How to Enjoy Your Life and Your Job

HOW TO ENJOY YOUR LIFE AND YOUR JOB

DALE CARNEGIE

You Probably Spend Forty Percent of Your Waking Time Working. Are You Enjoying it as much as You Could?

WHAT THIS BOOK SPEAK?

How to enjoy your life and your job is filled with the inspiring stories of people – from homemakers to billionaires – who have conquered boredom, frustration and fatigue.

The author Dale Carnegie’s tried to help millions to develop an overall sense of harmony and purpose, and to learn secrets of top performance.

INSIDE OF THE BOOK The book holds 21 chapters and has been divided into 4

parts. Each part has its own motive and explanation.

Part – 1 Seven Ways to Peace and Happiness.

Part – 2 Fundamental techniques in handling people.

Part – 3 Ways to win people to your way of thinking.

Part – 4 Ways to change people without giving offence or

arousing resentment.

PART ONESEVEN WAYS TO PEACE AND

HAPPINESS

Chapter One –

Find Yourself and Be Yourself : Remember There Is No One Else on Earth like You

I asked Paul Bonynton, then employment director for a major oil company, what is the biggest mistake people make in applying for jobs.

The biggest mistake people make in applying in applying for jobs is in not being themselves. Instead of taking their hair down and being completely frank, they often try to give you the answers they think you want.

To cultivate a mental attitude that will bring us peace and freedom, remember. . . .

Lets not imitate others.Lets find ourselves and be

ourselves

CHAPTER – TWOFOUR GOOD WORKING HABITS THAT WILL

HELP PREVENT FATIGUE AND WORRYGood Working Habit No – 1

Clear your desk of all papers except those relating to the immediate problem at hand.

Good Working Habit No – 2 Do things in the order of their importance.

Good Working Habit No – 3 When you face a problem, solve it then and there if

you have the facts necessary to make a decision.

Good Working Habit No - 4 Learn to organize, deputize, and superwise.

CHAPTER – THREEWHAT MAKES YOU TIRED – AND WHAT YOU

CAN DO ABOUT IT Mental Work alone can’t make you tired. Sounds

absurd. So far the brain is concerned, it can work “as well

and swiftly at the end of eight or even eleven twelvw hours of effort as at the beginning”. The brain is utterly tireless . . . . So what makes you tired?

Psychiatrists declare that most of our fatigue derives from our mental and emotional attitudes.

Am I making my work harder than it actuall is?

Be like a cat, “ I never saw a tired cat, a cat with a nervous breakdown, cat suffering from imsonia, worry, or stomach ulcers”.

CHAPTER – FOURHOW TO BANISH THE BOREDOM THAT

PRODUCES FATIGUE, WORRY, AND RESENTMENT One of the chief cause of fatigue is boredom. To illustrate, let’s take the case of Alice, a corporate

employee who lives on your street..Alice came home one night utterly exhausted. She acted fatigued. She had a headache. She had backache. Suddenly the telephone rang. The boyfriend! An invitation to dance! Her eyes sparkled. Her spirit soared.

Was Alice really and honestly tired? She was exhausted because she was bored with her work, perhaps bored with life.

CHAPTER – FIVEWOULD YOU TAKE A MILLION DOLLARS

FOR WHAT YOU HAVE? If you want to stop worrying and start living,

remember. . . . .

Count your blessings – notYour troubles !

CHAPTER – SIXREMEMBER THAT NO ONE EVER KICKS A DEAD

DOG

“Remember that unjustcriticism is often a disguisedcompliment. Remember thatno ever kicks a dead dog.”

CHAPTER – SEVENDO THIS – AND CRITICISM CAN’T HURT

YOU

o People are not thinking about you and me or caring what is said about us. They are thinking about themselves – before breakfast, after breakfast, and right on until ten minutes past midnight. They would be thousand times more concerned about a slight headache of their own than they would about the news of your death or mine.

Do the very best you can; andthen put up your old umbrellaand keep the rain of criticismfrom running down the back

of your neck.

PART – TWOFUNDAMENTAL TECHNIQUES IN HANDLING

PEOPLE

Chapter – EightIf You Want to Gather Honey, Don’t Kick Over the

Beehive

As Dr. Johnson said: “God himself, sir, does not propose to judge man until the end of his days”.

Why should you and I?

Don’t criticize, condemn, orComplain.

CHAPTER – NINETHE BIG SECRETS OF DEALING WITH

PEOPLE

Give honest and sincereappreciation.

IN A NUTSHELL Arouse in the other person an eager want.

Become genuinely interested in other person. Make the other person feel important – and do it sincerely Show respect for the other person’s opinions. Never say,

“ You are wrong”. Begin in a friendly way.

Get the other person saying “Yes, yes” immediately. Let the other person feel that the idea is his or hers.

Appeal to the nobler motives Call attention to people’s mistake indirectly.

Talk about your own mistakes before criticizing the other person.

Ask questions instead of giving direct orders. Let the other person save face.

HERE IS A POEMIf you cant be a pine on the top of the hill,

Be a scrub in the valley – but beThe best little scrub by the side of the rill;

Be a bush, if you cant be a tree.

If you cant be a bush, be a bit of the grass,And some highway happier make;

If you cant be a Muskie, then just a bass- But the liveliest bass in the lake!

We cant all be captains, we have got to be crewTher’s something for all of us here.

There’s big work to do and there’s lesser to doAnd the task we must do is the near.

If you cant be a highway, then just be a trail, If you cant be the sun, be a star;

It isn’t by size that win or you fail-Be the best of whatever you are !

THANK YOU

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