Ch 7 interpersonal

How do you feel meeting somebody brand new?• Does gender have any affect on your feelings?

• Other factors that make you feel more or less nervous when you meet someone? Status / Beauty / Intelligence / Other things

• How important is one-on-one communication?

• Do you feel it may be more important to develop these skills than presentational speaking?

What is INTERPERSONAL COMMUNICATION ?• Can you give some examples?

What is a relationship of CIRCUMSTANCE ?• Give some examples

What is a relationship of CHOICE ?

Is there such a thing as:

“LOVE AT FIRST SIGHT”

• Can someone love without really knowing them?

When you see someone we like... • Why don’t we just go up to them and

tell them?

• How would you respond if someone did that to you?

When we meet someone for the first time, why do we go “fishing”?• “Do you know...?• “Have you ever been to...?• “Where are you from?

What is the difference between physical attraction & sexual attraction?

• Can we develop a long term relationship with someone we don’t find physically attractive?

• Do Americans emphasize physical beauty and appearance too much?

• How can we overcome this?

Do we telegraph our attraction to others?• How?

Can we discern physical attraction from sexual attraction?• How?

How do you feel when you are complimented?

What is the best way to accept a compliment?

Maintaining RelationshipsSelf-disclosure: voluntarily

providing info to others they would not

learn unless we told them.

Maintaining RelationshipsSelf-disclosure: voluntarily

providing info to others they would not

learn unless we told them.

Why do we do it?

Self-Disclosure is...• A building block of intimacy• Greater intimacy generally

leads to enhanced relationship

Properties of Self-Disclosure• Reciprocity• Appropriateness• Risk

Self-Disclosure: Exercise• Take out a piece of paper and

write down three sentences

about yourself...

• TWO THRUTHS & ONE LIE