10 Things Unhappy People Do Not Do
Do Not DoUnhappy Peopleby Inklyo.comThere are so many self-help books and articles out there for people seeking happiness. They advise their readers to live kind, balanced livesor so they say. They tell their readers to wake up, exercise, and eat a well-balanced breakfast, all before eight a.m. They advise kindness, and calmness, and preparedness, and acceptance, and flossing. They encourage meditating, and donating to charity, and avoiding gossip at all costs. Basically, these books and articles tell peoplethat the key to happiness is being a flawless superhuman.But what about those of us who don't strive to be perfect? What are the really important things a person has to do to be happy?What about the people who just wantto go to bed each night with a smile on their faces? Because, really, balance is what most people sorely lack in their lives, and it's what they will never find if they're constantly striving to become "happy." Here are 10 things that unhappy people don't do and the reasons why doing these things may just make an unhappy person happier. Not happy, as in perfectly content with everything ever, but happier. Hopefully, you'll read this list and realize that you're doing all right. Maybe you'll learn a few things and decide to make some changes.This isnt a how to be happy list. This is a how to be a balanced human list. #1.UnhappyPeople Dont:say thank youSaying thank youand, more importantly, meaning ithas actually been proven to make people happier. Feeling and expressing gratitude is a win for everyone involved. The person being thanked feels happy for being appreciated, and the person doing the thanking feels good for making the other person happy. So if you're ever feeling down, ask yourself: Have I been acting like a jerk lately? If the answer is yes, the odds are pretty good that this behavior is affecting more than just the people you're being rude to; it's also making you unhappy.#2.UnhappyPeople Dont:take active rolesin relationshipsIt's all well and good to have lots of friends and family members, but if you never make an effort to work on or maintain those relationships, you won't be getting nearly as much out of them as you could be. Reach out; show you care. Being nice to others can make you happy, too.#3.UnhappyPeople Dont:pray or meditateDon't get us wrongprayer and meditation are not for everyone. You don't have to be a member of an organized religion to be happy. For most people, though, finding meaning and peace in life is very important. Maybe you need to write in a journal, or play the violin, or paint. Getting beyond the physical world through activities such as these can help you become more content and hopeful.#4.UnhappyPeople Dont:change what makesthem unhappy"Life moves pretty fast. If you don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it." These wise words from a famous fictional high school student (Anyone? Anyone?) couldn't be truer. Getting stuck in an unwanted situation can cause unhappiness for many people. The solution to this problem is simple: change the situation. Now, we're not suggesting you skip school, steal your friend's father's sports car (now, that's a mouthful of possessives!), and lip sync to the Beatles in a parade. All we're saying is that change, scary as it may be, can be good for you.#5.UnhappyPeople Dont:give giftsRemember earlier, when we mentioned that being nice to others is really good for a person's happiness? Well, here we are again. Being stingy never helped anyone. Being realistically generous makes other people thankful, and making other people thankful makes you happy. Isn't that great?#6.UnhappyPeople Dont:sleep like normal humansOkay, so this isn't exactly true for everyone, but good sleep habits are associated with greater levels of happiness. Even though many university and college students have managed to live the nocturnal life for years on end, this is not how humans are actually wired. Try to sleep at night, and stay awake (and relatively productive) throughout the day.#7.UnhappyPeople Dont:laugh enoughContrary to popular hipster belief, finding funny things funny actually is cool. You know what else is cool? People who can laugh at themselves. Finding the humor in your own life is a great coping mechanism, and people who can cope are people who can be happy.#8.UnhappyPeople Dont:manage theirmoney wellThe stress of being unable to pay off debt or to provide yourself with basic necessities is obviously a huge happiness-sucker. It's nearly impossible to concern yourself with happiness when youre busy trying to figure out how to feed yourself or keep a roof over your head. So while money doesn't buy happiness, having enough of it does allow us to focus on happiness.#9.UnhappyPeople Dont:let things goAt the 2014 Academy Awards, John Travolta absolutely botched Idina Menzel's name while introducing her performance. The Internet exploded with references to the performer Travolta introduced as "Adele Dazeem." Now, Idina could have been pretty ticked about that, considering her live performance was kind of a big deal and her role in Frozen was kind of her first big Hollywood "moment." But what did she do? She let it go. (See what we did there?) And you know what? She seems like a pretty happy lady.
#10.UnhappyPeople Dont:exercise We know, we know! Much like you were hoping to lose that winter weight you've been meaning to get rid of for the past five years without working out, you were probably also hoping to skip the whole physical exercise thing on your quest to happiness. But the fact of the matter is, your brain is connected to your body; treat one well, and the other will benefit.Did You Like this Presentation?If you would like to read more articles like this one, check out the Inklyo.com blog.
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