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HWR Berlin Supervision Internship LV 401591 / 1
Week #03: Give examples of assertive or non-assertive behavior.
But first, some extra input on Parallel and Paradoxical Interventions. And some experimental training, on the job.
Question of the week: Assertiveness.
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Antipathetic or sympathetic responses
My job is terrible! I'm mistreated,
misjudged, Underpaid, …!!!
Pull yourself together,
stop whining & complaining!
I'm sorry to hear it. Perhaps
you need another job?
Person A. Person B.
A. is very excited & Upset. He's almost „not quite himself“. B. wants to calm him down and/or get out of the line of fire.
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Parallel responses
My job is terrible! I'm mistreated,
misjudged, Underpaid, …!!!
So your job is Terrible, they
mistreat & misjudge & underpay you?
That is horrible! How can you stand It! You should quit
right away!!!
…by parallel talking in a more neutral, mirroring way, or in a more parallel, exaggerating way, B. can help A. take a good look at himself.
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My job is terrible! I'm mistreated,
misjudged, Underpaid, …!!!
I've long wanted to say something about the state of
the restrooms In this place!
Okay – where do you buy your suits?
I think you look Great in black!
...by talking what from the outside may appear like nonsense, but is rather a calculated paradoxical intervention, A. Is even more effectively thrown off balance and cannot but leave his position.
The paradoxical response
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Experiment with assertive behavior this and next week.
First, identify your (typical) pattern.
For example:
• when you'd normally say 'no', say 'yes'.
• when you'd normally be aggressive, be assertive
• when you'd normally be manipulative, be assertive
• In all cases, observe how other people's response changes when you change your behavior.
Now it‘s your turn.
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Do one thing differently in your communications with others in your workplace and pay attention to the consequences.
Discuss what you've done with a third person and report on what you've learned.
Your assignment (1): Experiment.
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Give examples of assertive or non-assertive behavior. Take a good look around and see what's happening at your work place. Give a few examples of assertive behavior or of non-assertive behavior — in the latter case, please suggest what would have been more assertive.
These examples don't have to come from you personally; you may also showcase behaviors of others that you observe. But personal is always best.
Your assignment (2): Answer our question.