How to Create a StellarOnline Dating Profile

Steve Zellers

Heart of the MatterWhat do I say about me? The Holy Grail – CORE Profile Template

What’s in a Name Choose your User name wisely

News Flash, I’m a CatchAttention Grabbing Headlines

Picture This!Professional, professional, professional

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Makeover!

Attention-getting profiles take time & effortDo some research and see what the “competition” has on their profiles• Do you like what they have to say?• Do their photos represent them in a

positive light?• If you were the opposite sex, would you

date them?

What is it you want the world to know about you?

Spend time organizing your thoughts.

Write it: What makes you special? What desirable attributes, values,

interests and hobbies do you have? The idea is to show someone what a fun

and interesting, full life you have, even without a mate at your side.

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Buck the Preferred Mate Laundry List trend! You want to stand out as extraordinary, right? The best thing that you can write about your preferred

mate is what you have to offer. Ex: If integrity, playfulness and health-oriented are what

you want most in a mate, you should be able to offer those in return.

Keep it simple and keep it real. Honesty is still the best policy.

You want to elicit interest from your profile, yet keep it balanced with just enough intrigue.

You want them to know just enough to ask you questions. It gives them the ability to engage you in a conversation.

What do you Offer?

You want to exude self-confidence. We are attracted to people who embody it.

Let your profile show the world that you are passionate about life and you’re not trying to fill a void with a mate, that in fact it’s just the opposite. You are looking for that special someone with whom you can share your life with and vice-versa.

Once you complete your Profile Template, email it to a friend for review.

Speak Positively About Yourself

A username can elicit a smile, a smirk or sometimes even a look of total revulsion. Choose carefully!

Good rule of thumb: combine a positive, light-hearted adjective with a noun that has something to do with your interests. Ex: Let’s say you like sailing, “SmoothSailing” would work. Maybe you’re a Mensa genius who loves to

bake and “SmartCookie” suits you. For the more adventurous, who like using verbs; “FallingforYou” is a nice play on words for someone who likes skydiving.

Whatever you choose, make sure it’s something you’d be proud to tell your mom. Anything with sex, sexy or four-letter words are in bad taste. Remember, you want to put your “best” you forward.

What’s in a Name?

What about attention-grabbing headlines? The same can be said about headlines, as can be said about usernames – choose carefully.

Some of the best headlines are engaging, call to actions, quotes or questions. Ex:“SmoothSailing” might have a headline

that reads, “Come sail away with me!” Ex: Or maybe you’re a wine connoisseur,

“Wine is sunlight held together by water” would engage another wine enthusiast.

Remember your headline is a reflection of you and it is supposed to encourage a potential mate to read on, not be repulsed.

News Flash: I’m a Catch

Physical attraction is one of the first things that spark interest.

Professional photographers are a must for at least one photo! At minimum: A really nice headshot taken for

your profile pic.

If you do decide to post a non-professional photo, it should simply express the real you. Have a friend take a close-up, devoid of

background clutter, of you in the early morning or at dusk.

Include a few candids of you doing an activity you enjoy.

No-Nos: Dark pictures, pictures with you and an ex or another person’s limb in the photo, a web-cam picture, a reflection shot in the mirror, or half-naked photos

Make sure your photos are current. Update your photos regularly. If you get a new haircut, or change the color of your hair or lose/gain 10 pounds or went on a fabulous trip, add a new photo.

A picture really is worth a thousand words and a new partner in life.

Picture This!

Remember, your profile is your first impression and you only get one chance. So, make it the best, self-confident you.

With a stellar profile, you’ll increase your chances of attracting the right mate and making a connection of a lifetime.

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