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Interpersonal Interpersonal RelationshipsRelationships
Scientists believe that ALL relationships – both impersonal and personal – are based on the social exchange theory.◦ We seek out people who can give us rewards
(tangible or intangible) that are greater than or equal to the costs we encounter in dealing with them
Rewards – Cost = Outcome
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Acquaintances – goal is to reduce uncertainty and maintain face
Friends – we voluntarily become more personal
Close friends / Intimates – few people we share trust with high degree of commitment, disclosure, and interdependence
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Interpersonal communication occurs when people treat one another as unique individuals, regardless of the context in which the interaction occurs or the number of people involved.
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Metacommunication is communication about communication◦ Essential ingredient in successful relationships◦ Tool for handling problems◦ Reinforces good aspects of a relationship
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Physical Intellectual sharing Emotional Shared activities
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Women are more likely to share thoughts and feelings
75% of men surveyed said most meaningful experiences w/ friends came from activities other than talking
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Beginning relationships
Developing relationships
Maintaining relationships
Deteriorating and Dissolving
relationships
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Mark Knapp’s Stages of the Relationship
Initiating – brief interactions to show interest
Experimenting – small talk Intensifying – expression of feelings (WE) Integrating – take identity as one social unit Bonding – make symbolic public gestures
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Differentiating – need to gain privacy Circumscribing – withdrawal, shrinking of
interest Stagnating – no growth occurs Avoiding – physical distance occurs Terminating – relationship ends
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Autonomy vs. Connection Openness vs. Closedness (privacy) Novelty vs. Predictability
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Self-disclosure is the process of deliberately
revealing information about oneself that is significant
and that would not normally be known by others.
Disclosure is revealing confidential or secret
information. Disclosure is a larger concept because it
includes confidential information about others as well
as yourself (Petronio, 2002 & pg 161)
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(Pg 164)
Intimacy – Because of Dialectical tensions, people more back and forth between greater disclosure and privacy. Disclosure can increase and decrease intimacy.
Reciprocity – how long do you wait before you reciprocate disclosure
Trust – How does your partner treat information you shared
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Self-disclose information you want others to disclose to you
Continue self-disclosure when reciprocated Gradually move to deeper levels of self-
disclosure Observe the risk involved in self-disclosing
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Formal Cultures Engage in Less Self-Disclosure
Germany More Formal than America Misperceptions in Early Stages of
Cross-Cultural Relationships Across Cultures - More Intimacy, More
Self-Disclosure
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In General, Men Tend to Disclose Less Than Women, but This Varies by Individual and Cultural Tradition
Men in our society are more likely to
view conversation as report-talk
Women in our society are more likely
to view conversation as rapport-talk Tannen,
1990
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