The 10

Commandmentsfor Living Well

Erin Beth Dooley

This booklet is for you if;

1. You want to have peace and joy in your life2. You want less stress wearing at you every day3. You are willing to risk trying something different4. You would like the course of your life to be directed by love, not fear5. You are willing to read this with an open heart and an open mind

Life, for generations, has been widely seen as something to be suffered through. A continuing torment with brief moments of pleasure that are supposed to make it all worthwhile. But life was never meant to be cruel, or tough, or full of trials and tribulations. It is meant to be a continuous series of experiences, all directing us towards the fulfillment of our lifeʼs purpose. And the secret is, our lifeʼs purpose is to learn whatever it is we happen to learn on our journey through life. There is no greater mystery. Itʼs that simple.

Introduction

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1. Exercise your power of choice consciously

The power to choose is the only real power we have in this world. It is free will. It is how we forge our own unique path in life and shape it into something uniquely ours. It is a power no one can take away from us and we canʼt take it away from someone else; however, we all have the ability to give up that power (but even that is a choice!)

Most of the choices we find ourselves making in the run of a day are automatic. Though they would have been at one time conscious, they have become so routine, they have slipped to the unconscious or sub-conscious level. For example, many of our daily activities fall into this category; brushing our teeth, taking a shower, making a cup of tea or coffee, driving to work, etc. Itʼs not just what we do, but many of the things we say are unconscious, automatic responses, such as, “Hey, how are ya?” “Fine. How are you?” This usually falls out of peopleʼs mouth as they are breezing past each other in the hallway at work without either person stopping to consider the question or their responses.

These are what we call ʻhabitsʼ. They are simple devices we have developed over time in order to speed up, simplify(?), and streamline life. It seems that somewhere along the way we decided that life is a process we are meant to get through in a hurry and, for the most part, unconsciously. When was the last time, while brushing your teeth, you ONLY paid attention to brushing your teeth? You werenʼt doing or thinking about five other things.

Now, you may wonder why it would be important to pay that much attention to brushing your teeth or any other menial task. But, it is important. The more time you spend paying attention to what you are doing in the present moment, the more you quiet the voices in your head. These voices only know how to talk about the past and the future. When you are in the present moment, there is no chatter in your mind because all of you attention is on the moment, and you become more conscious.

Consciousness is the ultimate goal. Consciousness means being fully present and aware in the moment of yourself, your environment, and others around you. With consciousness comes the ability to choose consciously, which is our divine gift. Conscious = Free, Choice = Will.

I mentioned before our routine and more mundane habits; but not all of our habits are benign, many are destructive and unhealthy for ourselves and others. Theyʼre just plain not working for us. These may be chemical habits like smoking, drinking, over-eating, or drugs. They may be behavioural habits like rudeness, aggressiveness, infidelity, or anger. All of these things degrade our physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual beings through the lack of respect and compassion they show, not only to others and our environment, but to ourselves. When we disrespect others and the world around us, that does more damage to us than it does to anything outside us.

Becoming conscious forces you to see, acknowledge, accept (eventually) with compassion and love for yourself and gives you an opportunity to CHOOSE differently next time. This is

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just the beginning of a new life. No one said spiritual growth was easy, but it is necessary if you want anything to change and to have true knowledge of happiness and love in this life.

Every moment is a new opportunity to make a new choice. And you can know, there is no judgement for the past. The only thing keeping those memories alive is you. Thatʼs another choice you can make; to not let your past dictate your present. This if the first commandment and it is the starting point. The rest follow from it and support it, and you, in living well.

Notes:

Brain: a computer used for analysis and processing information received through the five senses.

Mind/Collective Consciousness: your connection to the culmination of all human knowledge to date. The reason two people on opposite sides of the world may invent the same thing at the same time.

Ego/Monkey-Mind: A survival mechanism created by fear and no longer necessary for human survival. It feeds on fear and fear-based emotions, therefore, it feeds the thoughts you have that help create and sustain those emotions.

Consciousness/Soul/Higher Self: the eternal part of a person; what animates the physical form and is continuously connected to Source/God/Universe; a personʼs life force, energy, chi.

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Upon Self-Realization, you will burst into laughter. You will be amazed by how simple

and different it is from what you have thought it is.

