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PARENTINGWORKBOOK
Setting Boundaries andApplying Rewards and
Consequences
A project of the Family Involvement Committeeof the Pennsylvania Council of Chief Juvenile Probation Officers
and the Juvenile Court Judges’ Commission
Juvenile Justice System Enhancement Strategy
Family Name: _____________________________
SkillBuilding
The preparation of this document was supported by sub-grants (2013/15-J-02-
27488 and 2015/16/17-J-04-28369) awarded to the Pennsylvania Council of
Chief Juvenile Probation Officers from the Pennsylvania Commission on Crime
and Deliquency (PCCD). The awarded funds from PCCD originated with the
Office of Justice Programs, U.S. Department of Justice, Office of Juvenile Justice
and Delinquency Prevention. These materials are considered public domain.
Points of view or opinions contained within this document are those of the
author(s) and do not necessarily represent any official position, policy or view of
the Pennsylvania Commission on Crime and Delinquency or the U.S. Department
of Justice.
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To set behavior boundaries for your youth and provide consequences when those boundaries are not followed
All households need rules to create a home that is safe and supportive. Rules provide boundaries around acceptable and unacceptable behavior, thereby giving children a clear and predictable environment. Rewards for good behavior are equally, if not more, important. Rewards provide positive reinforcement and encouragement for desired behavior.
INTRODUCTION
TABLE OF CONTENTS
Page 1 of 2Introduction
Part A: Your Household Rules
?Identifying your existing household rules?Possible topics for house rules?Preparing to change your household rules?Making a plan to change your household rules
Part B: Rewarding Good Behavior
?Using rewards and incentives?Guidelines for making rewards meaningful?Identifying possible rewards?Three-step process for establishing a reward system
Part C: Holding Firm to Rules
?Guidelines for enforcing rules (consistent, swift, fair, understanding)?Setting boundaries and applying rewards and consequences?Understanding your child’s brain development?Five-step process for applying consequences
Part D: Effective Use of Authority
?Three-step process for effectively using parental authority?Summary of the workbook
SETTING BOUNDARIES SURVEY (PRE-ASSESSMENT)
Page 2 of 2Introduction
For each statement, circle the number that best describes your experience.
A. I/we enforce household rules in our family
Never Rarely Sometimes Often Always 1 2 3 4 5
B. My/our child follows the household rules
Never Rarely Sometimes Often Always 1 2 3 4 5
C. I/we reward my/our child’s good behavior
Never Rarely Sometimes Often Always 1 2 3 4 5
D. My/our child accepts the consequences of breaking household rules
Never Rarely Sometimes Often Always 1 2 3 4 5
E. I/we have the skills to respond effectively when my/our child does not follow household rules
Never Rarely Sometimes Often Always 1 2 3 4 5
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In your home, rules are more likely to be followed when they meet the criteria below. Put a checkmark ( ) beside each of these criteria if it is true for your household.
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Part A: Your Household Rules
In my household, rules are...
...created with my child
...fair and reasonable
...limited in number
...clear, not confusing
...written down
...expected to apply to all, including parents when appropriate
House rules are meant to create a safe and supportive environment. They provide boundaries to explain acceptable and unacceptable behavior.
Place a checkmarkif this is true
Part A: Your Household Rules Page 1 of 7
FAMILY RULESSAY PLEASE AND THANK YOU
BE RESPECTFUL
WORK HARDTELL THE TRUTH
SAY I LOVE YOUBE KIND
LAUGH OUT LOUDKEEP YOUR PROMISES
DO YOUR BEST
FAMILY FIRST
The following are examples of possible topics for household rules. Review the examples and then, in the section at the bottom of the page, list no more than eight household rules that you have for your child.
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Other __________________ Other __________________
Examining Your Household Rules. The household rules that apply to your child are:
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How strongly do you agree or disagree with the following?
1. I am satisfied with the house rules.
2. My child accepts our house rules.
3. My child follows the house rules.
First, determine what changes you want to make. List those here.
Preparing to Change Your Household Rules. If you think you need to change your household rules, develop a plan by following these steps:
Strongly Disagree Disagree Agree Strongly Agree
Strongly Disagree Disagree Agree Strongly Agree
Strongly Disagree Disagree Agree Strongly Agree
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Second, develop a plan to discuss house rules with your child. When is the best time? How do you want to introduce the subject? What will you do if your child reacts in anger? How will you include your child’s input in the rules?
Third, with another person you respect or in front of a mirror, practice introducing the subject to your child. Make sure your message is compassionate. Keep practicing until you are comfortable with the message.
