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Anger Management

WizIQ College

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Module One: Getting Started

Welcome to the Anger Management

Workshop.

This workshop will help teach

participants how to identify their

anger triggers and what to do when

their angry.

Holding on to

anger is like

grasping a hot coal

with the intent of

throwing it at

someone else; you

are the one who

gets burned.

Buddha

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Workshop Objectives

The anger cycle

Anger myths

Dealing with

anger

Energy curve

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Pre-Assignment Review

Think of a situation where you had experienced anger, preferably one that no longer affects you currently.

1. What symptoms did you experience?

2. What was your response to your anger symptoms?

3. Was your response helpful?

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Module Two: Understanding Anger

Before we discuss specific anger management strategies, it is helpful to first understand the nature of anger.

In this module, we will discuss

• The cycle of anger

• The fight or flight response

• Common myths about anger

Anger always

comes from

frustrated

expectations.

Elliot Larson

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The Cycle of Anger

Crisis

Recovery

Depression

Normal/Adaptive

Trigger

Escalation

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Understanding Fight or Flight

Fight Flight

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Common Myths about Anger

Bad emotion

Needs to be unleashed

Ignoring anger

Cannot control anger

Being a pushover

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Module Three: Do’s and Don’ts

Now that we’ve established that anger is a natural, unavoidable, and instinctual reaction, let’s look at how we can respond to anger appropriately.

In this module, we will discuss the dos and don’ts in responding to anger.

How much more

grievous are the

consequences of

anger than the

causes of it.

Marcus Aurelius

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Unhelpful Ways of Dealing with Anger

Ignoring angerBeing

aggressive

Passive aggression

Not communicating

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Helpful Ways of Dealing with Anger

• Acknowledge your anger

• Speak upDO

• Explain how you feel

• Be calm before you speakDO

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Module Four: Gaining Control

Anger is instinctual, yes. It is an emotion that comes unbidden and we often don’t have a choice whether we would be angry or not. What we can do however, is take control of our anger when it comes. In this module, we will discuss ways to gain control over our anger.

People who fly

into a rage

always make a

bad landing.

Will Rogers

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A Word of Warning

Recognize the warning signs.

Physical

Mental

Emotional

Behavioral

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Using Coping Thoughts

Calm down first, and think it through

It may not be as bad as it seems

You are capable of managing this situation

It’s alright to be upset

What needs to be done immediately?

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Using Relaxation Techniques

Breathing Exercises

Meditation

Progressive Muscle Relaxation (PMR)

Visualization

Music

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Blowing Off Some Steam

Physical Activity

MusicPillow

PunchingWriting

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Module Five: Separate the People from the Problem

Anger is not just personal. It can be relational as well. When managing anger that involves other people, it helps to have a problem-oriented disposition, setting personal matters aside. This way the issue becomes an objective and workable issue.

It is wise to direct

your anger

towards problems-

-- not people; to

focus your

energies on

answers--- not

excuses.

William Arthur

Ward

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Objective vs. Subjective Language

State behaviors

Don’t be vague

Use clear terms

Don’t assume

thoughts or actions

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Identifying the Problem

Mutual acceptance

Review your position

Problem statement

Gather information

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Using “I” Messages

A description of the behavior

Its effect on you or the organization

A suggestion for alternative behavior

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Module Six: Working on the Problem

In this module, we will discuss how to work effectively on the problem. Specifically, we will tackle constructive disagreement, negotiation tips, building a consensus and identifying solutions.

Anyone can

become angry---

that is easy, but to

be angry with the

right person, at

the right time, and

for the right

purpose and in the

right way--- that is

not within

everyone’s power

and that is not

easy.

Aristotle

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Using Constructive Disagreement

Solution-focused

Mutual respect

Win-win solution

Reasonable concessions

Learning-focused

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Negotiation Tips

Note situational factors

Prepare!

