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Caring

To show love, regard and/or concern for the well-being of others.

Compassionate and empathetic.

Kind, loving and considerate. Thankful, and expresses

gratitude Forgiving of others

A Caring Person Is:

“To be wronged is nothing unless you continue to remember it.”

—Confucius

Holding onto grievances is a

decision to suffer.

— Gerald Jampolsky

“Real forgiveness requires us to truly let go of the anger, resentment and contempt we may feel but it is about giving someone another chance.”

—Michael Josephson

Caring, and the virtues of compassion, kindness, benevolence, altruism,

charity, generosity and sharing are the heart

of ethics.

Mean, cruel or insensitive

Selfish or self-centered

Too busy to lend a helping hand

A Caring Person Is Not:

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Concern for others’ well-being Compassion Empathy Kindness Charity Love

Elements of Caring:

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To engage or involve yourself in the well-being of others as if your happiness were dependent on theirs.

Concern for Others

“Each person has inside a basic decency and goodness. If he acts on it and listens to it, he is giving a great deal of what the world needs most. It is not complicated, but it takes courage. It takes courage for a person to listen to his own goodness and act upon it.”

—Pablo Casals

“Good words are

worth much and cost little.”

—George Herbert

“If you think about what you ought to do for other people, your character will take care if itself.”

—Woodrow Wilson

Sorrow or concern for the suffering of others accompanied by the urge to help.

Compassion:

“Compassion is a virtue…that comes very close to the very heart of moral awareness, to seeing one’s neighbor as another self.”

—William Bennett The Book of Virtues (1993)

“Life’s most persistent and

urgent question is, “What are you doing for

others?”—Martin Luther King, Jr.

Do all the good you can,By all the means you can,In all the ways you can,In all the places you can,As long as ever you can.

—John Wesley, John Wesley’s Rule

The ability to share in another person’s emotions, thoughts and feelings.

Empathy

A personwho really cares feels an emotional

response to both the pain and pleasure

of others.

“Nature — in giving tears to man — confessed that he had a tender heart. This is our noblest quality.”

— Juvenal

“Sympathy is two hearts tugging at one load.”

— Charles H. Parkhurst

The possession of sympathetic or generous qualities implying an inclination to be charitable and do good.

Kindness

“It is nice to be important,

but it is more important to be

nice.”— Sir John Marks Templeton

“We are made kind by being kind.”

—Eric Hoffer, The Passionate State of Mind (1954)

“The only way to have a friend

is to be a friend.”

— Ralph Waldo Emerson

The voluntary giving of money or other help to people in need.

Charity

Be charitable and altruistic — give money, time, support and comfort just for the sake of making someone else’s life better, not for praise or gratitude.

Help people in need.

Charity

“You must give some time to your fellow men. Even if it’s a little thing, do something for others—something for which you will get no pay but the privilege of doing it.”

—Albert Schweitzer

“It’s better to give than to receive.”

— The Bible (New Testament)

Deep and tender feeling of attachment or affection for a person or persons.

Love

“That best portion of a good man’s life

/ His little nameless,

unremembered acts / Of kindness and

love.”—Wordsworth (Tintern Abbey)

“All children need love,

especially those who do not deserve it.”

— Evan Esar

“We can do

no great things —

only small things with great love.” —Mother Teresa

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