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Subject : Personal Growth and Development

Instructor: Dr. Kol Pheng

The 7 HABITS of Highly Effective Teens – Sean COVEY

I Am the Force

Habit I Be Proactive

Proactive PersonAre not easily offendedTake responsibility for their choices Think before they actBounce back when something bad happensAlways find a way to make it happenFocus on things they can do something about,

and don’t worry about things they can’t

Reactive PersonAre easily offendedBlame othersGet angry and say things they later regretWhine and complainWait for things to happen to themChange only when they have to

Say no to Reactive

CHOICE IS YOURS

Habit II

Begin with the End in Mind

You have to set your goal before you go.You are the drivers of you life and you have to

draw your way to go.Taking Control of your Destiny.You have to think the positives and negatives

consequence for what you plan to do.The way you choose will be affect to your future.

CROSSROADS OF LIFEThe Paths you choose today can be

shape you forever.

What About Friend?Friend can have influence on you.Sometime we better have no friend

rather than to have the wrong friend.The paths that you had said will

influence by your Friend.What type of friend do you want to

have?

What About sex? It is the important decision with huge

consequenceWe are free to choose our paths, but we

can’t choose the consequence which come with them.

The consequence of your action will be affect of your future life.

What About school?You have to decide which school will be

shape your future in the major way.Which school will you choose?

A Personal Mission StatementMore you find out for your own personal

mission statement is more you can shape your goal.

Write the personal mission statement is like you had prepare or set your plan to do.

Getting Started on your Mission Statement

Method#1: The Quote Collection. Collect one to five of your very favorite quotes onto one sheet of paper.

Method#2: The Brain Dump. Speed write about your mission for fifteen minutes.

Method#3: The Retreat. Plan a large chunk of time, like an entire afternoon.

Method#4: The big Lazy. If you’re really lazy, use the U.S Army’s slogan “Be all that you can be.

Habit III Put first things first

The Habit 3 of Will Power ( The Strength to say yes to your most important thing ).

The Habit 3 of Won’t Power ( the strength to say no to less important thing and to peer pressure).

Packing More Into Your LIFE

-The better you organize yourself, the more you’ll able to pack in- more time for join your life style. -Especially important thing between important and urgent .-We spend our time in four different time quadrants.

The time quadrants

Quadrant 1: The procrastinator-Thing that are both urgent and important. There will always be Q1 thing that we can’t control and that must get done, like helping a sick Child or meeting an important deadline.

Quadrant 2 : the Prioritizer -Q2 is made of the thing that are important but, not urgent.

Quadrant 3: The yes Man - Q3 represents thing that are urgent but not important. - It is characterized by trying to please other people and

responding to their every desire.

Quadrant 4 : The Slacker - Q4 is the category of waste and excess. These actives are neither urgent nor important.

Pick Up A Planner:-Planner of some sort that has calendar to write down appointments assignment, to do list, and goals.

Plan weekly- Step1: Identify your big rocks.- Step 2 : Block out time for your big rock - Step 3 : Schedule everything Else .

Adapt Daily: - Weekly plan in place, adapt each day as needed.

Does it really work ?-You bet it does..

The Other Half: -Time Management isn’t all there is to Habit. It’s only other half is learning to overcome fear and peer pressure.

Think Win-Win

Think Win-Win is an attitude toward life, a mental frame of mind that says I can win, and so you can. It’s not me or you, it’s both of us.

Win-Lose-The Totem Pole

Win-Lose is an attitude toward life that says the pie of success is only so big. It is competitive and comparing.

Lose-Win-The Doormat

Lose-Win is an attitude you’ll find yourself setting like low expectations and compromising your standards again and again.

Lose-Lose-The Downward Spiral

Lose-Lose says, “If I’m going to down, then you’re going to down with me, sucker.”

Win-Win-The All-You-Can-Eat Buffet

Win-win is a belief everyone can win. It's not either you or me. It's both of us. It's not matter of who gets the biggest piece of pie.

Habit V Seek First To Understand,Then to be understood

- The key to communication and having power and influence with people can be sum up in these sentence:

• Seek first to understand, then to be understood

• Listen first, and then talk second - So that mean you can’t trust people who

give you solution before they understand what you need.

- Many people have left out the most important key to communication, which is listening. It is the deepest need of the human heart to be understood.

