SELF AS INSTRUMENT OF CHANGE | Kim Morgan

OWNER & DIRECTOR

“Any leader of transformation needs to learn the psychology of individuals, the psychology of the group, the psychology of society and the psychology of change.”

W. Edwards Deming…AND THE PSYCHOLOGY OF

THEMSELVES.

Use of self is central to

our work

WAIT – Why Am I Talking?

High Quality Attention

Questions - but not for the purpose of gathering information for you

Questions which advance the thinking of the other person

Sit on the edge of your chair and demonstrate fascination

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Coach as an Instrument of Change:

EMOTION

DISCOMFORT

TRANSFORMATION

“We remember life’s important moments especially well. Emotional experiences, whether good or bad, leave strong traces in the brain.”

Joseph E. LeDoux Centre for Neural Science, NYU

Mezirow | Situations which give rise to critical self-reflection and transformational learning:

▪ A disorienting dilemma

▪ A state of puzzlement

Jarvis | Non-transformative situations:

“Non-learning is our response to everyday experience. As long as experience conforms toour mental models, no learning is required.”

“Presence is the living embodiment of knowledge: the theories and practices believed to be essential to bring about change… are manifested, symbolized or implied in the presence of the consultant”

Nevis

Provide a presence that is lacking in the system

Develop congruence

Become an awareness expert

Help the client focus on their problems not on solutions you favour

Role model basic behavioural skills (communication, conflict, decisions)

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Coach as an Instrument of Change:

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Burke | Coach as an Instrument of Change:Ability to tolerate ambiguity

Ability to discover and mobilize human energy

A sense of mission

Ability to recognize own feelings and intuitions quickly

Ability to create learning opportunities

CAN YOU HANDLE EMOTION?

ARE YOU READY FOR DISCOMFORT?

De Haan | Transformational moments occur when:

▪ Tensions, uncertainties and anxieties arise

▪ The coaching relationship is put to the test

▪ A particular vulnerability is examined

▪ The coach accesses their own emotions

“The primary instrument in coaching is the coach/practitioner.”

Burke

WHO YOU ARE IS HOW YOU COACH

PERFECTIONISMPEOPLE PLEASING

OST

RICH

SYN

DRO

ME

GOING TO

EXCESS

IMPOSTOR SYNDROME

COPING WITH LOSS

SEARCHING FOR FULFILMENT

DRIVEN BY FEAR

FIERCE INDEPENDENCE

CYNICISM

PERFORMANCE ANXIETY

PROCRASTINATION

“Learn your theories as well as you can, but put them aside when you touch the miracle of the living soul.”

Jung

Group Dynamics - the composite affect on feelings and behaviour of the unconscious processes of the group.

“The whole is greater than the sum of its parts.”

• Underpinning assumptions

• Behaviour as a function of person in their environment

• Coalitions

• Roles and “Black Sheep” syndrome or scapegoating

• In crowd/out crowd

• Group Think

• Homeostasis

• Transference

• Projection

• Idealization of “leader” (YOU!)

• Unconscious communication

AWARENESS OF:

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How to increase self-knowledge:

Reflective Practice

Power and boundary issues

Integrate personal and family history into a source of strength

Awareness of self and awareness of lack of effectiveness

Self-care

Awareness of the impact we make

Choice about how we use our impact

Choice about ourresponse

Getting ‘Hooked’ |Loss of ability to choose our responses:

AuthorityConflictIntimacyFearEgo

Where am I reactive?

When was the last time I got hooked by someone?

What hooked me? Judgments, thoughts / feelings?

What happened to my ability to choose my behaviour?

What can I learn from this?

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Reflection exercise in pairs:

Developing instrumentality:Commitment to ongoing technical expertise and self-knowledge.It starts here….

Kim Morgan

Director of Barefoot Coaching Ltd

@BarefootCoaches

www.barefootcoaching.co.uk Available now on Amazon