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The New Dad: Right at Home Dr. Brad Harrington Boston College Center for Work & Family National At-Home Fathers Conference October 20, 2112, Alexandria, VA. Recent headlines:. - PowerPoint PPT Presentation
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Dr. Brad Harrington, ©2012
The New Dad: Right at Home
Dr. Brad Harrington
Boston College Center for Work & Family National At-Home Fathers Conference
October 20, 2112, Alexandria, VA
Dr. Brad Harrington, ©2012
Recent headlines: Behind Every Great Woman: As more women earn high-level
corporate roles, more husbands are staying home, raising the kids, & changing the rules, BusinessWeek January, 2012
Young Women are More Career Driven than Young Men, New York Times, Article based on Pew Research Center, April 2012
Men Choosing Fatherhood Over Careers, Forbes, May, 2012 The New Yorker, Cover art depicts a woman with a stroller
entering a playground and every other parent in the playground is a man, May, 2012
Are Dads the New Moms?, Wall Street Journal, May, 2012
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Changes for women and families… Women now near 50% of US workforce Women earn 60% of AA, BA & master’s degrees 75% of married couples with children under 15
are dual-career couples, Women in dual-earner couples contributed more
than 40% of family income; 25% of women earn more than their spouse
Of 15 jobs with greatest projected growth rate in next decade, 12 are dominated by women
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80%
61%
66% 67%72%
54% 56%
66%
50%
70%
90%
1992 1997 2002 2008
Men under 29 (Millennials in 2008) Women under 29 (Millennials in 2008)
Young Women / Men Don’t Differ in Desire for Jobs with More Responsibility (1992 – 2008)
Sources: 2008 National Study of the Changing Workforce (NSCW), Families and Work Institute (FWI)
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Men feel more w-f conflict than women
(National Study of the Changing Workforce by Galinsky, Aumann, and Bond, 2008)
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Background of our work on fathers Things changing fast for women, men & families Over 95% of research, practitioners, consumers,
and interest in work/ family focused on women Research was beginning to suggest that men
were struggling as much or more than women I was in unique position to begin to address and
be a spokesman on this issue So we made commitment to conduct
research and bring greater attention and understanding to this area
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The New Dad (2010) The Center for Work & Family conducted a
qualitative study of 33 new fathers First-time fathers, children’s age ~11 months Became The New Dad: Exploring Fatherhood
within a Career Context This report garnered tremendous media attention
but we wanted to increase our sample and broaden research to more fathers
We also wanted to better understand and quantify what was happening
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The New Dad: Caring, Committed & Conflicted (2011)
Quantitative study: 963 respondents from four Fortune 500 companies
National sample of “white collar” fathers 97% were managers/ salaried workers 87% held at least an Associates degree, 77% at
least bachelor’s, 35% master’s degree or more 76% earned more than $75,000, 44% over
$100,000 Average age: 42.6, range from 25-65. 81% White, 7% Black, 5% Hispanic, 4% Asian,
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Comparison of Education Levels
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Time off after most recent child
By contrast, most professionalmothers take 2-6 months leave
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Comparison of Workweeks
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Career Aspirations
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What about fathers intentions? From outset, bias is woman is primary caregiver That said, how do fathers feel about their role to
caregiving and their commitment to it? Average hours spent with kids on workday: 2.65 77% said like to spend more time with children,
22% satisfied, 1% said less (the last honest men?) 86% agreed that “My children are the
number one priority in my life And few saw “Breadwinner” as the most
important role
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How Father’s see their role
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What Makes a Good Father?
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How should / is care giving divided?
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Becoming a father, a winner at work … Research shows mothers receive mixed messages
about career-family and are perceived as less committed, promotable, & competent
New fathers receive universally positive workplace feedback after becoming a parent
Organizations are not confronted with real change when men become fathers:
96% said managers expect the same 99% worked full-time after the birth 4% took 2 weeks off, 1% took 4 weeks
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Conflict and Enrichment
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Importance of a supportive workplace
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Being stay-at-home Dad a possibility? In our qualitative study (2010) many fathers
said that being a stay-at-home dad was a possibility they had considered however …
… only 2 of 33 fathers saw it as a realistic optionFor most, finances was major stumbling block,
but many said it was difficult to see themselves in that role or accept how others might perceive them
So we tentatively concluded most fathers felt like this guy ….
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But perhaps we were wrong …. According to our new study: 2/3 of the fathers said agreed with the statement
“To me, work is only a small part of who I am.” Only 16% supported the statement that “Most of
my interests are centered on work.” And …. 53% agreed that: “If my spouse made enough
money for our family to live on comfortably, I would feel okay if I didn’t work outside the home.”
