Mentoring - empowering women for the future

”EQUALITY MEANS BUSINESS” Istanbul event

Istanbul Bilgi University

You Can Be Whatever You Want To Be

”There is inside you all of the potential to be whatever you want to be - all of the energy to do whatever you want to do. Imagine yourself as you would like to be, doing what you want to do, and each day, take one step towards your dream. And though at times it may seem too difficult to continue, hold on to your dream. One morning you will awake to find that you are the person you dreamed of - doing what you wanted to do - simply because you had the courage to believe in your potential and to hold on to your dream”

by Donna Levine

Roots in mythology of Greek’s

Odyseus, king of Ithaka, did hand over his son Thelemakhos to goddess Athene, when he left to

the war of Troja. Athene took the form of Odyseus’s friend called Mentor, the role was to

help, guide and train youngster to his task - kingship

Greeks had very strong belief to this kind of relationship between senior and junior, key to

civilization survival: young will learn skills, customs and values directly from such person,

which he/she respects

Exercise

Think of someone who helped you to develop (or someone who mentored you in special way)

What were your initial expectations of the person and the relationship?

Did your expectations start out positive or grow as the relationship started to succeed?

What were your behaviors that influenced the positive responses of your partner?

What did this person seem to expect of you? How did you react to these expectations?

GOOD MENTORS

ARE OPEN ABOUT THEMSELVES, OPEN ABOUT THE BUSINESS, OBTAIN FEEDBACK, PROBE, SURPRISE THE MENTEE, ARE

COUNSELLORS, MAKE IT TWO WAY, ARE CARING, HUMAN, AVAILABLE,

COMMITTED, GOOD LISTENERS

MENTORING NOWADAYS

Mentoring involves primarily listening with empathy, sharing experience (usually mutually), professional friendship, developing insight through reflection,

being a sounding board, encouraging. - David Clutterbuck

Mentoring is a long term relationship that meets a development need, helps develop full potential, and

benefits all partners, mentor, mentee and the organisation. - Suzanne Faure

MENTORING NOWADAYSMentoring is a mutual relationship with an intentional

agenda designed to convey specific content along with life wisdom from one individual to another.

Mentoring does not happen by accident, nor do its benefits come quickly. - Thomas Addington and

Stephen Graves

Mentoring is a one-to-one, non-judgemental relationship in which an individual voluntarily gives time to

support and encourage another. This is typically developed at a time of transition in the mentee's life and lasts for a significant and sustained period of

time. - Active Community Unit

A MENTOR WILL FILL MANY DIFFERENT ROLES

– ROLE MODEL - A mentee will observe the mentor as an adult, employee, citizen, and community member.

– ADVISOR - The mentor will provide information and expertise in a particular area in order to aid the mentee in making informed decisions.

– COACH - The mentor will help the student learn specific skills about their job and the workplace.

– COUNSELOR - The mentor will have opportunities to help the student think through career, personal, and academic questions.

• EVALUATOR - The mentor will monitor the mentee's performance and offer constructive feedback about his/her progress.

Academic ”world”

Older students help younger students cope with peer pressure

University alumni provide guidance to students seeking business careers

Experienced faculty members assist their newer colleagues, mentoring has given them a very positive

attitude to the university

Peer mentoring - two colleagues mentor each other

In academic medicine women with mentors report more publications and more time spent on research activity than those without mentors. Women with a role model

reported higher overall career satisfaction.

