NLP Principles of Success and Fibromyalgia

NLP Principles of SuccessCheryl Cox

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Overview

• 5 Principles of Success• How they relate to Fibromyalgia• Setting goals that absolutely ROCK• Putting it all together• References• Questions

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5 PRINCIPLES OF SUCCESS

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5 Principles of Success

1. Know your outcome2. Take action3. Sensory awareness4. Behavioural flexibility5. Physiology and psychology of excellence

HOW THEY RELATE TO FIBROMYALGIA

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Effects of Chronic Illness

• Lose sight of everything else• Want to be “fixed” (external focus)• Loss of control• Lack of choices• Get stuck on how it used to be• Pattern of “moving away”• Lose sense of belonging

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Applying to Chronic Illness

• The Principles of Success are still as useful• The Principles of Success don’t need to change• It is our expectations that need to change• Acknowledge any “moving towards” actions• Celebrate all outcomes achieved• Evaluate and re-evaluate• Journal or keep notes

SETTING GOALS THAT ABSOLUTELY ROCK

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SMART Goals

• Specific and Simple• Measurable and Meaningful• Achievable and As if now• Realistic and Relevant• Timely and Toward what you want

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Keys to an Achievable Outcome

1. Stated in the positive “What specifically do you want?”

2. Specify present situation“Where are you now?”

3. Specify the outcome “What will you see, hear & feel when you have it?”

As if now Make compelling Make it in the future

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Keys to an Achievable Outcome

4. Specify evidence procedure “How will you know when you have it?”

5. Is it congruently desirable?“What will this outcome get for you or allow you

to do?”

6. Is it self-initiated and self-maintained?“Is it only for you?”

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Keys to an Achievable Outcome

7. Is it appropriately contextualised? “Where, when, how, and with whom do you want

it?”

8. What resources are needed?“What do you have now, and what do you need to

get your outcome?” “Have you ever had or done this before?” “Do you know anyone who has?” “Can you act as if you have it?”

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Keys to an Achievable Outcome

9. Is it ecological? “For what purpose do you want this?”“What will you gain or lose if you have it?”

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“What will happen if you do get it?”“What won’t happen if you do get it?”“What will happen if you don’t get it?”“What won’t happen if you don’t get it?”

PUTTING IT ALL TOGETHER

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Example

• It is 17 February 2012 and I am down the beach with my dog Sam. We have just finished a one hour walk and I am feeling fantastic. My new shorts and t-shirt are size 12 and I look so good in them. I am enjoying the sand between my toes, the sea breeze in my hair, the smell of the salt water and the sound of the waves as they crash against the shore.

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Where to from here?

• Start today, start small• Ensure the first step is specified & achievable• Be prepared for the challenge• Make a commitment to follow through• Answer questions - write down answers• A state (eg, happy) is not a goal• Track success, failure & gratitude

REFERENCES

References

• Encyclopedia of NLP– http://www.nlpuniversitypress.com/

• NLP Guide– http://www.transformdestiny.com/NLP-Guide/

• NLP Practitioner & Performance Coaching Training Manual (2006)– Sharon Pearson, The Coaching Institute

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QUESTIONS?

Cheryl Coxlivingwellwithfibromyalgia@gmail.com twitter.com/LiveWellFibrofibromyalgia.pepperpage.net