the U.S.military from enforcing "Don't Ask, Don't Tell." There was much re-joicing, and almost immediately the Pentagon issues

Oct 14 The Obama administration, insisting that it supports re-peal of the ban but favors a political solution over a court-im-posed one, asks the judge to lift her injunction while the caseremains under appeal.

Oct. 18, Phillips tentatively rejects a request by the U.S. Depart-ment of Justice to lift her injunction.

Oct. 20, After the Justice Department files for a stay, the 9th fed-eral appeals court in California grants a temporary stay, reversingthe worldwide injunction of DADT issued by Philips. The actionmeans the Pentagon’s ban on service members who are openlyhomosexual is, once again, in full force. The Obama administra-tion makes it clear that the Justice Department is required to up-hold standing law, and that while the President once favors therepeal of DADT, the administration wishes to make certain thatthe matter is handled in a way that makes the reversal of repealnearly impossible.

Oct. 21, Under orders from Defense Secretary Robert Gates, only asmall handful of officials, including the secretaries of the Army,Navy, and Air Force, can decide whether or not to discharge serv-ice members under the law that prohibits openly gay servicemembers from being in the military. Any such moves now requiretheir “personal approval.” They must further do this “in coordina-tion” with the Pentagon’s top lawyer, Jeh Johnson, and CliffordStanley, undersecretary of defense for personnel.

Almost two months on the DADT roller coaster. Forget cautiouslyoptimistic--I'm nauseously optimistic.

Leslie Robinson goes through candy like candy. E-mail her [email protected], and check out her blog at www.gener-algayety.com.

DADT’S HECTIC Autumn

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nov 2010outlookcolumbus.com 21With closets like these, who would ever come out?!

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outlookcolumbus.comnov 201022 Now, Dr. Walker is good -we know. But, there ain’t nothing wrong with this feller.

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nov 2010outlookcolumbus.com 23Chad Frye asked for his chin to be photoshopped... I did what I could with them.

by Mario Pinardi

If you believe that only straight folks bully gays, then you are ex-tremely delusional & are still trippin’ on Ecstasy. While my heartgoes out to the families that are in so much pain because theirloved one has taken their own life, there is still a lot of harm donewithin our own imperfect land of rainbows. So, listen up, fuck-oand get your head out of your so-called “I am so victimized by thestraights” ass. Look around you, and acknowledge the bullyingand harassment that goes on in the gay community everyday.What? Gays can’t bully other gays? Bullying has no sexual orien-tation or identity, dickhead. I know this month’s rant will piss peo-ple off, well, so what. I am angry because there are kids takingtheir lives because they have been bullied and not accepted be-cause of who they are, and I am angry because there are gayswho feel constantly excluded because of our actions, our behav-iors, and our over-inflated egos.

Before I go any further I would like to define the term, “bullying.”bul·ly [bool-ee] noun: 1. a blustering, quarrelsome, overbearingperson who habitually badgers and intimidates smaller or weakerpeople; 2. a man hired to do violence. verb (used with object) 3.to act the bully toward; intimidate; domineer. verb (used withoutobject) 4. to be loudly arrogant and overbearing. Well, many ofthese words describe some of shitheads I encounter on HighStreet on any given night. Also, many of these words describesome density that is displayed in forums of social media. I thinkthe timing of this story is appropriate for me to write because I re-cently had an unfortunate encounter at one of my favorite restau-rants on High Street.

Hubby and I were having a lovely date night and a dear friend ofmine came into the restaurant, so of course, I went over to ex-change pleasantries with him and meet his guest. I noticed twomen sitting next to my friend that were giving me the “toe to

head” scan and overtly giggling, several times. Now, I do notclaim to be a fashionista, but I do dress body type appropriate & Ilike to invest in nice clothing when possible. I am a pretty toughcookie, but the overt giggling and staring made me feel like a biggay faux pas at that moment. Now, if I was a straight man (Iknow, that’s hard to imagine) and if I decided to giggle and stareat those two gays who were making fun of me that would be con-strued as bullying or hostile and I might be removed from therestaurant. We, the gays, call it catty when we do it to our ownand we also find this acceptable. Catty is still bullying in anotherform because being catty creates an atmosphere of intimidationand arrogance. Now, we are all guilty of being catty with our“homo homies” towards each other because we are familiar witheach other, but being catty to the point of malice is not acceptableand is plain hateful. I have found that I have been a receiver ofmore bullying in the gay community than in high school and ingrowing up in Steel City, and this is not the kind of receiver I wantto be.

Gays are also the masters of social media. We are the pioneers ofsocial media because the World Wide Web was the easiest way forus to get some worldwide cock. On the flip side of this, we alsouse social media to denigrate and demean our own gay brothersand sisters. I know I am a Facebook floozy, and I love to read myfriend’s posts and reactions to my posts, especially when I havehit a nerve or pushed my limit. Recently, I started a discussionabout Halloween and costumes, and I found a “Cheeri-O” outfitfrom Glee in my size, so I stated that this would be a hoot and Imight try it. Most of my friends gave me a “you go girl,” and thenone friend tried to politely suggest that I dress as Sue Sylvester,and that the other more fit friend of ours should be the “Cheeri-O.” I thought “Wow.” Fatsophobia, maybe? I firmly believe thatthis friend did not have a negative intention in stating his cos-tume suggestion for me, however, understanding the context ofthe conversation and the person involved (me), a truer friend

would have exercised a bit of sensitivity. There is a difference inbeing honest and tactful with feedback, instead obviously recog-nizing a difference as a negative thing, meaning me, being big-ger, should not publicly wear a cheerleading costume. I know youlaugh or scoff, but it is this type of subtle negativity that makes aperson feel devalued and feel not included. This subtle negativityis still a form of bullying. The message is that “you are not asaesthetically attractive as I, therefore you are a lesser person.”Mo’Nique said in her book that skinny bitches are evil, well, unfor-tunately, most of them are and most of them are bullies with amore subtle style.

This rant is for all of the hypocrites and for all of my bullied, butbeautiful gay & transgender brothers and sisters. For the hyp-ocrites, understand that while it is acceptable to feel pain & sor-row for those who took their lives & to broadcast your feelings onFacebook or Twitter, however, it is not acceptable to be malicious& exclusive to your own community. Bullying is not initiated bystraights only. And, for my bullied gay & transgender brothers &sisters, do not accept disrespectful behavior from your own inorder to be included. And, do not feel that you have to fit a stereo-type in order to be included. Believe that you are beautiful, andbelieve that you have friends that are good people and love you forwho you are, and not what image you’ve been positioned to cre-ate.

Please think twice before being a catty bitch, and please under-stand that there is always a consequence for your actions andwords. I believe in karma & I believe that good will always be rec-ognized. Don’t fuck with karma, because she will fuck you back.And, to the guys who chose to giggle and eye ball me at therestaurant, remember this fact: you will get fat and old, andsomeone else will make fun of you in a few years, so get over your-selves now, because I am stronger and I have more insurance.

Sometimes the Bully has a Friendly Face

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God Damn Youby Mickey Weems

When Cain killed Abel, God approached Cain,and asked him the whereabouts of his murderedbrother. Cain smarted off to the Almighty, say-ing, “Am I my brother’s keeper?” God replied, “Iheard your brother’s blood cry out to me from theground.”

I am almost deaf from the sound of blood. Iwake up in the morning hearing victims cryingout. They call to me throughout the day until Ifall asleep.I must write this article before the voices ofqueer dead youth cross the border from my wak-ing consciousness into my dream world. Sleep isthe only place where I am not in a state of beingperpetually pissed off.

I call to Heaven against the perpetrators: GodDamn You.

Baseline Compassion: Like Father, Like Son

My father, Ray Martinez-Weems, called me threetimes in one day last week. When I did not re-spond, he called my husband, Kevin. I thought itwas a family emergency.

Daddy was upset about the suicide at RutgersUniversity, when 18-year-old Tyler Clementikilled himself after his roommate made a videoof him making out with another guy and broad-cast it. Such bullying angered my father to thepoint where he needed to vent it with me.

We often talk politics, Daddy and I. He isstaunchly (but often atypically) Conservative. Iam extremely Progressive, to the point whereeven many Progressives think I go too far. Con-versations with my father are wonderful be-cause we both love to grandstand. Weappreciate each other’s verbal dexterity and(more than a little) melodrama as we make ourrespective points. It may be my inheritance fromhim- of his 5 sons, I am the only one with hisbirth name (Ray, my middle name) and thename of his patron saint (Michael the Archangel- Daddy’s a paratrooper).

When I came out to my family, the one person Idid not worry about was my father. He hadserved with homosexual soldiers, saw one com-petent officer stripped of his rank, and knew an-other soldier who volunteered to serve inVietnam, only to die there. For years, Daddy hasbeen vocal against the military’s discriminationbased on orientation.

Same-sex marriage, however, is something else.We do not see eye to eye. His solution to me mar-rying Kevin, the love of my life: Daddy does notaccept Kevin as his son-in-law, but rather as hisson. Nice dodge!

Despite our differences, my parents and I sharea baseline compassion that overrides our poli-tics. Some things are simply unacceptable. Isuspect that neither Tyler nor the young manwho spread the video came from such a family.In addition, Tyler’s murder (and I do believe itwas murder) was a group effort that includes

everyperson whowatched the video,laughed, and told others.

The Invisible Ones

“They should be shunned,” Daddy said aboutTyler’s torturers.

For me, shunning is not enough. Most of the bul-lies are invisible - they are never confronted,never accused, never punished. But they aremurderers nevertheless, responsible for a rashof suicides by youth who were taunted andphysically assaulted for being queer or evenlooking queer. Dan Savage put out an emotional,rather maudlin response to these kids: hewishes he could have spoken to them, assuredthem that things would get better. Tim Gunn’smessage is more blunt- he talks about his ownteen suicide attempt.

As kindhearted as Savage’s message is, itmisses the point. He tells a twelve - or thirteen-year-old that things improve after high school.In other words, young queer, you have at leastfive more years of unbearable hell. Truthfully, hismessage is mostly for those of us who are al-ready adults so we feel better, so we feel like weare doing something, anything.

But there is a second, more devastating issue.For many of these kids, the problem was notsimply that they were bullied. It is much deeper,starting at home and reinforced in school, reli-

gioustraining, andeveryday social inter-actions. So many of ourqueer youth have been brainwashedinto believing they could not possibly behomosexuals or transpeople. They are bom-barded with this message: better dead than afaggot.

Nothing personal.

And things surely didn’t improve for TylerClementi once he left high school.

To Dan Savage, Ellen DeGeneres, and otherLGBT personalities: many of these young peoplewould not have spoken with you in the firstplace, no matter your intentions. You’re So Gay,and that’s exactly what they so desperately donot want to be. Even if you were Straight, theimplication of queerness induces internalizedpanic. Like their peers who beat them up, manyof these kids crave to be unnoticed, invisible.They are presented no other option.

And don’t believe that enforced invisibility andsuicide are new phenomena. When my Kevinwas a teenager in the early 1990s, he was sentto an insane asylum for suggesting that hemight feel same-sex attraction. Yet nobody even

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HIPSD

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bay Bellywood@ Lincoln

Theatre, 769 E Long St,www.capa.com

: Catch theworld’s prem

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bus Centeron High, 1160 N High St,www.stonewallcolum

bus.org:Join Stonewall Colum

bus andAART Ohio in a conversation onLGBT aging. Through an openexchange of ideas you can dis-cover new way of ensuring thatour LGBT citizens and theirneeds are equally representedand considered within theAART organization. 6:30p; free.

FRIDAY, NOVEMBER 5G

ETIT? GETIT?

