Listening for effect – learn what all great leaders know

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Webinar Goal

The goal of this webinar is to acknowledge that…

1. To be an effective leader you have to listen. 2. Active listening is often the neglected partner

within the effective communication dyad. 3. Active listening requires that we invest time in

re-learning our listening behaviors.

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What Will You Learn?

You will learn about…

1. How Most Of Us Listen Today Examine how we currently listen and why we listen this way.

Understand what brought us to this point.2. Explore Why Effective Listening Matters

Examine the value of effective listening skills. Understand the power achieved in becoming an effective listener.

3. Examine 8 Strategies For Effective Listening To improve your listening skills to strengthen your leadership and

enhance follower engagement.

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#1: How Most Of Us Listen Today


What Ideas Does This Image Invoke?


What Ideas Does This Image Invoke?

“We Have Two Ears And One Mouth So We Can Listen Twice As Much As We Speak.”

-Epictetus (AD 55 – C.135) [Ep-ik-tee-tuh S] MCG Consulting Group (www.MCGConsultingGroup.com) 8

Typically Humans Speak …

… at a rate of 125-150 words per

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Human Brain Can Comprehend And Listen…

… at a rate of

600 words per

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#2: Explore Why Effective Listening Matters


Dynamic Listening Skills Enable Successful Leadership

CommunicationInfluenceRelationshipsMoraleProductivityEngagement


Communication


Influence


Relationships


Morale


Productivity


Engagement



#3: Examine 8 Strategies For Effective Listening

To improve your listening skills to strengthen your leadership and enhance follower engagement.


#1: Minimal Encouragers

When?Really?

When?

Uh Hum

Wow!

You're kidding me!


#2: Open-Ended Questions

•Such as questions that cannot be answered with a single word like “yes” or “no”!

Say More!Closed ended

questions are more

like an interrogation…

“we have ways of

making you talk!”

Can you eloberate on

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#3: Paraphrasing(a summary in your own words of what you have been told)

“are you telling

me…”

“I think I am

hearing you say…”

“are you

saying….”


#4: Emotion Labeling(being attuned to the emotion behind the words they are

saying)

“you sound…” “I hear…..”

“you seem….”


$5: Reflecting/Mirroring(repeating last word or phrase…)

• “Her dad threw us out of the house just like that!”• “just like that!”

• “The FBI agent shot and killed the guy”• “killed the guy!?”

• “that’s what Mary said!”• “Mary Said!?”


$6: Summarization(brief restatement of core them es)


#7:Effective Pauses(Silence can be effective on a number of levels)

• You can use silence just before or just after you say something….


#8: “I” Messages

• A father wants his young child to stop calling him rude names during playtime.

• Common response: “Hey! If you call me a rude name one more time, I’m going to send you straight to bed!”

• “I” statement response: “I feel very sad when I hear rude words because they hurt my feelings. I like playing with people who use nice words.”



• A woman becomes angry when her sister borrows her favorite coat and returns it with stains and a tear.

• Common response: “You ruined my jacket! Are you ever going to grow up?!”

• “I” statement response: “I feel upset when you do not take care of my things because I cannot afford to replace them. I need you to take care of my things like I do if you are going to borrow them.”



• A teenage boy is annoyed with his parents, who ask him several times each night if he has completed his homework.

• Common response: “Lay off me!”• “I” statement response: “I feel

frustrated and annoyed when I am reminded over and over to do my homework. I am old enough now to complete my homework without reminders.”


What Did You Learn?

You learnt about…

1. How Most Of Us Listen Today2. Explore Why Effective Listening

Matters3. Examine 8 Strategies For Effective

Listening


Questions

• How does listening for effect vary from active listening?


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