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  • 1. Who am I ? Write twenty statements about Who am I?
  • 2. Who Am I? Four types of likely answers Physical Description: Social Roles Personal Traits: Existential Statements
  • 3. Self Concept .The term self-concept is a general term used to refer to how someone thinks about or perceives themselves. is how we think about and evaluate ourselves
  • 4. Guided imagery Lets go back to our early years of life. Go back as far as you can into your early childhood. May be when you had started going to school. You were a tiny little being. Can you recall the people around you? Your parents,: your father, your mother, your grandfather, your grandmother, your brother, your sister. Meet them all. What do you hear them saying to you. Hear them closely. What do you hear them say to you, what do they admire in you. What are they saying, you are good at? What do they appreciate in you? Things that you are able to do or the way you are? Do you hear somebody getting angry with you? Is there anyone telling that they are upset with you the way you are? Or the things that you do or are unable to do
  • 5. You are studying many subjects in the school now you go in for many co curricular activities sports ,music ,dance Craft , Clay work or other activities .What do you hear your teachers say to you . do they tell you what you good at , what do they value you for. What about your friends, what do they admire in you? What do they appreciate you for? Hear them all, all of them. Do you come across any teacher who is upset with you the one who shouts at you, rebukes? What are they upset about? Life moves on you are a teenager now? How do you look at yourself? Do you find yourself happy? Do you feel a sense of pride? How do people around you look at you? Your father or mother, Your sister, brother, neighbors? What are people critical about? What are they appreciative about? Who are the people who are constantly irritating you, make you feel nervous; Make you feel less, incompetent. How do you look at yourself?
  • 6. You are a young adult now; you have your own very way of looking at yourself. Even you can see some strengths in yourself, The things you are competent in . Your sense of responsibility, your values, your way of being with people. You hear others appreciate you, admire you but you also hear people criticize you, laugh at you, say things about you. Can you hear them what are they saying to you. What are they saying about you? Today you have had a close look at your life. The way people look at you. You are able to count your strengths and limitations. Some, you agree with and some that you do not agree with. Things that give you a sense of pride and happiness. Also you heard people say things that make you feel low, less and inadequate. Lets open our eyes after committing to ourselves that I am going to do everything to make my life meaningful valuable and happy.
  • 7. Sharing Lets pair up with somebody in the group I want to share my life experiences with . Is my present concept of myself in any ways linked to the voices I have been hearing in the past (both the positive and the negative messages) has my concept of self changed over the years ? What brought about the change (both the positive and the negative?) How are we feeling?
  • 8. Self Concept Carl Rogers Believes that Self Concept has three different components: Self image :The view you have of yourself Attributes / Characteristics Self esteem or self-worth: How much value you place on yourself Ideal self : What you wish you were really like
  • 9. Self Worth What the being is worthy of a unique being a sacred being worthy of being loved worthy of a life Quality of life worthy of opportunities worthy of experiences worthy of dignity
  • 10. Self Esteem 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. Its the amount of real self that you dare to show to people. Is a screen or veil that hides what is threatening to reveal A crust one forms around ones real self in orders to survive in a social system or relationships Each individual is unique and different however differences are not always affirmed or celebrated individuals develop consequently graded levels of self esteem. The more characteristics of ones true self that are not affirmed or on appearance are severely punished and violated the greater the defensive screen created by the self to protect oneself.
  • 11. Rate Yourself on the following behaviors on a scale of 1-10 Shy 1..10 Timid 110 Reserved 1 10 Quiet Attention Seeking Clinging Aggressive 110 Bullying 110 110 110 110
  • 12. Rate Yourself on the following behaviors on a scale of 1-10 Resistance to new challenges 110 Fearful of failure 110 Being upset by Mistake 110 Nervous of exams 10 1 Perfectionism 10 1
  • 13. Dimensions of Self Esteem Two central dimensions of self esteem Feeling of being lovable Feeling of being capable
  • 14. Dimensions of Self Esteem Doubts his / her Lovability Shy Doubts his / her Capability Resistance Timid challenges Reserved Quiet Easily Attention to new Seeking Fearful of failure upset by mistakes Clinging Nervous of exams Aggressive Perfectionists Bullying Overly diligent
  • 15. Determinants of self esteem THE REACTION OF OTHERS . If people admire us, flatter us, seek out our company, listen attentively and agree with us we tend to develop a positive selfimage. If they avoid us, neglect us, tell us things about ourselves that we dont want to hear we develop a negative self-image. COMPARISON WITH OTHERS . If the people we compare ourselves with (our reference group) appear to be more successful, happier, richer, better looking than ourselves we tend to develop a negative self image BUT if they are less successful than us our image will be positive.
  • 16. Determinants of self esteem SOCIAL ROLES . Some social roles carry prestige e.g. doctor, airline pilot, TV. presenter, premiership footballer and this promotes selfesteem. Other roles carry stigma. E.g. prisoner, mental hospital patient, refuse collector or unemployed person. IDENTIFICATION . Roles arent just out there. They also become part of our personality i.e. we identity with the positions we occupy, the roles we play and the groups we belong to.
  • 17. Three Faces of Low Self Esteem Face I Acts happy and successful, but is really terrified of failure Lives with the constant fear that she or he will be "found out." Needs continuous successes to maintain the mask of positive self-esteem, which may lead to problems with perfectionism, procrastination, competition, and burn-out.
  • 18. Three Faces of Low Self Esteem Face II Acts like the opinions or good will of others especially people who are important or powerful Lives with constant anger about not feeling "good enough." Continuously needs to prove that others' judgments and criticisms don't hurt, may lead to problems like blaming others excessively, breaking rules or laws, or fighting authority.
  • 19. Three Faces of Low Self Esteem Face III Acts helpless and unable to cope with the world and waits for someone to come to the rescue. Uses self-pity or indifference as a shield against fear of taking responsibility for changing his or her life. Looks constantly to others for guidance, which can lead to such problems as lacking assertiveness skills, under-achievement, and excessive reliance on others in relationships.
  • 20. Indicators of High Self Esteem is competent to deal with life's basic challenges (selfefficacy) Feels that one is deserving of success, love, and friendships, and the acceptance of positive feelings such as pride and joyas "natural" and proper to one's existence. Is self-reflective and capable of independent thought; taking responsibility for and authentically asserting one's thoughts, beliefs, values, and actions; pursuing meaningful life goals; Can work harmoniously in a group takes people along adhere to moral values that are based on reason.
  • 21. High Self Esteem Only 5 10 percent of population Marginal protectors Loving Spontaneous Unique / different Individual Expansive Adventurous Creative Fearless