Plastic Pleasure@ Colum

busPerform

ing Arts Center, 549Franklin Ave,www.am

erifluff.com: Plastic

Pleasure will star Anna TheAnnadroid and feature anarm

y of her virtual clones, TheAnnadroids. In this one-wom

an show, she tells atwisted story through originalmusic, dance, aerial dance

and surreal video projections.Kelli Martin of Project Runway

will be creating a beautifulcostum

e collection for this pro-duction. This is Anna’s farewellperform

ance. Nov 5 & 6, 8p;$10 (adv), $15 (door).

SATURDAY, NOVEMBER 6G

OGREEN! W

ITHENVY…Green Gala

@ Colum

busAthenaeum

, 32 North FourthSt, www.theoec.org: Join theOhio Environm

ental CouncilBoard, staff, m

embers and

Ohio’s environmental-conser-

vation community to celebrate

the power of green! Enjoy a fullevening of dinner, cocktailsand a silent auction to honorthe winners of the 2010 Envi-ronm

ental Achievements

Awards. 6p – 9p; $50 (mem-

bers), $75 (non-members, in-

cludes one-year membership),

$450 (table of ten).

SUNDAY, NOVEMBER 7ELBOW, W

RIST, ELBOW, WRIST

Miss Wallstreet Pageant 2011

@ Wallstreet Nightclub, 144 N

Wall Street, www.wallstreet-nightclub.com

: Strut your stufffor a chance to win $1,000 incash and prizes. Em

brace thethem

e “glitz and glamour”

however you want! The contestis open to the first 10-15 girlsyou register, so get on it. 8p -1:30a; $5 cover (free for con-testants); $30 table (seats 4-5).

MONDAY, NOVEMBER 8I Think its W

elsh...Next @

Wex @

Wexner Centerfor the Arts, 1871 N. High St,614.292.3535, wexarts.org:This popular series introducesyoung indie scene m

usic inno-vators in our intim

ate blackbox venues and welcom

esbreakout bands to larger the-aters. First up is The Joy Form

i-dable, a Welsh trio now basedin London, have built an inter-national buzz with darkly om

i-nous fuzz-toned slabs of soundriding sugar-sweet m

elodies.Mon, Nov 8, 2010 @

9:00p inthe Perform

ance Space at theWexner Center. Tickets are $12at the Center.

TUESDAY, NOVEMBER 9You Break it, You Bought ItMasayuki Miyajim

a: RefinedFunction

@ DAC Main Gallery,

7125 Riverside Dr, Dublin,614.889.7444, www.dubli-narts.org: a solo exhibition of

Japanese ceramics. The exhi-

bition opens with a receptionfor the artists at DAC on Tues.,Nov. 9 from

6p-8p. Show Nov9-Dec 17.


JUSTDON’TFEEDTHEM...

Biker Bear Happy Hour @Tradewinds II, 117 E ChestnutSt, 614.461.4110,www.tradewindsii.com

: Ahappy and hairy tim

e with theColum

bus Ursine Brotherhoodand their bear, cub and adm

ir-ing friends; Happy hour from4p-9p; No cover.

THURSDAY, NOVEMBER 11THATTHINGN

EEDSREW

RITTENANY-WAY…The Most Fabulous Story EverTold

@ Trafick Bar & Night-

club, 205 N Fifth St, www.face-book.com

/olympictheatreprodu

ctions: High camp. Com

edy.I’m

sold. Hop on over to Trafikfor this gay retelling of theBible for the first act, while thesecond act flashes forward toa Christm

as party in Chelsea.7p - 10p; $15 (single), $25(half table for 2), $50 (fulltable for four).

FRIDAY, NOVEMBER 12N

OTTHEYBLOW...

The Blow with Melissa Dyne@ Wexner Center for the Arts,

1871 N. High St,614.292.3535, wexarts.org:Khaela Maricich, who perform

sdelightfully wry, lo-fi electro-pop under the nam

e the Blow,returns to the Wexner Centerwith a special show that fur-thers her keen interest inboundary-blurring perform

-ance cabaret with a shim

my-

ing beat. 9p; $12.

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KEEPSAYING“W

AKEUP,

WAKE

UP!”Nightm

are at Shadowbox 2@ Shadowbox Live, Easton

Towne Center,614.416.7625, shadow-boxlive.org: This Fall Shad-owbox Live turns tricks andtreats into fright night withits newest them

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at Shadowbox. Originalsketch com

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aster.com: Work-

ing my way back to

you…Tem

pting, very tempt-

ing. 7p; $20-$50.

MONDAY, NOVEMBER 15H

EY, GARGOYLE!

Service Industry Night@Level Dining Lounge, 700 NHigh St, 614.754.1342,www.levelcolum

bus.com: $1

Domestic Draft, $2 Dom

esticBottle, $3 Well Cocktails, Com

-plim

entary Nacho Bar. Startsat 9p.

TUESDAY, NOVEMBER 16D

IRTYROTTENB

ASTARDS!Dirty Rotten Im

beciles (DRI)@

Newport Music Hall, 1772N. High St, 614.294.1659,www.prom

owestlive.com/venu

es: Punk rock legends DirtyRotten Im

beciles perform a

rare local show at the Newport.7p; $13 (adv, $16 (door).


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ANTSATHREESOME?

3 Wise Men Night@

Exile,893 N 4th

St, 614.299.0069,exilebar.com

: The cheapestthree-way you’ve had thisyear…

or is it? $3.50 Jack, Jimor Jose. 4p; free.

THURSDAY, NOVEMBER 18B

LOWJOB

Hot Glass Studio Nights�@Franklin Park Conservatory,1777 E Broad St: Workingalongside gaffers at the Con-servatory Hot Shop, create yourown colorful piece of blownglass artwork. No previousglassblowing experience isnecessary. This week, m

ake aholiday candy bowl! Advanceregistration required by theMonday prior to each Thursdayclass and the cost is $72-80for each session.

REMEMBER

Columbus - Transgender Day

of Remem

brance@ King Av-

enue United Methodist Church,299 King Ave: Com

e to thisvigil to rem

ember our lost

community m

embers. 7p; free.

FRIDAY, NOVEMBER 19D

ON’TFORGETTOHAVETHEM

SPAYED

ANDNEUTERED!

CATS* @ The Palace Theatre,

34 W Broad St, 614.469.9850:Based on T.S. Eliot’s Old Pos-sum

’s Book of Practical Cats,and with m

usic by AndrewLloyd Webber, CATS

won seven1983 Tony Awards includingBest Musical, Best Book of aMusical, Best Lighting andBest Costum

es. Meow. Nov 19-21. 8p; $45-$80.

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embrance

is setaside to m

emorialize those

who were killed due to anti-transgender hatred or preju-dice. The event is held inNovem

ber to honor Rita Hester,whose m

urder in 1998 kickedoff the “Rem

embering Our

Dead” web project and a SanFrancisco candlelight vigil in1999.

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USICANDP

ASSIONAREALWAYSIN

FASHIONAT...Latin Dance Night@

WallStreet, 144 N High St,614.464.2800, www.wall-streetnightclub.com

: Everymonth on the first, second and

third Sundays. Pretend youknow how to salsa at 8p.

MONDAY, NOVEMBER 22I THINKTHETITLEP

RETTYMUCH

COVERSIT…

The Puppet Queers in HolidayThongs@

Club Diversity, 863S High St,www.clubdiversity.com

:Naughty puppets. Get yourtickets fast! This show sellsout every year. Nov 22 -24;7:30p; $12 (adv), $15 (door).

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THETWIST

Torso Tuesday@ Havana, 862

N High St, 614.421.9697,www.colum

busnightlife.com:

Shirts not required. Hotnessencouraged. 10p; free.


THEROAD

TOPERDITION

Heaven and Hell DanceParty

@ Wall Street, 144

Wall St. www.wallstreet-

nightclub.com: The sea-

son’s biggest dance party!Perfect way to exercise be-fore the Tet Offensive for

your digestive system that

is Thanksgiving! 9p-4a.

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uchbetter. Toss aside qualm

s ofsaving your girlish/boyish fig-ure and dive in! Give in to thecarbs - the stuffing is the bestpart. Eat then drive to Jeffer-sonville Outlets at m

idnight toget an early start on shopping..

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ASITRIGHT:

“PINKFRIDAY”

Black Friday@ every god-

damn store, food vendor, day-

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yself abunch of shit I don’t need. Up-side? Starbucks and other cof-fee shops generally openearlier than the stores to keepshoppers happy! Nothing like atasty white m

ocha at 3a.

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eekend!DJ Rob Engel @

Axis, 775 NHigh St, 614.291.4008,www.colum

busnightlife.com:

Spinnin’ discs in a differentway. 10p, cover.


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LENTYOF

ONESLEFTAFTERJEFFERSONVILLE

Strippers@ Score Bar, 145 N

5th St, 614.849.0099,www.scorebarcolum

bus.com.

Jocks, sweaty dollars, fingersin orifices…

‘Nuff said. 9:30p.

MONDAY, NOVEMBER 29G

ETIT? GETIT?

Karaoke@ AWOL, 49 Parsons

Ave, 614.621.8779, www.awol-bar.com

: Show off your nine-octave range at aneighborhood favorite. 10p;free.

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ENAND

ABOTTLE

OFRUM

Glee @ Trafik, 205 N. Fifth St,

614.222.2401: You know youlove it…

even you “butch”guys. Watch with your peoplehere. Glee rules dude.

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b. June 1

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“Never

turn

dow

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chance to s

how

what you c

an d

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n F

arm

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White H

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ling n

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very

second—

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mundane to the m

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enta

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e n

ation’s

hig

hest offic

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ashin

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n, D

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951, F

arm

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MONDAY, NOVEMBER 1I D

ON’TLIKEMONDAYS, I W

ANNASHOOTTHEM

DOW

N$2 Bitchy Mondays@

ClubDiversity, 863 S High St,614.224.4050, www.clubdiver-sity.com

: $2 well drinks allnight; Starts at 4p.

TUESDAY, NOVEMBER 2J USTSTARTC

HANTING“WEW

ANTC

LAIRE! WEW

ANTCLAIRE!”

30 Seconds to Mars@Lifestyle Com

munities Pavil-

ion, 405 Neil Ave, www.pro-mowestlive.com

: He may be

the Thirty Second front man,

but we’ll never forget JaredLeto as the dream

y JordanCatalano from

“My So-CalledLife.” However you love him

-and you know you do - seethem

live on an otherwisemundane Tuesday. 6:30p;

$30.75.


HIPSD

ON’TLIEBom

bay Bellywood@ Lincoln

Theatre, 769 E Long St,www.capa.com

: Catch theworld’s prem

iere belly dancetroupe doing what they dobest. 8p; $38.30 & $47.

THURSDAY, NOVEMBER 4ALLI C

ANTHINKOFARETHEC

OM-MERCIALSTHATALWAYS C

OMEON

DURING“THEP

RICEISR

IGHT”Pride Com

es in All Ages: AConversation with AARP Ohio@ Stonewall Colum

bus Centeron High, 1160 N High St,www.stonewallcolum

bus.org:Join Stonewall Colum

bus andAART Ohio in a conversation onLGBT aging. Through an openexchange of ideas you can dis-cover new way of ensuring thatour LGBT citizens and theirneeds are equally representedand considered within theAART organization. 6:30p; free.

FRIDAY, NOVEMBER 5G

ETIT? GETIT?