First Commandment

2. Understand your fear to allow your love

Fear and Love are the two most powerful energies that influence our lives. And we need to think of them beyond just the emotions those words have come to represent and however it is we think they feel.

If we made a list of all the words we have for emotions, we could put them on a table under two headings; Fear and Love. Any emotion that causes suffering, keeps you stuck in old patterns, affects your conscious decision-making, and causes you or anyone else any harm is an emotion driven by Fear. And sometimes we can get confused and believe we are making decisions based on love, when, in reality, they are Fear-based. Staying in an abusive relationship because you love the person, is not based on Love; we can see that in the fact that someone is being harmed.

Fear is a powerful vibration on this planet. Can you see how war, prejudice, violence, racism, intolerance, bullying and disease are all driven by fear? Even movements against these things are misguided, since they use fear-based motivations and focus on the thing they are against, instead of on the thing they are for. Like Mother Teresa once said, “I was once asked why I don't participate in anti-war demonstrations. I said that I will never do that, but as soon as you have a pro-peace rally, I'll be there.”

So the key is to understand when you are being driven by Fear. And it is not just a matter of choosing Love. You will always come back to that Fear-based decision or pattern if you donʼt look at what it is you fear and shine the light of understanding on it.

Thatʼs the big mystery; look at your fear - directly, stare it right in the eye and acknowledge it. Doing that is the hardest part of moving past your fear. The reason it is so difficult is because doing so often means revealing our vulnerabilities and supposed weaknesses. It is like stripping ourselves naked and exposing ourselves to the elements with no protection. Thatʼs the perception.

In reality, while it does take faith and a willingness to risk, looking directly at our fears and looking at them in the light of day exposes the Truth of what we fear: that 99% of it is imagined. Our minds are such remarkable things that they are able to create images so real that they become our perceived reality. Shifting focus to expose the reality of our fears essentially releases any power they had over us and that is the only wall standing in the way of allowing more love, peace, and joy into our lives.

Love is our natural state; the energy of our souls and the universe. The only way to be in this state is to release what blocks you from being it - Fear.

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LOVE IS UNCONDITIONAL (fear is conditional)

LOVE IS STRONG (fear is weak)

LOVE RELEASES (fear obligates)

LOVE SURRENDERS (fear binds)

LOVE IS HONEST (fear is deceitful)

LOVE TRUSTS (fear suspects)

LOVE ALLOWS (fear dictates)

LOVE GIVES (fear resists)

LOVE FORGIVES (fear blames)

LOVE IS COMPASSIONATE (fear pities)

LOVE CHOOSES (fear avoids)

LOVE IS KIND (fear is angry)

LOVE IGNITES (fear incites)

LOVE EMBRACES (fear repudiates)

LOVE CREATES (fear negates)

LOVE HEALS (fear hurts)

Love Versus Fear

LOVE IS MAGIC (fear is superstitious)

LOVE ENERGIZES (fear saps)

LOVE IS AN ELIXIR (fear is a poison)

LOVE INSPIRES (fear worries)

LOVE DESIRES (fear Joneses)

LOVE IS PATIENT (fear is nervous)

LOVE IS BRAVE (fear is afraid)

LOVE IS RELAXED (fear is pressured)

LOVE IS BLIND (fear is judgmental)

LOVE RESPECTS (fear disregards)

LOVE ACCEPTS (fear rejects)

LOVE DREAMS (fear schemes)

LOVE WANTS TO PLAY (fear needs to control)

LOVE ENJOYS (fear suffers)

LOVE FREES (fear imprisons)

LOVE BELIEVES (fear deceives)

LOVE “WANTS” (fear “needs”)

LOVE versus fear: what do you feel?

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Love Versus Fear

3. Ditch your expectations

Expectation is a sure path to disappointment. When you find yourself disappointed ask yourself, “What expectations of mine werenʼt met in this circumstance?” Somehow, we grow up in this world of constant change and unexpected life twists and turns expecting our expectations to be met; people, governments, the world, and life should all remain consistent and be just how we expect them to be. The problem with that assumption is that change is constant and we have no control over anything outside of ourselves. Iʼll repeat that because itʼs very important. We have NO CONTROL OF ANYTHING OUTSIDE OF OURSELVES. Do you find that frightening? Good if you do and good if you donʼt. Either way means you recognize the truth in that statement.

