Comparing self compassion and self - esteem
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- Self-compassion versus self-esteem
Kristin Neff, PhD University of Texas at Austin - 2.
- For decades, self-esteem was seen to represent optimal psychological health
- Widespread movement (largely failed) to promote self-esteem in the schools
- Self-esteem no longer held in such high esteem
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- William James: Perceptions of competence in important domains
- Perfectionism some feel its important to be good at everything
- Slacker phenomenon some only value things theyre good at (ex. basketball vs. school)
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- Charles Horton Cooley: Looking-glass self
- Self-esteem based on social approval
- More emphasis placed on approval from acquaintances than close others
- Can lead to conformity and lack of authenticity
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- Problems with self-esteem
- Hard to raise self-esteem
- Lake Wobegone effect need to be special and above average to feel okay about oneself
- Welcome to Lake Wobegon, where all the women are strong, all the men are good-looking, and all the children are above average.
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- The pursuit of high self-esteem may be linked to:
- Narcissism and self-centeredness
- Me Generation - Self-esteem movement has led to an epidemic of narcissism among college students
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- The pursuit of high self-esteem may be linked to:
- People often derive self-esteem from feelings of superiority (race, politics, religion, culture)
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- The pursuit of high self-esteem may be linked to:
- Ego-defensiveness (anger and projection)
- Anger and aggression is often higher among those with high self-esteem
Isnt it going to be fun to get the respect we deserve? - 9.
- The pursuit of high self-esteem may be linked to:
- Self-esteem often contingent on appearance, competition, putting others down
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- The pursuit of high self-esteem may be linked to:
- Self-esteem can be highly unstable, going up and down depending on our latest success or failure
- 11. Self-compassion vs. self-esteem
- Both self-compassion and self-esteem involve positive emotions toward the self
- Self-esteem based on evaluations of the self as worthy, likable or competent
- Self-compassion does not involve self-evaluation, but entails positive feelings of care and connectedness
- Both self-esteem and self-compassion offer protection against depression, anxiety, etc.
- Self-compassion does not have the same drawbacks as self-esteem
- 12. Self-compassion vs. self-esteem
- Unlike self-esteem, self compassion:
- Is not associated with narcissism
- Helps buffer against ego-threat (less anxiety)
- Associated with taking increased responsibility for past mistakes while also being less distressed by them
- Is more stable and less contingent
- Provides greater connectedness - fewer social comparisons, less anger, better relationships
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- Self-compassion versus self-esteem
- Self-compassion de-emphasizes view of self as separate from others
- Does not require defense of the ego
- Self-compassion is (theoretically) always available
- May be a healthier way to experience positive emotions toward the self