Plastic Pleasure@ Colum

busPerform

ing Arts Center, 549Franklin Ave,www.am

erifluff.com: Plastic

Pleasure will star Anna TheAnnadroid and feature anarm

y of her virtual clones, TheAnnadroids. In this one-wom

an show, she tells atwisted story through originalmusic, dance, aerial dance

and surreal video projections.Kelli Martin of Project Runway

will be creating a beautifulcostum

e collection for this pro-duction. This is Anna’s farewellperform

ance. Nov 5 & 6, 8p;$10 (adv), $15 (door).

SATURDAY, NOVEMBER 6G

OGREEN! W

ITHENVY…Green Gala

@ Colum

busAthenaeum

, 32 North FourthSt, www.theoec.org: Join theOhio Environm

ental CouncilBoard, staff, m

embers and

Ohio’s environmental-conser-

vation community to celebrate

the power of green! Enjoy a fullevening of dinner, cocktailsand a silent auction to honorthe winners of the 2010 Envi-ronm

ental Achievements

Awards. 6p – 9p; $50 (mem-

bers), $75 (non-members, in-

cludes one-year membership),

$450 (table of ten).

SUNDAY, NOVEMBER 7ELBOW, W

RIST, ELBOW, WRIST

Miss Wallstreet Pageant 2011

@ Wallstreet Nightclub, 144 N

Wall Street, www.wallstreet-nightclub.com

: Strut your stufffor a chance to win $1,000 incash and prizes. Em

brace thethem

e “glitz and glamour”

however you want! The contestis open to the first 10-15 girlsyou register, so get on it. 8p -1:30a; $5 cover (free for con-testants); $30 table (seats 4-5).

MONDAY, NOVEMBER 8I Think its W

elsh...Next @

Wex @

Wexner Centerfor the Arts, 1871 N. High St,614.292.3535, wexarts.org:This popular series introducesyoung indie scene m

usic inno-vators in our intim

ate blackbox venues and welcom

esbreakout bands to larger the-aters. First up is The Joy Form

i-dable, a Welsh trio now basedin London, have built an inter-national buzz with darkly om

i-nous fuzz-toned slabs of soundriding sugar-sweet m

elodies.Mon, Nov 8, 2010 @

9:00p inthe Perform

ance Space at theWexner Center. Tickets are $12at the Center.

TUESDAY, NOVEMBER 9You Break it, You Bought ItMasayuki Miyajim

a: RefinedFunction

@ DAC Main Gallery,

7125 Riverside Dr, Dublin,614.889.7444, www.dubli-narts.org: a solo exhibition of

Japanese ceramics. The exhi-

bition opens with a receptionfor the artists at DAC on Tues.,Nov. 9 from

6p-8p. Show Nov9-Dec 17.


JUSTDON’TFEEDTHEM...

Biker Bear Happy Hour @Tradewinds II, 117 E ChestnutSt, 614.461.4110,www.tradewindsii.com

: Ahappy and hairy tim

e with theColum

bus Ursine Brotherhoodand their bear, cub and adm

ir-ing friends; Happy hour from4p-9p; No cover.

THURSDAY, NOVEMBER 11THATTHINGN

EEDSREW

RITTENANY-WAY…The Most Fabulous Story EverTold

@ Trafick Bar & Night-

club, 205 N Fifth St, www.face-book.com

/olympictheatreprodu

ctions: High camp. Com

edy.I’m

sold. Hop on over to Trafikfor this gay retelling of theBible for the first act, while thesecond act flashes forward toa Christm

as party in Chelsea.7p - 10p; $15 (single), $25(half table for 2), $50 (fulltable for four).

FRIDAY, NOVEMBER 12N

OTTHEYBLOW...

The Blow with Melissa Dyne@ Wexner Center for the Arts,

1871 N. High St,614.292.3535, wexarts.org:Khaela Maricich, who perform

sdelightfully wry, lo-fi electro-pop under the nam

e the Blow,returns to the Wexner Centerwith a special show that fur-thers her keen interest inboundary-blurring perform

-ance cabaret with a shim

my-

ing beat. 9p; $12.

SATURDAY, NOVEMBER 13JUST

KEEPSAYING“W

AKEUP,

WAKE

UP!”Nightm

are at Shadowbox 2@ Shadowbox Live, Easton

Towne Center,614.416.7625, shadow-boxlive.org: This Fall Shad-owbox Live turns tricks andtreats into fright night withits newest them

e Nightmare

at Shadowbox. Originalsketch com

edy and live rock‘n’ roll will give you thrills,chills, and a glim

pse intothe dream

scape we callnightm

ares. Tickets are $30

SUNDAY, NOVEMBER 14P

APAWASA R

OLLINGSTONE...CAPA presents The Tem

pta-tions@

The Ohio Theater, 39 EState St, 614.469.0939,www.ticketm

aster.com: Work-

ing my way back to

you…Tem

pting, very tempt-

ing. 7p; $20-$50.

MONDAY, NOVEMBER 15H

EY, GARGOYLE!

Service Industry Night@Level Dining Lounge, 700 NHigh St, 614.754.1342,www.levelcolum

bus.com: $1

Domestic Draft, $2 Dom

esticBottle, $3 Well Cocktails, Com

-plim

entary Nacho Bar. Startsat 9p.

TUESDAY, NOVEMBER 16D

IRTYROTTENB

ASTARDS!Dirty Rotten Im

beciles (DRI)@

Newport Music Hall, 1772N. High St, 614.294.1659,www.prom

owestlive.com/venu

es: Punk rock legends DirtyRotten Im

beciles perform a

rare local show at the Newport.7p; $13 (adv, $16 (door).


WHOW

ANTSATHREESOME?

3 Wise Men Night@

Exile,893 N 4th

St, 614.299.0069,exilebar.com

: The cheapestthree-way you’ve had thisyear…

or is it? $3.50 Jack, Jimor Jose. 4p; free.

THURSDAY, NOVEMBER 18B

LOWJOB

Hot Glass Studio Nights�@Franklin Park Conservatory,1777 E Broad St: Workingalongside gaffers at the Con-servatory Hot Shop, create yourown colorful piece of blownglass artwork. No previousglassblowing experience isnecessary. This week, m

ake aholiday candy bowl! Advanceregistration required by theMonday prior to each Thursdayclass and the cost is $72-80for each session.

REMEMBER

Columbus - Transgender Day

of Remem

brance@ King Av-

enue United Methodist Church,299 King Ave: Com

e to thisvigil to rem

ember our lost

community m

embers. 7p; free.

FRIDAY, NOVEMBER 19D

ON’TFORGETTOHAVETHEM

SPAYED

ANDNEUTERED!

CATS* @ The Palace Theatre,

34 W Broad St, 614.469.9850:Based on T.S. Eliot’s Old Pos-sum

’s Book of Practical Cats,and with m

usic by AndrewLloyd Webber, CATS

won seven1983 Tony Awards includingBest Musical, Best Book of aMusical, Best Lighting andBest Costum

es. Meow. Nov 19-21. 8p; $45-$80.

SATURDAY, NOVEMBER 20A D

AYTOR

EMEMBERInternational TransgenderDay of Rem

embrance

is setaside to m

emorialize those

who were killed due to anti-transgender hatred or preju-dice. The event is held inNovem

ber to honor Rita Hester,whose m

urder in 1998 kickedoff the “Rem

embering Our

Dead” web project and a SanFrancisco candlelight vigil in1999.


USICANDP

ASSIONAREALWAYSIN

FASHIONAT...Latin Dance Night@

WallStreet, 144 N High St,614.464.2800, www.wall-streetnightclub.com

: Everymonth on the first, second and

third Sundays. Pretend youknow how to salsa at 8p.

MONDAY, NOVEMBER 22I THINKTHETITLEP

RETTYMUCH

COVERSIT…

The Puppet Queers in HolidayThongs@

Club Diversity, 863S High St,www.clubdiversity.com

:Naughty puppets. Get yourtickets fast! This show sellsout every year. Nov 22 -24;7:30p; $12 (adv), $15 (door).

TUESDAY, NOVEMBER 23IT’SALLIN

THETWIST

Torso Tuesday@ Havana, 862

N High St, 614.421.9697,www.colum

busnightlife.com:

Shirts not required. Hotnessencouraged. 10p; free.


THEROAD

TOPERDITION

Heaven and Hell DanceParty

@ Wall Street, 144

Wall St. www.wallstreet-

nightclub.com: The sea-

son’s biggest dance party!Perfect way to exercise be-fore the Tet Offensive for

your digestive system that

is Thanksgiving! 9p-4a.

THURSDAY, NOVEMBER 25G

OBBLEX3

Thanksgiving@ Grandm

a’s!Okay, Thanksgiving atGrandm

a’s isn’t a necessity,but the food is just so m

uchbetter. Toss aside qualm

s ofsaving your girlish/boyish fig-ure and dive in! Give in to thecarbs - the stuffing is the bestpart. Eat then drive to Jeffer-sonville Outlets at m

idnight toget an early start on shopping..

FRIDAY, NOVEMBER 26VICTORIA’SSECRETH

ASITRIGHT:

“PINKFRIDAY”

Black Friday@ every god-

damn store, food vendor, day-

care, whatever you can thinkof! Get your holiday shoppingdone in just a couple of hours.Except for m

e. I usually use itas an excuse to buy m

yself abunch of shit I don’t need. Up-side? Starbucks and other cof-fee shops generally openearlier than the stores to keepshoppers happy! Nothing like atasty white m

ocha at 3a.

SATURDAY, NOVEMBER 27Saturday Night of the longHoliday W

eekend!DJ Rob Engel @

Axis, 775 NHigh St, 614.291.4008,www.colum

busnightlife.com:

Spinnin’ discs in a differentway. 10p, cover.


AKESUREYOUHAVEP

LENTYOF

ONESLEFTAFTERJEFFERSONVILLE

Strippers@ Score Bar, 145 N

5th St, 614.849.0099,www.scorebarcolum

bus.com.

Jocks, sweaty dollars, fingersin orifices…

‘Nuff said. 9:30p.

MONDAY, NOVEMBER 29G

ETIT? GETIT?

Karaoke@ AWOL, 49 Parsons

Ave, 614.621.8779, www.awol-bar.com

: Show off your nine-octave range at aneighborhood favorite. 10p;free.

TUESDAY, NOVEMBER 3016 M

ENAND

ABOTTLE

OFRUM

Glee @ Trafik, 205 N. Fifth St,

614.222.2401: You know youlove it…

even you “butch”guys. Watch with your peoplehere. Glee rules dude.

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nov 2010outlookcolumbus.com 29Cain was a little salty, but fancy. Refined, like a Goldman-Sachs executive. And a murderer.

explained him the real reason they locked himup - people didn’t talk about these things withtheir children. Why was he there? Because hisparents (who love him very much) were told by atrusted doctor that same-sex desire would driveKevin to kill himself, not realizing that, had theynot committed him, the thought would not haveentered his mind.

Our oldest LGBT people grew up with scenarioseven more devastating than what Kevin suf-fered. Things have changed for the better foropenly Gay adults. We’ve got it much bettersince Stonewall. But this does not stop the per-vasive American folk custom of festive mistreat-ment of young people who are different, a formof domestic terrorism that reaches a frighteningcrescendo in high school.

But don’t worry, it’s just a phase.

It is for this reason that I issue my appeal toHeaven. We are no longer pre-Stonewall, nor arewe in the 1990s. By 2010, everybody knows bet-ter - ignorance is no longer an excuse.

