By Kimberly Barnes

THINK WIN/WIN

HABIT 4

By Kimberly Barnes

SUMMARY

Win/Win is not a personality technique. It’s a total paradigm of human interaction. It comes from a character of integrity, maturity, and the Abundance Mentality. It grows out of high-trust relationships. It is embodied in agreements that effectively clarify and manage expectations as well as accomplishment. It thrives in supportive systems.

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Six Paradigms of Human Interaction

Win/Win Win/Lose Lose/Win Lose/Lose Win Win/Win or No Deal

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Win/Win

Win/Win seeks mutual benefits in all human interactions. Win/Win means that agreements or solutions are

mutually beneficial. Win/Win is the belief that it’s not your way or my way; it’s

a better way, a higher way.

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Win/Lose

Win/Lose states If I win you lose.

In Leadership style, Win/Lose is a authoritarian approach.

Win/Lose people are prone to use position, power, credentials, possessions, or personality to get their way.

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Lose/Win

Lose/Win stands for no demands, no expectations, no vision.

People who think Lose/Win are usually quick to please or appease.

They seek strength from popularity or acceptance.

Lose/Win people have little courage to express their own feelings and convictions and are easily intimidated by the ego strength of others.

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Lose/Lose

When two Win/Lose determine, stubborn, ego-invested individuals interact-the result will be Lose/Lose.

Both will Lose. Both will become vindictive and want to “get back” or “get even,” blind to the fact that murder is suicide, that revenge is a two-edged sword.

Lose/Lose is the philosophy of the highly dependent person without inner direction who is miserable and thinks everyone else should be, too.

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Win

People with the Win mentality don’t necessarily want someone else to lose. That’s irrelevant.

What matters is that they get what they want.

Win mentality thinks in terms of securing his own ends-and leaving it to others to secure theirs.

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Win/Win or No Deal

No Deal basically means that if we can’t find a solution that would benefit us both, we agree to disagree agreeably-No Deal.

No expectations have been created, no performance contracts established.

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Five Dimensions of Win/Win

Character Relationships Agreements Structure and

Systems Process

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Three Parts of Character

Integrity – Making and keeping meaningful promises and commitments.

Maturity – The balance between courage and consideration.

Abundance Mentality – The paradigm that there is plenty out there for everyone.

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Relationships

The trust, the emotional bank account, is the essence of Win/Win without trust, we lack the credibility for open, mutual leaning and communication and real creativity.

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Agreements

From relationships flow the agreements that give definition and direction to Win/Win. They are sometimes called performance agreements or partnership agreements.

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Structure and Systems

Win/Win can only survive in an organization when the systems support it. So often the problem is in the system, not in the people. If you put good people in bad systems, you get bad results.

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Processes

See the problem from the other point of view. Identify the key issues and concerns involved. Determine what results would constitute a fully

acceptable solution. Identify possible new options to achieve those results.