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Understanding and Supporting the
Anxious Child
Allan Donsky MD
FRCPC Psychiatry
FRCPC Pediatrics
Clinical Assistant Professor, Department of Psychiatry, University of Calgary
Adjunct Professor, Department of Child and Youth Studies, Mount Royal University
Mountain Park
November 21, 2013
Learning Objectives
• What is anxiety ?
• Can Anxiety be “normal” ?
• How does it arise ?
• What does Anxiety look like ?
• What can I do about it ?
Birth-6 Months Loud noise, loss of physical support, rapid position changes, rapidly moving objects
7-12 Months Strangers, looming objects, sudden unexpected objects or unfamiliar people
1-5 Years Strangers, storms, animals, dark, separation from parents, loud noise, toilet, monsters, ghosts, insects, bodily harm
6-12 Years Supernatural beings, bodily injury, disease, burglars, staying alone, failure, criticism, punishment
Common Age Related Fears
What do children have to worry about ?
School Related Fears
• Separation from home • Bus • Performance anxiety • Academics • Interacting with peers or teachers • Bullied • Eating in front of others • Using the bathroom • Changing for gym
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The most Challenging Decade in life
• Sex
• Money
• Future
• Identity
• Academics
• Independence
• Sexual Orientation
• Social Competence
General Principles
• Root word : Anxious, Anger, Anguish = Torment
• Anxiety can be a Symptom or a Disorder.
• Synonyms : apprehension, anguish, unease, concern, nervous, misgiving, qualm, disquiet, distress, dread , distraught, threatened, uneasiness, edgy, jittery, trepidation, timid, tense, uneasy, consternation,worry.
• Anxiety is apprehension, tension, or uneasiness from Anticipated danger.
• Anxiety has survival value
• Impairment or distress/suffering makes it a Disorder
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The Spectrum of Fear and Anxiety in Children
Typical,
developmentally
appropriate
Severe
anxiety
symptoms
How common are Mental Health Disorders ?
Disorder Estimated Prevalence %
Any Anxiety Disorder 6.4
ADHD 4.8
Conduct Disorder 4.2
Any Depressive Disorder 3.5
Substance abuse 0.8
PDD 0.3
OCD 0.2
Any Eating Disorder 0.1
Tourette Syndrome 0.1
Schizophrenia 0.1
Bipolar <0.1
Any Disorder 14.3
Waddell, Offord et al Can J Psychiatry 2002;47(9):825-832
What about temperament ?
Arousal
Behavioral Inhibition
J Am Acad Child Adolesc Psychiatry. 1993 Jul;32(4):814-21.
How does Anxiety arise ?
Genetics
Temperament Environment
Family
•Insecure Attachment
•Modeling
•Stress
Media
School
Social
Trauma
Anxiety +/- Disorder
Psychological
Splitters and Clumpers
Response to Anxiety
• Fright ( Experience)
• Freeze ( “ Deer in headlights” )
• Flight (Avoidance )
• Fight ( Argue, Fuss, Oppositional )
• Faint (injury)
What might Anxiety look like ?
Physiological
Cognitive
Experiential
Behavioral
Physiological
• Somatic symptoms
• Mild Panic
• Recognizable as fight or flight
• Breathing
• Heart rate
• Muscle tension
• Tummy aches
• Sleep, nightmares
• Tired
Cognitive
• Worry is a defining feature
• Attention
• Concern about adult matters
• Catastrophic thinking
• Rigid
• Hard time letting go
• Struggle to make choices
• Unable to see success
• Negative view of self and others
Experiential
• Dread
• Sensitive
• Hyper-vigilant
• Low self worth
• Low self esteem
Behavioral
• Fight
• Flight ( avoidance)
• Freeze
• Repetitive actions
• Nail biting, licking lips, pull hair, chew clothing, pacing
• Obsessions (repetitive thoughts) or compulsions.
• Need for reassurance, help seeking , overdependence
Why is Anxiety missed ?
• Awareness
• Internalizing
• Silence is seen as absence of problem
• Tend to normalize shyness
• Labeled as other things ( very unhelpful !! )
Labeled as other things
• Oppositional
• Defiant
• Manipulative
• Attention
seeking
• Demanding
• Confrontational
• Sneaky
• Pushes buttons
•Lazy
•Avoidant
•Selfish
•Aggravating
•Annoying
•Ignorant
•Rude
•Stubborn
The real question: “What is going on ?”
So what if there is Anxiety?