God Damn You, school administrators, if you sitidly by while bullies terrorize young people underyour care. God Damn You, FundamentalistChristian parents, if you send your kids to bepsychologically, physically, and spirituallywarped by sadistic adults in reparative therapy.God Damn You, Spirit-Filled Christians, if yousubmit your children to the humiliation of an ex-orcism. God Damn You, Mormon parents, if yousell out your own flesh and blood so you canhave preferred seating in the Celestial Kingdom.God Damn You, Muslim parents, if your daugh-ter fears for her safety because male kinfolkmay do her physical harm if they find out abouther girlfriend, and you do not assure her other-wise. God Damn You, Catholic and Orthodox(both Christian and Jewish) parents, if you donot confront the blatant hypocrisy of your lead-ers who cover the asses of those who abuseyoung people, all the while screaming abouthow same-sex love destroys civilizations. Con-demn these perversions, all of you, and do itloudly enough so that your queer children canhear you.

And God

Damn Any Of You who have the nerve to blamethe LGBT community for the suicides.

I promise you, parents, some of your childrenhave rendered themselves so invisible that youdo not have a clue as to what they are goingthrough. At this very moment, daughters andsons of yours are struggling with their orienta-tion. Act on their behalf before you find themdangling with a belt around their neck, or a bul-let in their cranium in the ultimate act of lonelydefeat.

Realize that those poor kids who killed them-selves have called down upon their oppressorsthe worst curse of all.

It was because my father (with whom I foughtconstantly before going to college) was vocalagainst the mistreatment of homosexuals in themilitary that I never had to go through my ownsuicide watch. And I don’t think there is anyforce in the universe that my mother would nothave confronted, should I have been threatenedwhen I was a teenager.

The Day of the Lord

I do not lightly call damnation upon anyone. I doso as a last resort.

To the bullies, be you parents, politicians, police,pundits or popes: do you honestly believe thatGod is pleased by your antics, or that you will bewelcomed into Heaven with open arms for youriniquity?

My curse against you is simply this: may the fullhorror of your actions be revealed to you. Thenwe will see who contemplates suicide.

Let me quote the Hebrew prophet Amos (5:18-23):Why do you long for theday of the Lord? That day will bedarkness, notlight.

It will be as though a man fled from a liononly to meet a bear, as though he entered his house and rested hishand on the wall only to have a snake bite him.Will not the day of the Lord be darkness, notlightpitch-dark, without a ray of brightnessI hate, I despise your religious feasts; I cannot stand your assemblies.

The damnation I call upon you is the only sourcefor your salvation, should you finally come toterms with your folly before you kill somebody. IfAmos is not enough, let’s bring in Jesus (Luke17:2):It were better for him that a millstone were hanged about his neck, and he cast into the sea, than that he should offend one of these littleones.

And translated from the Qur’an (17:13-14):Every man’s work We have fastened on his own neck, and on the Day of Judgment We shall bring out for him a book which he willsee spread open, saying: “Read your own book! Enough for youthis day that your own soul should call you to account.”

My Own Private Jihad

In Islam, there are two jihads, the Lesser Jihad,which is the struggle against Allah’s enemies,and the Greater Jihad, which is the struggleagainst one’s own evil inclinations.

I am seriously struggling right now. My anger isat times barely contained. I must consciouslycheck myself from going off on people for theleast little provocation, and I don’t always suc-ceed. Recently, I took out my rage against a guyfor no good reason - I realize I was projecting myfrustration on him (an openly Gay man, noless!), simply because I cannot directly confrontthe murderers who have inspired suicides, whohave beaten, raped, and belittled my queer chil-dren. And, yes, these kids are mine. Too many oftheir parents, educators, and religious leaderhave abandoned them, turning them into an in-visible population of orphans.

I claim them, living and dead.

To the offenders: I pray you are speedilysmacked upside the head with God’s Damna-tion so you can repent from your wrongdoingand prevent more murders, suicide or otherwise.

The more vicious part of me wants to add, “orkill yourself, and rid the world of your filth.”

Nothing personal.

For more information about the severity of the situation,check out these sites: www.gayamericanheroes.com. Talkwith Scott Hall, its founder. Also, www.thetrevorproject.org.Believe me, it’s worse than you thought.

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14by J Eric Peters

Suicide has claimed 14 young members of ourcommunity in just the past few months. All wereunder 21. Two were only 13. These were pre-cious, unique individuals, not mere statistics orpolitical abstractions.

On July 9, Justin Aaberg, a 15-year-old cellistwho had broken up with his boyfriend that week,hung himself in Anoka, MN.

Billy Lucas, 15, took a leather lead he had usedwith his horses and hung himself on September9 in a rural area near Greensburg, IN. A friendsaid he had heard people bullying Lucas, tellinghim to kill himself since he was gay.

Cody Barker, 17, hung himself on September 13.He had attended a weekly GBLT support groupand had made plans to start a gay-straight al-liance at his school.

Tyler Clementi, 18 and a freshman at New Jer-sey’s Rutgers University, on September 22jumped off a bridge after his roommate surrep-titiously filmed Clementi’s intimacy with anotherguy.

Asher Brown, a 13-year-old Houston youth, useda 9 mm Beretta that his stepfather had storedon a closet shelf to shoot himself on September23. His parents reported he had endured yearsof vicious bullying that targeted his sexual ori-entation, religion (Buddhism), physical condi-tion (short stature) and clothing (i.e. poverty).

Chloe Lacey, in Eureka, CA shot herself on Sep-tember 24 just days before her nineteenth birth-day. She complained of feeling terrified of beingbullied for her gender expression.

Harrison Chase Brown, 15, “died suddenly,” hisobituary reports, in Rand, CO on September 25.He had been Senior Patrol Leader for Boy ScoutTroop 191 while working toward his Eagleaward. Friends told Perez Hilton that Brownkilled himself because of anti-gay bullying.

Zach Harrington, 19, committed suicide in Nor-man, OK one week after listening to hours ofbrutally anti-gay testimony during a city councilmeeting’s open comment period focused on aGBLT issue, which passed. PFLAG had awardedhim a college scholarship.

Seth Walsh, 13, hung himself on September 19from a tree in his Tehachapi, CA backyard anddied September 28. Police said some studentswho had bullied him for being gay broke down intears and said they had never anticipated hisdeath.

Raymond Chase, 19 and openly gay since hissophomore year in high school, hung himself inhis Providence, RI dorm room on September 29at Johnson & Wales, a prestigious school wherehe was studying culinary arts.

Alec Henrikson, an 18-year-old computer pro-grammer and student at Earlham College inRichmond, IN was found dead on September 30.Pride in Utah noted that he was gay.

Caleb Nolt, 14, killed himself in Ft Wayne, IN onSeptember 30. His survivors include his twinbrother and friends who reported he had en-dured a long history of anti-gay bullying.

Aiyisha Hassan, a 20-year-old student atHoward University, a historically black universitywhere she participated in the LGBT studentgroup, committed suicide in Marin County, CAon October 5. A friend said Hassan had been“having a lot of trouble with a lot of differentthings, but mainly her sexual identity.”

Terrel Williams, 17, hung himself “just hoursafter being attacked by five other high schoolstudents, and pushed and thrown into a brickwall at Clover Park High School in Lakewood,WA” on October 13” according to LGBTQ Nation.Spirit Day with its candlelight vigils was oneweek later.

THE BIG PICTURE

GBLTQ teens face bullying, abuse and harass-

ment overwhelming in both its frequency andintensity. Adults who fail or refuse to act to con-trol and quash such bullying leave kids at riskfor a wide range of pathology including suicidal-ity. The suicide rate among GBLTQ youth hasrisen to what may be epidemic levels.

GBLTQ youth - our community’s future - facetragic and outrageous conditions. Campus Prideand the Q Research Institute reported a surveyof a nationwide sample of over 1000 folks (stu-dents, faculty and staff) on college campuses.GBLQ respondents “were significantly morelikely” to experience harassment when com-pared with their heterosexual counterparts andtwice as likely to be targeted with derogatory re-marks or stared at.

It’s even worse for transgender students. HarshRealities: The Experience of Transgender Youthin our Nation’s Schools, the first comprehensivestudy of transgender students, released recentlyby the Gay, Lesbian and Straight Education Net-work indicate that transgender youth face “ex-tremely high levels” of violence in schools, evenmore so than their non-transgender GBL peers.Nearly nine out of ten transgender students ex-perienced verbal harassment at school in thepast year and more than half experienced physi-cal assault. Some of that abuse came fromschool staff.

Some queer kids got bullied in Columbus PublicSchools today (if not, then last week). The oddsdon’t lie.

Bullying can be deadly when it leads to suicide.The Journal of Adolescent Health published astudy that analyzed data from the 1995 YouthRisk Behavior Survey including 9,188 highschool students including 315 identified as gay,lesbian or bi. GBL students who were most vic-timized (compared with all other students andwith heterosexual students experiencing veryhigh levels of bullying) exhibited “the highestlevels of health risk behaviors” including suici-dality, substance use and sexual risk behaviors.

Our kids - our community’s future - are killing

themselves. Carol Goodenow and colleaguesproduced a study published in the book Psychol-ogy in the Schools showing both that “sexualminority adolescents report higher rates of vic-timization and suicidality than their heterosex-ual peers” and that “sexual minorityadolescents in schools with LGB support groupsreported lower rates of victimization and suici-dality.”

BUT THERE’S HOPE

Gay Straight Alliances (GSAs) make a differencein schools. Helpful information for starting anddeveloping GSAs has been made available byKaleidoscope (www.KYCohio.org).

This writer’s personal experience as a suicidesurvivor and years of reflecting back on that verydifficult time have yielded the followingthoughts. If you attempt suicide, either you killyourself or you don’t. If you do, then you mightjust be ending your life at the worst time yourlife will ever know and depriving yourself ofmuch, much better years. What a fucking ripoff! If you don’t die, then whatever method youuse might leave you with blindness, paraplegiaor brain damage. It’s happened to other people;every method has failed (or, perhaps better,saved) somebody.

Ending suicide among LGBTQ youth is the toppriority for The Trevor Project, which “provid[es]life-saving and life-affirming resources includ-ing [a] 24/7 crisis intervention lifeline, digitalcommunity and advocacy/educational pro-grams” according to their mission statement(www.TheTrevorProject.org). They maintain the24/7 Trevor Lifeline at 1-866-4-U-TREVOR.

Dan Savage the sex advice columnist started acommunity response to the recent epidemic ofteen queer suicides. Savage’s efforts opened thedoor for a community response that has pro-duced hundreds of videos on YouTube(http://www.youtube.com/user/itgetsbetterpro-ject) all making a single point: it gets better.

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nov 2010outlookcolumbus.com 31Who else is excited about the GLBT issue of Who’s Who!

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outlookcolumbus.comnov 201032 I think non-flossing is a deal-breaker for me

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nov 2010outlookcolumbus.com 33National Suicide Prevention Day is November 20th

by Jon Dunn

There is something about the intimacy and non-judgmental gazeof a camera lens that lets people speak more freely and open upabout themselves like they wouldn’t do among others, let alonetotal strangers. Yet, all over the Internet, men, women, activists,celebrities and anyone with a voice are sharing their stories andasking the viewers on the other side to make changes and to holdon, it does get better.

Dan Savage had an epiphany one day while sitting in the airport.The Seattle-based writer and columnist (for outlook: columbus,among other publications) was waiting for a plane when he readabout the suicide of 15-year-old Billy Lucas in Indiana, who com-mitted suicide after being bullied in high school because hisclassmates thought he was gay. Savage realized he was waitingfor someone’s permission to talk to these kids - but he didn’t needto.

“I thought, ‘If I could only have talked to him for five minutes, totell him it gets better, maybe he wouldn’t be dead,’” said Savage.After retuning to Seattle, Savage and his husband, Terry Miller,decided to shoot a video of them discussing their 16-year rela-tionship and life with their 12-year-old adopted son, DJ. In it theytell gay and lesbian teens that life does get wonderful after highschool.

