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2. Everyone knows they need a mentor, but very few people have one. Why? 1. The reasons are many, reallypeople dont know how to find the right person, or fear of rejection keeps them from asking. 2. Getting a mentor falls into the dangerous important but not urgent category, so it never gets done. 3. Others have no idea what a healthy mentoring relationship would actually look like, so they never take the first step. 4. You dont need to wait till the series is over to ask for mentoring, but I hope knowing that help is coming will give you the confidence you need to move forward. 3. Getting a mentor isnt easy, but it can be done, and its worth it. Were going to start by examining why: 4. 1. While we all ultimately have to find our own way, mentors can help you navigate that road more smoothly. Someone a few years down the road from you has the benefit of wisdom and experience behind them. A good mentor will get to know you, and can speak into your life with the benefit of their past experience. 5. 2. Mentors bring a fresh perspective. Its difficult to see your own strengths, weaknesses, and challenges clearly. Mentors can help you understand yourself better and see things as they really are. 6. 3. Mentors make you ask the hard questions. having a mentor forces you to think through difficult questions, to consider what you really need and where you really want to go. If you have no idea what you need, you havent thought about it enough. Mentors make you think (and can nudge you if youre stuck). 7. 4. Mentors normalize our struggles. Its enormously reassuring to hear your mentor say something like, This thing youre struggling with? I struggled with that, too. Everyone does. 8. 5. Mentors concretely improve our performance in and satisfaction with our work. Numerous studies have shown that people with mentors make more money at work, are promoted more often, and are more satisfied with their jobs. The benefits of mentoring outside the workplace may be harder to measure but theyre just as real. 9. 1. Plan: How can you approach this person? Where? When? What will you say? Just like a job interview, you want to go in prepared. 10. 2. Bridge: Create some kind of meaningful connection. For example, you can follow up on a recent accomplishment of theirs, like an award or headline-making scoop or sale. 11. 3. Close: Close the deal! With the hard part of the ask over, you now need to follow up, which is critical. 12. 4. Assess: Your final step is that once the relationship kicks off, you need to evaluate what youre getting out of it. Its important to see what you want to renew and what you want to release. Sometimes your career goals change. 13. Do ... Build an intentional-to- mentor relationship Make sure your work gets noticed by your mentor Ask for feedback 14. Dont Sweat it if you get no response Always agree with your mentor Shy away from conflict or fear being outside your comfort zone 15. Learning and Giving for Better 1ndONEsia