Communicate clearly

Focus on the process

Keep an open-mind

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Building Consensus

Increase sameness

reduce differences

Explore options

together

Focus on shared

interests

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Identifying Solutions

SolutionBrainstorm

Adopt a model

Invent Options

Survey

Hypothesize

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Module Seven: Solving the Problem

In this module, we will discuss elements of solving the problem. Particularly, we would discuss choosing a solution, making a plan, and getting it done.

Anger is not bad. Anger can be a very positive thing, the thing that moves us beyond the acceptance of evil.

Joan Chittister

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Choosing a Solution

Costs and benefits

Foresight

Interests

Obstacles

Values

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Making a Plan

Keep your goal central to you plan

Concrete steps

Resources you would need

Evaluate the plan

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Getting it Done

Stick to your plan

Monitor progress

and results

Revise accordingly

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Module Eight: A Personal Plan

In this module we will discuss what hot buttons are, how to identify your personal hot buttons, and how you can be benefitted by keeping a personal anger log.

Everyone has a hot

button. Who is

pushing yours?

While you

probably cannot

control that

person, you CAN

control the way

you react to them.

Anonymous

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Understanding Hot Buttons

Something we observe

Something we think

Something we feel

Something we do

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Identifying Your Hot Buttons

•Triggers

•Appropriate responses

Hot

•Awareness

•Watch for themButtons

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A Personal Anger Log

Increase awareness of anger patterns

A good way to blow off steam

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Module Nine: The Triple A Approach

Anger is exacerbated by a feeling of victimization and helplessness. It helps to know then that we always have at least three options when dealing with an anger-provoking situation: you can alter, avoid or accept.

In the long run, we

shape our lives,

and we shape

ourselves. The

process never

ends until we die.

And the choices

we make are

ultimately our own

responsibility.

Eleanor Roosevelt

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Alter

Change non-productive habits

Respectfully ask others

Change the way you view a situation

Change the way you react to a situation

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Avoid

People who make you upset

Stressful situations

Your ‘hot buttons’

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Accept

Find learning

Seek higher

purpose

Vent to a friend

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Module Ten: Dealing with Angry People

In this module we will discuss how we can effective deal with angry people. Specifically we will talk about the Energy Curve, de-escalation techniques, and guidelines on when to back away and what to do.

He who angers

you, conquers

you.

Elizabeth

Kenny

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Understanding the Energy Curve

Take Off

Slow Down

Cool Down

RATIONAL BEHAVIOR

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De-escalation Techniques

Active listening

Personal space

Sense of control

Orientate them

Invite criticism

Agree if possible

Reiterate your support

Set limits

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When to Back Away and What to Do Next

Cannot view it objectively

Warning signs for abuse

Influence of mood-altering

substances

Rational intervention

does not work

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Module Eleven: Pulling It All Together

In this module, we will show how these different techniques come together. We will also give additional tips to help you in practicing these anger management techniques more effectively.

If you do not

wish to be prone

to anger, do not

feed the habit.

Give it nothing

which may tend

to its increase.

Epictetus

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Process Overview

Be informed

Anger cycle

Fight or flight

Do’s and don'ts

Be self-aware

Warning signs

Hot buttons

Personal dynamics

Take control

Coping

Relaxation

Blow off steam

Take action

Negotiate

Make a plan

De-escalate

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Putting It into Action

Find your motivation

One change at a time

Reward yourself

Accountability partner

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Module Twelve: Wrapping Up

Although this workshop is coming to a close, we hope that your journey to improve your anger management skills is just beginning. This will be a key tool to guide your progress in the days, weeks, months, and years to come. We wish you the best of luck on the rest of your travels!

This feeling,

finally, that we

may change

things - this is at

the center of

everything we

are. Lose that...

lose everything.

Sir David Hare

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Words from the Wise

Yogi Berra: In theory there is no difference between theory and practice. In practice there is.

Dwight Eisenhower: Plans are nothing; planning is everything.

Jonas Salk: The reward for work well done is the opportunity to do more.