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Passive behaviors

Passive behaviors - Discounting (Transactional analysis / TA is an integrative approach to the theory of psychology and psychotherapy)

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Passive behaviors

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Prepared By

Manu Melwin Joy

Research Scholar

School of Management Studies

CUSAT, Kerala, India.

Phone – 9744551114Mail – [email protected]

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forms and presentations.

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Passive behaviors

• When I discount, I do so by making

statement to myself in my own

head.

• Thus a discount itself is not

observable.

• Since you can’t thought read, you

have no way of knowing I am

discounting unless I speak or act in

some way which indicates the

presence of the discount.

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Passive behaviors

• There are four types of behavior

which always indicate that the

person concerned is

discounting. They are

• Doing nothing.

• Over adaptation.

• Agitation.

• Incapacitation or violence.

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Doing nothing

• The members of a TA group aresitting in a circle.

• The group leader says : “ Let’sgo round the group and eachperson say what he or sheappreciates or resents abouttoday’s session. If you don’twant to take part, it’s OK to say“Pass”.

• The exercise begins. Peopleround the group each give anappreciation or resentment.One or two say “Pass”.

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Doing nothing

• Then came Norman’s turn. There is a silence. Peoplewaited for Norman to say something but he doesn’t.

• He sits unmoving and silent, staring into space. Since hedoesn’t seem to want to speak any appreciation orresentment, the person next to him waits for him to say“Pass”.

• But Norman doesn’t do that either. He continues to sitas if dumb.

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Doing nothing• Norman is showing the passive

behavior called doing nothing.• Instead of using energy to take

problem solving action, he isusing into to stop himself fromacting.

• A person exhibiting this passivebehavior feels uncomfortableand experiences himself as notthinking.

• He is discounting his own abilityto do anything about thesituation.

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Over adaptation• Amy comes into the house after a

hard day’s work. Her husbandBrian is sitting reading anewspaper.

• Looking beyond him into thekitchen, Amy sees a huge pile ofunwashed dishes besides thesink.

• “Hi”, says Brian, “Hope you’ve hada good day. Just about time fortea, isn’t it?”.

• Taking her coat off, Amy goesstraight through to the kitchen.She washes the pile of dishes andgets down to making tea.

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Over adaptation

• Neither Brian nor Amy noticed

that he has not asked here to

wash the dishes and make tea.

• Nor has she asked him if he wants

her to.

• Still less has she paused to think

whether she herself wants to

wash the dishes or whether it

might be more appropriate if

Brian Washed them.

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Over adaptation• Amy’s passive behavior is over

adaptation.• When someone overadapts, she is

complying with what she believes inChild are the wishes of others.

• She does so without checking withthem what their wishes are inreality, and without any reference towhat her own wishes are.

• The person in overadapation, unlikethe person in doing nothing,experiences herself as thinkingduring the passive behavior.

• He thinking actually proceeds from acontamination

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Over adaptation• Someone is overadaptation will

often be experienced by others ashelpful, adaptable oraccommodating.

• Thus overadaptation is frequentlystroked by those to whom theperson relates.

• Because of this social acceptabilityand because the person appears tobe thinking, overadaptation is themost difficult to detect of the fourpassive behavior.

• The person in overadaptation isdiscounting her ability to act on herown options. Instead, she followsoptions she believes others want.

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Agitation• The class of students is listening to

the lecturer. At the back of the roomsits Adam.

• The lecturer is speaking ratherquietly and Adam has difficulty inhearing him.

• As the lecture period goes on, Adamhas more and more troublefollowing what lecturer is talkingabout.

• He puts down his pen and startsdrumming his fingers on the desk.He is waggling his foot rapidly upand own in time of his fingerdrumming.

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Agitation• Adam is showing agitation.• In this passive behavior, the

person is discounting his abilityto act to solve the problem.

• He feels acutely uncomfortable,and engages in purposeless,repetitive activity in an attemptto relieve the discomfort.

• Energy is directed into theagitated activity instead of intoaction to solve the problem.

• During agitation, the persondoes not experience himself asthinking.

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Agitation

• If Adam were using his clear Adult, he

could simply attract the lecturer’s

attention and ask him to speak up.

• As it is, his finger drumming and food

waggling do nothing towards solving

his problem.

• Many common habits entail

aggression. Nail biting, smoking, hair

twiddling and compulsive eating are

all examples.

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Incapacitation and violence• Betty is in her late thirties.

The younger of twodaughters, she still lives athome with her aged mother,whom she looks after. Theold woman, despite her age,is really in pretty and soundhealth.

• Out of the blue, Betty meetsa man and they fall in love.Happily, she announces toher mother that she intendsto move out to live with himand perhaps get married.

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Incapacitation and violence

• A couple of days later, the

mother begins having dizzy spells

and has to take to her bed.

• The doctor can find nothing

physically wrong with her. But

Betty begins to feel guilty about

her intention to move out.

• Mother’s passive behavior is

incapacitation.

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Incapacitation and violence• Here, the person disables

herself in some way.• Discounting her own ability

to solve a problem, shehopes in Child that byincapacitating herself shecan get someone else tosolve it.

• Incapacitation cansometimes be in the form ofpsychosomatic ailments, ashere. Alternatively, it can beachieved by mentalbreakdown or by abuse ofdrugs or alcohol.

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Incapacitation and violence

• Robert has just had a furious

row with his girlfriend.

• He storms out of the house

and walks the streets for a

long while.

• He goes down town, has a

few beers.

• Then he picks up a chair and

smashes all the plate – glass

windows in the bar.

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Incapacitation and violence

• Robert’s passive behavioris violence.

• It may seem strange torefer to violence aspassive behavior.

• But it is passive because itis not directed at solvingthe problem in hand.

• When Robert smashesthe window, he doesnothing to resolve hisdifferences with isgirlfriend.

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Incapacitation and violence

• Incapacitation can beviewed as violencedirected inwards.

• In both incapacitation andviolence, the person isdiscounting his ability tosolve a problem.

• He releases a burst ofenergy, directed to self orothers, in a desperateattempt to force theenvironment to solve theproblem for him.

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Incapacitation and violence

• Incapacitation or violence will

often follow a period of

agitation.

• When the person is agitating,

he is building up energy which

he may then discharge

destructively by either

incapacitating or getting

violent.

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Activity

• Review the problem situation youconsidered in the last activity.

• Do you identify which of thepassive behaviors you engaged in?

• Now re-run the situation in yourmind’s eye. When you come tothe moment where you began thepassive behavior, imagine yourselfinstead staying in Adult and usingthe full power of your grown upthinking, feeling or behaving tosolve the problem.

• How do you then act differently?

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Thank You

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