…which they picture as …
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The New Dad: Right at Home (2012)Reasons for studying this population to explore: Growing number of at-home Dads
Percent increased over decade of 2001-2011 from 1.7% to 3.4% of all at-home parents (from 81,000 to 176,000)
Dad may be primary caregiver for 2 million kids Wanted to better understand fathers in caregiver
role, more the norm in the future Impact on women in the workplace Impact on fathers in the workplace
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The New Dad: Right at Home
Average Range
Father Age 39.15 28.48
Child Age 5.43 6 months-16 years
Number of years at home 5.28 1-17
Work Satisfaction 7.18 on a 1-10 scale 2-10 (one response=15, coded as 10)
Fatherhood Rating 4.12 on a 1-5 scale 3.5-5
31 in-depth interviews with at-home fathersSample description:
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Decision to become an at-home dad 30% of dads had been laid-off, 70% had made a
conscious choice (even the 30% was overstated) Long work hours/large workloads prompted some
to make the decision or welcome the lay-off Two major considerations
Financial circumstances, pragmatism Values regarding how children should be raised
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Challenges: Like Mothers’ but more so ... Most happy with their role Transition can be challenging Social isolation can be difficult and loss of adult
network can be difficult Some worry about the long-term career
implications
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Definition of a good father Presence/involvement (19): “not just being there, but emotionally and
psychologically [being] present for your children” [Gerald] Shaping character/leading by example/teaching (10): “it’s important
to understand them and help them become the person that they want to be; you need to model the behavior you want to see” [Drew]
Love/emotional support (6): “the measure of my success as a father is bound up in loving my children and my wife, and receiving love from them in truly reciprocal, mutual, growing relationships” [Ryan]
Fostering development (4): “being there for the emotional and psychological development of your child is very important” [Jesse]
Safe environment (4): “creating a place at home where you, your wife, your kids can all feel like they are safe” [Charles]
Childcare (2): “contributes to the day-to-day chores and tasks of raising a child” [Grant]
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Negative reactions from others Saw this as a temporary situation, not a long-
term commitment Some, especially family, expressed concerns
about family finances Judgment about men’s incompetence Perception of strangers, sometimes “suspicious” Excluded from “mother” activities
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Career Implications In most cases, the father’s professional career
plans for the future were unclear Whatever role they did seek, it needed to
integrate roles as caregiver and breadwinner Flexibility in future roles would be crucial Knew re-entry will be a challenge - like at-home
moms but feared even greater scrutiny
“I'm worried that this long break will prevent Grant from working again, which is a difficult thought. He's young, smart, talented and well-educated. I really hope that this sacrifice doesn't jeopardize his future career prospects.” -Wife of at-home dad
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Impact on Family
Families are thriving Special father-child bonds developed Spouses jealous at times Relationships are stronger
“The peace of mind that comes with having Frank home is as I expected it to be. What has surprised me is the unwavering dedication Frank has to parenting. He's not just making sure the kids don't kill themselves; he's committed to what I would call real, "old fashioned" parenting. The kind of parenting that I think most people envy, he does it every day and - thanks to him - our kids are awesome! “ -Wife of at-home dad
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Impact on spouses’ careers
Allowed their partners to have flexibility and increased focus at work
Diminished their worries about the quality of care that their children were receiving
The good thing about our situation is that she can go to work and feel one hundred percent confident that the kids are going to get fed lunches and if they need to go the doctor they'll be there, if there are any appointments it will get taken care of. So I think because of that she is better able to be a working woman and know that she can tell her boss and co-workers that, “Hey, I'm here for you. I'm not going to have to leave.”
-Gerald
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Spouses’ perspective E-mail survey to spouses: 74% responded Spouses highly positive about having their partner
at home full-time: ”grateful”, “fortunate”, “blessed” Struggles for some re: traditional gender roles Freedom to pursue career
I'm proud to tell people that I have an at-home-dad for a husband and that I'm the breadwinner. I'm also really happy that we each are so good at what we do. There's no competition over which role is more important, or even regret that we each aren't doing what the other one does. We're genuinely happy in our respective roles and content with our division of labor. -Wife of at-home dad
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Conclusions1. In spite of media “hype” regarding laid off fathers re-
inventing themselves as full-time caregivers, this image does not match the data or our experiences in speaking with the at-home fathers.
2. At-home fathers were clear that this was a choice they made, not simply a reaction to economic circumstances
3. Feelings of social isolation and stigma regarding the role of at-home parent are even greater for men than women.
4. At-home dads make very good parents.
5. At-home fathers are not simply stepping up to their responsibilities (conflict paraigm); they are increasing the fundamental sense of meaning in their lives.
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ConclusionsRelated to women:
1. The overwhelming response from wives was that having an at-home spouse had enabled these women to pursue their careers in a much more assertive manner without worrying about the limitations that virtually all working mothers experience.
2. Until women and men share equally in caregiving in their families, or until an equal number of men decide to play the role of primary caregiver or at-home dad, it is unlikely that women will achieve parity at the most senior levels of organizations. The 3.4% dilemma!
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Recommendations for employers Recognize fathers’ increasing role in families
and caregiving. Let go of the simplistic notion:
Father = Breadwinner Provide flexibility to enhance employee
engagement, loyalty, productivity and wellness Understand women’s ability to ascend to
highest ranks within organizations may be dependent on critical role of an at-home spouse (or at least the primary caregiver)
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Recommendations for fathers and families Beware: Isolation, career derailment, and even
social stigma are often attached to being an at-home parent. Develop support systems!
The decision for the father to stay home and become the primary caregiver can be beneficial for your family and your spouse (and her career)
Don’t shy-away from being an at-home dad. It may prove to be the most meaningful job, you’ve ever had!
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