“If you can live through high school, which you can ... you’re goingto have a great life. It’s going to be the envy of all those peoplethat picked on you,” Miller says in the video, which has beenviewed 1.6 million times. The project has grown rapidly, with over200 videos uploaded in the first week from adults of all sexual ori-entations, including many celebrities. The project’s YouTubechannel reached the 650 video limit in the next week, and is noworganized on its own website, the It Gets Better Project.

They sit down in front of the camera, and they start to talk. Somespeak in English, in Spanish, in American Sign Language. Theyproudly wear their U.S. Marine uniforms or wedding rings or holdsquiggly, giggling children. Most of them gay, each has a mes-sage for gay teenagers who may be contemplating suicide. “Itgets better!” these adults tell them, in heartfelt videos posted tothe YouTube channel. A string of suicides by gay youth nationwide

this fall impelled many of them to tell their stories online, speak-ing of the harassment and bullying they endured in middle andhigh school. Each video that’s posted generates dozens andsometimes hundreds of comments. Some are attacking, but manymore are from grateful teens themselves.

Sadly, gay teen suicides are nothing new, says Charles Robbins,director of the Trevor Project, a suicide-prevention organization forgay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender youth that operates a 24/7crisis hotline. But a nationwide string of them in Septemberbrought the issue more attention. Teens “often feel like they’re theonly person who’s going through what they’re going through, andthese videos will, we hope, let them know that there are otherswho have gone through the same thing and there is hope andthere is help,” says Robbins.

While the It Gets Better and Trevor projects use the power of videoto change young minds, the Cascade AIDS Project (CAP) is usingthe voices of the young to change the minds of lawmakers. Theyare using video testimonials from students, teens and others tohelp illustrate the need for better sexual education and healthysexual awareness. The use of video and the Internet have madesharing your own story in a relevant context into a new form of ac-tivism.

CAP played a strong role in gaining the passage of HB 2509, anew Oregon state law requiring all public elementary and second-ary schools to provide age-appropriate human sexuality educa-tion. CAP worked as part of TPP/SHP (Teen PregnancyPrevention/Sexual Health Promotion Partnership), a coalition ofstate and local community based organizations focused on youthsexual health, which includes two Planned Parenthood affiliatesand the Oregon Department of Education. CAP’s peer educationprogram Teen2Teen sent members to Salem, the state capitol, totestify about the critical importance of this program.

The National Coalition for Sexual Health is a coalition of HIV/AIDSorganizations, service providers and allied agencies united by ashared commitment to promoting healthy sexuality by advocatingfor public policies that help to prevent HIV/AIDS, hepatitis, STIs,unintended pregnancy, and sexual coercion and violence. It’sabout collaboration between allies to make a greater impact thanjust one agency/individual. As Public Policy Coordinator for Cas-

cade AIDS Project (CAP) and a Founding Partner of Sexual HealthAdvocates BJ Cavnor, can recite plenty of hard facts to show pol-icy makers why comprehensive sexuality education matters: ��

• Every hour, another young person aged 13-24 becomes infectedwith HIV in the United States.�• Half of all sexually active young people contract a sexuallytransmitted infection by age 25.�• Over 750,000 teenagers in the United States will become preg-nant this year - that’s one of the highest teen pregnancy rates inthe developed world.��

But when it comes to persuading policy makers to reach the rightdecisions - like requesting comprehensive sexuality educationfunding under the new Personal Responsibility Education Pro-gram (PREP) and rejecting the failed Title V abstinence-only pro-gram - statistics aren’t nearly as meaningful as personal stories.So Cavnor decided to share his own: �I was diagnosed HIV positive19 years ago. Being diagnosed with HIV in 1991 was much differ-ent than it is today in 2010. For one thing, we have so many moretreatment options available today than we did then. And we alsohave better support services. When I tested positive I was theyoungest person in my support group by 20 years!” ��

Today there are peer-based medically accurate sexual health edu-cation programs, like CAP’s Teen2Teen. Peer groups likeTeen2Teen and others provide counseling that is more approach-able than regular counseling situations can offer. Teens can learnfrom each other in a safe and supportive environment. There arealso the AIDS Drug Assistance Programs, ADAPs, in each state toprovide help for people who cannot afford their HIV medications.

“We have come a great distance, but we still have far to go. Andyou can help: Please take a moment to share your story about yourwork and why comprehensive sex education matters to you,” saysCavnor.�Take a moment to compose your thoughts, wait for the red light tocome on and just tell us your story. And make a difference.

Look for the It Gets Better project on YouTube and www.itgetsbetterproject.com/and find out more about CAP at http://sexualhealthadvocates.org,

Personal Video Testimonies Sway Heartsand Minds of Teens & Policy Makers

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outlookcolumbus.comnov 201034 Michael can’t go see the Nutcracker because of his fear of mouse furries... seriously!

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nov 2010outlookcolumbus.com 35Fag is derived from old french meaning “bundle of sticks”

by Jason Stuart

I was that kid. I could have been Asher Brown,Seth Walsh, Tyler Clementi or any of the otherteens that ended their young, precious lives. Igrew up in the 1970s when being gay was stillconsidered to be a mental illness by some. Iwould go to sleep hoping not to wake up, simplybecause I liked men. While much has changedover the last 30 years, feelings of isolation re-main, much of it brought on by peers.

Like those boys and so many others, I was bul-lied in school. I guess my locker had somepheromone that attracted people that hatedpeople that were somewhat different, because inthe first week of 7th grade a kid scraped theword “fag” on my locker with something sharplike a pocketknife or a nail. Even though I couldonly see that word when I fumbled with the com-bination, the sadness and loneliness that theword made me feel lingered in the back of mymind every day of those horrific three years, afeeling that continued until I finally came outpublicly on television in 1993. This one act andother daily forms of abuse by my classmateschanged my life and my ability to learn and par-ticipate in friendships and relationships. Thefear that I had because I was different was sostrong it convinced me not to attend college; Iwas not prepared for what the repercussionsmight be if people knew I was gay.

When I finally was in my 30s and starting to act,I was completely guarded with my secret, con-vinced I had to suppress it and pretend it wasnon-existent. It was so detrimental to me that Ionly wanted to be with other “professional” ac-tors, where I felt safe. Where I knew that as longas I was in this box of mine, life was going to besafer. “Just DON’T be yourself.” That’s what I be-lieved and in doing so, I missed so many poten-tial experiences and relationships that I willnever know what “could have been.”

I regret not having the experience of goingthough the same things at the same time as mypeers. Folks often say, “You can go to collegenow.” Of course, it wouldn’t be the same. I oftentravel to universities to do stand-up or lecture,and I learn so much just being around students,faculty and members of gay-straight alliances.Recently, after a performance, I had a good crywhen I was back in my hotel because I had been

in the presence of these students who are notafraid of being out and accepting who they are.It impressed me immensely.

When I was 21, I made a call to a suicide pre-vention lifeline because I realized I needed help. Iwas starting to have thoughts of suicide and Ineeded someone to stop me, to save my life. Ibegan seeing a counselor after that, who I knewkept everything confidential, but even with myback to her chair, I sat there and lied that I wasbi-sexual, uncomfortable to even speak thetruth. It was too hard and I was afraid for mylife.

Career-wise, I wanted to be an actor while somein the industry would say I was “too light in theloafers.” Memories of all these kids who beat meup and humiliated me all through school cameback to me repeatedly in my early years of pursu-ing my career. Being afraid of people and re-learning how to trust them is a daily reminder ofwhere and how far I have come.

Now I am an actor, a comedian and an advocatefor equality. I have been able to get past mychildhood and work in my chosen profession. Ialso have been able to give back to my commu-nity by being chair of the Screen Actors Guild Na-tional LGBT Actors Committee and a mentor forLifeWorks, which supports LGBTQ youth betweenthe ages of 12-24. I have also produced and per-formed in a comedy benefit for the past fiveyears to raise money for these kids and to showthem there is hope out there.

Doing service for others and by accepting thesupport of others has been MY way of healing. Ihave been able to overcome my feelings of notbeing “enough.” I came to realize that thethoughts in my head are just that and can goout as easily as they entered those many yearsago. I can create a new life story by which to livemy life. It’s 2010 and I don’t have to be that kidin the 1970s who was abused and suicidal any-more. I often wish I could take that kid by thehand and show him the life I have now and tellhim, “It will get better. I’m someone. Someonewith a life and someone that matters. Just likeyou do.”

Jason Stuart is an out comedian and actor who has ap-peared in numerous movies, TV shows and live perform-ances.

Bullied Comedian

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outlookcolumbus.comnov 201036 You better say it, lady!

Wednesday Oct 20 was Spirit Day, the day that the Gay and Les-bian Alliance Against Defamation asked people to “Go Purple” tocall attention to the deaths of six teenagers who committed sui-cide after reportedly being taunted because they were gay. Thestory of Tyler Clementi grabbed national headlines last month.Tyler was a freshman at Rutgers University whose roommate,Dharun Ravi, allegedly live-streamed Tyler having sex with an-other man online.

Tyler’s belongings were found on the George Washington Bridge inNew York the day after he reportedly posted a goodbye note on hisFacebook page. Less than a week later Tyler’s body was foundfloating in a nearby river.

GLAAD wanted the “Go Purple” event will show other lesbian, gay,bisexual and transgendered youth who face the same pressuresand bullying that there is a vast community of people who sup-port them, as well as give a chance to remember those who, likeTyler, have fallen victim to bullying and felt that suicide was theironly way out.

Here in Columbus, the day was honored with a poignant buthopeful gathering in Goodale Park Wednesday evening with hun-dreds of supporters holding candles aloft in the gathering dusk.Many voices resonated throughout the evening and we foundstrength in the words of BRAVO’s Gloria McCauley:

“Good evening everybody. As I look out at (this crowd) sea of pur-ple I as struck by 2 things:

First, I’m struck by who is here. We are the lucky ones…Lucky to be alive - to have survived…Lucky to be connected enough to our community to know about

this vigil...Lucky enough to be able to care about our youth.

Second, I’m struck by who is NOT here:Rural folks - especially youth - living in isolation and fear -

with no access to resources...People - young and old - living in survival mode - homeless,

poor, under employed - too busy just trying to make it day to day toworry about vigils. And those we have lost…

Our Schools are NOT safe - Our kids are NOT safe.

Bullying is destroying kids lives Suicide is the ultimate consequence…But youth who do survive - still struggle,They don’t do well academically,They drop out, They turn to substance abuse to numb their pain, and depression and mental health issues ruin their lives.

I don’t like numbers that much, but I’m going to read you somestartling statistics:

• 9 out of 10 queer kids experience harassment at school;

• Suicide is the 3rd leading cause of death in youth, it is the 2nd on college campuses;

• More than 1/3 of LGBT kids have reported suicide attempts;

• Queer kids are 4 times more likely to attempt suicide thannon-queer kids;

• Over 50% of homeless youth are homeless because of family responses to their sexual orientation or gender identity;

• In 2009 BRAVO took reports from over 100 victims under the age of 24;

• The last several years BRAVO has taken 20 - 25 reports per year of incidents occurring in our schools and on college campuses;

And these represent the tip of the iceberg!

Bullying is Violence! We must look at violence as a continuumthat begins with anti-gay jokes and comments and escalatesthrough bullying - harassment assault all the way to suicide andmurder.

It is up to those of us with ability - the privilege - the luxury ofbeing “OUT” either as LGBT people or as allies of and advocatesfor LGBT people to speak up - about our experiences - our lives,

To Interrupt - homophobic jokes and comments when we hearthem.