THE MAIN HEADINGS OF THE MENTORING CONTRACT ARE

A ’NO FAULT’ OPT-OUT CLAUSE, A TWO-WAY PROCESS

WHAT WE ARE PREPARED TO DO / TALK ABOUT

EACH OTHER’S EXPECTATIONS TIME ISSUES: HOW MUCH, WHEN, IN

WORKTIME / PLACE OR NOT MANAGING THE LINE MANAGER

RELATIONSHIP

THE MAIN HEADINGS OF THE MENTORING CONTRACT ARE

PERCEPTIONS AND SUBTLETY COPING WHIT ENVY / GOSSIP CONFIDENTIALITY OF THE RELATIONSHIP –

TRUST / CONFIDENCE NETWORKING OPPORTUNITIES HANDLING FEEDBACK LEARNING ABOUT OTHER ASPECTS OF THE

ORGANIZATION• LIFE AFTER ’THE END’

Women and the mentoring relationship

it has been said that women in mentoring relationships have greater job satisfaction than

women whitout mentors

a mentor can significantly accelerate a woman’s professional development compared to that of

women whitout mentors

mentors are important in introducing women to the organization’s power structure, formal and

informal.

women may face different problems to men in mentoring relationships

Women and the mentoring relationship

women mentors are in short supply at very senior level.

the gender of the mentor is less important to success than their quality as mentors.

the mentors should be aware of their own style and behaviour and those of the mentees.

participants need to be prepared to counter office gossip and jealousies

Women's mentoring is more about commitment than about chemistry. It's about personal growth and development rather than about promotions and plums. And it's more

about learning than power.

Thoughts of an anonymous aborigin woman from

Australia."If you have come to help me, you are

vasting your time. But if you have come because your liberation is bound up with mine, then let us

work together"

Women executives assist other women to break the "glass ceiling"

Business Mentor Program

The mentors are experienced and successful senior business managers. Many of them are retired

from their full-time work.

The mentors are willing to offer their own professional experience and know-how for the benefit of small local companies and help new

entrepreneurs starting.

Cherie Blair Foundation Mentor is an unique opportunity for supporting women entrepreneurs across the globe and helping to close the gender

gap in the SME sector

Florence Awasom, Cameroon

To help others walk along a path that they (mentors) have already

cleared. But, it is easier if you can begin your journey on a cleared

path!"

GROUP MENTORING

Group mentoring - one mentor meets with several mentees

Group-group peer mentoring

Can be efficient, promotes diversity•

no a vibrant culture

Reverse Mentoring

The more junior person is the mentor

It is usually used when elder employees need to understand operations or technology that can be

shared by shop floor, front-line or tech-savvy employees

It needs ability to create and maintain an attitude of openness to the experience and dissolve the

barriers of status, power and position.

MIND HEART

BODY SOUL

Networking is a prime component

In the future, information is power

The larger your Network, the better your chance of finding out exactly what you need to know

Knowing whom to call is almost as good as knowing!

Networkers can accumulate influence or power by control of information and, of course, by

learning

Give and get information

Networking is a two-way streetA network is not a collection of business

cards, but of people. Take the time to understand the business

of those in your networkBe careful never to burn bridges

I also have seen: rather than focusing on the strengths of what women offer each other and using them to everyone’s advantage, efforts to undermine talented coworkers can be evolved into an all-or-nothing-

war-like campaign and a hostile competition among women.

Listen and giveListen to the people you meet to see how you

might assist them in what they do

Giving first and giving more than receiving is a very important rule of networking

If one party does all the giving, then the relationship will not last and the networking

ends

Networking relationships takes work and cooperation by all parties involved

What do you get from learning to network

You'll save money on advertising, since you'll get more business from referrals.

You'll get more leads, and close deals faster.

You'll develop an "In" with people that can help you get to the profitable "hard to reach" clients.

You'll develop strong and long lasting business relationships, quickly and effectively.

You'll build a network of loyal contacts, who will look for ways to send you new business.

You'll hear about profitable opportunities before they become common knowledge. (That's an unbeatable edge!)

Empowering women and girls

we raise the quality of life for everyone. This is because when women lead they not only

lead businesses, they lead in their community, they fight for their children,

and they give voice to issues that are important to our collective future -- like

education and health care

So, mentoring has very many faces!

Thank you for your attention - "the future is one minute from

now"!