1 Dealing With Conflicts In Marriage - Braggs Church …...Dealing With Conflicts In Marriage Introduction 2 ••Conflict = fight, battle, contend, struggle ••We need to keep

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Dealing With Conflicts In Dealing With Conflicts In MarriageMarriage

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IntroductionIntroduction

••ConflictConflict = fight, battle, = fight, battle, contend, strugglecontend, struggle

••We need to keep this to a We need to keep this to a

••ConflictConflict = fight, battle, = fight, battle, contend, strugglecontend, struggle

••We need to keep this to a We need to keep this to a ••We need to keep this to a We need to keep this to a minimum in our homesminimum in our homes

••We need to keep this to a We need to keep this to a minimum in our homesminimum in our homes

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God Cares About FamiliesGod Cares About Families

••Genesis 2:24Genesis 2:24 Therefore shall a Therefore shall a man leave his father and his man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto mother, and shall cleave unto

••Genesis 2:24Genesis 2:24 Therefore shall a Therefore shall a man leave his father and his man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto mother, and shall cleave unto mother, and shall cleave unto mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one his wife: and they shall be one flesh.flesh.

mother, and shall cleave unto mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one his wife: and they shall be one flesh.flesh.

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God Cares About FamiliesGod Cares About Families

••Usually, the lives of the Usually, the lives of the children reflect the attitudes of children reflect the attitudes of their parentstheir parents

••Usually, the lives of the Usually, the lives of the children reflect the attitudes of children reflect the attitudes of their parentstheir parentstheir parentstheir parents

••Too many families are Too many families are hindered by conflicthindered by conflict

their parentstheir parents••Too many families are Too many families are

hindered by conflicthindered by conflict

5The Spiritually Minded The Spiritually Minded Husband Husband Will Care For His Family ProperlyWill Care For His Family Properly

••Eph. 5: 33Eph. 5: 33 Nevertheless let Nevertheless let every one of you in particular every one of you in particular so love his wife even as so love his wife even as

••Eph. 5: 33Eph. 5: 33 Nevertheless let Nevertheless let every one of you in particular every one of you in particular so love his wife even as so love his wife even as so love his wife even as so love his wife even as himself; himself; so love his wife even as so love his wife even as himself; himself;

6The Spiritually Minded The Spiritually Minded Husband Husband Will Care For His Family ProperlyWill Care For His Family Properly

••1 Pet. 3:71 Pet. 3:7 Likewise, ye Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge,according to knowledge,

••1 Pet. 3:71 Pet. 3:7 Likewise, ye Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge,according to knowledge,according to knowledge,according to knowledge,according to knowledge,according to knowledge,

7The Spiritually Minded The Spiritually Minded Wife Wife Will Will Care For Her Family ProperlyCare For Her Family Properly

••Eph. 5:33Eph. 5:33 and the wife see that and the wife see that she reverence her husbandshe reverence her husband

••Prov. 31:23Prov. 31:23 Her husband is Her husband is

••Eph. 5:33Eph. 5:33 and the wife see that and the wife see that she reverence her husbandshe reverence her husband

••Prov. 31:23Prov. 31:23 Her husband is Her husband is ••Prov. 31:23Prov. 31:23 Her husband is Her husband is known in the gates, when he known in the gates, when he sitteth among the elders of the sitteth among the elders of the land.land.

••Prov. 31:23Prov. 31:23 Her husband is Her husband is known in the gates, when he known in the gates, when he sitteth among the elders of the sitteth among the elders of the land.land.

8Spiritually Minded Spiritually Minded Parents & Parents & ChildrenChildren Will Care For Their Will Care For Their

Families ProperlyFamilies Properly

••Rearing adolescents can be Rearing adolescents can be difficultdifficult

••Rearing adolescents can be Rearing adolescents can be difficultdifficult

••Proverbs 22:6Proverbs 22:6 Train up a child in Train up a child in the way he should go: and when the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from he is old, he will not depart from it.it.

••Proverbs 22:6Proverbs 22:6 Train up a child in Train up a child in the way he should go: and when the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from he is old, he will not depart from it.it.

9Application of Lesson Application of Lesson --HusbandHusband

••Understand your wifeUnderstand your wife•• Let her know you love her in word Let her know you love her in word

and in deedand in deed

••Understand your wifeUnderstand your wife•• Let her know you love her in word Let her know you love her in word

and in deedand in deedand in deedand in deed•• Remember that the 1Remember that the 1stst year may year may

be the most difficultbe the most difficult

and in deedand in deed•• Remember that the 1Remember that the 1stst year may year may

be the most difficultbe the most difficult


••Mt. 19:6Mt. 19:6 What therefore What therefore God hath joined together, God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.let not man put asunder.

••Mt. 19:6Mt. 19:6 What therefore What therefore God hath joined together, God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.let not man put asunder.let not man put asunder.let not man put asunder.let not man put asunder.let not man put asunder.


••1 Jn. 4:41 Jn. 4:4 Ye are of God, little Ye are of God, little children, and have overcome children, and have overcome them: because greater is he them: because greater is he

••1 Jn. 4:41 Jn. 4:4 Ye are of God, little Ye are of God, little children, and have overcome children, and have overcome them: because greater is he them: because greater is he them: because greater is he them: because greater is he that is in you, than he that is in that is in you, than he that is in the world.the world.BE COMMITTED!BE COMMITTED!

