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<ul><li><p>WhattoDoWhenaLovedOneDies</p><p>Prac calinforma onandassistancetogetyouthroughdifficultdaysand</p><p>difficultdecisions</p><p>CaptainJamesA.LovellFederalHealthCareCenter(FHCC)</p><p>CaptainJamesA.LovellFederalHealthCareCenter3001GreenBayRoadNorthChicago,IL60064</p></li><li><p>ThestaffattheCaptainJamesALovellFederalHealthCareCenterwishtoextendourdeepestsympathyforyourloss.Thedeathofsomeoneyouloveandcareaboutcanbeachallenging,confusing,lonelyandpainfulexperience.A erthedeathofalovedone,itmaybedifficulttomakedecisions.Unfortunately,thereareatremendousnumberofdecisionswhichmustbemade.Thisbookletcontainsinforma onthatmayguideyouintheo enoverwhelmingjobofdealingwiththeprac calaspectsthatfolloweverydeath.Weurgeyoutoaskforandaccepthelpasyoutrytocopewithyourloss.Wehopethisinforma onwilleaseyourburdenoverthenextfewdaysandweeks. </p><p>Griefhasnoformulaor melimit.Eachpersonhashis/herownwayofgrieving.</p></li><li><p>TAKINGCAREOFYOURSELFANDOTHERS</p><p>Somecommongriefresponsesincludeyearning,denial,anger,guilt,frustra on,overwhelmingsadness,numbnessand/ordepression.Itcanbeespeciallydifficultifthereareunresolvedissuesorconflicts.Youmaybeonarollercoasterofemo onsinthemonthsahead.Youmayexperienceperiodsoffeelingdespair,poorconcentra on,forge ulness,restlessness,anxietyorirritability.Youmayalsofeelquitenormalorevenrelieved.Grievingisnevercompletelyover,becauseourloveneverdies.Yourdailyrou nesmaychange.Deathandgriefdisruptsourlives.Generally,peoplelearntolivewithlossandresumetheirdailypa ernoflife.Childrenneedtogrieveaswell.Dependingonageandcircumstance,thechildorchildrencouldbeincludedinthememorialservices.Donotexpecttoomuchofyourself.Take meforyourselfandforthingsthatyoufindrelaxingorsoothing.Acceptthecomfortandsupportofothers.Forsome,comfortmaybefoundbywri ngale ertoyourlostlovedoneorbyvisi ngafavoriteplace.Bereavementsupportcanbefoundwithfamily,friends,clergyandlocalsupportgroups.TheFHCCoffersbereavementcounselingand/orreferraltoasupportgroupinyourcommunity.Forinforma oncontactourPallia veCareTeamat:2242266369.</p></li><li><p>CHECKLISTAFTERADEATH </p><p>1. Obtainbelongingsandvaluablesfromhospital.2. A endtocareneedsofchildren&amp;disabledspouses(are</p><p>caregiversneeded?)3. Contactpersonalclergy:____________________________4.Chooseamortuaryorcrematory: Name:__________________________________________ Address:________________________________________ ContactPerson:__________________________________ Phone:__________________________________________5. Afamilymemberorfriendmaybeofgreatassistancewith</p><p>allthedetails,butTheNextofKinorDurablePowerofA orneymustsigncertainpaperwork,suchastheReleaseofRemainsforthehospitalandthemortuary.</p><p>6. Funeralarrangements:Burial______Crema on______Pricesarevariable,dependantonservicesdesired. Cemeteryname:__________________________________ Address:_____________________________________________________________________________________ ContactPerson:________________Phone:____________ Date/TimeofWake:_______________________________ Date/TimeofFuneralorMemorialService: ________________________________________________ Date/TimeofBurial:_______________________________ MilitaryHonors(freeforallveterans)_________________ </p></li><li><p>7. Locatelifeinsurancepoliciestofindoutaboutdeathbenefitsthatcouldhelpyoupayforfuneralservices.8. LocateWillandTrustdocuments.9.ContactA orney(ifappropriate):Name:_____________________Phone:______________10.Makedecisionsaboutobituariesandpublicno ces.Somenewspapersofferfreeobituaries.Papers:__________________________________________________________________________________11.Cer fiedDeathCer ficatesmaybeneededfor:_____SocialSecurity _____VAclaims _____Insuranceclaims _____Bankaccounts _____DMV _____Loans _____Unions ThecountychargesafeeforaCer fiedDeathCer ficate</p><p>andcer ficatesmustbeorderedthroughthemortuary.12.AssembleOtherImportantPapers: _____Discharge/Separa onpapers(DD214) _____Cer fiedcopyofthedeathcer ficate _____Birthcer ficate,SocialSecuritycard _____Copyofmarriagecer ficate _____Birthcer ficatesofminorchildren _____Receipteditemizedfuneralbill </p></li><li><p> QUESTIONSTOASKTHEMORTUARY</p><p> Clarifythecostofbasicservicesandwhatisincluded. Whatareaddi onalcosts(casket,plot,urn,crema on,</p><p>sca eringofashes,transporta on,viewingbooklets,flowers,music,programs,etc).</p><p> Burials:whattypeofclothingtobringforthedeceased. Photographofpersonforclosedcasketorcrema on. Isjewelrytobewornorburiedwiththem? IfburialataVeteransCemeteryisdesired;isapplica on</p><p>completedatthemortuary?AcopyoftheVeteransdischargepaperisrequired.VeteranServiceOfficerscanassistifneededpapersaremissing(2177826641).</p><p> Confirmifmortuaryiscoordina ngthemilitaryhonors. </p><p> NOTES_________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________</p></li><li><p>Thefamilywillbeaskedbythemedicalstaffifanautopsyisdesired.</p><p>AUTOPSYINFORMATION</p><p>AidingthelivingbyunderstandingdeathYoumayhaveques onsaboutthecauseofdeathorillnessofyourlovedone.Onewaytounderstandwhathashappenedisbyperforminganautopsy.Anautopsycanbringclosureduringthisdifficult me.Itmayprovideinforma onaboutpreviouslyuniden fiedinfec onsorillnesses.Anautopsymaydetermineifthereareinheritedorgene cproblems,thusassis ngotherfamilymemberswithearlydiagnosisand melytreatment. Autopsiesincreasemedicalknowledgewhichcanhelpothers.Autopsiescanrevealthecausesandcourseofillnessesanddiseases.Anautopsymayrevealtheeffectsoftreatments.Evidenceofenvironmentalexposurescano enbefound.Whatislearnedthroughanautopsyononepa entmayhelpsavethelivesofotherswithsimilarcondi ons.Somepeoplemayworrythatanautopsymayconflictwithreligiousorculturalbeliefs.Familiesareencouragedtodiscussthiswithareligiousorspiritualadvisor.AttheFHCC,thereisnochargeforanautopsy.Anautopsyshouldnotdelaythefuneraloraffecttheviewing. </p></li><li><p> VABURIALandSURVIVORBENEFITS1. TheVAdoesnotcoverthemortuarycost,thecostof</p><p>crema onorthecostoftranspor ngtheremainstothecemetery.TheVAwillpayforburialinaVeteranscemeteryforaVeteranandtheirspouseiftheVeteranreceivedanhonorabledischargefrommilitaryservice.Burialincludesthegravesite,graveliner,openingandclosingthegrave,aheadstoneormarkerandperpetualcare.TheVAsNa onalCemeteryAdministra onSchedulingOfficecanbereachedat18005351117.