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BULLY-BULLY-PROOFING PROOFING 0UR SCHOOL0UR SCHOOL
Smithland Elementary Smithland Elementary SchoolSchool
What is Bullying?What is Bullying?
Bullying is when purposeful acts of Bullying is when purposeful acts of meanness are repeated over time in meanness are repeated over time in an situation where there is an an situation where there is an imbalance of power.imbalance of power.
Purposeful acts of meannessPurposeful acts of meanness RepeatedRepeated
Imbalance of powerImbalance of power
TypesTypes of Bullyingof Bullying
PhysicalPhysical- hitting, shoving, pushing - hitting, shoving, pushing and destroying property.and destroying property.
VerbalVerbal - teasing, name calling, - teasing, name calling, threats, threats,
RelationalRelational - gossiping, - gossiping, embarrassing, leaving someone outembarrassing, leaving someone out
Who Is Involved?Who Is Involved?
The BullyThe Bully
The VictimThe Victim
The BystanderThe Bystander
The BullyThe Bully Displays little empathy for victimsDisplays little empathy for victims Enjoys the roleEnjoys the role Lacks a sense of remorseLacks a sense of remorse Seeks control and dominationSeeks control and domination Seeks attention from peersSeeks attention from peers Is a good communicator who is quick witted, Is a good communicator who is quick witted,
offers fast verbal responses, and is able to talk offers fast verbal responses, and is able to talk his way out of troublehis way out of trouble
Has a significant role model who modes Has a significant role model who modes aggressive or violent behavioraggressive or violent behavior
Often strong, tough, powerful, well Often strong, tough, powerful, well coordinated, dominant, confidentcoordinated, dominant, confident
The Victim (passive)The Victim (passive)
Does not invite attack; is sensitiveDoes not invite attack; is sensitive Is emotional, cry easilyIs emotional, cry easily Generally lacks social skillsGenerally lacks social skills Feels isolated at school/ lonely/ Feels isolated at school/ lonely/
depresseddepressed May have learning problemMay have learning problem Is unable to defend himself/herselfIs unable to defend himself/herself Is likely to be anxious and insecureIs likely to be anxious and insecure
Victim (provocative)Victim (provocative)
Has few friendsHas few friends Repeatedly pesters and irritates othersRepeatedly pesters and irritates others Is quick tempered and easily provokedIs quick tempered and easily provoked Will fight backWill fight back May provoke attacksMay provoke attacks May experience learning and attention May experience learning and attention
problemsproblems May look as if he/she is a bully because May look as if he/she is a bully because
they tend to maintain conflictthey tend to maintain conflict
BystanderBystander
Is afraid of associating with the victim for Is afraid of associating with the victim for fear the bully will turn on themfear the bully will turn on them
Wants to help but doesn’t know what to doWants to help but doesn’t know what to do Feels guilty for not actingFeels guilty for not acting Fears reporting will make him a tattlerFears reporting will make him a tattler Doesn’t like what he sees, but feels Doesn’t like what he sees, but feels
powerlesspowerless Feels unsafe and unable to take actionFeels unsafe and unable to take action Feels a loss of controlFeels a loss of control
BYSTANDERS
Most ignored and underused resource in our schools 85% of a school population – the “silent majority” Become desensitized over time – diminished empathy
Silent Majority
CARING COMMUNITY
Caring Majority
WHY DON’T THEY GET INVOLVED?
Fear of retaliation Don’t know what to do Afraid they’ll make things worse Worry about losing social status Don’t believe that adults will help
Normalize fears and worries
Emphasize strength in numbers
Communicate the expectation to take action
Teach skills and strategies to take a stand
Acknowledge and reward caring behaviors
Strategies for Bystanders
Did You Know?Did You Know? By 6 weeks into the school year the bully By 6 weeks into the school year the bully
victim patterns have been established.victim patterns have been established. Physical bullying increases through the Physical bullying increases through the
elementary years and peaks in Middle elementary years and peaks in Middle School.School.
Children do not tell on bullies because they Children do not tell on bullies because they are afraid it will get worse.They feel no one are afraid it will get worse.They feel no one can help them if they do.can help them if they do.
Bullying can take no longer than 10 seconds. Bullying can take no longer than 10 seconds. Bullying can be disguised as playing.Bullying can be disguised as playing. The single most effective deterrent to The single most effective deterrent to
bullying is adult authority.bullying is adult authority.
Why Make Changes?Why Make Changes? An estimated 160,000 students miss school An estimated 160,000 students miss school
each day because of fear of bullying.each day because of fear of bullying. 40% of students are bullies or victims.40% of students are bullies or victims. Long term victims may develop mental and Long term victims may develop mental and
health issues.health issues. Bullying is an entry level to violence.Bullying is an entry level to violence. 60% of bullies have criminal convictions by 60% of bullies have criminal convictions by
age 24.age 24. School shootings have been linked with School shootings have been linked with
bullying problems.bullying problems.
Purpose of Bully ProofingPurpose of Bully Proofing
Safe respectful cooperative schools
Higher incidence of academic/social learning and teaching
Improve teacher morale, sense of effectiveness and empowerment
System-wide message about intolerance for bullying
Change the balance of power so silent majority becomes an empowered caring majority
All students have an opportunity to experience power, control, attention, popularity, value and influence in ways that enhance academic/social learning and teaching.
What have we done at What have we done at Waterman?Waterman?