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them: because greater is he them: because greater is he that is in you, than he that is in that is in you, than he that is in the world.the world.BE COMMITTED!BE COMMITTED!

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Application of Lesson Application of Lesson -- WifeWife

••Keep arguing to a minimumKeep arguing to a minimum••Respect your husband if you Respect your husband if you

know he is doing the best he know he is doing the best he

••Keep arguing to a minimumKeep arguing to a minimum••Respect your husband if you Respect your husband if you

know he is doing the best he know he is doing the best he know he is doing the best he know he is doing the best he cancan

••Respect his leadership roleRespect his leadership role

know he is doing the best he know he is doing the best he cancan

••Respect his leadership roleRespect his leadership role

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••Eph. 5:22Eph. 5:22 Wives, submit Wives, submit yourselves unto your own yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.husbands, as unto the Lord.

••Eph. 5:22Eph. 5:22 Wives, submit Wives, submit yourselves unto your own yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.husbands, as unto the Lord.husbands, as unto the Lord.husbands, as unto the Lord.husbands, as unto the Lord.husbands, as unto the Lord.

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••“Husbands showing affection “Husbands showing affection & wives showing respect will & wives showing respect will help to address the lion’s share help to address the lion’s share

••“Husbands showing affection “Husbands showing affection & wives showing respect will & wives showing respect will help to address the lion’s share help to address the lion’s share help to address the lion’s share help to address the lion’s share of marital conflict”. of marital conflict”. Brian Brian GochenourGochenour

help to address the lion’s share help to address the lion’s share of marital conflict”. of marital conflict”. Brian Brian GochenourGochenour

15Application of Lesson Application of Lesson ––Parents & ChildrenParents & Children

••Spend quality time with your Spend quality time with your children of all ages children of all ages –– parents parents who are always too busy sow who are always too busy sow

••Spend quality time with your Spend quality time with your children of all ages children of all ages –– parents parents who are always too busy sow who are always too busy sow who are always too busy sow who are always too busy sow seeds of conflictsseeds of conflictswho are always too busy sow who are always too busy sow seeds of conflictsseeds of conflicts


••Speak to your children in the Speak to your children in the way you want them to speak way you want them to speak to youto you

••Speak to your children in the Speak to your children in the way you want them to speak way you want them to speak to youto youto youto youProv. 11:29Prov. 11:29 He that troubleth his He that troubleth his own house shall inherit the wind: and own house shall inherit the wind: and the fool shall be servant to the wise the fool shall be servant to the wise of heart.of heart.

to youto youProv. 11:29Prov. 11:29 He that troubleth his He that troubleth his own house shall inherit the wind: and own house shall inherit the wind: and the fool shall be servant to the wise the fool shall be servant to the wise of heart.of heart.


••Talk about conflict and discuss Talk about conflict and discuss ways to deal with difficult ways to deal with difficult children i.e. moody, difficult children i.e. moody, difficult

••Talk about conflict and discuss Talk about conflict and discuss ways to deal with difficult ways to deal with difficult children i.e. moody, difficult children i.e. moody, difficult children i.e. moody, difficult children i.e. moody, difficult temperament etc.temperament etc.children i.e. moody, difficult children i.e. moody, difficult temperament etc.temperament etc.


••Understand that your Understand that your teenager’s striving for teenager’s striving for independence is normalindependence is normal

••Understand that your Understand that your teenager’s striving for teenager’s striving for independence is normalindependence is normalindependence is normalindependence is normal

••Address misbehavior properly Address misbehavior properly –– don’t take everything don’t take everything personallypersonally

independence is normalindependence is normal••Address misbehavior properly Address misbehavior properly

–– don’t take everything don’t take everything personallypersonally


••REMEMBER REMEMBER -- Children begin Children begin learning how to handle conflict learning how to handle conflict as early as age two!as early as age two!

••REMEMBER REMEMBER -- Children begin Children begin learning how to handle conflict learning how to handle conflict as early as age two!as early as age two!as early as age two!as early as age two!

••Be fair in what you expect and Be fair in what you expect and how you punish!how you punish!

••Col. 3:21Col. 3:21

as early as age two!as early as age two!••Be fair in what you expect and Be fair in what you expect and

how you punish!how you punish!••Col. 3:21Col. 3:21


••Enforce the standard you set Enforce the standard you set up fairlyup fairly

••Place yourself and your family Place yourself and your family

••Enforce the standard you set Enforce the standard you set up fairlyup fairly

••Place yourself and your family Place yourself and your family ••Place yourself and your family Place yourself and your family under God’s ruleunder God’s rule

••Place yourself and your family Place yourself and your family under God’s ruleunder God’s rule

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••Material take from Southwest Material take from Southwest Lectureship book, 2009, Lectureship book, 2009, HONORING CHRIST, Calling For HONORING CHRIST, Calling For

••Material take from Southwest Material take from Southwest Lectureship book, 2009, Lectureship book, 2009, HONORING CHRIST, Calling For HONORING CHRIST, Calling For HONORING CHRIST, Calling For HONORING CHRIST, Calling For Godly FamiliesGodly FamiliesHONORING CHRIST, Calling For HONORING CHRIST, Calling For Godly FamiliesGodly Families

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1 Dealing With Conflicts In Marriage - Braggs Church …...Dealing With Conflicts In Marriage Introduction 2 ••Conflict = fight, battle, contend, struggle ••We need to keep