</p><p>2. Aburialallowanceand/orintermentallowancemaybe</p><p>availabletoassistwiththemortuaryandburialexpensesifoneofthefollowingaremet: TheVeterandiedbecauseofaserviceconnected</p><p>disability(VAwillpayupto$2000). Veteranwasreceivingoren tledtoaVApensionor</p><p>compensa onatthe meofdeath(VAwillpayupto$700).</p><p> TheVeterandiedwhilehospitalizedinaVAhospital,</p><p>whilearesidentinaVAnursinghome,whilearesidentinaStateVeteransHome,orwhilereceivingcareinacommunitynursinghomeunderaVAcontract(VAwillpay$700)andcertaintransporta oncostsmaybereimbursed.</p><p> TheremaybeotherfactorsthatwillmakeaVeteran</p><p>eligiblefortheburialallowance.PleasecallthenearestStateVeteransServiceOffice.</p></li><li><p>3.AveterandiedbecauseofanonserviceconnecteddeathandwasnothospitalizedinaVAhospitalmaybeeligibleforupto$300towardsburialand$700towardsburialinanonna onalcemetery.</p><p>4.AmericanflagsareissuedbytheDecedentAffairsOfficer</p><p>orPostOfficetothefuneraldirectorforaVeteransburial.(Form212008isrequired)</p><p>5. AllVeteransgravesareen tledtobemarkedbya</p><p>governmentprovidedgravemarker.6. AspouseordependentofadeceasedVeteranmaybe</p><p>eligibletoreceiveapension.Todiscusstheeligibilitycriteria,pleaseaVeteransServiceofficer(informa ononpage11).</p><p>7. Aspouseordependentofadeceasedserviceconnected</p><p>VeteranmaybeeligibleforamonthlyDependencyandIndemnityCompensa oncheck.Todiscusstheeligibilitycriteria,pleasecallyournearestStateVeteransServiceOffice.</p></li><li><p>CONTACTINFORMATIONHospitaladdress: CaptainJamesALovell FederalHealthCareCenter 3001NorthGreenBayRoad NorthChicago,IL60064VARegionalOffice(forbenefitsinforma on): 8008271000Pallia veCareCoordinator:2242266369ChaplainService:2246103715SocialWork: PrimaryCareMainCampus:2246105402 PrimaryCareinMentalHealth:2246106665 EvanstonCBOC:2246106310 KenoshaCBOC:2246106215 McHenryCBOC:2246106113A erhoursAdministra veOfficerOnDuty: 2246103747DecedentAffairsOfficer:2246105512CaregiverSupportCoordinator:2246103472 </p></li><li><p>VeteransServiceOrganiza onRepresenta vesTheseVSOslocatedatLovellFHCCcanassistyouwithapplyingfordecedentbenefits:AMVETS Building133CA,Room1D113,2246104138DisabledAmericanVeterans(DAV) Building133CA,Room1D116,2246104142 Building135,Room145,2246102961 Building135,Room154(Ac veDutyonly),2246101460IllinoisDepartmentofVeteransAffairs Building135,Room156&amp;157,8476894798,8476894153LakeCountyVeteransAssistanceCommission Building133CA,Room1D112,8473773344MilitaryOrderofthePurpleHeart Building135,Room173,2246103147VeteransofForeignWar Building133CA,Room1D116,3129804284WisconsinServiceOfficers(notlocatedatFHCC):6082661315IndianaServiceOfficers(notlocatedatFHCC):3172323910</p><p>MilitaryDischargePapers(copiesiflost) Online:(quickestop onforresponse)www.archives.gov/veterans/militaryservice</p><p>records/ Phone:3148010800 Wri enRequest: Na onalPersonnelRecordsCenter 9700PageBlvd. St.Louis,MO631325200 A n:appropriatebranchofservice</p></li><li><p>Withmalicetowardnone,withcharityforall,withfirmnessintherightasGodgivesustoseetheright,letusstriveontofinishtheworkwearein,tobindupthena onswounds,tocareforhimwhoshallhavebornetheba leandforhiswidowandhisorphan,todoallwhichmayachieveandcherishajustandlas ngpeaceamongourselvesandwithallna ons</p><p>AbrahamLincoln</p><p>ApprovedbytheCaptainJamesA.LovellFederalHealthCareCenterJune2012</p></li></ul>