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Do you feel faint before making an important presentation to clients or bosses or groups of colleagues? Does the idea of job interviews fill you with dread (whichever side of the table you are sitting at!)? Do you become tongue-tied and clumsy in front of important clients at networking events or on trade show stands? You are not alone! Public speaking is statistically more feared than death; microphones and stages can be more intimidating than giant spiders; the near presence of bosses and high status clients can generate irrational feelings of insecurity. Drawing on mainstream psychology this session explores why we can find these and similar business situations so difficult and provides practical tips and techniques to enable you to practically manage your emotional state, develop long-term confidence and ultimately improve sales, networking and business performance.

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#ICCAWorld iccaworld.com

Session code:

53rd ICCA Congress

Overcoming the “FEAR’’ factor Jonathan Bradshaw The Meetology® Group @meetology

ME16

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Advisory Board

Dr Paul Redford Head

Psychologist

Kevin Gandon Anxiety Coach

Gemma Pike Consultant Psychologist

Dr Virginia Harrison Consultant Psychologist

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My Experience

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Today’s Session

1: Explore

2: Prepare

3: Perform

4: Evaluate

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Today’s Session

1: Explore

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Explore

1.Fear is a good thing!

Facts

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Explore

1.Fear is a good thing!

2.1 in 3 people experience a

panic attack

Facts

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Explore

1.Fear is a good thing!

2.1 in 3 people experience a

panic attack

3.Social interaction is cited

as one of the biggest causes

of anxiety

Facts

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Explore

Amygdala

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Explore

Definition

Fear

Nerves

Anxiety

Stress

Terror

Fright Dread

Distress Alarm Panic

Despair

Misery

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Explore

Effects

No appetite

Rapid heart

rate

Fatigue

Shaking

Headache

Sweating

Faintness Dry mouth

Blurred

vision Clenched

teeth Cold hands

Chest Pain Dizziness

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Explore

Social

Situations Sales

presentation

Team

meeting

Attending a

congress

Attending an

exhibition Networking

Public

speaking

Interview Negotiation

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Explore

Useful Emotions

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Explore

Relaxed

Calm

Confident

Useful Emotions

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Today’s Session

1: Explore

2: Prepare

3: Perform

4: Evaluate

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Today’s Session

2: Prepare

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Prepare

The Impact of our

Thoughts

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Prepare

The Impact of our

Thoughts

Events Thought

s Attitude

Beliefs

Meanings

Feelings Healthy

Unhealthy

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Prepare

The Impact of our

Thoughts

Disappointed

Ashamed

Guilty

Jealous

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Prepare

The Impact of our

Thoughts

Events Thought

s Attitude

Beliefs

Meanings

Feelings Healthy

Unhealthy

Behaviours Constructive

Destructive

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Prepare

The Impact of our

Thoughts

Suicide

Avoidance

Working out

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Prepare

The Impact of our

Thoughts

Events Thought

s Attitude

Beliefs

Meanings

Feelings Healthy

Unhealthy

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Prepare

The Impact of our

Thoughts

Scared

Fearful

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Prepare

The Impact of our

Thoughts

Events Thought

s Attitude

Beliefs

Meanings

Feelings Healthy

Unhealthy

Behaviours Constructive

Destructive

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Prepare

The Impact of our

Thoughts

Suicide

Avoidance

Argumentative

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Prepare

Taking Responsibility

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Prepare

Be Aware of…

“She makes…”

“He makes…”

“They make…”

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Prepare

Introducing your Chimp

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Prepare

Introducing your Chimp

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Prepare

Our chimp voice, tells our brain scary

stories, plays scary movies and asks scary,

what if? Questions. These cause the brain to

secrete massive amounts of adrenaline and we

experience the symptoms of this.

Your inner scare voice always lies,

exaggerates, catastrophizes, demeans and

depresses. It is a lying bully that does not

posses a crystal ball and thus, can not

predict the future.

Your ability to recognise, challenge and

ignore this voice will be a MAJOR factor in

overcoming fear.

Stop thinking scary thoughts, stop playing

scary movies, stop saying scary things, and

you’ll stop having fear reactions.

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Prepare

1.Fortune Telling

2.Over-

Generalisation

3.Inflexible

Thinking

4.Disqualifying the

Positive

5.Pressurised

Thinking

6.What if?

