MEET THE RACKET FEELINGS

A familiar emotion, learned and encouraged in childhood, experienced in many different stress situations, and maladaptive as an adult means of problem-solving.

Racket feeling:

(Stewart, Joines : TA Today)

1. Present, inner awareness

2. Demonstration or expression by appearance, behavior or words

3. Action directed at someone or something

Perception and feeling in grown person

Perception and feeling in young child

3 & 2. Action directed at someone or something WHILE expressing him/herself

1. Inner awareness -sadly, not there yet.

Others decide what is allowed

The child learns early in life:

- What to feel

- What to be aware of and what to ignore

- What is rewarded with strokes

- What is discounted

So, how to tell authentic feelings from rackets?

I’m Angry : I’m solving a problem in the present I’m Sad : I’m dealing with loss in the pastI’m Scared : I’m helping solve a problem in the futureI’m Glad : No change needed

Rackets lead into games

1. Extra emphasis on racket feelings

2. Broken record effect

3. Expanding the social scope

4. Seeking to transact with others

the Game is on !

Rackets feed the script

Any time you experience a racket feeling, you are in script.

• The child uses the racket feelings to get his/her needs met. The script beliefs set in

• The adult is attempting to manipulate the environment so as to gain the parental support one gained in childhood by experiencing and showing the racket feelings.

Thank You !

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