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Facilitating Change: Collaboration vs. Cooperation. with Patty Parnell LBL ESD. Revelation: This is not business as usual!!. Cooperation:. “ Can’t we all just get along…?” Rodney King. Collaboration:. - PowerPoint PPT Presentation
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Facilitating Change:Facilitating Change:Collaboration vs. Collaboration vs.
Cooperation Cooperation
with
Patty ParnellLBL ESD
Revelation:
This is not business as usual!!
CooperationCooperation::
“Can’t we all just get along…?” Rodney King
CollaboratioCollaboration:n:
“The hallmark of collaboration is the ability to give and
receive feedback.” Marie Balvin
Today…Today…
Recognize the legitimate
reasons…
Identify common
responses…
Identify specific skills…
… … change can be hard change can be hard work!!work!!
“The lust for comfort – that stealth thing that enters as a houseguest, then becomes our host, then our master.”
Kahlil Gibran
What does it What does it take?take?
Sustained improvement will not occur without strong “System Readiness”…..
“There are good reasons why (educators) are often discouraged by changes in their workplace…. they’re being asked to do something they do not know how to do. It means working outside the zone of competence and puts into question accustomed claims to authority and expertise.” Richard F. Elmore
First…First… who am ‘I’ in the matter?who am ‘I’ in the matter?
“Self–awareness is an underrated intervention!” Thom Rutledge
Two most common Two most common responses to conflict:responses to conflict:
Silence – getting quiet in the moment
Avoidance – staying quiet into the future
“Unexpressed anger may cause other organs to weep.” David Viscott, Ph.D
Angeles Arrien:Conflict could be mostly avoided if we...
Did what we said!Said what we meant!And said what is so when it’s so!
“In organizations, goals erode because of low tolerance for emotional tension. The easiest path is to pretend there is no bad news - or better yet, declare victory.” Peter Senge
Interpretation vs. Interpretation vs. FactFact
Facts measurable and observable Interpretation serves a filtering
function
1. Facts can easily be held hostage by interpretation
2. The speed of interpretation is almost untraceable
3. Interpretation is where we assign intention
“I may think I see you as you are, but in truth, I see you how I am!!” Susan Scott “Fierce
Conversations”
More ‘knowing thyself’… More ‘knowing thyself’…
Identify my own predictable
defenses/responses
The definition…
The purpose…
The problem…
The truth…
Who Am I in the Matter Who Am I in the Matter Recap:Recap:
Examine my personal response to conflict
Recognize my proneness to interpretation
Identify my ‘defense’ of choice
And…
Listen skillfully!! (Doctors least sued…)
The master question behind ordinary listening is… ‘what makes me right?’
Memorable Quotes:Memorable Quotes:“The truth you believe and cling to makes you
unavailable to hear anything else.” Pema Chodron
“The past isn’t dead; it’s not even the past!!”
David Viscott
“Really good communication cannot happen without really good listening and really good listening cannot happen in the presence of overwhelming interpretation.”
“Assumptions are mental screens that expand or constrain what’s possible.” Kouzes & Posner
Second…Second… who are ‘we’ in the matter?who are ‘we’ in the matter?
Create group norms A couple thoughts
Identify levels of interaction Self monitoring to self-management
Third… Third… who might ‘they’ be in the matter?who might ‘they’ be in the matter?
Red Zone = Management
The “Issues Conversation”
The Issues ConversationThe Issues ConversationWhat is the problem?
What is the relevant background?
What is it’s significance?
What are my ideal outcomes?
What has been done up to this point?
What help do I want? (Make my request)
“A problem named is a problem solved.” Pat Murray
“Debriefing crystallizes learning!!” Paul Axtell
After the final no, there comes a yes. And upon that yes, the future of the world depends.
Wallace Stevens
Contact Information:Contact Information:
Patty.Parnell@lblesd.k12.or.us
541-812-2657
Please feel free to call or email…
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