Your Chimp’s Toxic

Thoughts

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Prepare

1: Fortune Telling

“It’s going to be a

disaster and no one

will enjoy it”

Your Chimp’s Toxic

Thoughts

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Prepare

1: Fortune Telling

• Test

• Take risk

• Past doesn’t equal

future

Your Chimp’s Toxic

Thoughts

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Prepare

2: Over-

Generalisation

“Always”, “Never”,

“Everyone”, “the

World”

Your Chimp’s Toxic

Thoughts

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Prepare

2: Over-

Generalisation

• Get Perspective

• Suspend Judgement

• Be specific

Your Chimp’s Toxic

Thoughts

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Prepare

3: Inflexible

Thinking

“Love / Hate”,

“Perfect / Disaster”,

“Black / White”

Your Chimp’s Toxic

Thoughts

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Prepare

3: Inflexible

Thinking

• Be realistic

• Develop ‘Both –and’

attitude

Your Chimp’s Toxic

Thoughts

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Prepare

4: Disqualifying the

Positive

“Anyone could have

done that…”

Your Chimp’s Toxic

Thoughts

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Prepare

4: Disqualifying the

Positive

• Be aware of your

responses to

positivity

• Learn to accept a

compliment

Your Chimp’s Toxic

Thoughts

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Prepare

5: Pressurised

Thinking

“Have to”, “Must”,

“Ought to”, “Should”

Your Chimp’s Toxic

Thoughts

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Prepare

5: Pressurised

Thinking

• Pay attention to

language

• Awareness of

criteria

• Retain standards

but accept

‘failure’

Your Chimp’s Toxic

Thoughts

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Prepare

6: What if?

“…I fail…forget…lose

control…fall over…”

Your Chimp’s Toxic

Thoughts

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Prepare

Your Chimp’s Toxic

Thoughts 6: What if?

• Recognise

• Stop

• Challenge

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Prepare

The Power of our

Thoughts

Events Thought

s Attitude

Beliefs

Meanings

Feelings Healthy

Unhealthy

Behaviours Constructive

Destructive

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Prepare

The Power of our

Thoughts

Thought

s Attitude

Beliefs

Meanings

Feelings Healthy

Unhealthy

Behaviours Constructive

Destructive

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Prepare

The Power of our

Thoughts

Thought

s Attitude

Beliefs

Meanings

Feelings Healthy

Unhealthy

Behaviours Constructive

Destructive

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Prepare

The Power of our

Thoughts

Thought

s Attitude

Beliefs

Meanings

Feelings Healthy

Unhealthy

Behaviours Constructive

Destructive

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Prepare

Practical Tips &

Techniques

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Prepare

Practical Tips &

Techniques

Time

Anxiety 1st

2nd

3rd

4th

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Prepare

Practical Tips &

Techniques

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Prepare

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Prepare

Practical Tips &

Techniques

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Prepare

Practical Tips &

Techniques

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Prepare

Practical Tips &

Techniques

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Prepare

Practical Tips &

Techniques

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Prepare

Practical Tips &

Techniques

• Visualisation

• Association / Disassociation

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Prepare

Practical Tips &

Techniques

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Prepare

Practical Tips &

Techniques

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Prepare

Practical Tips &

Techniques

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Prepare

DBCC

• Desire

• Belief

• Courage

• Commitment

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Today’s Session

1: Explore

2: Prepare

3: Perform

4: Evaluate

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Today’s Session

3: Perform

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Perform

Curvy Furniture

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Perform

Never Offer a Cold Glass

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Perform

Mess Up

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Perform

Sit Carefully

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Perform

Nudges

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Perform

The Power of Food

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Perform

The Power of Food

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Perform Proportion of favourable decisions

0.0

0.2

0.1

0.3

0.4

0.5

0.6

0.7

0.8

Length of day

The Power of Food

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Perform Proportion of favourable decisions

0.0

0.2

0.1

0.3

0.4

0.5

0.6

0.7

0.8

Length of day

The Power of Food

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Perform Proportion of favourable decisions

0.0

0.2

0.1

0.3

0.4

0.5

0.6

0.7

0.8

Length of day

The Power of Food

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Perform

Talking Sense

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Today’s Session

1: Explore

2: Prepare

3: Perform

4: Evaluate

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Today’s Session

4: Evaluate

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Evaluate

1.Mind Reading

2.Catastrophising

3.All or Nothing

Thinking

4.Disqualifying the

Positive

5.Overgeneralisation

6.Labelling

Your Chimp’s Toxic

Thoughts

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Evaluate

1: Mind Reading

Your Chimp’s Toxic

Thoughts

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Toxic Thoughts 1: Mind Reading

Deciding what someone is

thinking

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Evaluate

1: Mind Reading

Your Chimp’s Toxic

Thoughts

Guess the emotion

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Evaluate

1: Mind Reading

Your Chimp’s Toxic

Thoughts

Guess the emotion

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Evaluate

2: Catastrophising

“Everyone noticed my

mistake and now think

I’m stupid”

Your Chimp’s Toxic

Thoughts

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Evaluate

3: Disqualifying the

Positive

“Anyone could do

that’

Your Chimp’s Toxic

Thoughts

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Evaluate

4: Labelling

“I’m a failure”

Your Chimp’s Toxic

Thoughts

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Evaluate

Next steps

1: Back on the bike

2: Learning from the

experience

3: Mental check-in

4: Continued exercise

5: Embrace the fear……

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