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Bullying SOS: Support and Strategies for Parents

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We want you to be able to:

• understand that a skills deficit (self-regulation and/or friendship skills) can lead a child to engage in bullying behaviours and/or leave that child more vulnerable to bullying.

• leave with practical strategies for helping a child who is struggling, whether that child is their own child or another child they care about and/or work with.

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Meet Ann Douglas

Ann Douglas is the author of numerous books about parenting including, most recently, Parenting Through the Storm.

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Her website is www.anndouglas.net and you can connect with her on Twitter @anndouglas.

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FRIENDSHIP SKILLS

Recognize that friendship skills don’t come easily to or naturally for every child. Friendships may be particularly difficult for children who are struggling with mental health, neurodevelopmental, and/or behavioural challenge. Your child may need a little extra help learning how to regulate his emotions and his attention and some extra practice understanding how friendships work.

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FRIENDSHIP SKILLS

Consider what is realistic for your child right nowRespect your child’s temperament and consider where he is at developmentally as you look for ways to encourage your child to work on his friendship skills. Examples:

Can you think of an extra-curricular activity that he would enjoy and that would provide him with opportunities to work on his friendship skills?Is he ready to have a friend join him on a family outing?

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FRIENDSHIP SKILLS

Look for allies beyond the familyGet to know the parents of other children in your friend’s class. Join forces with your child’s teacher. Maybe she can think of ways your child could work on his friendship skills at school.

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FRIENDSHIP SKILLS

Help your child to understand how her behaviour affects other people—and vice versa.Help her to identify any behaviours that could be contributing to difficulties in her relationships: not looking people in the eye when she is speaking to them, speaking too quietly or too loudly, interrupting other people repeatedly.

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FRIENDSHIP SKILLS

Give her the opportunity to work on underlying skills (emotional regulation, for example) that will lead to improvements on the friendship front.Help her to identify the strategies that work best for her in regulating her emotions—and help her to understand how regulating her emotions will help her to function better in relationships.

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FRIENDSHIP SKILLSHelp your child to understand how friendships workDissect social encounters—both situations your child has been directly involved in and situations he has observed (including situations in books he has read or movies he has watched).Role-play different outcomes to the same situation. What could you do or say differently? How might that affect the way things turn out?Encourage your child to see the same situation from different perspectives. (Consider how different the view is if you sit on different sides of the same room.)

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FRIENDSHIP SKILLS

Help your child to understand that conflict in relationships is normal and relationships can be repaired.Talk about the reasons why conflict occurs (miscommunication, emotional outbursts, having different perspectives on the same situation)Talk about ways to go about repairing a relationship if a conflict has occurred.

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BULLYING

One in threeApproximately one in three Canadian children is bullied on a regular basis, putting them at risk of a variety of mental and physical health problems throughout childhood and beyond.

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BULLYING

Some children face an increased risk of being bullied. Children who show signs of depression, anxiety, or excessive aggression at the time they enter first grade are at risk of being chronically victimized by their classmates two years later.

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BULLYING

What parents and teachers can do to helpHelp children to work on any underlying areas of difficulty, so they won’t be as vulnerable to being bullied. Children who are rejected by their peers early on miss out on the opportunity to socialize with other children, causing them to fall behind their peers when it comes to understanding how relationships work.Help your child to be emotionally literate. Talk about how emotions work and how we can ensure that they work for, not against, us.

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BULLYING

What parents and teachers can do to helpEncourage pro-social behaviours amongst all children. Teach your child to ask for help in a way that strengthens relationships, minimizes conflict, and encourages the other person to want to help.Take your child’s concerns seriously and help her to come up with a plan for dealing with bullying.Help your child to develop strong relationships with you, his teacher, and a peer.

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BULLYING

Parenting strategies to support a child who is being bulliedAsk yourself, “What would make things better for my child right now?”Validate your child’s emotions.Be a source of calm in your child’s life.Encourage your child to treat himself with self-compassion.

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Additional Resources

Parenting Through the Storm (book and website): www.anndouglas.netPrevNet: http://www.prevnet.caRed Cross Canada: http://www.redcross.ca/how-we-help/violence--bullying-and-abuse-prevention/parents

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A special offer from Morneau Shepell’s Children’s Support Solutions

Save $40! Mention the promo code “BullyingWebinar” when you book an appointment with Children’s Support Solutions between now and December 31, 2015 and save $40 off the administration fee.

After the webinar, visit our websitewww.ChildrenSupportSolutions.comor call: 1.866.653.2397

QUESTIONS? Please #AskCSS!


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