Since we have no control over things/people outside us, it is reckless to have expectations around their behaviour or state of being. Itʼs reckless because you are being careless with your own emotional well-being in doing so. Expecting other people to be a certain way or do a certain thing means that you will inevitably be disappointed. It is also ungenerous to those other people to hold them to your expectations at any point in their lives. They are human; a part of this universe. And just as everything in the universe is constantly moving and changing, so, too, are people. So, too, are you.

Releasing your expectations not only pertains to others, it also includes the expectations you hold for yourself. Everyone, including you, are always only doing the best they can with what they have. And as we grow, have new experiences, develop the ability to learn from those experiences and those of others, we will improve our ability to make choices (both large and small) that will support the life we want to live and the person we want to be. By extension, those around us benefit greatly and are more supported in their own efforts to make the right choices for themselves. Letting go of your delusions of external control frees you, and those around you, from the tyranny of expectations.

~“I’m not in this world to live up to your expectations and you’re not in this world to

live up to mine.” ―  Bruce Lee

Third Commandment

4. Never take anything personally

Taking things personally means taking any external (outside ourselves) event and interpreting it in a way that assumes it occurred in a reaction to something about us personally. In other words, we make everything about us; everything someone says is a comment on or reflection of how they feel about us, every action is the same. Sometimes we can also take things personally, even if they came from strangers or are related to a circumstance and not an individual, like a traffic jam. Remarkably, we even have the ability to take on otherʼs problems and circumstances and suffer by proxy; like when we worry and fret over a friendʼs situation or become enthralled with world tragedies like 9/11 or Hurricane Katrina and spend a lot of time watching CNN.

Why do we do this? It is all about our egos. When we are not conscious our ego is in control. And all our ego wants is for us to suffer and experience drama. Your ego is that voice in your head that only replays the past or worries about the future. It is the voice that tells you, “That store clerk was deliberately being rude to you!” It creates all the drama in your life by convincing you to take everything personally.

Just as expectations breed disappointment, taking things personally breeds drama and the long, drawn out string of conflict that follows. So how can you not take things personally? Well, it begins with the realization that nothing is ever personal- NOTHING. NOTHING - EVER. Believe it. Even if someone came up to you and told you that what they were saying or doing to you is totally personal, itʼs not. Not ever. Everyoneʼs behaviours, yours included, are their own responsibility and have everything to do with their own state of being at that moment in time and nothing to do with you.

Now think about that...if nothing anyone ever says or does to you is about you, then why should it affect you? Why should you react to it? There may be many times when what someone is doing or saying reflects something about you that may be worth considering. If you decide you donʼt like to bathe and stop doing so, you may eventually have to accept the consequence of that behaviour and spend a lot of time alone. So itʼs important to remain self-aware, but that doesnʼt mean reacting to all of the things going on around you as if they are personal to you.

Ask yourself this question; when youʼre feeling grumpy and arenʼt necessarily the most pleasant to be around, is your treatment of others in that circumstance really because of some way they are, something theyʼve said or done? Is it possible that if you werenʼt grumpy you may have reacted differently or not at all? If that is true for you, it may also be true for others.

By not taking things personally you gain so much of your personal power and freedom back. You no longer have to react to everything going on around you. It simply becomes “what is”. The traffic is what it is; that personʼs mood is what it is; my childʼs reaction to my decision is what it is; this cold I have is what it is.

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All you can work with (and get anywhere) is reality. When you are taking things personally, you are working with a made up scenario and there are a lot of assumptions being made. By reacting to that, the choice you make that determines your behaviour may be based on a fiction. Your reality is how you feel. If how you feel is good, then nothing outside you can change that unless you allow it to. It is like walking around being the calm at the centre of the storm; peace within you, compassion for others expressed through you.

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Personal importance, or taking things personally, is the maximum expression of selfishness because we make the assumption

that everything is about "me."- Don Miguel Ruiz, The Four Agreements

Fourth Commandment

5. Have faith in something

This may sound like a pretty broad statement. You might think, “Surely it matters what I have faith in?” But I donʼt believe so. What is truly important is the act of faith itself. And by faith I mean a belief in someone or something that is not based on proof. If you are basically a good person, as demonstrated by your choices and actions, then I have no concern for what it is you choose to put your faith in; whether it be religious, spiritual, material, embodied in a person, a concept, a place, or an object...it makes no difference. I believe in absolute freedom of faith.