Fourth, discuss with your child the need to change the household rules. Develop an agreement between you and your child.
Fifth, put the plan in writing, sign it, and put it in action. Assess the results over time; adjust if needed.
Practice Session
Practice inviting yourchild to create house
rules with you.
What would you say?How would you say it?
Making a plan. If you determine that you need to change your household rules, write down your plan.
I will _________________________________________________________ by (date) _______________
I will _________________________________________________________ by (date) _______________
I will _________________________________________________________ by (date) _______________
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Assignment. If you decide that you need to create written household rules or to change your existing household rules, apply the five-step process. Be prepared to answer the following questions:
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Step #
Results from Changing Household Rules
1Determine whatrules need to bechanged
2Develop a plan todiscuss the ruleswith your child
StepWhat went well with this
step?What did not go well
with this step?
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With anotherperson or in frontof a mirror, practiceintroducing thesubject to yourchild
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Discuss the ruleswith your child anddevelop an agreement
5Put the plan inwriting and sign
Note: On the next two pages is an example of house rules and a blank form you can use.
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Household Rules Agreement (Example)
Rules. The following are the household rules and expectations:
1. Keep your room clean and respect the general living area for the rest of the family2. Keep curfew of 9:00 p.m. on weekdays and 11:00 p.m. on weekends3. No smoking in the house4. No friends of any kind in the home without a parent/guardian present5. Be respectful of others; no swearing, hitting, or angry outbursts6. Complete daily/weekly chores7. No phone or TV at mealtime8. Tell the truth9. School is your first priority (attend classes, get Cs or better grades, get homework done before TV, computer, or social activities)
Consequences. If I violate the household rules, these are the possible consequences:
1. Loss of privileges (e.g., cell phone/computer or driving)2. No video games3. Loss of free time (grounding)4. No TV5. Extra chores6. Earlier curfew
Rewards. If I follow the household rules, these are the possible rewards:
1. Greater freedom (e.g., later curfew)2. Game night (cards, board/video games) with family or family and friends3. New purchase (sneakers, nails done, etc.)4. Taking a chore away5. Movie night with family or family and friends6. Increased privileges with phone, music, or computer7. Favorite meal
Signatures.
Guardian/parent: ____________________________________________ Date: ____________
Youth: _____________________________________________________ Date: ____________
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Rewards. If I follow the household rules, these are the possible rewards:
Rules. The following are the household rules and expectations:
Household Rules Agreement Form
Consequences. If I violate the household rules, these are the possible consequences:
Signatures.
Guardian/parent: ____________________________________________ Date: ____________
Youth: _____________________________________________________ Date: ____________
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Part B: Rewarding Good Behavior
What worked? _______________________________________________________
________________________________________________________________________
What didn’t work so well? ____________________________________________
________________________________________________________________________
What needs to be adjusted? _________________________________________
_______________________________________________________________________
Rewards and Incentives. Studies indicate that the use of rewards can be a powerful tool to enhance motivation and promote positive behavior. This is not a surprise as most of us can relate to this. We tend to repeat those behaviors for which we are rewarded and avoid those behaviors for which we suffer consequences. The developing adolescent brain is actually quite responsive to rewards, especially in comparison to the brains of people of other ages. We can affirm movement in the right direction, even small steps, by providing something pleasant or taking away something unpleasant. Sometimes, a simple word of praise can be very meaningful, such as telling a child how proud we are of their getting a job.
How are you doing? For rewards to be effective, they must meet certain criteria. They must be genuine, immediate, specific, and meaningful. Answer columns B and C for yourself.
Column ACriteria for meaningful rewards:
Column BI do a good job
with this:
Column CI can improve
by...
Genuine: My child must know that I mean what I say and that I really doappreciate the behavior I am rewarding.
Strongly Disagree
Disagree
Agree
Strongly Agree
Assignment Review: After you finish changing your household rules, describe the results.
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Immediate: The reward should beapplied soon after the behavior. As anexample, rewarding my child for doingtheir chores without being asked a weekafter they complete their chores is notvery impactful; it is “old news.”
Strongly Disagree
Disagree
Agree
Strongly Agree
Customized: Rewards or affirmationsshould be tailored to my child’s uniquetraits or circumstances. For example, ifmy child prefers to stay at home and Igive them more freedom, it will not feellike a reward to them.
Strongly Disagree
Disagree
Agree
Strongly Agree
Specific: Vague or general affirmationsare not as effective as those that arespecific. For example, saying “You havebeen working hard and making greatprogress controlling your anger andwalking away from your brother whenhe upsets you” is more specific andeffective than simply saying “Good job.”