Academic
Attendance , Avoidance , Underachievement
Behavioral
Avoidance , oppositional
Cognitive
No risks, confidence, image
Developmental
Image, success, confidence,
Emotional
Stunted
Family
Power struggles, tired
Physical
Gym avoidance
Social
Loneliness, tobacco & alcohol use
Common Beliefs About Worries: All untrue
Worrying:
• Motivates me
• Helps find solutions to problems
• Prevents negative outcomes
• Protects me from negative emotions
• Is a positive personality trait …it means I care
Francis, K. & Dugas, M. J. (2004). Assessing positive beliefs about worry: Validation of a structured interview. Personality and Individual Differences, 37, 405-415.
Pedal , Steer and Brake
What can I do to help ?
• Treat own Anxieties
• Get Educated
• Stop
• Criticism
• Rescuing” – Makes it worse
• Dismissing their experience
• Reassuring the wrong way ( “ Don’t worry”)
• Start
• Reassuring the right way ( “ You can handle this “)
• Bravery = Support activities in spite of Anxiety
• Encourage facing new situations
Are Feelings Real ?
“My feelings are real but they don’t always tell me the truth”
Relationship is everything
• Establish trust
• People don’t care how much you know till they know how much you care
• Be authentic …let them see your weaknesses
• Stay calm….even if you do not know what to do !
• Act as a coach, not solver
• Recognize patterns so they can be:
• Explored
• Explained
• Expanded
• Have proactive conversations
• Use student’s ideas first and then yours
How much do I push ?
Stress
Perf
orm
ance
Breaking point
Rage Lose it Meltdown Freak out Over-react
Peak
Push Back off
Life is Simple, not easy
Moments
Feelings
Actions
Helpful
Unhelpful ( F words)
Avoidance
Relief
“Pop ups”
Anxiety
•Education •Relaxation •Emotional vocabulary
•Coaching •Reality check •Evidence •Realistic & Constructive •Worry Thermometer •Mastery & Pleasure •Internal praise •Modeling •Social engineering •Exposure •Experiments •Problem Solving
Thoughts
Perfectionism
Excellence and “ Good Enough”
• Perfectionism is unattainable = set up for failure = never feel good enough = give up or burn out trying
• Need to be real
• Effort is most important
• Honor roll is 80 %
• No such thing as a mistake
• what is worst thing that can happen ?
• Celebrate “Not knowing”
• “Own it ,fix it , Show some learning “
• Self worth is not tied to achievement
Balancing Act for Adults
Gentle
Firm limits
Refrain from Criticism
Exposure
Courage/Bravery
Treat Parental Anxiety
Unified &
Consistent
Goldilocks
Educational
• Learning Disabilities
• Attentional issues can be secondary
• School Modifications
• Teacher/ Resource and Admin support
• Time out/Quiet place
• Bullying
• Academic load
• Homework issues
• Tutoring.
• Attendance
But I don’t have time to do this ?
Definition of Insanity……… Until you stop doing what is not working there is no space to do something different
Online Resources
American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry. Aacap.org Anxiety Disorders Association of America adaa.org AnxietyBC™. Anxietybc.com Canadian Paediatric Society. caringforkids.cps.ca/behaviour/fears.htm Chansky, T. (2004). Freeing your child from anxiety: Powerful, practical solutions to
overcome your child’s fears, worries, and phobias. New York: Broadway Books. Cheng, M. (2006). Selective mutism: A guide for teachers.
www.drcheng.ca/resources/Articles/selective_mutism-for_school.doc Cheng, Mi. (2009). Overcoming anxiety: A guide for families.
www.drcheng.ca/resources/Articles/anxiety_info_for_families.doc Garland, E.J. & Clark, S.L. (2000). Taming worry dragons: A manual for children, parents,,
and other coaches. Vancouver, BC: Children’s and Women’s Health Centre of British Columbia.
“What to do when you worry too much; A kids guide to overcoming Anxiety” Dawn Huebner
Counselling Recommendations
When Dr. Donsky presented to our staff, he recommended the following people for counselling services:
• Julie Brock – 220, 7370 Sierra Morena Blvd. SW 403-686-8379
• Dan Drybrough – Learning Solution 102, 7370 Sierra Morena Blvd. SW 403-685-0880
• Julie Robinson – Bonavista Medical Clinic 739 Lake Bonavista Drive SE 403-278-2434
• Leona Doig - 403–540-8773
• Doug Murdoch - 403–440-8536
** Dan Drybrough and Julie Robinson have come with high recommendations from our parents.