True Love = One Family at A Time

True Love : True Love :

3rd Nov 20112

GPYC. Indonesia

Dream Big?

Vision = Wawasan It gives clear goal and mission Source of imagination, creativity &

inspiration source of Zeal and Drive Source of Team work

We endeavors to bring our human family together within every level of society.

When we heal the family….

we heal the world.

The traditional family is the cornerstone of society and the first school where love is learned.

Moral standards exist to protect us and promote the health of our families.

Family is the very base in providing character education training and leadership education.

Human Dimension

Biological

Social & cultural

Value

PhysicalPhysical law govern every thing: eg: Jump from high building – injury or die

Biological law in control ， eg ： breathing 、heart beat 、 sleep 、 sex…..

Human behavior 、 eg ：attire 、 food 、 shelter 、 manners…

Morality, in search of ideal, truth, beauty & goodness

Bio law

Logic of

LoveBuilding ideal FamilyBuilding ideal Family

A life of true happiness

Joy & happiness has many level Joy & happiness has many level

Spiritual creation

Relationship are Interconnected

individual to Global

Politic

Social

Media

Family

Education

Economic

Environment

World

Media

Individual

Nation

Religion

Cultural & Artistic

The Challenges: The Feeling About SEX, sexual organ & sexual things

• Yucky

• Bed & Bad

• Porn• Shy

• Taboo • Pleasure

distorted view

Many kinds of unhappiness & problems..

Single Parents

Orphans

Out of wedlockAIDS

DivorceWars

10

Family BreakdownFamily Breakdown

What Is The Most Important To You?

Family

Love

Money

Knowledge

Special someone

power

House

Building Nation of Prosperity, One Family at a timeBuilding Nation of Prosperity, One Family at a time

Individual happiness

Family stability National

strengths

Individual happiness

Family stability National

strengths

The Most Important things

1.Family

2.Love

3.God

4.Money

5.Education

6.Friends

Character —Foundation for Strong Marriage

Character —Foundation for Strong Marriage

Are They Balanced?Are They Balanced?

Career Preparation

Career Preparation

Marriage PreparationMarriage

Preparation

Where to Nurture our Heart?

FAMILY

The SchoolThe School

of Loveof Love

Ideal Leader & society

Begins from an ideal family

Spiritual Moral - Ethical

• Experience God's Love

• Learn Principles of Life

• Character Development

• Live for Others

4 realm of Heart 4 realm of Heart ( 4 Spheres of Love)( 4 Spheres of Love)

in the Family : in the Family :

Parental HeartParental Heart Conjugal HeartConjugal Heart Sibling’s HeartSibling’s Heart Children’s HeartChildren’s Heart

Natural Order in the Family

Vertical Order

Vertical Order Individual Individual

OrderOrderIndividual Individual

OrderOrder

GrandGrand

parentsparents

GrandGrand

parentsparents

ParentsParentsParentsParents

BrotheBrotherrBrotheBrotherr

SisterSisterSisterSister BrotherBrotherBrotherBrother SisterSisterSisterSister ChildrenChildrenChildrenChildren

Horizontal Order

Horizontal Order

Natural Order in the Universe

Natural Order in the Universe

Vertical Order

Vertical Order Individual

OrderIndividual

Order

Center of Center of GalaxyGalaxy

Center of Center of GalaxyGalaxy

SunSunSunSun

EarthEarthEarthEarth MarsMarsMarsMars JupiterJupiterJupiterJupiter

Horizontal Order

Horizontal Order

MercuryMercuryMercuryMercuryVenusVenusVenusVenus

The Four Realms of Love The Four Realms of Love

Child’s Love Child’s Love Sibling’s LoveSibling’s Love Spouse’s LoveSpouse’s Love Parent’s LoveParent’s Love

Culture & TraditionCulture & Tradition

Heart

mind

Father Mother

TrustTrust

LoveLove

Selfish

• Commitment

• Aspiration

• Principle & value

Grow of Heart ・・・

Family

Society

Nation

World

Building a High Trust CultureBuilding a High Trust Culture

Heart

& mind

Leader Member

TrustTrust

IntegrityIntegrity

Self-interest

• Commitment

• Aspiration

• Principle & value

Transformation begins ・・・

Family

Society

Nation

World

Expanded capacity to

give and receive love

Live for others = Way to maturing character

Matured Matured

CharacterCharacter

Maturing Maturing

CharacterCharacter

Stage OneStage One

Stage TwoStage Two

Stage ThreeStage Three

Expanding the heart

Live for others voluntary is a process…

ParentalParental

HeartHeart

MaturingMaturing

HeartHeart

Parental Parental

Conjugal Conjugal

Sibling Sibling

Children Children

UnwillingUnwilling

HeartHeart

Servant $$$$$ Servant $$$$$

Slave Prisoner Slave Prisoner

Wife

YoungerSibling

Parents

Children

P.LP.L

ElderSibling

PURE love in family

4 great love4 great love 1. Children‘s Love1. Children‘s Love

2. Sibling‘s Love2. Sibling‘s Love

3. Conjugal Love3. Conjugal Love

4. Parent‘s Love4. Parent‘s Love

In the center, There is In the center, There is Pure Love Based on Pure Love Based on purity between purity between husband and wife.husband and wife.

husband

Every love Every love & Only LoveOnly Love

““ Love for EveryoneLove for Everyone““

The more you share this love, the happier you are.