We MUST hold Schools accountable - teachers, administratorsand staff must protect all kids.

They need tools and training to do that effectively.

We must insist that they get those tools and that training.

We must hold our elected officials feet to the fire.

School boards must be made to have inclusive policies andprovide adequate training.

Our legislators must pass laws that are inclusive – whether anti-bullying bills or hate crimes laws.

We must - as a community - step up and DO SOMETHING!

Organizations that serve LGBT youth - need our dollars andour support.

Organizations that serve youth in general must be made safe and accessible to queer kids.

LGBT Kids need our help - as role models, as mentors, as friends.

Gay Kids have been dying for years - and nobody seemed to care.

Well the world needs to get the message.

That We have had it - ENOUGH is ENOUGH!

One more teen suicide is unacceptable.

One more ruined life is not going to be tolerated.

Queer kids deserve a chance at success - at happiness - at life.

Thank you.

One More Ruined Life Is Not Going To Be Tolerated

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nov 2010outlookcolumbus.com 37Bravo, Equality Ohio, Stonewall, Kaleidoscope, CATF -Thank you for being such great resources. Aquarius, you’re alright, too!

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outlookcolumbus.comnov 201038 Paige Turner is a local Transvesticle, and she’s an ‘effin delight.

by Gregg Shapiro

Bill Clegg, a young, gay and attractive New York literary agent witha boyfriend in the movie industry, details his struggle with thecrack cocaine addiction that nearly killed him in the memoir Por-trait of an Addict as a Young Man (Little, Brown, 2010). Told in un-flinching detail, Clegg moves back and forth in the book from hischildhood and complicated relationship with his family to his ex-citing life in New York with partner “Noah” to his ultimate drug-fu-eled downfall with the momentum of a runaway train. I spoke withClegg, the author of this recommended summer read, shortly be-fore the publication of the book.

Gregg Shapiro: Living as we do in a post-James Frey memoirworld, was that something you were concerned about whenwriting Portrait of an Addict as a Young Man?

Bill Clegg: Not at all. I didn’t think about James Frey’s book once(laughs) when I was writing this book. Part of that is that when Ifirst started writing it, I wasn’t necessarily thinking of it as a book.It was initially a transcription of memories and it began while Iwas in rehab. When I arrived in rehab after that two month periodwhich resulted in a suicide attempt, I surfaced from that periodsort of like somebody surfaces from a dream. So my memories -what I said, what I saw, what I felt - I had this feeling that thosewould evaporate in time, that I wouldn’t have access to them later,so I started writing them down in as much detail as I could. Part ofthe urgency around that was that so much of the period was con-fused for me. I thought that if I wrote everything down, as much asI could, I’d be able to make sense of it later and be able to distin-guish the truth from the delusion once I had more distance fromthat period. The writing of it, initially, was as far away from imag-ining it as a book as it could possibly be. That experience of tran-scribing memories went on for a couple of years. At the point ofwhich it occurred to me, several years later, that there might besomething book-shape, book-length there, the issue of James Freyor other addiction memoirs didn’t come up mainly because Ihadn’t read those memoirs. It started as an incredibly personaland private thing. I never thought outside of the demands of theproject itself.

GS: Once it began to take shape as a book, why did you decideto keep it in the memoir format as opposed to the liberties youmight have been afforded in a fictional format?

BC: Because when other addicts and alcoholics have been candidabout their experiences with me it gives me courage to be morecandid and more honest. Being honest about where my addictiontook me, I feel less shame around it and I feel relief. If my beingcandid about my experience inspires anyone else to be honest andopen about what’s going on with them and in that way lifts theshame and torment of that in any way, then it’s worth it. Also,when I went back through what I had written, the hardest thing toreoccupy was how desperately lonely the experience was. Even inthe period that preceded those two months, when I was, on thesurface, successful and living a crowded life, I was desperatelylonely because I had this secret. Through the years preceding mycrack up, I tried to manage my use. I tried to have only two drinksat night, to come home at two in the morning as opposed to 10 inthe morning, and I failed every time. That struggle was a verylonely, isolated one. It was loaded with shame. And nobody elseknew, aside from my boyfriend, that I was a crack addict. I wasconvinced that if anybody found out that I would be banished fromthe life that I occupied. The whole experience was incredibly lonely.I thought I was the only person who struggled in the way that I did.I thought I was the only person who had a job like I did and was acrack addict. It all felt terribly singular. Of course now, in recovery, Iknow many recovering alcoholics and addicts who have struggledlike I did. So, if anybody recognizes themselves in my struggle andfeels less lonely, and also sees how unsuccessful I was at manag-ing it and how impossible it is to manage it, then they might beencouraged to step up and get help and be honest and not let it gowhere it went with me.

GS: As you mentioned, your drug of choice was crack cocaine.It’s interesting that the gay community is in the midst of a crys-tal meth epidemic, while you became addicted to crack, notcrystal.

BC: There are straight people addicted to crystal meth, there aregay people addicted to crack. There are people addicted to choco-late cake and to sex. I think people struggle with addictions and ittakes many forms. But I think its origins are common. There is

some hole that needs to be filled and how that manifests in lifehas a lot to do with where you are and where you grew up and whatyou had access to. If I grew up in Antarctica (laughs), I probablywouldn’t have had access to the same drugs. God knows what Iwould have been addicted to there. Penguin feathers or something(laughs).

GS: There is a sense that the book is more than just a memoir,that it is intended to be a tool to aid others.

BC: That’s the hope. That’s the reason that it exists as a publisheddocument. Otherwise it would have never been published. It waspublished to be useful. And I hope that it is.

GS: The book also has a cinematic quality. If there was a movieversion, who do you think would be right to play you in film?

BC: Oh, God, I would never answer that question. I don’t know. Be-cause to engage in a conversation about who would play me isalso to engage in a conversation that glamorizes it. If ever therewas a film that was made of it, I would hope that it would be re-spectful and with the same intent as the book itself. Shy of that Ireally don’t have an opinion about what it would be as a movie ornot.

GS: Being in the literary world, do you think it was inevitable thatyou would write a book, whether it was about this experience orsomething else?

BC: No. I mean, there’s certainly a novel that I’ve been strugglingwith for over a decade, but I don’t think I’m going to torture theworld by having it rear its head (laughs). What I would say aboutwriting, and it’s what I do say to the writers that I work with, unlessyou have to do it, don’t do it. I think that should be the measure forall artistic endeavors. If you have to do it, do it. Otherwise, it’s notworth it. And I had to do this. It began in the earliest hours of mystruggle to get sober and it never went away and it kept on return-ing as this urgent thing. At a certain point I stepped out of the wayof it and let it happen. It was less of a choice to write it and ab-solutely a choice to make it public.

Portrait Of A Page-Turner: An Interview With Author Bill Clegg

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outlookcolumbus.comnov 201040 Pelotonia is a grass-roots bike tour with one goal: to end cancer.

NEIL PATRICK HARRIS, DIRECTOR?Neil Patrick Harris has already done everything else in show busi-ness short of escaping Houdini-style from a locked trunk at the bot-tom of a lake (and don’t count out that option yet, given his lifelonginterest in magic tricks), including directing television and stageproductions. So the next step on the ladder is feature films. His firstproject for Fox 2000 is Aaron and Sarah, an indie comedy about ageeky guy and a popular girl who meet as freshmen in high schooland become best friends. (Look, it could too happen.) Together theyweather four proms and a funeral before – can you guess? –finallyrealizing what was standing right in front of them the whole time.Emma Roberts and Josh Hutcherson will star in what could verywell turn out to be the (500) Days of Summer that’s allowed a hap-pier ending. And starring people who aren’t so old.

HOBBIT ONAll that angst. All that negotiation. All that director drama. But nowit’s official: The Hobbit is happening and Peter Jackson (Lord of theRings trilogy) will, indeed, direct. The bad news is that it’s going tobe in that annoying 3D, but the good news is the potential for apowerhouse cast. Now here’s where it all turns into speculation, butthe word is that Dr. Who star David Tennant is up for a role, as isMichael Fassbender (Inglourious Basterds), and that Martin Free-man (The Office, Hot Fuzz and the current BBC series Sherlock) isbeing eyed as Bilbo Baggins. Obviously some, but not necessarilyall, characters from the earlier films will appear, but there will beGandalf. At the moment, Sir Ian McKellen is listed as merely “ru-mored” to play that part on his IMDB page, but who else could stepinto those robes? Name one person. See? It’s impossible. And mak-ing this happen fast is definitely on the agenda since there’s thepossibility of a February 2011 start date.

RON HOWARD WANTS JODIE FOR STROKE OF INSIGHTHarvard neuro-anatomist Jill Bolte Taylors’ 1996 stroke at the ageof 37 turned her life upside down. Eventually, though, after eightyears, she made a full recovery and her subsequent memoir titledMy Stroke of Insight became a bestseller. Now Oscar-winning direc-tor Ron Howard plans to make the film version and he wants fellowOscar-winner Jodie Foster to star as Bolte. Sounds like perfect cast-

ing. But Foster has yet to sign on. She’s already preparing to star inGod of Carnage, so whatever decision she makes will have to waitfor that to wrap. Whatever transpires, the inspiring story of Bolte’smiraculous recovery should be handled by an actor with the skills toplay someone who loses and painfully, slowly regains movement,speech and memory. And Dakota Fanning is still too young, sosomeone get Jodie to say yes, OK?

HIDDEN HUGO CABRET GETS HIGHLY VISIBLE CASTHighly dedicated readers with long memories will recall that backin 2007 Romeo reported on the new project from Martin Scorseseand Academy Award-nominated gay screenwriter John Logan (TheAviator) called The Invention of Hugo Cabret. In the three yearssince it was announced, the name has been shortened to just HugoCabret and the fantasy tale about a 12-year-old orphan living inthe walls of a train station in 1930s Paris who solves a mystery in-volving a robot finally has a big A-list cast: Jude Law, Ben Kingsley,Christopher Lee, Sacha Baron Cohen, Emily Mortimer, Ray Winstoneand Hollywood’s current child-actor It Girl, Chloe Moretz (Let Me In,Kick-Ass). The film is currently shooting and its mysteries will be re-vealed sometime in 2011. In the meantime, you can always go backand watch Scorsese’s Shutter Island again and try to figure outwhat that one was about.

AND NOW FOR SOME LEO/TOBEY/BAZ LUHRMANN RUMORSRomeo already reported that Baz Luhrmann wants to make his nextfilm an adaptation of F. Scott Fitzgerald’s The Great Gatsby. Thatnews has been around for about a year now. Well, the flamboyantlystraight/free-spirited/somewhat heterosexual-ish director doeswant to make Gatsby, and it’s firing up the blogs lately thatLeonardo DiCaprio, Tobey Maguire and Amanda Seyfried are in talkswith Luhrmann to star. Now it’s true that there’ve been some talks,but Gatsbymight not even be Luhrmann’s next film at all. He’s setup to direct a musical soon, as well, which is good news for allMoulin Rouge! fans. But ultimately what all this means is that any-thing you hear about this or any Luhrmann project right now is sub-ject to total change. In other words, don’t go fantasy casting beforethe names are signed on the dotted line. It can only lead to heart-break.