The act of putting your faith in something is a release and a grounding rod all at the same time. In order to do it, you have to step outside yourself (even if itʼs yourself youʼve put your faith in) and hand over your trust to something outside of your control. It also provides you with a stronghold, a place of retreat when times are tough.

The paradox is that the object of our faith requires risk for safety. The risk is the “leap of faith”, so to speak. It is what is required of us in order to have the comfort of that faith. Once our trust is given over, we have anchored ourselves to that faith. Again, it is the act of having faith to which we are anchored, not the object itself. The object of our faith may very well change over time. (In fact, thatʼs almost guaranteed to happen at least once.) And thatʼs okay! We change, as does everything around us, constantly. So why should the object of our faith or our perspective on it be excluded from this? Itʼs not and itʼs impossible for it to be otherwise.

The purpose of having faith is as dualistic as the nature of the faith itself. In having faith we are both free to risk and solidly anchored enough to make choices. And this is not about making so called “right” or “wrong” choices - itʼs about making choices, period.

Itʼs very easy to get caught up in a stagnant cesspool of indecision. It can keep you stuck for years. Having faith allows you to go ahead and make decisions and risk the consequences, despite any fear you may have. The other great thing about faith is that itʼs like a muscle; it grows stronger the more you use it.

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As your faith is strengthened you will find that there is no longer the need to have a sense of control, that things will flow as they will, and

that you will flow with them, to your great delight and benefit. - Emmanuel Teney

Fifth Commandment

6. Follow your bliss

This is a famous philosophy touted by mythologist Joseph Campbell in his writings and lectures. With this simple phrase (his interpretation of a phrase in Sanskrit), he points the way to “finding yourself”.

Doing that which makes you beyond happy, creates a state of rapture, is a process of discovering Life; more specifically, your life. A carpenter who discovers the meaning of his life through the process of building houses; a chef who discovers the meaning of her life through food; a foster parent who discovers the meaning of his life through compassion: all of these are ways to look at what you are doing in life as a means to understanding your life.

It does not exclusively mean career. Your career does not define you, make you who you are, or give your life meaning. Your career is a function you perform in this life. More importantly is HOW you perform your chosen occupation. This is what I call your “vocation” or “calling”. Are you an Artist, a Healer, a Teacher, a Leader, a Caretaker....what archetypal traits do you apply to whatever it is you do? What brings you your bliss?

Campbell believed that following his bliss would reveal to him his consciousness and his being. I have to augment that slightly and say that in order to follow your bliss with balance and joy, consciousness must be present. Then, following your bliss can reveal your being...who you truly are and why you are truly here.

Without consciousness all roads lead to destruction. It is possible to give yourself over completely to these archetypal traits and leave no room for YOU. Can you be a true Healer without healing yourself? Can you be a true Teacher without learning? Can you be a true Artist without appreciating all of Life? Can you be a true Leader without learning how to follow? Can you be a true Caretaker without taking care of yourself?

Follow your bliss means to actively participate in your true passion, consciously, with full awareness of yourself, others and your environment, respecting Life and finding in it your Self.

~If you follow your bliss, you put yourself on a kind of track that has been there all the while, waiting for you, and the life that you ought to be living is the one you are living. Wherever you are—if

you are following your bliss, you are enjoying that refreshment, that life within you, all the time.

- Joseph Campbell

Sixth Commandment

7. Enjoy each moment

Look at the word “enjoy”; it comes from the Middle English “enjoyen”, which means “to make joyful”. TO MAKE JOYFUL, not “to derive joy from”. When we enjoy something, we are making that experience joyful; the experience itself is not inherently so. We choose joy. We can choose joy for any experience in any moment. Brushing my teeth and making a cup of tea are joyful experiences to me. (“Easy”, you might say.) Being stuck in traffic and paying bills are joyful experiences for me. (“Okaaaay...”, youʼre saying now.) Being sick or taking care of my sick child are joyful experiences for me. (“Sheʼs off her nut.”)

Joy, like everything else, is a choice. Misery can be found everywhere, if you choose, so why not joy? Everything you experience in life is just that - an experience. All temporary, always changing. And you can enjoy (make joyful) all of them.