Awareness for Parents in Newsletters.Awareness for Parents in Newsletters. Began 2 new units in grades 3 & 4Began 2 new units in grades 3 & 4 Adding lessons to other units- friendshipAdding lessons to other units- friendship Faculty awareness Faculty awareness Bully Free posters displayedBully Free posters displayed Character Education CommitteeCharacter Education Committee Day-long work shop on BullyingDay-long work shop on Bullying Bully Assembly for studentsBully Assembly for students Parent, Student, and Teacher surveysParent, Student, and Teacher surveys
What can teachers do? What can teachers do? (preventive)(preventive)
Provide students opportunity to talk about Provide students opportunity to talk about bullying and provide safe ways to report.bullying and provide safe ways to report.
Include classroom rules against bullying.Include classroom rules against bullying. Enlist their support in defining bullying as Enlist their support in defining bullying as
unacceptable for our school.unacceptable for our school. Develop a classroom action plan to ensure that Develop a classroom action plan to ensure that
students know what to do when they observe a students know what to do when they observe a situation.situation.
Provide classroom activities and discussion Provide classroom activities and discussion about bullying.about bullying.
Focus on developing empathy and respect for Focus on developing empathy and respect for othersothers
Work on friendship, assertive and mediation skills.Work on friendship, assertive and mediation skills.
What can teachers do? What can teachers do? (action)(action)
Take immediate action when bullying is observed. Take immediate action when bullying is observed. Confront bullies in private. Confront bullies in private. Use a discipline referral and note bullying Use a discipline referral and note bullying
behavior in the report.behavior in the report. Notify parents of victims and bullies when a Notify parents of victims and bullies when a
problem occurs. problem occurs. Refer both the victim and bullies for counseling.Refer both the victim and bullies for counseling. Provide protection for bullying victims. This may Provide protection for bullying victims. This may
include a buddy system, extra supervision at include a buddy system, extra supervision at noted area of concerns. noted area of concerns.
Listen to parents who report bullying.Listen to parents who report bullying. Avoid using mediation due to imbalance of power.Avoid using mediation due to imbalance of power.
Things We Are Things We Are TeachingTeaching
Normal vs. bullyingNormal vs. bullying
HA HA SoHA HA So
Telling vs. TattlingTelling vs. Tattling
Normal Conflict VS. Bullying
equal power-friends imbalance of power - not friends
happens occasionally repeated negative actions
accidental purposeful
not serious serious- threat of physical emotional or psychological harm or hurt
equal emotional reaction emotional reactance on part of the victim
not seeking power or attention seeking power, control
not trying to get something gain material things or power
remorse - take responsibility no remorse - blames victim
effort to solve the problem no effort to solve problem
HA HA SO
H – HelpA – Assert yourself
H – HumorA – Avoid
S – Self-TalkO – Own It
HA HA SO
H – HelpA – Assert yourself
H – HumorA – Avoid
S – Self-TalkO – Own It
Tattling Telling
purpose is to get vs. purpose is to keep people safesomeone in trouble
can handle by self vs. need help from an adult to solve
unimportant vs. important
harmless vs. harmful or dangerous physically or psychologically
behavior is accidental vs. behavior is purposeful
What Parents Can What Parents Can Do?Do?
What to look forWhat to look for
Steps to bully proof your childSteps to bully proof your child
If your child is a victimIf your child is a victim
If your child is a bullyIf your child is a bully
What To Look ForWhat To Look For
Excuses for not wanting to come to schoolExcuses for not wanting to come to school Unexplained bruises, torn clothesUnexplained bruises, torn clothes Loss of appetite / hungry after schoolLoss of appetite / hungry after school Need for extra school supplies or moneyNeed for extra school supplies or money Sleep problemsSleep problems Secretive/sullen/ temper outburstSecretive/sullen/ temper outburst Rushes to bathroom when arriving homeRushes to bathroom when arriving home Frequent trips to the nurseFrequent trips to the nurse
Steps to Bully-Proof Your Steps to Bully-Proof Your ChildChild
Let the school know your concernsLet the school know your concerns Keep a record of eventsKeep a record of events Teach your child self respect, assertivenessTeach your child self respect, assertiveness Let your child know it is ok to express anger Let your child know it is ok to express anger
appropriatelyappropriately Encourage FriendshipsEncourage Friendships Teach social skills (sharing, compromises, Teach social skills (sharing, compromises,
apologies, I messages, )apologies, I messages, ) Encourage telling vs. tattlingEncourage telling vs. tattling Don’t advise ignoring or attacking the bullyDon’t advise ignoring or attacking the bully
What if your child is the What if your child is the bully?bully?
Evaluate if this behavior is being Evaluate if this behavior is being modeled at home- seek counselingmodeled at home- seek counseling
Do not use physical punishment , or Do not use physical punishment , or humiliation. Instead remove privilegeshumiliation. Instead remove privileges
Provide parental supervisionProvide parental supervision Put an immediate stop to any bullying Put an immediate stop to any bullying
you observeyou observe Emphasize praise and positive rewardsEmphasize praise and positive rewards
BULLIES
Lose power position Fewer behavior problems Change in thinking errors May stay out of criminal justice system later in life Some become positive leaders in peer group
TEACHERS/STAFF
Fewer behavior management problems Shared responsibility Increased awareness of peer conflict vs. bully-victim incidents Stronger conflict resolution skills Knowledge of own conflict styles
VICTIMS
Decreased vulnerability Greater self-esteem More friends Protected by staff Decreased self-blame Less risk of repeated victimization
CARING MAJORITY OF STUDENTS
Recognition for altruistic behavior Empowered to affect change Increased moral development and reasoning More empathy and compassion for others
PARENTAL COMMUNITY
Sense of security Responsiveness from school Mutuality in reinforcing good values Sense of community within the school
SCHOOL ENVIRONMENT
Overall sense of caring Safety and protection Respect for diversity Shared responsibility – everyone helps to maintain no-bullying values
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