Strongly Disagree
Disagree
Agree
Strongly Agree
Meaningful: A reward is meaningful when it involves a behavior that my child has been consciously trying tochange. For example, telling my childthat I am proud of them for good schoolattendance is not meaningful if they arenaturally motivated to go to school.On the other hand, if my childconsistently looks disheveled and sloppybut they have worked hard to take careof themselves and dress appropriately,recognizing this will be meaningful.
Strongly Disagree
Disagree
Agree
Strongly Agree
Column ACriteria for meaningful rewards:
Column BI do a good job
with this:
Column CI can improve
by...
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Note: Providing rewards does not work for everyone in the same way. For example,your child
?may apply pressure to get a reward when you are not convinced that their behavior warrants it
?may become dependent on rewards instead of behaving a certain way because it is the right thing to do.
You want your child to become independent and develop habits that will benefit them for the rest of their lives. Therefore, you will need to decide what is best for your child, depending on their traits.
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Column ACriteria for meaningful rewards:
Column BI do a good job
with this:
Column CI can improve
by...
Thinking About Possible Rewards. Look at the list of rewards you might offer your child for good behavior and check each one that you think your child may like.
Increased computer time
My Child Would Like This
Attending a special event, like a concert
Increased cell phone access
Increased time with friends
A gift certificate
A meal they especially like
New clothes
A movie
A subscription to a streaming music service
Expanded driving privileges
Participation in a sport
Participation in a hobby
Extended curfew
Repainting or decorating your child’s bedroom
Relaxed dating rules
Increased access to video games
Later bedtime
Other:
Other:
Possible Reward
Money
Other:
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Three-Step Process for Establishing Rewards. It is best to involve your child in establishing rewards. You will want to ask their input and, in doing so, listen carefully for those rewards that are most meaningful to them. Follow these three steps:
Step 1
Explain why you want to not only establish rules but also to provide rewards for following the rules.
You might say...
I want to talk about rewards. You should be rewarded for following house rules. The more responsibly you behave, the more you should earn privileges. How does that sound to you?
Step 2
Ask your child to identify the kinds of rewards that are most meaningful.
You might say...
Let’s start by listing the kinds of rewards that are meaningful to you. Why don’t you list on paper up to 10 things that you would like to receive if you follow house rules.
Step 3
Agree on which rewards you will consider for which behaviors and write them down.
You might say...
Let’s now talk about how the rewards tie into the house rules and write down which rewards you can receive if you follow the house rules. To do this, we need to be specific about what needs to be done and how well it needs to be done.
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Did youcatch your child
doing somethingright today?
That’s anopportunity
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Assignment. In the next week or two, use the three-step process to establish rewards. Write down the results of your discussion with your child and give them the chart below as a reminder.
When you do this... Your reward will be...
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What worked? ____________________________________________________
__________________________________________________________________
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Part C: Holding Firm to Rules
What didn’t work so well? __________________________________________
__________________________________________________________________
What needs to be adjusted? ________________________________________
__________________________________________________________________
Guidelines for Enforcing Rules. Youth will naturally challenge household rules in order to test their independence. This is part of their natural learning process that helps them learn respect and gain emotional control. It is an opportunity for you to model appropriate expectations. As parents, we must consistently enforce rules or they lose their meaning, and violations of the rules will continue to occur. Enforcing rules should be done with respect and with a caring attitude for the youth. To effectively enforce rules, follow these four principles:
Consistent: Apply the rules and consequences consistently; do not apply them sometimes but not always.
Swift: Apply the consequences as soon after the rule infraction as possible; do not delay.
Fair: Give consequences that match the severity of the behavior, ensuring that your child understood the rules and consequences before any misbehavior occurred.
Understanding: If rule-breaking does occur, provide your child with the opportunity to offer their perspective, to be heard, and to explore how they could have made a more responsible decision. Listen without judgment. This give-and-take communication may result in a decision to change some rules.
Assignment Review: After you finish establishing rewards, describe the results.
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Column A Column B
I always apply the rules, and I apply consequenceswhenever my child breaks the rules (consistent).
I apply the consequences as soon after the ruleinfraction as possible (swift).
I give consequences that match the severity of thebehavior (fair).
When my child breaks the rules, I give them theopportunity to offer their perspective before givinga consequence (understanding).