LILI TAYLOR BRINGS THE BAD TO THE GOOD WIFEOne of the great things about DVRs is that they allow you to catchyour favorite actors in guest-star story arcs on shows you don’t oth-erwise watch. Case in point: We love Lili Taylor. Always have. Fromher “Joe Lies” songs in Say Anything to playing extreme lesbianwould-be assassin Valerie Solanas in I Shot Andy Warhol to herheartbreaking role on Six Feet Under, there’s nowhere Lili Taylor cango that Romeo won’t follow. So when she shows up soon on TheGood Wife as someone being described as a “romantic foil” forArchie Panjabi’s character Kalinda, the TiVo will be fired up andready. No one likes spoilers, but it seems that Taylor’s investigatorcharacter may have been involved with Kalinda at some point andmight be back in her life to cause some trouble. Not that it matterstoo much. Taylor could play Charles Manson and it’d be easy toenjoy watching her do it. The episodes are coming up in November.

GLEE’S JANE LYNCH AND LEA MICHELE WORK THE MICROPHONEThey’re going to hide their faces but not their voices. The two Gleestars are each working on animated projects even as they con-tinue to shoot the second demanding season of the elaborate mu-sical TV show. Lynch is playing against type for hers, voicing therole of sweet, kind Aunt May Parker on the upcoming animatedseries Ultimate Spider-Man. Lea Michele, on the other hand, isstepping right into diva-red slippers as Dorothy Gale in the fea-ture film Dorothy of Oz. The musical film features a mostly malevoice cast, including Patrick Stewart, Dan Aykroyd, James Belushi,Hugh Dancy, Oliver Platt, Kelsey Grammer and Martin Short. Andwhile some of those gentlemen can sing, none of them are mostwell-known for that talent, so this is definitely going to be a show-case for the young lady when it finally hits theaters sometime in2012.

Romeo San Vicente thinks you should rent the Lili Taylor-starring early ’90s movieDogfight. He can be reached care of this publication or at [email protected].

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nov 2010outlookcolumbus.com 41I hardly think loafers are proper dumpster diving attire.

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outlookcolumbus.comnov 201042 For some reason that image of the nutcracker makes me hungry for pringles...

by Abby Hollingshead

As the air turns from crisp to frigid, depart-ment stores burst with over-the-top decora-tions and Starbucks brings back theirpeppermint mochas and gingerbreadlattes, we’re reminded that the holiday sea-son is here. With the season comes longdrives home to the family’s house, dreadedvisits with in-laws, added inches to waist-lines, last minute shopping trips, and per-haps added financial stress. Just as wemay feel economic strains this season, artsorganizations stress about getting peoplein the door. However, many find hopethrough annual holiday traditions. Onesuch tradition is BalletMet’s production ofThe Nutcracker, which continues to bringsugarplums, Tchaikovsky, and those gor-geous dancers to audiences every Decem-ber.

BalletMet has presented The Nutcracker atthe Ohio Theatre since 1978 and has con-tinued to delight audiences with its winterspectacular. Anyone who has experiencedBalletMet’s production can attest to theworld-class talent of the company, who

continues to perform The Nutcracker for di-verse, dedicated audiences.

So why is it that even during a shaky econ-omy, the production still fills more seatsthan all other season productions? The an-swers seem to point to The Nutcracker’sability to provide familiarity and reliability,creating broad audience appeal. Whether afamily outing or a romantic date, The Nut-cracker allows audiences to create newmemories and recall moments from theirpasts, as can be seen in countless audi-ence testimonials.

“This is my 40th year of either see-ing/performing/rehearsing Nut-cracker. I won’t tell you how manythis makes for my mom!”

“Thank you for such a wonderfulnight. I was ready to turn around andsee it again right then but I guess itwill have to wait. So all I can do ishope next year we will see you againand we will bring more balletfriends.”

It is often the culture and vibrancy of a citylike Columbus that provides optimism andenergy during difficult times. For thosefeeling holiday stress, looking forward to aperformance or exhibition can keep us mov-ing and give us something to be excitedabout and share with others despite ourwinter woes or inner Scrooge. Perhaps it’sthis sense of reliability and guaranteedcheeriness that keeps people coming backto The Nutcracker.

The Nutcracker also gives audiences theopportunity to support “home-grown tal-ent.” Internationally recognized, BalletMetis among the largest ballet companies inthe country. Though BalletMet’s 25 profes-sional dancers come from all over theworld, they have made Columbus theirhome. In addition to the company dancers,more than 100 student dancers from theColumbus area join the cast of The Nut-cracker. By attending The Nutcracker, pa-trons support something with Columbus atits core. A recent study conducted by theColumbus Cultural Leadership Consortiumreported that in Columbus, each non-resi-dent arts patron spends an average of

about $64 including meals and refresh-ments, souvenirs and gifts, transportation,and overnight lodging. BalletMet undoubt-edly contributes to Columbus’s hip culturalscene in a significant way.

Featuring sumptuous sets and costumes,an endearing story, Tchaikovsky’s belovedscore performed live by the Columbus Sym-phony and Gerard Charles’ exciting chore-ography performed by a talented cast ofmore than 100 dancers, The Nutcracker is aperfect way to escape this holiday season.It is an unrivaled spectacle for all ages andan opportunity to make fantastic memories.

Abby Hollingshead is Marketing Intern for BalletMetColumbus, a member organization of the ColumbusArts Marketing Association. CAMA’s mission is to pro-mote awareness of and participation in the arts andcultural opportunities in Greater Columbus throughcollaborative marketing and public relations projects,and to provide professional development opportunitiesfor members. For information visitwww.camaonline.org.

Familiarity & Reliability

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nov 2010outlookcolumbus.com 43This show always gets me in the holiday mood!

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by Aaron Leveanthal

The village of Yellow Springs, surrounded by corn-fields and lush woodlands in rural southwesternOhio, has been a bastion of creativity, activismand nonconformity for nearly two centuries.Tecumseh, leader of the Shawnee nation, madefrequent visits to the healing waters of YellowSprings in Glen Helen. Renowned educator HoraceMann chose to serve as Antioch College’s firstpresident in 1853, championing equal educa-tional opportunities for both men and women. TheUnderground Railroad, Civil Rights struggle andanti-Vietnam demonstrations are all a part of thehistoric fabric of this funky Midwest college townof almost 4,000 residents (The college is currentlyclosed, but will reopen in 2012.).

Recently, my wife Beth and I spent a delightfulweekend in Yellow Springs. We stayed just outsideof downtown at the Yellow Springs Country Bedand Breakfast; a restored 1820s home with alarge living room, kitchen - with gourmet break-fasts served by the cook - and savored a few daysof total rest and relaxation.

When we were ready for activity we enjoyedstrolling down Xenia Avenue, the village’s mainstreet with loads of specialty shops, art galleries,bookshops, boutiques, neighborhood pubs andexcellent restaurants. Thankfully, you won’t findany franchise or big-box operations here. Many ofthe businesses are gay-owned and managed.However, we discovered that there is no distinc-tion here as to gay or straight businesses, sincethe entire community genuinely respects diversityand is uncomfortable labeling anyone by race, re-ligion or gender.

There are hundreds of acres of nature preservesnearby with wooded trails to hike and bike. If well-ness and spiritual quest are your passion, thereare dozens of professional practitioners offeringworkshops and individual appointments frommassage and yoga, to acupuncture and Tai Chi.In the evening, several cafés offer live music, andthe Little Art Theatre shows independent filmsand documentaries.

The Great Outdoors: The 1,000-acre Glen HelenNature Preserve east of town has 26 miles of foottrails, which take hikers past waterfalls, lime-stone and dolomite cliffs, and a pine forest andtrailside museum. Native wildflowers are in con-tinuous bloom. John Bryan State Park, adjacent tothe Glen, is a 750-acre preserve with trails over-looking Clifton Gorge and Little Miami River. Bik-ers will enjoy the 78-mile Little Miami Scenic Trail,paved over a converted railroad corridor runningthrough Yellow Springs.

Nearby Attractions: The historic Clifton Mill(www.cliftonmill.com) is one of the largest water

powered gristmills still in existence. The Mill hostsits popular Christmas show from November 26-January 1, with more than four million lights,3,500 antique Santas and a toy collection fromthe ‘40s through the ‘60s. The newest addition tothe show is a replica of Script Ohio. The Mill offersbreakfast and lunch daily, and dinner from Thurs-day-Saturday from 4p-9p.

Just outside of town is Brandeberry Winery andvineyard, (www.brandeberrywinery.com) which isopen for wine tastings and light refreshments.Young’s Jersey Dairy Farm(www.youngsdairy.com), located on Route 68 amile from downtown, is nationally recognized forits homemade ice cream and farmstead cheeses.Its Golden Jersey Inn has country-style entreesand sandwiches. The complex also includesminiature golf and batting cages.

Dining:Many of the eateries serve meals usingfresh, local produce. The Winds Café and Bakeryis a landmark and locals’ favorite. Sunrise Caféoffers eclectic cuisine and is open for breakfast,lunch and dinner daily. Williams Eatery and Gath-ering Place (101 Corry St.) features Peruvian spe-cialties and tasty comfort food. The Ye Olde TrailTavern has been serving pub meals since 1827.CJ’s Southern Cookin’ serves homestyle meals,from barbecue ribs to ratatouille over noodles.Main Squeeze is a juice bar with real fruitsmoothies. With the exception of Williams, all thelisted restaurants are located on Xenia Avenue.

Nightlife: Three cafés, Peach’s Grill, 104 XeniaAve., Emporium Wines and the Underdog Café,233 Xenia Ave. and The Gulch, 128 Dayton St.,have live music and great food every weekend. Inaddition, it’s only a 30-minute drive to Dayton’shistoric downtown Oregon district for excellentdining and entertainment.

Where to Stay: Lodging is plentiful and economi-cal in Yellow Springs, especially during the winterseason, with rates under $100 a night for doubleoccupancy. Check out Arthur Morgan Bed andBreakfast, (www.arthurmorganhouse.com), Grin-nell Mill Bed & Breakfast (www.grinnellmill.com),Springs Cottage (www.springscottage.com),Springs Motel (www.thespringsmotel.com) andYellow Springs Country Bed and Breakfast(www.yscountrybedandbreakfast.com).

Getting There: Yellow Springs is about an hour’sdrive from downtown Columbus. Take I-70 west toU.S. 68, 52A exit. Turn left and it’s eight miles toYellow Springs.

For more information, log onto http://www.desti-nationyellowsprings.com/ or call 937.767.2686.

Columbus-based travel writer Aaron Leventhal has recentlystarted a small group travel service. For more information,check out www.leventhaltravel.com.

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nov 2010outlookcolumbus.com 45Erectile dysfunction drugs have annual sales of more than $3 billion.

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outlookcolumbus.comnov 201046 Some varieties of dog food are labeled as "human-grade food".

by Dan Savage

My husband and I have had an open marriage for the last twoyears. Up until five months ago, it was working beautifully. Atthat point, however, I was sexually assaulted by a former part-ner. Since that incident, I cannot stand sex with my husband. Icompletely flip out when he tries to initiate sexual contact. Myskin crawls. I become panicked and feel repulsed. I just cannothandle it. Those times when I go along with it anyway leave mefeeling enraged and disgusted.

I don’t think this is completely unheard of for someone whowas relatively recently assaulted, and I am considering therapyto help me work through it. The immediate “problem” is that Ihave no difficulty having sex with my boyfriend. In fact, the sexwith him is amazing and leaves me feeling loved and whole andwonderful.

This is breaking my husband’s heart. He has become incrediblyjealous of my relationship with my boyfriend. He’s depressed.He’s angry. He accuses me of no longer loving him, and hewants me to stop sleeping with my boyfriend until our marriageis back to normal. I feel like a horrible person, but I just can’tdo that. I need that outlet. I need that support. And I admit Ihave a hard time believing that my husband and I will ever beable to go back to the way things were before.

