Upload
garret-bourne
View
218
Download
0
Tags:
Embed Size (px)
Citation preview
1
SAFE Ambassador Program
2
SAFE Ambassador Program
OCPS
Jody Bernier ~ Avalon MSCynthia Bocanegra ~ District SAFE
Amy Ellis ~ District SAFERick Frederick ~ District SAFEAdrienne Sears ~ Walker MS
Summer 2007
3
4
R
E
S
O
N
A
B
L
E
RESPECTFUL
RELATED
CONFIDENTIALITY
5
6
7
PERCEPTION
Your perception is how you view the world.
Everyone has a different perception.
Ten people may have ten different perceptions of one event…and that’s
okay!
8
Active Listening
Verbal & Nonverbal
Body Language Eye Contact Facial
Expression Tone of Voice On/Off Topic
Things to Avoid
Crossing your Arms
Yawning Looking at the
Clock Rolling your
Eyes
TO LISTEN OBJECTIVELY WITHOUT INTERRUPTING
9
Nonverbal communications is just as Important!
7% of communication is verbal.
38% of communication is how you say what you say.
55% of communication is nonverbal (body language).
Textin
g
Instant
Messaging
E-m
ail
Internet
10
Communication Styles
Passive – submissive, not voicing concerns,
thoughts and feelings Assertive – clear, honest,
respectful
Aggressive – hurtful, using threats,
intimidation and anger
11
Gossip & RumorsGossip: Based on facts To talk about other people’s business
Rumors: Unverified information; hearsay To talk to others about what may or
may not be true. Damaging to someone’s reputation &
malicious.
They are both HURTFUL and examples of POOR COMMUNICATION!!
Can you think of a personal experience that involved Rumors???
12
Tattling vs Telling
Tattling is getting someone INTO trouble.
Telling is getting someone OUT OF trouble.
13
CollusionCollusion is letting other
people assume that you think the
same as they do by not telling them
that you think differently. You may have a different point of view,
but to openly state these views
would be more difficult than “going along with the
crowd.”
14
Silence Inappropriate
laughter Negative body
language Hurtful behaviorsCollusion is something that we’ve
all done at some point in time. Breaking the code of silence and the cycle of collusion starts with
SAFE Ambassadors!
Collusion contd…Collusion takes on many forms:
15
Silence HurtsIn Germany they came first for the Communists, and
I didn’t speak upbecause I wasn’t a Communist.
Then They came for the Jews, andI didn’t speak up
because I wasn’t a Jew.
Then they came for the trade unionists, andI didn’t speak up
because I wasn’t a trade unionist.
Then they came for the Catholics, andI didn’t speak up
because I was a Protestant.
Then they came for me,and by that time
No one was left to speak up.
Martin Niemoeller (1892-1984)
16
17
Diversity Is…
Being different from one another.
18
What Do We Do About Diversity When We Really Don’t Get to Know One
Another ????
We……
Diversity Cont’d…
19
Stereotype
Oversimplified belief or over generalization about a group of people.
Making assumptions about a person based on what they look like without
knowing them (i.e. categorizing).
20
Prejudice is: ~ a negative feeling about a group based on stereotypes ~ a preconceived judgment or opinion~ an adverse opinion formed without grounds or before sufficient knowledge.
Discrimination is: ~ the unfair treatment of a person or a group based on prejudice.
21
…..isms
22
1. Toleratingto put up withsomething orsomeone.
2. Accepting to receive
willingly, but not
necessarily agreeing with it.
3. Respecting to consider worthy of high regard or esteem; toshow consideration.
4. Welcoming to greet hospitably and with courtesy or cordiality.
Stages of Acceptance Defined…
23
Welcoming
Respecting
accepting
tolerating
Stages of Acceptance
24
25
Violence…is the threat of or actual use of
physical forceagainst self or others. There were 14, 504 deaths by
homicide 1 in every 36 min.
There were 31, 655 deaths by suicide
1 every 17 min.
There were 95, 136 raped women 1 every 5 min.
26
Orange County Statistics for 2006
County Level Student Behavior Stats 2006
6th-8th 9th-12th Alcohol 19.0 %
41.8 % Binge Drinking 8.4 %
23.0 % Marijuana 5.2 %
16.0 %
Attacking Someone with Intent to Harm
6th-8th 9th-12th 16.3 % 16.0 %
27
Risk Factors for Violence
Poverty Family Violence Media Violence Violence in Video
Games Availability of
Weapons Drug Abuse Gang Membership
28
29
A bystander is a person who witnesses an act or
an event without participating in it.
Bystanders are the majority and they have the
power to make a difference…,when they choose
to do so!
Bystanders feel… 1. Fearful 2. Powerless to change the
situation 3. Guilty.
Bystander Behavior
30
31
The Murder of “Kitty” Genovese
At approximately 3:20 on the morning of
March 13, 1964, twenty-eight-year-old Ms. Catherine (Kitty) Genovese was
returning to her home in a nice middle-class area of Queens, New York, from her job as a bar manager. She parked her red Fiat in a nearby parking lot, turned-off the lights and started the walk to her second floor apartment some 35 yards away. She got as far as a streetlight when a man grabbed her.
