My Favorite Book by Aabid Zafar

My Favorite BookBy

Abid Zafar

My Favorite Book is…

Dale Carnegie

• Carnegie was an American writer and lecturer and the developer of famous courses in self-improvement, salesmanship, corporate training, public speaking, and interpersonal skills.

• Born into poverty on a farm in Missouri

His Bestselling Books

• He was the author of How to Win Friends and Influence People (1936), a bestseller that remains popular today.

• He also wrote How to Stop Worrying and Start Living (1948),

• Lincoln the Unknown (1932), and several other books.

The Core Ideas of his Books

• One of the core ideas in his books is that it is possible to change other people's behavior by changing one's behavior toward them

According to him…

• Effective Speaking… is the revealing expression of a human personality

• “Business, social and personal satisfaction depend heavily upon a person’s ability to communicate clearly to his fellow men what he is, what he desires, and what he believes in.

In this Book…

• He lights on the methods of “Speaking Effectively the Quick and Easy Way”

According to him, there are 3 methods of Effective Speaking

1. Speak about something you have earned the right to talk about through experience or study

2. Be sure you are excited about your subject3. Be eager to share your talk with your listeners

1. Speak about something you have earned the right to talk about through

• Tell us what life has taught you• Look for topics in your background• Early years and upbringing (Topics that deal with the

family, childhood memories, schooldays, invariably get attention, because most of us are interested in the environment in which they were reared)

• Hobbies & Recreation

Cont…

• Special areas of knowledge• Unusual experience• Beliefs and Conviction (if you have devoted many hours to

the study of the issues of importance, you have earned the right to talk about them)

2. Be sure you are excited about your subject

• Not all the topic that you and I have earned the right to talk about make us excited

• I certainly am qualified to talk about washing dishes but somehow or other I can’t get excited about this topic

Cont…• Recently, I came across some notes I had written in 1926

after I had visited the 17th session of the League of Nation in Geneva, Switzerland. “After three or four lifeless speakers read their manuscripts, Sir George Foster of Canada took the floor. With immense satisfaction. I noted that he had no papers or notes of any kind. He gestured almost constantly. His heart was in what he was saying.

• Principles I have been advocating in my teaching were beautifully illustrated in that talk

3. Be Eager to Share Your Talk With Your Listeners

• There are 3 factors in every speaking situation:i. The Speakerii. The Speech/the messageiii. The audienceThe speech can only be successful if the speaker relates his talk to a living audience

Cont…

• The speaker must make his listeners feel that what he has to say is important to them

• He must not only be excited about his topic but he must be eager to transfer this excitement to his listeners

The Effective Speaker earnestly desires his listeners to feel…

• What he feels to agree with his point of view• To do what he thinks is right for hem to do• To enjoy and relive his experience with him

Overall…

• A good speaker must be audience-centered and not self-centered

• He must know that the success or failure of his talk is not for him to decide—it will be decided in the minds and hearts of his hearers