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This is an essay on the stigma of mental health and how to deal with it using Erik Erikson's stages of development and the stages of marriage and traits of a good family, all of which are studied in the Grade 12 Ethics and Morality course.
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Shashati
Ruby Shashati
Mr. Hyponen
HRE4M1
Wednesday, December 16, 2015
How to Properly Deal With Mental Illness
According to The Oxford English Dictionary, stigma can be defined as a mark of
disgrace associated with a particular circumstance, quality, or person. Mental health has
been a large stigma for many years, and this is mostly because a lot of people don’t
know how to handle those who suffer from mental illness. This is understandable as
they are so different from what the world perceives to be normal that they seem almost
alien, therefore causing the world to shun them and cast them away. This is mostly a
result of how one was raised, and how well they were taught to cope with those who
are different. There are many philosophers over time that have written theories on how
to form a strong family or to have a good marriage, and this in turn will help those
families and couples cope with the stigma of mental illness, and assist their child(ren)
with whatever they may need should they have a form of mental illness. The main
stages of married life and traits of a strong family can be applied to Erik Erikson’s stages
of development. Erik Erikson is a renowned psychologist who discovered the eight
stages of development in a human’s life, and through using these stages and applying
them to a child’s life, one can better understand how to cope with mental illness.
As a couple begins their life together, they experience a lot of change in their
regular, daily routines. They must learn to cope with the other person’s different habits
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and “quirks.” However, because they are just starting out in their relationship, they
enter into this change in their lives with joy and openness, leading to the romantic stage
in their relationship. At this stage, they are completely besotted with each other and
have reached such a high level of intimacy that they place their partner’s needs and
wants before their own at all times. This ties in with the traits of spiritual wellness and
appreciation in a strong family. Since they are so in love and are just beginning their
journey together, they have more appreciation for each other and for what the other
can offer. They are also spiritually aware that there is a greater good; they may not
necessarily believe in a god or follow a certain religion but they understand that there is
a greater power at work (some might even believe that power brought them together)
and this in turn gives them purpose and strength. When applying these traits to Erik
Erikson’s stages of development, one can see that they would be more relevant to the
first stages of human life, especially since these traits are about beginnings. The first
three stages of development are the oral sensory stage, the muscular-anal stage and the
locomotor stage. In the oral sensory stage, a child must develop a loving trusting
relationship with the one who feeds him/her and a healthy dependence of others,
otherwise mistrust will form in the child and he/she will have trouble trusting people
later on in his/her life. This can be an issue if the child has a mental illness as the illness
itself would have enough of an effect on the child’s life, and if the parents do not take
the initiative to help the child develop a healthy trust of others, it could seriously affect
both the parent’s and the child’s life later on. In the muscular-anal stage, the child goes
through toilet training, and must learn to have control rather than develop feelings of
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shame and doubt about his/her abilities. If the child’s independence is not properly
shaped at this stage, it could affect their future life and their future decisions. This stage
is especially important if the child has a mental illness, as they may find it difficult to
gain control over their bladder and their abilities. Not to mention, most people seem to
think that those who suffer from mental illness have trouble with potty training, and
while this may be true for some cases, it’s not true for all. In assuming that a child with
mental illness cannot control his/her bladder, one would undermine the child’s
confidence, therefore affecting their independence, as they would feel as if they
constantly need help in this department. The locomotor stage is one of the most
important stages in a child’s life. It is where they fight with initiative and guilt, about
whether they should take the initiative and do something or if they should worry and
feel guilty about doing it. If their independence is not properly developed, they will feel
guilty about doing something and soon enough they will live in guilt over everything
they choose to do because they have no confidence in themselves or their abilities.
Tying this back to the muscular-anal stage, if a child with mental illness has no
confidence in their abilities they will start to feel guilty over their actions, because they
will always feel like they did something wrong. If the parents of the child do not know
how to properly deal with this and turn this around, the child will only get worse and
worse.
Once a couple gets past their romantic stage, they pass through a power
struggle, where one partner may feel the other is not pulling his/her weight and the
expectations they had for their relationship and their partner are starting to crop up.
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This results in fights and arguments, not always catastrophic but can still seriously affect
their marriage. If they handle this stage with respect and good negotiating skills then
they can get through it and pass on to the next stage, which is stability. When couples
reach this stage they ask themselves what they are bringing into the relationship, and if
they manage to get past the power struggle, they usually rekindle their love. The
challenge they face in this stage is to keep some spontaneity in their lives and not allow
themselves to fall into a routine. The most important family traits to keep in mind here
are coping ability and communication. The couple must be able to cope with the stress
of their work and social lives and their children’s lives as well as their own personal lives
together and to do so they must communicate with each other and make sure they both
have an understanding of each other’s strengths and weaknesses. These stages can be
applied most to the three stages of childhood, adolescence and young adulthood, as
those are one of the toughest times in a child’s life. In the latency stage, the child is
discovering how things work and what they can do to make things happen. They fight
with feelings of inferiority versus industry and can only resolve the issue when they are
able to handle the demands of school; otherwise they develop a sense of inferiority,
failure and incompetence. If the child has a mental illness, this feeling will be intensified
as almost all mental illnesses can stop a child from fully completing something school
related and it is the parent's’ job to insure that the child is able to properly handle
demands given him/her in order to prevent the feeling of inferiority. Once the child
enters adolescence, they fight with their identity and role confusion. If their identity is
undermined or put in a mold, it will have serious repercussions on them later in the
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future. One mistake most parents make with any teenager is trying to mold into the
person they want them to be, without allowing to choose who that person should be. In
the case of a child with mental illness, the parent might try to mold into the ideal
teenager they think they should be, but this will continue to undermine their confidence
and make them feel inferior. Finally they enter into the stage of young adulthood,
where they fight with intimacy and isolation. If they do not develop an intimate
relationship, they will suffer from isolation, which can lead to depression. Depression
can be considered a form of mental illness, and in order for the parents to prevent it;
they must assist their child in finding intimacy. They must teach the child how to find
intimacy and how to deal with relationships, especially if they start to fluctuate. Parents
must teach a child how to handle the power struggle in their own relationship.
The final stages in a marriage are recommitment, fruitfulness, and finally growing
old together. In recommitment, a couple will simply recommit themselves to each
other, if they have successfully managed to keep some spontaneity in their lives. Once
they go into fruitfulness, they begin to do more things together, and have more
appreciation for each other. This helps them when they’re growing old together; as they
take all those memories and moments they shared and use it to continue strengthening
their relationship. These stages require time and commitment. A couple must be able to
put time into their relationship together and be committed to make it last. These stages
relate best to Erikson’s stages of adulthood and maturity. During adulthood, one must
fight with generativity and stagnation, meaning one must find a way to satisfy the next
generation or suffer a less meaningful life. In other words, this is the stage where the
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now grown up child decides to procreate. If the parents did a good job of teaching the
child how to find intimacy, then procreation would naturally be the following step. Some
people cannot procreate because of certain bodily issue, and if the child has a mental
illness and cannot procreate, the parents must be able to help them deal with this issue
and understand that it is a normal issue that a lot of different types of people face.
Parents must have time and commitment in order to help their child, and in turn, the
now grown child must have time and commitment with their own children as well as
their partner. Finally the child will pass into the last stage of development, maturity,
where they must reflect on and accept their life. If they cannot resolve the issue of ego
integrity versus despair they will go into despair, which will be fed by sorrow and doubt.
In this stage, they can pass on the lessons learned in their lives to their children and
grandchildren and then start the cycle all over again, where they help their children
grow and teach them to deal with certain issues in their lives.
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