32
She screamed. Lights went on in the 10-floor apartment building nearby. She yelled, “Oh, my God, he stabbed me! Please help me!” Windows opened in the apartment building and a man’s voice shouted, “Let that girl alone.” The attacker looked up, shrugged and walked-off down the street. Ms Genovese struggled to get to her feet. Lights went back off in the apartments. The attacker came back and stabbed her again. She again cried out, “I’m dying! I’m dying!” And again the lights came on and windows opened in many of the nearby apartments. The assailant again left and got into his car and drove away.
The Murder of “Kitty” Genovese
33
Ms Genovese staggered to her feet as a city bus drove by. It was now 3:35 a.m. The attacker returned once again. He found her in a doorwayat the foot of the stairs and he stabbed her a third time--this time with a fatal consequence. It was3:50 when the police received the first call. They responded quickly and within two minutes were at the scene. Ms Genovese was already dead. The only person to call, a neighbor of Ms. Genovese, revealed that he had phoned only after much thought and an earlier phone call to a friend.
The Murder of “Kitty” Genovese
34
He said, “I didn’t want to get involved.” Two social psychologists, Bibb Latané and John Darley, unsatisfied with the above explanations, began a series of research studies to identify the situational factors that influence why people may be reluctant to come to the aid of others. Their explanation has been called diffusion of responsibility or the bystander effect and holds that an individual is less likely to provide assistance as the number of bystanders increases.
The Murder of “Kitty” Genovese
35
Your Role as a Bystander…
If you find yourself in a bystander situation…what will you choose to do???
Friends & acquaintances often put pressure on people to fight. These same people can play a role in preventing fights to resolve conflict by…
1. Ignoring those people who make negative remarks
about other people;
2. Refusing to spread rumors;
3. Refusing to spread a threat, insult or rumor from one
person to another;
4. Staying away from any area where you expect a fight
could take place;
If you find yourself in a bystander situation…what will you choose to do???
Friends & acquaintances often put pressure on people to fight. These same people can play a role in preventing fights to resolve conflict by…
1. Ignoring those people who make negative remarks
about other people;
2. Refusing to spread rumors;
3. Refusing to spread a threat, insult or rumor from one
person to another;
4. Staying away from any area where you expect a fight
could take place;
36
How one feels by putting
Oneself in another person’s shoes.
Empathy
AllySomeone that can be counted on in times of need.
37
38
Harassment…
is any unwanted remarks or
actions that cause a
person emotional or
physical harm.
39
Forms of Sexual Harassment may include (but are not
limited to):
1. Making comments about a person’s body part 2. Touching inappropriately 3. Spreading rumors about a person’s body part. 4. School Games 5. Flirting vs. Sexual Harassment
Sexual Harassment…is any uninvited sexual remarks or
sexual advances.
40
What should you do about Sexual Harassment?
Speak up assertively when you feel disrespected.
Use your refusal skills to reject unwanted sexual
advances. Avoid having to be alone with
someone you don’t trust. Report behavior that you may think
is sexual harassment.
41
42
What is Bullying?
A student is being bullied when he or she is exposed, repeatedly and over time, to negative actions on the part of one or more students.
43
Bullying is…Longstanding violence
Imbalance of power
The use of verbal or nonverbal
threats, physical force or
exclusion to intimidate and
control another person
44
Physical
Verbal
Nonverbal
Cyber bulling
Hitting, kicking, shoving, spitting, getting someone to assault another person
Taunting, teasing, racial or ethnic slurs, sexual harassment, spreading rumors, telephone
Threats, obscene gestures, deliberate exclusion
Texting, e~mails, IM, websites, My Space
Types of Bullying
45
Bullying Hurts EveryoneBullies :
learned their behavior
learned to feel good at
the expense of others
take out their frustrations
on others have high self-
esteem are more likely to
fail in school and become criminals.
Victims/Targets: are targets of
bullies have lower self-
esteem & more illnesses have higher
absenteeism are more likely to be depressed experience thoughts
of suicide.
46
Provocative Victim:One who is a target of bullies and
often exhibit bullying behavior, has low self-esteem, has been victimized or is presently being victimized.Bystander:
One who observers bullying; may feel
helpless or afraid and have feelings of guilt,
fear & shame by doing or saying nothing.
47
Be an ally Tell an adult Say something Distract Pull the victim away from
the situation
Strategies to Stop Bullying…
48
Reporting
I Promise to Notice:
Acts of Bullying Violence Harassment Threats &
hurtful behavior
I promise to report & act on
behaviors considered to be
Red Flags to:
SAFE Coordinators Administrators Teachers Guidance Parent
49
You have the POWER to STOP and PREVENT unwanted acts and to
make your campus a Safer Place.
If you do NOTHING you are saying that what is happening is OK with
you!!!
50
Talk of Suicide Knowledge of Homicide
attempt Physical Fighting Weapons Knowledge or
witnessing drug deal Alcohol or Drugs on
Campus Rape Under the Influence
School Hotline
Signs to Look for…
Gang Activity Potential Violence Threats Family physical or
Sexual Abuse Cutting/Self Injurious Behavior Acts of Retaliation Relationship Violence Drag Racing
RED FLAGS
51
52
Face: ones public self image.
Losing Face: To lose dignity; embarassment.
Saving Face: To regain ones dignity & control.
Graceful Exits
53
One more time Slowly Last Word Laugh Lie
54
55
56
57
58
Affirmations
Plate Activity
59
What do you plan to do to make a difference at your school and in
your community?
Personal Action
Plan
60
Alcohol, Tobacco and Other Drugs
61
62
63
64
Thank you for choosing to be
aSAFE
Ambassador!
Acknowledgments
65