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(Pre Marriage Counseling Course)
Mātugāma Sutta & Purisa Sutta
Presented By
Ven. B.Dhammarama
SIBA-BABL 14-13
4th Semester
Sri Lanka International Buddhist Academy
Content
Introduction
What is Marriage?
Details on Mātugāma Sutta & Purisa Sutta
How should select one for marriage
• Rūpavā ca hoti
• Bhogavā ca hoti
• Sīlavā ca hoti
• Dakkho ca hoti analaso
• Pajamcassa labhati
Rules for a Happy Marriage
Conclusion
References
Introduction
pre-marriage counseling plays an important role in building healthy
marriages. Many marriage studies and researches have shown that
pre-marriage counseling helps reduce the possibility of divorce.
Couples who attend pre-marriage counseling are able to better
overcome challenges and difficulties.
Pre-marriage counseling sessions create an awareness of marital
issues and problems that might occur in marital relationship.
Pre-marriage counseling also assists people in determining if they
are fully ready for marriage.
What is Marriage?
If a man can find a suitable and
understanding wife and a woman
can find a suitable and
understanding husband, both are
fortunate indeed.
-The Buddha
The legal relationship between a
husband and wife
-Oxford Advanced Dictionary
What is Marriage?
Details on Mātugāma Sutta & Purisa Sutta
These both discourses (suttas) are in Mātugāma samyuttaya in Samyutta Nikāya or
the Connected Discoursers.
“paṅcahi bkikkhave angehi samannāgato mātugāmo…..”
“paṅcahi bkikkhave angehi samannāgato puriso……....”
The Buddha has uttered these discourses to declare some qualities that should be in
a man and a woman who are in young. In this sutta there are five aspects should be
considered by each and every young couples before their marriages. There by,
1. Rūpavā ca hoti - should be beautiful
2. Bhogavā ca hoti - should be wealthy
3. Sīlavā ca hoti - should be virtuous
4. Dakkho ca hoti analaso - should be clever & active
5. Pajamcassa labhati - should be a Begetter
How should select one for marriage
Rūpavā ca hoti Should be beautiful
Basic and the main point
which person’s mind attract
Both physical and mental
beauty
Having beauty is an important
for good sexual relationship
each other.
How should select one for marriage
Bhogavā ca hoti Should be wealthy
• Wealthy is the power of lay life
• The way of earning money
should be righteous
• Should be wealthy person with
both mental and material
• Wealthy of spiritually is the
ultimate goal of a lay life
Sīlavā ca hoti Should be virtuous
How should select one for marriage
• Should be protected Five
precepts
• Should be avoided from
Wrong Livelihood
• He or she should not have
any wrong affaires in
marriage life
Dakkho ca hoti analaso
How should select one for marriage
Should be clever and industrious
• Industrious or working hard is the
way of development
• Should be clever in doing their
roles
• Woman shouldn’t be lazy in
working house
• Husband and wife should be clever
and tactful to make heaven in their
family life
How should prepare for marriage
Beget children pajamcassa labhati
Making children
is a main
purpose of a
marriage
Rules for a Happy Marriage
Never both be angry at the same time.
Never yell at each other unless the house is on fire.
If one of you has to win an argument, let it be your mate.
If you have to criticize, do it lovingly.
Never bring up mistakes of the past.
Neglect the whole world rather than each other.
Never go to sleep with an argument unsettled.
At least once everyday try to say one kind or
complementary thing to your life’s partner.
When you have done something wrong, be ready to admit it
and ask for forgiveness.
Conclusion
Generally, the main goal of Buddhist Pre Marriage counseling is directed at
establishing equilibrium within the family. The mutual love, care and trust are
fundamental to the existence of a family. All of their problems can be resolved
through effective and open communication as partners. This gives rise to
happiness and balance.
In promoting happiness in married life, the late Venerable Dr. K. Sri
Dhammananda wrote the following to describe the mutual relationship that
should exist between man and wife. A wife should provide the husband with
love, attention, family expectations, trust, care of the children, household
efficiency, food preparation, help to resolve problems, and the support he
needs. In the same manner the husband has to fulfill toward his wife certain
duties such as kindness, courtesy, socialization, safety, fairness, affection,
honesty and civilized behavior and support.
References
Primary Sources
• Bhikkhu Bodhi (2000), The Connected Discourses of the Buddha, volume
ii, Wisdom Publication, 199 Elm Street, USA.
Secondary Sources
• Samyutta Nikaya, Buddha Jayanti Tripitaka, Buddhist Culturel Center,
Nedimala, Dehiwala, Sri Lanka.
• Ven. Dr. Sri Dhammananda K, A Happy Marriage Life, Awaken Publishing &
Design, 88 Bright Hill Road, Singapore.
Dictionary
Oxford Advanced Learner’s Dictionary. The Free Dictionary