Final draft

Relationships now, are worlds apart

from what they were

before we took them online.

Image via NASA on The Commons

A Flipbook by River A. Habermehl Hatt

Brings a new set of obstacles,

awkward conversations

and unclear situations.

Dating in the age of Facebook

Image via Ishikawa Ken Source Allison McCann, How Facebook Ruined Dating

“The Facebook Relationship Effect is real: research shows that Facebook

is changing

the way we meet,

Date and also

Slowly rip each others’ hearts out“ Image via Kevin Dooley Source Allison McCann, How Facebook Ruined Dating

So much of the magic in

a first date came from finding

out a new person’s favorite things.

Image via Emily Rachel Hildebrand

Asking someone to name their

favorite TV shows is no longer stimulating conversation for the

first date.

Image via Bruce Denis Source Kashmir Hill, Five Ways Technology Has Allegedly Ruined Dating

What a shame.

We no longer (think) we need the first date

Image via Matthew T Rader

We’ve Facebook-stalked ourselves out of small talk.

Online research makes the first

date feel unnecessary,

because it creates a false sense of intimacy.

After The acebook Effect

Image via Colin Milligan Source Kashmir Hill, Five Ways Technology Has Allegedly Ruined Dating

“It's obviously best not to indulge any

obsessive or stalking behaviors, but love (and lust) drive people to do

silly things.”

- Samuel Axon, 5 Ways Facebook Changed Dating (For the Worse)

acebook has just provided more avenues

from which to overanalyze

Image via WJ van den Elikhof

After The acebook Effect “He posted on your wall four times today

— does that mean he's too into you?

She keeps posting status updates about the cute guys in her office — should you be worried that

you'll be outdone?

You've hardly seen any updates on his profile since you had a fight

— is he hiding the updates from you, is he so depressed that he's not

engaging, or is it just a coincidence?

After The acebook Effect

Image via Steven Mileham Source Samuel Axon, 5 Ways Facebook Changed Dating (For the Worse)

Before The acebook Effect

On Facebook, relationships have to fit into

in a pull down menu of a few options —

And these check-a-box decisions weren’t things

couples, or anyone for that matter, had to worry about...

Image via Daniel P. Fleming Source Allison McCann, How Facebook Ruined Dating

Facebook provides people with

more opportunities to feel

jealousy

Image via Sean Dreilinger

Before The acebook Effect

Dating is as much about

maintaining healthy and safe

boundaries as it is about intimacy

— at least at first

Image via Dlambil Darl Source Samuel Axon, 5 Ways Facebook Changed Dating (For the Worse)

Most folks are okay with flirting,

but some can't handle

it, and something

about seeing it

written out on

Facebook makes it

worse. Image via mkhmarketing

Source Samuel Axon, 5 Ways Facebook

Changed Dating (For the Worse)

Although breakups have always

been a sad time

for people,

in the past they

signified closure, and a

person could then

move forward with their life.

Facebook has changed that Image via Mandee Johnson

Before The acebook Effect

ending a relationship actually meant

the end of communication,

for the most part…

…Not anymore.

Image via Colm McMullen Source Allison McCann, How Facebook Ruined Dating

After The acebook Effect

Remaining Facebook friends with an ex delayed

emotional recovery and led to greater

distress over the breakup, negative

feelings, sexual desire and longing

for the ex-partner.

In a recent study social psychologist

Tara Marshall fromBrunel University found that

Image via Kaysha (flickr.com/photos/kaysha) Source Allison McCann, How Facebook Ruined Dating

It used to be that you could

move on, hope you

wouldn’t run into each other

and that was it.

Image via Federico Piras; Source Samuel Axon, 5 Ways Facebook Changed Dating (For the Worse)

“You see all the action your ex is getting.”

“Relationships and breakups are public.”

“Facebook is a record of every relationship mistake you’ve made.”

Image via Hometown Beauty (flickt.com/photos/shiningstars11) Source Samuel Axon, 5 Ways Facebook Changed

Dating (For the Worse)

Now…

After The acebook Effect

Breaking up IRL (in real life) is no longer enough to get over an ex, you’ve got to end contact on…

...too

Image via AJ Cann Source Allison McCann, How Facebook Ruined Dating

Will our generation, and the generations which

follow, be able to overcome the

Facebook Relationship Effect?

Image via Carlos Donderis

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Creative Commons of Flickr.

All sources can be found on the

slide which they were used on.

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Article Sources:

http://www.buzzfeed.com/atmccann/how-facebook-ruined-dating-and-breaking-up-too http://www.forbes.com/sites/kashmirhill/2013/01/14/five-ways-technology-has-allegedly-ruined-dating/ http://mashable.com/2010/04/10/facebook-dating/

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By River A. Habermehl Hatt