Strongly Disagree
Disagree
Agree
Strongly Agree
Based on your self-assessment, list one area you would like to improve:
Assess how well you are applying these four principles by drawing a line from each item in column A to the answer in column B. You can use the answers in column B more than once.
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____________________________________________________________________________
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Adolescent behavior is influenced by physical changes in the body, including in the brain. Science indicates that adolescent hormones are “ramped up,” resulting in difficulty controlling their emotions and a tendency to act impulsively, which can lead to breaking house rules and getting into trouble. Adolescent brains are also preparing for independence, resulting in youth exploring creative expression and pushing back at the status quo. Because adolescents’ social life is so important to them, boundaries that limit their social activities create particular stress and agitation. Accepting rules and the consequences for their actions may be difficult for youth if it affects their ability to seek rewards, socialize, and explore independence.
We can help by creating boundaries, involving our child in the creation of the rules, empathizing with how difficult it is for them to accept consequences, and teaching them how to handle situations differently next time.
What is one thought you have about your child’s behavior or your response to that behavior after reading about brain development?
_____________________________________________________________________________
_____________________________________________________________________________
_____________________________________________________________________________
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Brain Development. Now that you have rules that you and your child agreed to, it is important to be prepared for when your child breaks them…because they will occasionally break them. It is part of the developmental process. When they do break the rules, anticipate that they will push back and want to negotiate the consequences or renegotiate the rules. Understanding brain development in youth can help us put this in perspective, better understand youth behavior, and help us see these rule violations as opportunities to help our child develop lifelong skills.
FRONTAL LOBE PARIETAL LOBE
OCCIPITAL LOBE
TEMPORAL LOBE
CEREBELLUM
BRAIN STEM
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Five-Step Process for Applying Consequences. Follow these five steps when applying consequences for broken rules. These steps seek to apply firm and consistent enforcement of the rules while making these incidents opportunities for learning.
Describe the situation that caused you frustration:
STEP EXAMPLE
1. Explain that your child disobeyed a rule.
2. Discuss alternatives they had.
3. Ask your child for a commitment to use an alternative action next time (describe it).
4. Give the appropriate consequence and reason.
5. Tell them that you care for them.
You know that your curfew is 10:00 p.m. Tell me why you did not get home until11:15 p.m.
What else could you have done that wouldhave resulted in not getting into trouble?
Can you give me your word that you willcall me the next time you don’t have a ridehome and will be late?
You know that there are consequences forbreaking the rules. We discussed thisbefore. Therefore, you will be groundedfor one week. Your grounding will end next Thursday night.
These things happen and we will learn fromthem. I hope you know that I care about you.
Practice. Practice the five-step process for applying consequences using the scenario below or a scenario that is likely to happen in your household. You can practice with your child’s case manager, or practice by yourself in front of a mirror.
Practice Scenario
Your son smoked a cigarette in the house. You have a rule againstsmoking–especially in the house, where there is fire hazard. This is thesecond time he has broken this rule. The agreed-upon consequence is
that he gives up control of his money for a month.
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Demonstration. Your child’s case manager will demonstrate the skill of applying consequences by using the scenario below. Discuss what went well and what could be improved.
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Assignment. It is time to put the five-step process for applying consequences into practice. It may seem somewhat easy to use this process when you're practicing in front of a mirror or with a supportive adult. But, in real life, things can get heated and emotional. When that happens, it will be important for you to take a couple minutes to gather your thoughts.
In the next week or two, use the five-step process if your child breaks one of your household rules. Remember to follow the principles of consistent, swift, fair, and understanding.
Keep track of how well you enforced the household rules you established with your child. Then, answer the following by circling the number that best describes your experience.
Since we established the household rules...
A. I have been applying the consequences when my child breaks the rules
Never Rarely Sometimes Often Always 1 2 3 4 5
B. I have been applying the consequences soon after the rule-breaking occurs
Never Rarely Sometimes Often Always 1 2 3 4 5
C. I have been giving consequences that match the severity of the behavior
Never Rarely Sometimes Often Always 1 2 3 4 5
D. I have been calm and given my child the opportunity to share their perspective before giving the consequence
Never Rarely Sometimes Often Always 1 2 3 4 5
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Assignment Review. After you practice the five-step process for applying consequences, describe the results.