Now, there are always the questions about very difficult and painful experiences such as abuse, war, and those who suffer violence of any kind. It is in these examples where we learn the true source of joy. The source of joy is truly within us and no external event can touch it. If this were not so, anyone who experienced something horrific would never be able to experience joy again...and yet we know they can. People throughout history have had the ability to walk away from the most terrible circumstances and experiences and have found peace, forgiveness, and even joy. How did they do this? They chose it; plain and simple. Nothing is more powerful than your ability to choose.

So letʼs now look at the other aspect of this commandment, “each moment”. The idea of being “in the moment” is not new, but there are fundamentals that are important to understand for living well. Living in the moment does not mean you forget the past or ignore the future. In itʼs purest form, it simply has the effect of stopping all the noise and chatter in your head and releasing you from depression and anxiety. Simple, right? Well, letʼs look at how that happens.

Depression is caused by a focus on past events. We relive them in our heads over and over again in a vain attempt to have the outcome be something other than what it was. This is insanity. The past can never be changed. Anxiety is caused by fear of an unknown future. This is also insanity, since the future has and never will happen. The only time and place that is real is the present moment - now. The past is important: it is our greatest teacher. All of our past experiences give us a wealth of knowledge from which to draw when faced with new challenges in the present. We wonʼt forget the past, but rather than simply relive past events in our memories, letʼs choose to learn from them to inform the choices we make in the present.

Our concept of a future serves a different, but related purpose. When we perceive a future we understand that the choices we make in the present have consequences. It makes us considerate. So, fear and anxiety are created when we fixate on imagining a future that will

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never happen. However, if we use the past to learn and our ability to anticipate future consequences, it can inform our choices in the present moment. And there is nothing like making a decision and acting on it to alleviate anxiety and free you from depression.

Enjoy each moment. Give your attention and energy to the present moment and infuse it with joy. The smallest effort in this regard will make significant strides towards living well.

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Rejoice in the things that are present; all else is beyond thee. -Montaigne

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If you have one eye on yesterday, and one eye on tomorrow, you're going to be cockeyed today.

-Anonymous

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We are here and it is now. Further than that all human knowledge is moonshine.

-H. L. Mencken

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The ability to be in the present moment is a major component of mental wellness.

-Abraham Maslow

Seventh Commandment

8. To thine own self be true

We believe sometimes that it is noble to place othersʼ needs and concerns before our own. It can be easy to get caught up in the idea of being a martyr, a hero, a rescuer. And donʼt kid yourself to think that selflessness has anything to do with it. It is a misguided notion to see this type of behaviour as noble. Discernment is needed to choose, on a case-by-case basis when it is appropriate to put our needs and concerns aside for those of others and when it is more appropriate to hold to our own needs.

And it it not just about respecting yourself and your own needs, but it is also disempowering for others to always be saved. You are robbing them of the chance to grow, learn, and do for themselves. And that is certainly not respectful of that other person and their journey in this life.

We are raised and conditioned to believe that we have to respect others, be polite, compassionate, caring, helpful, even dutiful. And all of those things are excellent qualities in a person. However, they can become very dysfunctional qualities if they are not balanced by a healthy sense of self-respect, assertiveness, confidence, and self-care. It is important to know when to say “no”. It is important to know how to take care of yourself...and not just when youʼve reached a crisis or full burnout. That is NOT the time to say, “okay, now I have to focus on me”. The pendulum is pretty far swung to one side by the time you are there, and will likely swing pretty far the other way in order to restore you to some former state.

A balanced, healthy person leads a balanced, healthy life. Breaking that down is pretty simple; balance is finding equilibrium, having neither too much, nor too little of anything; and health is about making choices that support vitality of body, mind and spirit. It is also important to remember that what is balanced for you, may not be balanced for someone else. Each person has a unique level at which they are balanced and healthy.

To find your balance, it is most important to learn to trust your inner guidance, your intuition. Pay attention to how you feel, physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually; and make changes and adjustments to help you discover what helps you feel most balanced in all of these areas. Remember that you have no control over others and their choices, so focus on what you can do for yourself. Simply live your healthiest and best life and perhaps others may look to you for example. And if they donʼt...thatʼs okay!