These are the conditions of human need to avoid and need to use : 1.Five poor listening styles: 2.Genuine listening (in the action) 3.Communicating with parent

1. Five Poor listening styles Here, these are the 5 types of the poor

listening: A. Spacing out

We ignore people because our mind is wandering off in another way.

B. Pretend listening We still aren’t paying much attention to the

speaker, but at least we pretend to make some insightful comments.

C. Selective Listening Pay attention only to the part that interests us

D. Word listening We listen only to the words (not body language or the

true meaning) Thus, you miss out on what’s really being said

E. Self-centered listening Happens when we see everything from our own

point of view We usually reply in three ways (judge, advise, probe)

• Judging: as we listen to someone, sometime we make judgments about them and what they are saying.

• Advising: this is when we give advice drawn from our own

experience. • Probing: occurs when you try to dig up emotions

before people are ready to share about them.

2. Genuine listening: There are three components of genuine listening: • First, listen with your eyes, heart, and ears. • Second, Stand in their shoes.you stand of other

people mind and try to understand about them. • Third, practice mirroring. It’s only reflect of what

you saying in front of mirror

3.Communication with parents: If you take the time to understand and listen

to your parents, two incredible things will happen.

• First, you’ll gain a greater respect for them • Second, if you take the time to understand

and listen to your parent, you’ll get your way much more often.

So, if they feel that you understand them, they’ll be much more willing to listen to you, and they will much more flexible, and they will trust you more.

Seeking first to understand requires consideration, but seeking to be understood require courage.

Giving feedback is an important part of seeking to be understood.

• First, you need to ask yourself of the question “Will this feedback really help to you and suitable to you?”.

• Second, you need to change the word “I” instead of “You”. That mean when you want to have critic to someone, you must to think about your feeling to compare with their feeling.

Habit VI Synergize

“Alone we can do so little; together we can do so much”

~Hellen Keller

What does Synergize mean? Synergize is achieved when two or more

people work together to create a better solution than either could alone.

Synergy is

Celebrating differencesTeamworkOpen-mindednessFinding new and better way

Synergy is not

Tolerating differenceWorking independentlyThinking you’re always rightCompromise

Synergize Is Everywhere Synergy is everywhere in nature. Many

plants and animals live together in symbiotic relationships.

• Synergize is not anything new. A good band is a great examples of synergy.

Celebrating Differences Synergy doesn’t just happen. It’s a process. Learn

to celebrate them.

Since this diversity around you is ever increasing, there are 3 possible approaches that can take:

Level 1:Shun diversity

Level2:Tolerate diversity

Level 3:Celebrate diversity

Teamwork and Synergy Great teams are usually made up of

five or more different types of people:

• PLODDERS

• FOLLOWERS

• INNOVATORS

• HARMONIZERS

• SHOW- OFFS

Habit VII Sharpen The Saw

• Habit 7 is all about keeping your personal self“sharp” so that you can better deal with life and so that you feel that you are worth a lot!

• It means renewing and strengthening the four key dimensions of your life. they are body, brain, hart,and soul

Balance Is Better Why is balance so important?

One dimension of life will affect the other three.

To sharpen yourself in a good way is to have balance in all four dimension areas.

Four Dimension Of Your Life

Body

Heart Soul

Brain

Caring For Your Body • First dimension of life is your body. • You need to take care of your body, and your

body will take care of you.

• Here are the four key ingredients to a healthy body are:

❖Good sleeping habit ❖Physical relaxation ❖Good nutrition ❖Proper exercise

Body

Caring For Your Brain Second dimension of life is your brain.

• Developing brain power through your schooling, extracurricular activities, hobbies, jobs and other mind-enlarging experiences.

• There are many ways to exercise or sharpen your mind.

Brain

Caring For Your Heart Third dimension of life is your heart.

• The best way to sharpen your heart is to focus on building relationship bank account.

• RBA (Relationship Bank Account) deposits: ❖Keep promises ❖Do small acts of kindness ❖Be loyal ❖Listen ❖Say you’re sorry ❖Set clear expectations

Heart

Caring For Your Soul • The last dimension of life is your soul.

• Your soul is a very private area of your life.

• You can feed your soul in many different ways:

❖Meditating ❖Writing in your journal ❖Reading inspiring book ❖Thinking deeply

Soul

Thank You