1.Brothers and sisters 2.Children3.Parents

““Love for Only oneLove for Only one““

This love should not be This love should not be Shared. Shared.

husband & wife husband & wife - Centered on pure love- Centered on pure love

Love for EveryoneLove for Everyone

MarriageMarriage

Love for Only oneLove for Only one100%?100%?

True Love & False Love

True LoveTrue Love False Love

UnconditionalUnconditional Live for greater good Live for greater good Eternal Eternal Unchanging & Unchanging &

ResponsibleResponsible UniqueUnique AbsoluteAbsolute Give and ForgetGive and Forget Bring peace & HappinessBring peace & Happiness

conditional Selfish individualism temporarily, false changeable,

Irresponsible Give and remember

greed Vengeance, enmity Discriminate Bring pain and sorrow

TRUE LOVETRUE LOVE

PURE LOVEPURE LOVE

UnconditionalUnconditionalGiving and forgetGiving and forget

Getting biggerGetting biggerFor sake of othersFor sake of others

Love for everyoneLove for everyoneThe greatest loveThe greatest love

Starting point of True loveLove for only one

The most important love

Pure Love Pure Love && True True LoveLove

Question Question ::

What is the most precious thing in your What is the most precious thing in your life?life?

Why / For what you were born as a Why / For what you were born as a

man or women?man or women?

What is the most important / significant What is the most important / significant

organ in your body?organ in your body?

What is the most important organ ?

Love organ• without love organ, where would true love blossom and be perfect ?

• where would new life form ?

• How could blood lineage be

passed on ?

Love

Life

Lineage

Love

Life

LineageUM ASIAUM ASIA

Absolute Sex & True Family Absolute Sex & True Family

Who is the owner of our sexual organ?

It’s our spouse !

Pure love is the Best gift we can offer to our spouse Husband & wife give 100% pure love to each other mentally,

spiritually and physically

From there , we can build an ideal family which accomplish 4 Great

realms of Heart.

The most

important organ in our

body

LoveLove

organorgan

ConscienceConscience

IndividualIndividual

The Significance of Sexual Love

With freedom comes responsibility

The Significance of Sexual Love

With freedom comes responsibility

ConscienceConscience

SpouseSpouse

IndividualIndividual

The Significance of Sexual Love

With freedom comes responsibilityWith freedom comes responsibility

The Significance of Sexual Love

With freedom comes responsibilityWith freedom comes responsibility

ConscienceConscience

SpouseSpouse

IndividualIndividual

The Significance of Sexual Love

With freedom comes responsibility

The Significance of Sexual Love

With freedom comes responsibility

ChildChild

HOLY

Sacred

HOLY

Sacred

LifeLife

LineageLineage

Sex

Sex

LoveLove

ConscienceConscience

Sex is linked to the deepest aspects of our LifeSex is linked to the deepest aspects of our Life

Question Question ::

Why? Why ? Why ?Why? Why ? Why ?

Why your love organ is in your spouse hand ?Why your love organ is in your spouse hand ?

If so, then what is the relationship between If so, then what is the relationship between

you & your love organ ?you & your love organ ?

Freedom & Responsibility: Individual

• Without restraintWithout restraint

• To be responsible… To be responsible…

to fulfill the greatest to fulfill the greatest dream.dream.

Responsible means

No complains – criticize – contemn Find solution Take challenges & difficulties as an

opportunity to grow That’s the character building

Private victory before Public

• Self -GovernanceSelf -Governance

• To be responsible… To be responsible…

to fulfill the greatest to fulfill the greatest dream.dream.

Every entity has its purpose of existence If we don’t use it as it was intended….

Prostitute,

Sex affairs

Premarital Sex

=> abortion, AIDS

Sex in Marriage

=>Bring Birth,

Mature Conjugal Love, Create LineageRight

Use

Wrong Use

Love

Organ

Happiness

Sadness

Bitterness

Problems

The most precious gift offered at time of marriage.

The gift of pure love has the highest value

The most important point in the education for young people

Importance of Abstinence & Keeping Pure Love Before

Marriage

Importance of Abstinence & Keeping Pure Love Before

Marriage

把那一個給最心愛的終身伴侶呢？

貞潔貞潔 婚前性行為婚前性行為Pure LovePure Love

Which one you will choose for your most loving spouse ？

Premarital SexPremarital Sex

True love power bring true happiness

MindMindBody SpiritualSpiritual

growthgrowth

Physical growth

Mature character

Instinctual Love

Spiritual LoveMinMindd

Body MinMindd

Body心與體合一

遵守真愛的法則

Mature man & women

HappinessHappiness

Spouse’s SphereDraws on Other Spheres

Qualities Most Valued by Married Couples

Qualities Most Valued by Married Couples

CaringCaring HonestyHonesty TrustTrust FidelityFidelity CommitmentCommitment Willingness to Willingness to

sacrificesacrifice Sense of humorSense of humor

CaringCaring HonestyHonesty TrustTrust FidelityFidelity CommitmentCommitment Willingness to Willingness to

sacrificesacrifice Sense of humorSense of humor

Attractiveness

Wealth

Status

Attractiveness

Wealth

Status

Character

Beliefs

Ability to love

Character

Beliefs

Ability to love

Selecting a Marriage PartnerSelecting a Marriage Partner

Less Successful

Outer Traits focus

Less Successful

Outer Traits focus

Human Dimension

Biological

Social & cultural

Value

PhysicalPhysical law govern every thing: eg: Jump from high building – injury or die

Biological law in control ， eg ： breathing 、heart beat 、 sleep 、 sex…..

