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Slides presented by Slides presented by
Keith RasmussenKeith Rasmussen
At the MMCC Parenting Workshop ‘07At the MMCC Parenting Workshop ‘07
Mar 1: teensMar 1: teens
Mar 2: kids 6-12Mar 2: kids 6-12
Mar 3: kids 0-5Mar 3: kids 0-5
"Take to heart all the words I "Take to heart all the words I have solemnly declared to you have solemnly declared to you this day, so that you may this day, so that you may
command your children to obey command your children to obey carefully all the words of this carefully all the words of this law. They are not just idle law. They are not just idle words for you — they are your words for you — they are your life.”life.”
Deut 32:46-47Deut 32:46-47
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My Credentials
Scripture Quiz !
where does it say:where does it say:
“…“…Hi, I’m Jesus, son of Hi, I’m Jesus, son of Joseph and Mary….”Joseph and Mary….”
Scripture Quiz !
Unless the LORD builds Unless the LORD builds the house,the house,
its builders labor in vain its builders labor in vain
Scripture Quiz !
Unless the LORD builds Unless the LORD builds the house,the house,
its builders labor in vain its builders labor in vain
Ps 127:1Ps 127:1
Principle # 1Presenting The Father
8 Philip said, "Lord, show us the Father and that will be 8 Philip said, "Lord, show us the Father and that will be enough for us." enough for us."
Jesus answered: "Don't you know me, Philip, even Jesus answered: "Don't you know me, Philip, even after I have been among you such a long time? after I have been among you such a long time? Anyone who has seen me has seen the Father. Anyone who has seen me has seen the Father. How can you say, 'Show us the Father'? Don't How can you say, 'Show us the Father'? Don't you believe that I am in the Father, and that the you believe that I am in the Father, and that the Father is in me? The words I say to you are not Father is in me? The words I say to you are not just my own. Rather, it is the Father, living in me, just my own. Rather, it is the Father, living in me, who is doing his work.who is doing his work.
John 14:8-10John 14:8-10
Presenting the Father
Children do not know what Children do not know what to believeto believe
Only Only WhoWho to to believebelieve
Presenting the Father
Children do not know what to Children do not know what to believebelieve
Only Who to believeOnly Who to believe
Ex. Dead lizardsEx. Dead lizards
Presenting the Father
Communicate that they Communicate that they are special to God, His are special to God, His children, and His delightchildren, and His delight
Presenting the Father
Trust is automaticTrust is automatic
Don’t disappoint themDon’t disappoint them
Presenting the Father
Simply let your 'Yes ' be 'Yes,Simply let your 'Yes ' be 'Yes,
and your 'No,and your 'No,
'No';'No';
anything beyond thisanything beyond this comes from comes from the evil one. the evil one.
Matt 5:37 Matt 5:37
Be Proactive
He leads me beside still, restful waters..He leads me beside still, restful waters..Ps 23Ps 23
For I have chosen him, so that he will For I have chosen him, so that he will direct his children and his household direct his children and his household after him to keep the way of the LORD after him to keep the way of the LORD by doing what is right and just, so that by doing what is right and just, so that the LORD will bring about for Abraham the LORD will bring about for Abraham what he has promised him." what he has promised him."
Gen 18:19Gen 18:19
Be Proactive
Your responsibility before the LORDYour responsibility before the LORD
Is to bring up your children in His waysIs to bring up your children in His ways
Think ahead of themThink ahead of them What lesson do they need to What lesson do they need to
learn?learn? How can you get it across?How can you get it across?
Be ProactivePracticals
From age 0 to as long as they will From age 0 to as long as they will let youlet you
Be ProactivePracticals
From age 0 to as long as they will From age 0 to as long as they will let youlet you Sing lullabies on God’s love for Sing lullabies on God’s love for
themthem
Be ProactivePracticals
From age 0 to as long as they will From age 0 to as long as they will let youlet you Sing lullabies on God love for Sing lullabies on God love for
themthem Rejoice in their presenceRejoice in their presence
Be ProactivePracticals
From age 0 to as long as they will From age 0 to as long as they will let youlet you Sing lullabies on God love for Sing lullabies on God love for
themthem Rejoice in God in their presenceRejoice in God in their presence Hold them while you worshipHold them while you worship
Be ProactivePracticals
Create a sense of family and Create a sense of family and belongingbelonging
Be ProactivePracticals
Create a sense of family and Create a sense of family and belongingbelonging
Create TraditionsCreate Traditions
Be ProactivePracticals
Create a sense of family and Create a sense of family and belongingbelonging
Create TraditionsCreate Traditions
Bedtime ritualsBedtime rituals
Be ProactivePracticals
Create a sense of family and Create a sense of family and belongingbelonging
Create TraditionsCreate Traditions
Bedtime ritualsBedtime rituals
Family songFamily song
Be ProactivePracticals
Create a sense of family and Create a sense of family and belongingbelonging
Create TraditionsCreate Traditions
Bedtime ritualsBedtime rituals
Family songFamily song
Trips to relativesTrips to relatives
Be ProactivePracticals
Create a sense of family and Create a sense of family and belongingbelonging
Create TraditionsCreate Traditions
Bedtime ritualsBedtime rituals
Family songFamily song
Trips to relativesTrips to relatives
Holiday TraditionsHoliday Traditions
Be ProactivePracticals
Create a sense of family and Create a sense of family and belongingbelonging
Tell StoriesTell Stories
Be ProactivePracticals
Family time is vitalFamily time is vital
at this age, they are always there at this age, they are always there for you.for you.