I feel like I’ve already lost my former partner (fucked-upthough that may seem) and my husband. It kills me to thinkabout cutting out the one positive relationship remaining. Onthe other hand, I do love my husband - very much - and watch-ing him suffer like this is unbearable.

Potentially Traumatized Sexual Deviant

I’m sorry that you were sexually assaulted - that’s awful, PTSD,and I hope you went to the police and I hope you’re pressingcharges. But I also hope you know that being the victim of sexualassault is not a Get Out of Being a Human Being Free card.

Just because you’ve been victimized doesn’t mean you operate inan alternate moral universe where you’re not obligated to take

other people’s feelings into consideration - particularly the feel-ings of people you profess to love and happen to be married to.Your first priority in the wake of your assault had to be your ownphysical and emotional safety, of course, but your behavior towardyour husband is both cruel and selfish.

If you truly loved your husband and valued your marriage, PTSD,you would’ve put the boyfriend on hold and gotten your ass intotherapy without having to be told. So from where I sit - on theBloomington Shuttle, headed to the Indianapolis airport - it looksto me like you want out of this marriage. But instead of taking re-sponsibility for wanting out - not in love with the husband any-more - you’re playing the victim card while slamming both handsdown on your marriage’s self-destruct button.

To sum up, PTSD: You’re being a total shit. Do you love your hus-band? Is your marriage a priority? Then start acting like it: Cut theboyfriend off - for the indefinite future - and get your ass onto acounselor’s couch. If you’re not willing to do those things, PTSD,then stop emotionally assaulting your husband and put both yourmarriage and him out of their misery.

I have two clits. How common is this? I have never been able toride a bike because I have an earthshaking orgasm as soon asI get on the seat. I come on the bus - the soft vibrations are toomuch! Walking anywhere in tight pants gets me moaning. Isthere anything I can do, or rub on myself, to avoid having mul-tiple orgasms in public?

Two Much Fun

I’ve never heard of someone with two clits - but I haven’tsearched the medical literature or sought the opinion of an expert.And I’m not inclined to search or seek when a letter is so trans-parently fake. (Opaque fakes are fine; every letter that makes itinto the column is a good hypothetical question - for every readersave one.) People whose genitals are different or ambiguous orterrifying - maybe that’s not an extra clit but the tip of your para-sitic twin’s nose - frequently have questions and concerns, TMF,but multiple earthshaking orgasms aren’t high on the list.

You don’t have a single clit, TMF, much less two. You’re a horny

boy with a dick, an e-mail account, and an obsession with/terrorof a woman’s potential capacity for unlimited sexual pleasure.And I’m hoping - I’m hoping against hope - that seeing your letterin print isn’t your peak sexual experience. But odds are…

I am a 47-year-old gay man who has a desire to be humiliatedand degraded - by a straight guy! How do I make this happen?Do I just walk up to a straight guy and tell him I want to get onmy knees and clean his shoes with my tongue while he spits onme and calls me names? Or that I want to eat out of a dog dishon the floor while he laughs at me? How the hell do I make thishappen? How do I approach some straight guy with my requestwithout getting beaten up? Please don’t say, “Settle for a verystraight-acting and straight-looking gay guy.” I have tried that,and it doesn’t work! The guy must be totally and completelystraight! Otherwise, it’s just not a turn-on for me. I’m so des-perate that I’m almost willing to pay for it!

Worthless Piece Of Shit

Long odds: If you have a wide circle of sexually adventurousstraight friends, WPOS, and you were open with all of your friendsabout your kinks in a friendly, nonthreatening manner, maybe oneor two of your straight male friends might be indulgent/perverseenough to want to engage in a little role-play with you. (And, yes,it’s possible to make someone feel threatened by offering to licktheir boots and take their abuse.)

Somewhat shorter odds: Don’t have friends like that? Well, thereare a lot of BDSM groups and orgs out there that are mixed, i.e.,they have gay, lesbian, straight, bi, and trans members, and mosthost mixed play parties. Get involved with one, be open about yourkinks, and you’ll meet a few kinky straight male tops who wouldget a kick out of slapping you around.

Best odds: Pay for it, already.

CONFIDENTIAL TO LGBT YOUTH: Please check out the new, im-proved, expanded, and totally awesome It Gets Better Project site:www.itgetsbetterproject.com. And please don’t kill yourself.

Find the Savage Lovecast (my weekly podcast) every Tuesday atthestranger.com/savage. [email protected]

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nov 2010outlookcolumbus.com 47Once again, thank you to Malcolm for supporting the community.

COMMUNITY RESOURCESSPONSORED BY MALCOLM RIGGLE & CMR INC.

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outlookcolumbus.comnov 201048 Shaun also created Reason to Dine, the fundraiser on Dec 1 where dining out produces proceeds for CATF. See www.catf.net/reasontodine for restaurants.

by Jack Fertig

“Get sick and twisted, Leo!”

Mercury is trine to Jupiter,opening the mind to wonderfulnew ideas and observations.But both are in water signs, sothose new “ideas” will bemore artistic, intuitive andemotional than logical – andthen Mercury trines Uranus,sending those novel notionsinto wild new directions. Avoiddrugs and booze. They’re justcrutches for people with no in-sight or originality.

SCORPIO (October 23 – No-vember 21): Asserting yourown integrity and truly speak-ing your mind is sure to shakeup your family or tribe. AsMark Twain said, you have tomake people laugh when youtell them the truth.

SAGITTARIUS (November 22 –December 20): To unlock fam-ily secrets, ignore your sib-lings. They’re probablyconfused or lying. Parents aremore likely to reveal the truth,especially when they wouldprefer not to. The truth couldbe shocking; the fall-out evenmore so. Is it worth it to know?

CAPRICORN (December 21 –January 19): As the worldmoves on, revising your ideasis sometimes necessary. Doold ideas still serve your coreideals? Philosophical and po-litical arguments with yourfriends can prove very educa-tional if you can approachthem with an open mind.

AQUARIUS (January 20 – Feb-ruary 18): Losing yourself inyour work is a good way toscrew up the job. Review yourpriorities and aims with yourboss or a trusted expert. Get-ting clear on this issue is keyto your advancement.

PISCES (February 19 – March19): What comes out of yourmouth may surprise you morethan your friends, but pickyour company carefully.Guarding secrets may be like“trying not to think about theelephant.” Just keep your mindand the conversation else-where.

ARIES (March 20 – April 19):Speak your mind! Granted,that often leads to trouble, butnow it should work out well.You could start misunder-standings with your friends,but trust your instincts to clearup any trouble.

TAURUS (April 20 – May 20):Your partner wants the bestfor you, but taking his or herprods to your ambition too se-riously can create more trou-ble than it will solve. Talktogether about long-rangegoals beyond your work. Afriend’s advice can be veryhelpful.

GEMINI (May 21- June 20): Im-pulsive actions on your ownwill likely cause arguments oraccidents. Be very clear aboutyour goals, and enlist helpfrom your boss or the experts.They’ll be glad to help you getahead.

CANCER (June 21- July 22):Small adventures, especially insexual experimentation, arelikely to get you into a terriblemess. Grander, more daringexperiments are a lot safer.The real trick is to thinkahead, be clear on safety is-sues, and trust your instincts.

LEO (July 23 – August 22): Old“tapes” from your upbringingcan get in the way of a healthypartnership. OK, let go of“healthy” and get sick andtwisted! A good erotic cathar-sis can be the best way toclear out the psychic junk.

VIRGO (August 23 – September22): Advice from your partnerwill likely shock you, but all themore reason to at least con-sider it very carefully. Follow-ing that line of conversationwith your sweetie will also helpyou avoid troublesome mis-statements.

LIBRA (September 23 – Octo-ber 22): Money problems canbe dealt with, but not at thelottery or casino – and “retailtherapy” is just a euphemismfor “shopaholic.” Analyze thesituation and work it out. A se-rious approach will find in-spired solutions.

Jack Fertig, a professional astrologer since 1977 teaches at the Interna-tional Academy of Astrology www.astrocollege.com. He can be reached forpersonal or business consultations at www.starjack.com,

Shaunby Chris Hayes

If you’re a man who has sex withmen in this town, you’ve probably‘hooked up’ with this month’s localceleb… hopefully before you’vehooked up. 30-year-old ShaunWhybark is the MSM HIV PreventionCoordinator for the Columbus AIDSTask Force (CATF) and has the bestsmile this side of the Dixie Line.

Originally hailing from Hector,Arkansas, a small rural town of449 people (that’s less people thanI graduated with), Shaun found hisway to Columbus with his exboyfriend who helped him escapeto our brighter pastures.

Before leaving AR, this man ofmany trades honed is professionalportfolio as a mobile home set-er-uper, a restaurant cook, and astore manager for Kirkland’s (I lovethat store!) and a community ac-tivist. All which help with his cur-rent position and passions.

Nowadays, Whybark focuses hisenergy on keeping our communitysexually safe. How awesome isthat?! As head of CATF’s MSM HIVPrevention, Shaun’s main jobs in-clude outreach and education, Per-sons of Leadership (POL), andtesting. Shaun works on gettingcondoms out to the bars that re-quest them (they need volunteersto distribute - hint, hint) aware-ness days, online outreach (he’s onalmost every site), and keeping theconversations about sex going inthe world. He tells me that Ohiohas a consistent 7% increase eachyear in infection rates and thatFranklin County alone see 300 newcases each year. That’s one personinfected every 32 hours. (Wrap itup already!) His main focus is get-ting ya’ll to first to know your sta-tus so you can make informeddecisions, and second, dealingwith the stigma that follows onefinding out they are infected. “Wehave to talk about what it meansto be HIV positive in the CentralOhio community and how thatleads to more infections,” he says.

When not peddling protection,

Shaun spends his time with hisboyfriend of over a year MarkBryan (the West familydancing phenomenon),building sets for dragqueens (we like aman that knows whatto do with his hands),playing softball (fill inyour own quip here),being the treasurerof Stompers (Yee-haw!), watching Ra-zorback football(woooo-pig-sooie!), andoccasionally throws yourass out of Wall Streetwhen you become unruly(never happened to me, Iswear).

If all that wasn’t enough tokeep him busy, Shaun isalso finishing his degreefrom University ofArkansas Little Rock with aBachelor of Liberal Arts fo-cusing on political science,history and criminal jus-tice. He hopes one day tobe a middle school Historyteacher. Those kids will forsure be hot for teacher.

If you see our papa of preven-tion out and about you don’thave to worry about your pri-vacy - he will never acknowl-edge knowing you from gettingtested; confidentiality is his ut-most priority - but if YOU feellike saying hi, he’ll gladly talk toyou. We suggest showing him ap-preciation with either a shot of Pa-tron or a Georgia Tea (if thebartender knows how to make it).

And whether you buy him a cocktailor not, he’ll always give you this bitof advice: “Don’t ever take his wordfor it - get proof. It’s your life so beselfish with everything, especiallywhen it comes to sex. Wear a con-dom EVERY time!”

Good words, my man, good words.

Shaun conducts free anonymous HIV test-ing Mon 1p-6p at Stonewall (1160 N HighSt) and Tue 3:30p-7p & Wed 11a-2p atCATF’s new location (4400 N High St; 3rdFl). For more info: www.catf.net /299.2437.

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nov 2010outlookcolumbus.com 49Braid, Bangs, Shell-Necklace -you kids look promising. We’d foster you any day!

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outlookcolumbus.comnov 201050 It’s all in who you know, so get to Network Columbus this month and get to know some people.

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nov 2010outlookcolumbus.com 51Being a cult leader is profitable, but being a cult member is more fun. I wonder if heaven and hell are similar?

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