Human behavior 、 eg ：attire 、 food 、 shelter 、 manners…

Morality, in search of ideal, truth, beauty & goodness

Bio law

Logic of

LoveBuilding ideal FamilyBuilding ideal Family

A life of true happiness

Joy & happiness has many level Joy & happiness has many level

Spiritual creation

Heaven

FatherFather MotherMother

True loveTrue love

True lifeTrue life

True lineageTrue lineage

Parental loveParental love – Should be True Parents love– Should be True Parents love

Children

Character Developmentthrough Four Spheres of Love

Higher spheres — Founded on lower spheres More unselfish & responsible Require effort

BirthBirth

Childhood(brother & sister)Childhood(brother & sister)

Son & DaughterSon & Daughter Husband & WifeHusband & Wife

Mother and FatherMother and Father

MarriageMarriageBlessingBlessing

Getting Getting older...deatolder...death and after h and after lifelife

Life, Love and Lineage in Family

“4 Great Realms of Heart”

* Parental Love *

* Conjugal Love *

* Sibling’s Love *

* Children's Love *

* Love

* Support

* Sacrificial

* Unconditional

* Fundamental

* Trust

* Love* Believe

* Rely

* Help

* Respect

* Serve

living together in harmony

Jonathan EdwardsJonathan Edwards was the first president of was the first president of Princeton University and one of the key religious Princeton University and one of the key religious leaders during the "Great Awakening" in America. leaders during the "Great Awakening" in America.

Max JukesMax Jukes. Jukes was a Dutch immigrant that . Jukes was a Dutch immigrant that arrived in New York in the early 1700's. He was an arrived in New York in the early 1700's. He was an atheist, an alcoholic who couldn’t hold a job, and atheist, an alcoholic who couldn’t hold a job, and married a prostitute.married a prostitute.

Nation’s Future: Based on Family

JONATHAN JONATHAN EDWARDSEDWARDS(1,394 descendants traced)(1,394 descendants traced)

13 college presidents13 college presidents

65 college professors65 college professors

30 judges 30 judges

100 lawyers 100 lawyers

60 physicians60 physicians

75 army and navy officers75 army and navy officers

100 pastors100 pastors

60 prominent authors60 prominent authors

80 public servants in other capacities including 80 public servants in other capacities including governors and ministers to foreign countries governors and ministers to foreign countries

3 United Stated senators3 United Stated senators

1 Vice-President of the United States1 Vice-President of the United States

Nation’s Future: Based on Family

MAX JUKESMAX JUKES(903 descendants traced)(903 descendants traced)

310 delinquents who never finished 310 delinquents who never finished school and died in poverty school and died in poverty

145 confirmed drunkards145 confirmed drunkards

190 public prostitutes 190 public prostitutes

285 had sexually transmitted diseases285 had sexually transmitted diseases

150 spent an average of 13 years in prison 150 spent an average of 13 years in prison

7 convicted murderers7 convicted murderers

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Nation’s Future: Based on Family

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61Prof. J.D. Unwin’s Study of 88 Civilizations

• Strong Family, marital fidelity

• Rise of Civilization

• art, science• culture• creativity

Family breakdown, pre-marital, Family breakdown, pre-marital, extra-marital sexextra-marital sex

Decline & Death of Civilizations Decline & Death of Civilizations (within 3 generations)(within 3 generations)

NO EXCEPTIONS!

Nation’s Future: Based on Family

ConclusionOwner of my Love Organ is my Spouse(keeping purity of mind and body)

The value of Love organ:Palace of Love, Life, Lineage, and conscience

Rule of LOVE that brings us Happiness:True love for everyonePure love for only one

Make it sure, Keep it pure!

Therefore, the proper use of conjugal love, is not only central to the well-being of the family, it is critical for social harmony and world peace. One Family Under God can be established by creating ideal families centered on true love.

Conclusion

Pure Love Pledge

The pure relationship of love between a man and a woman is a sacred gift, to be cherished and honored for the sake of building a true family, a healthy society, and world peace.

Once that love is consummated, it should never be broken.

Therefore, from now on, I commit myself to:

Respect and honor the purity in myself and others;

Practice true love as a child, friend, sibling, and parent;

Sharing my pure love only with my future spouse (Keeping purity);

Refrain from all sexual relationships before marriage;

Dedicate myself to absolute fidelity within marriage;

Encourage others to do the same.