~No matter who says what, you should accept it with a smile

and do your own work. - Mother Teresa

Eighth Commandment

9. Do unto others as you would have them do unto you

Now, most of us are familiar with the Golden Rule, and thereʼs a reason why itʼs commonly known and has been offered as a fundamental rule to live by for centuries by people like Buddha and Jesus Christ. It is not only the Golden Rule, but could also be called the Golden Key. It is the key to understanding our connection to everything and everyone on the planet.

But why should we do unto others as we would have them do unto us? Well, the simple answer can be found in another idiom, “what goes around comes around”; or, if you prefer, “you reap what you sow”.

So, everything in the universe is energy. In fact, the universe itself is energy, not just the things in it. And there is no separation or gap in this energy, though there are denser forms and less dense forms. We perceive these as physical form and space, and everything in between, but it is all varying manifestations of energy.

Since this is the case, like water in a pond, a ripple in one part will have an effect on the rest. On the level we exist, we arenʼt going to perceive the effects of every single ripple of energy, though they do effect us. Then there are things we can perceive like the emotional or physical pain of someone we care about, a devastating natural disaster in another part of the world (made more potent by our media system), or the love we receive from our parents, children or pets.

So when it comes to the Golden Rule, there are two connected reasons why it is so important: any action (including our thoughts and feelings) towards others will be felt by them and by the whole universe; and this includes us. We are not separate from the world and our actions have the largest effect on us, since we are at the epicenter of their origin. The energy of our actions is diluted even when they reach the person or object at which they are directed; but there is no dilution at the source, which is us.

So when you think, feel or speak ill or falsely of someone, you degrade yourself more than you degrade them. And when you show love, compassion and support to others, you are in fact giving that energy to yourself at the same time, when it is coming from a truly selfless place (i.e., no expectations). Every moment of every day is an opportunity to choose our behaviours, change our thoughts, shape our perspectives and acknowledge our feelings. Working within the principle of the Golden Rule keeps things very simple and clear when it comes to an easy to remember code of conduct for every action we choose.

~Practicing the Golden Rule is not a sacrifice; it is an

investment.

Ninth Commandment

10. Forgive

This is the last commandment, but I believe it is the most difficult to live fully and the most beneficial when realized.

Forgiving does not go hand in hand with forgetting. It is truly a process of letting go. You let go of something and it ceases to have power over you. Remember in the first commandment when I said that the only way someone or something can take away your power is for you to give it away? Well, this is how you get it back.

When you hold on to things from the past, whether distant or near, whether petty or a true injustice, you give all your power over to the people or circumstances. You give over thoughts, feelings, words, time, perhaps even money and other resources to holding onto and suffering over events you have NO POWER TO CHANGE.

What prevents us from being able to forgive? Well, fear. Somehow we have created this fiction that if we forgive, they have somehow won and we have lost. And over time, it simply becomes a matter of habit, it is some familiar part of our lives that we donʼt want to let go of. It excuses some behaviour of ours, it allows us to remain in the comfortable role of victim, or it feeds our need to be angry and resentful at the world, or it allows us to not have to take a hard look at ourselves and our personal accountability.

Forgiveness is not easy. It is a process that usually plays out in three parts; forgiveness of others, forgiveness of yourself and forgiveness of Life. They donʼt have to happen in that order. Whichever comes most naturally for you in that particular circumstance. It typically happens when, as a conscious observer, you are able to look upon any circumstance as if you are simply a witness and not a participant. To view it with some objectivity, with compassion, for all the players involved. It also helps if you can derive learning and grow from the experience (or acknowledge how you have grown from it).

It may require time and distance. It requires humility, faith, honesty, compassion and integrity. But only from you. No one else need participate in this process for you to achieve forgiveness and let go. It helps enormously if you can hold (wholeheartedly) to the belief that everyone is always doing the best they can with what they have and where they are at. If you are working on forgiveness, make this your mantra.

Forgiveness will set you free.~

How does one know if she has forgiven? You tend to feel sorrow over the circumstance instead of rage, you tend to feel sorry for the person rather than angry with him. You tend to have nothing left to

say about it all. - Clarissa Pinkola Estes

Tenth Commandment

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1. Exercise your power of choice consciously

2. Understand your fear to allow your love

3. Ditch your expectations

4. Never take anything personally

5. Have faith in something

6. Follow your bliss

7. Enjoy each moment

8. To thine own self be true

9. Do unto others as you would have them do unto you

10. Forgive

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The Ten Commandments for Living Well