What was the situation, or what rule was broken? ________________________
_____________________________________________________________________________
What didn’t work so well? ________________________________________________
_____________________________________________________________________________
How did you respond? ___________________________________________________
_____________________________________________________________________________
What worked? ____________________________________________________________
_____________________________________________________________________________
Three-step process for effectively using parental authority. Sometimes, despite our best efforts, our child continues to violate the rules instead of following them. It is not healthy to engage in prolonged conflict. When you have exhausted your efforts to come up with a satisfactory solution, you will need to exert your authority as a parent. The skill you would use is called the "effective use of authority." This skill involves giving youth two choices, explaining the consequences of each one, and having them make a choice. Using this skill can reduce the stress on you and your child. You would not use this skill if your child threatens to do something that would cause severe harm.
Part D: Effective Use of Authority
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Describe the situation that caused you frustration:
STEP EXAMPLE
1. Present two choices and the consequences of each one (avoid exaggerating the negative consequences).
2. Instruct your child to choose one option (encourage compliance).
3. Follow through with the appropriate consequences.
You can continue to act disrepectfully andthe result will be that you are grounded fora week. Or, you can calm down, accept theconsequences we discussed when we created the house rules, and have yourgrounding end in three days for goodbehavior.
It is your choice. Which of these options doyou choose?
You picked the option that is in your bestinterest. I am proud of you. You are grounded for a week, but if you follow thegrounding without any problems, I will lift it after three days.
Practice. Practice the three-step process for effectively using authority using the scenario below or a scenario that is likely to happen in your household. You can practice with your child’s case manager, or practice by yourself in front of a mirror.
Practice Scenario
Your house rule forbids the use of cell phones at the dinner table. Yourdaughter continues to use her cell phone at the dinner table,
including tonight, despite your constant reminders.When you tell her to put down her phone, she starts to argue
with you. This is a conversation you have had many times before.
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Demonstration. Your child’s case manager will demonstrate the skill of applying the three-step process by using the scenario below. Discuss what went well and what could be improved.
The steps to the effective use of authority are as follows:
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Assignment. It is time to put the three-step process of effectively using authority into practice. It may seem somewhat easy to use this process when you're practicing in front of a mirror or with a supportive adult. But, in real life, things can get heated and emotional. When that happens, it will be important for you to take a couple minutes to gather your thoughts.
In the next week or two, use the three-step process for effectively using authority if your child breaks one of your household rules and you feel as if any further discussion about the rule or consequences will lead to further conflict. Each time you use this process, write what went well and what did not go so well.
Situation 1: _______________________________________________________
What worked? ____________________________________________________________
What didn’t work so well? ________________________________________________
Situation 2: _______________________________________________________
What worked? ____________________________________________________________
What didn’t work so well? ________________________________________________
Situation 3: _______________________________________________________
What worked? ____________________________________________________________
What didn’t work so well? ________________________________________________
Situation 4: _______________________________________________________
What worked? ____________________________________________________________
What didn’t work so well? ________________________________________________
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Household Rules. We needed to change the household rules by:
_____________________________________________________________________________
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Enforcing Household Rules. The guidelines for enforcing rules (be consistent, swift, and fair; show understanding) that I do well and the one that I need to work on are:
Do well: _____________________________________________________________________
Need to work on: _____________________________________________________________
Rewarding Good Behavior. In order for rewards to be effective, they need to be given immediately after the behavior is noticed, customized to my child, given for specific behavior, and be meaningful to my child. The following is the reward(s) that my child finds most meaningful:
_____________________________________________________________________________
_____________________________________________________________________________
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Effective Use of Authority. I should use my parental authority (i.e., give my child two choices, explain the consequences of each one, and have them make a choice) sparingly. It is appropriate to use authority effectively when:
_____________________________________________________________________________
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Congratulations, you have completed the Setting Boundaries and Applying Rewards and Consequences workbook. To help you remember the key lessons you learned, complete the statements below.
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SETTING BOUNDARIES SURVEY (POST-ASSESSMENT)
For each statement, circle the number that best describes your experience.
A. I/we enforce household rules in our family
Never Rarely Sometimes Often Always 1 2 3 4 5
B. My/our child follows the household rules
Never Rarely Sometimes Often Always 1 2 3 4 5
C. I/we reward my/our child’s good behavior
Never Rarely Sometimes Often Always 1 2 3 4 5
D. My/our child accepts the consequences of breaking household rules
Never Rarely Sometimes Often Always 1 2 3 4 5
E. I/we have the skills to respond effectively when my/our child does not follow household rules
Never Rarely Sometimes Often Always 1 2 3 4 5
F. I feel my/our skills in setting boundaries have improved
Strongly Disagree Disagree Agree Strongly Agree
G. I feel my/our skills in applying rewards and consequences have improved
Strongly Disagree Disagree Agree Strongly Agree
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