How can you show them you love How can you show them you love them?them?
TIME with them.TIME with them.
There is NO substituteThere is NO substitute
Principle #2 Respect
Children, obey your parents in the Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. "Honor your Lord, for this is right. "Honor your father and mother"-which is the first father and mother"-which is the first commandment with a promise— commandment with a promise— "that it may go well with you and "that it may go well with you and that you may enjoy long life on the that you may enjoy long life on the earth." earth."
Eph 6:1-3Eph 6:1-3
Respect
You are God’s representativeYou are God’s representative
permit no disrespect.permit no disrespect.
If they “get away” with it, they will If they “get away” with it, they will think they can “get away” with it think they can “get away” with it with God.with God.
Respect
Mothers,Mothers, mercy can only be revealed mercy can only be revealed
when the background is Justice.when the background is Justice. Don’t make Dad the bad guy Don’t make Dad the bad guy
through your weakness.through your weakness.
Respect
Fathers, Fathers, Never discipline in anger.Never discipline in anger. Never let the sun go down on Never let the sun go down on
your anger.your anger.
Eph 4:26Eph 4:26
RespectPractical Fathers and Mothers,Fathers and Mothers,
Don’t let them drive you crazyDon’t let them drive you crazy
When they want your attention, When they want your attention, give them a response:give them a response:
Eye level, communicate at their Eye level, communicate at their level, expect obedience,level, expect obedience,
(do they really understand what you are (do they really understand what you are
saying?)saying?)
RespectPracticalUnacceptable:Unacceptable:
whiningwhining
repetitive, mommy,mommy……repetitive, mommy,mommy……
angry retortangry retort
trying to escapetrying to escape
not looking you in the eyenot looking you in the eye
RespectPracticalUnacceptablesUnacceptables
What is your part in this?What is your part in this?
hours of grocery shopping? hours of grocery shopping? Talking to friends for two hours Talking to friends for two hours while your children wait? Too busy while your children wait? Too busy to notice their needs? On the to notice their needs? On the phone for 45 minutes while dinner phone for 45 minutes while dinner waits? waits?
Principle #3Obedience And this is love: that we walk in And this is love: that we walk in
obedience to his commandsobedience to his commands
2 John 6 2 John 6
Do not withhold discipline from a child;…Do not withhold discipline from a child;…
……Punish him with the rod Punish him with the rod
and save his soul from death.and save his soul from death.
Prov 23:13-14 Prov 23:13-14
ObediencePracticals Keep it simpleKeep it simple
One rule: One rule: do not disobeydo not disobey
To obey is better than sacrifice, To obey is better than sacrifice, and to heed is better than the fat of and to heed is better than the fat of
rams.rams.1 Sam 15:22 1 Sam 15:22
ObediencePracticals There must be There must be
consequences for consequences for disobediencedisobedienceMust be age appropriateMust be age appropriateMust be consistentMust be consistentMust be predictable Must be predictable
Principle # 4GuardianshipAnd fathers, don't stir up anger in your children, but bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord.
Eph 6:4 Holman
GuardianshipTHIS IS VERY IMPORTANT Train your children, instead of just Train your children, instead of just
reacting.reacting. Parents who let their kids run free Parents who let their kids run free
until they do something annoying until they do something annoying to them will reap destruction. to them will reap destruction.
GuardianshipTHIS IS VERY IMPORTANT
Destruction. Destruction. When they grow older your When they grow older your
efforts to discipline them will efforts to discipline them will turn them against you.turn them against you.
Unruly and disobedient, they will Unruly and disobedient, they will harvest destruction in their lives.harvest destruction in their lives.
Guardianship
Training and instruction in the LordTraining and instruction in the Lord Never tolerate direct disobedienceNever tolerate direct disobedience Always have a reason for your Always have a reason for your
disciplinediscipline Little minds forgetLittle minds forget
Use grace, mercy, and Use grace, mercy, and consistencyconsistency
ObediencePracticalsHappy HeartHappy Heart
If you came home from a really If you came home from a really hard, emotional day and your hard, emotional day and your spouse said: “have a happy spouse said: “have a happy heart” would you instantly heart” would you instantly change to a happy heart?change to a happy heart?
Presenting all that He is
And he passed in front of Moses, And he passed in front of Moses, proclaiming, "The LORD, the LORD, proclaiming, "The LORD, the LORD, the compassionate and gracious the compassionate and gracious God, slow to anger, abounding in God, slow to anger, abounding in love and faithfulness,love and faithfulness,
Ex 34:6 Ex 34:6
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